What's stopping you from being with the person you really like/love?

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broken_heart_at_48 · Accepted Answer

I've been with my wife for close to 30 years the first 23-24 years were what true love is and what love storey's are based off of. Then things changed suddenly I had to go out of town for a job and she changed then I got seriously hurt while I was away at work and she acted like I wasn't welcome in my own home I told her then we were done but as long as she could handle it I wasn't going anywhere until my youngest was grown well she realized pretty quick that she blew it and was in a panic that I didn't want her anymore. She was my everything and I always put her on a pedestal and she knew that was over. Now fast forward we still get along and lived together up until last October. She became deathly ill she came within about an hour from death and now she's still not better she went from looking and acting healthy to being paralyzed from the waist down and is skin and bones. I've never stopped loving her and I would give my life for hers without a second thought but I still don't think it could ever be like before. I'm not going to leave her while she sick. She chose to go stay with her family when she first got sick thinking she would be able to come home pretty quick but she's not able to travel because she's to sick. This I why I'm not with the love of all time past present and future. That's all I can't see through my tears to type

IlyaTheImpaler · Accepted Answer

Her boyfriend

aWes0MeNeSs · Accepted Answer

I don't have one. I really just want to remain single.

However, I will say that the only person I've ever felt truly comfortable and like I could 100% be myself around was one of my exes. However, he was really toxic in a lot of ways and there were 1,000 things working against us. My friends have been pushing me to get back with him, but for many reasons I won't even get into, that's a horrible idea.

Thisismyusername94 · Accepted Answer

Fear of rejection, distance, heartbreak. A lot of the guys I feel see me as more of a wife material vs girlfriend material. Most guys I like are looking for girlfriends vs looking to settle down

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

At the moment, I'm just tired of trying. Every guy I like or want to date is: already taken, only sees me a friend/sister, or doesn't feel the same way. You know, I get rejected.

I got sick of being rejected so I just stopped trying. A person can only take so much rejection before they get sick of it. So I prefer being alone: less drama, heartache, and disappointment.

GoodManDave · Answer

My shyness, and that I highly doubt she's interested. Part of it is that she seems so busy that I'd be the last thing on her mind or schedule. I don't see her much, and we don't talk a lot Partly my shyness, and partly because she's rushing off to some other thing she's got going on. So the crush is just kind of "meh." Like, if she came back into my life and said "You know, I think we should go out" I'd say "Yes" in a hearbeat. But as it is now, I'm not working that seriously to make it happen. I haven't seen her in ages, and we don't ever really get a chance for much small talk, let alone the more "serious" conversations. It's barely a hello and goodbye. She might sort of recognize me outside of work; But the best I can say is that she doesn't completely ignore me if she sees me in passing... but again, she's not interested. And I've kind of given up on trying to pursue anything with her. It's a crush like a "passing fancy." I've been interested, and shy about it for years, but it's not been a serious "I MUST have her" thing.

friendlymbflirty · Answer

Well, one reason is I want to better myself first and finish the goals that I want to accomplish, and be in a place in my life where I am ready for an actual relationship.

Two I recently got out of a really long, kinda bad relationship and want to try and experience new things, and date. I never dated before. I never was even allowed to hangout with people of the opposite sex without someone being around to watch me. So dating is new and fun and confusing.

Three we are LD right now, but I'm planning to move back. So I'd rather wait till then. And even then we'd still have to be sure its what each of us wants, and how we fit in each others lives.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I wanna feel i look good enough for them to accept. I know its a shitty excuse considering i dont care that much to look good for anyone else... but with him, i was told by someone that he didn't really like how i looked when we were kids... even if his opinion has changed, a part of me thinks maybe it didn't. So i rather just look my best before giving it another go

ss1230p · Answer

I am short. Which is not actually an issue. However, in a group discussion she said casually "oh I thought he would be a short, meek loser but he turned out normal" when we were just roasting another dude who was about to join us in the fun. Later on, I felt that our talks were so juicy and she was so sweet and spicy. We don't talk due to distance between us but she is sweet and respectful to me and asks if I am going to meet her soon or not. Feels good. But maybe this is just some friend level shit.

Purplemonkey24 · Answer

I have too much going on. I dont have the time. I dont care about my body enough for him, I dont want to be abused and broken down again, i don't want to feel alone and that's all his company brings me. I'm finally doing okay, I dont want him to crumble my world again and tell me I'm not worth it when everyone deserves a fighting chance..

DonCachondo · Answer

That woman probably doesn't exist, and it's now apparent to me that the vague longing I learned to associate with her is simply part of the human condition.

Will23v · Answer

If i did really like someone I would prob be to scared to make a move on her.

Anonymous · Answer

I need to work on my mental health and take care of myself first

Ripper_E · Answer

They don't feel the same way and we live very far apart. Her career path is taking her further away, and she has a boyfriend now.

Akshayjosh · Answer

Well I don't love her. That's for sure. But am not able to hitch up with her. Cause all I have is lust in my eyes. I know this, she knows this. And she is elder to me by 25 years

scooogy · Answer

I wanted to get to know her first, and meanwhile I see that her life seems completely different to mine, like yes, it seems sort of monotonous, but on the other hand it's just stable, far more so than mine.

Brindale · Answer

Work time/can't afford a place together/soon it'll be distance too

opnbuk59 · Answer

Well the one thing that's stopping me is I have to find her first a real woman

Regmorus · Answer

Non-existence or better her being in one other world 😁

loving_my_life · Answer

My crush asked me out earlier, but I told him I needed some time to think. I really love him, don't get me wrong. But above all he's my dearest precious friend. I can't stand to think what would happen if we were to break up, I just don't want to lose him. I know it's stupid that he's literally asking me to date him already. But I'm so used to protecting myself first. I guess what's stopping me from dating him is myself. My own insecurities and doubts. :(

McKellar · Answer

1. Commonly I'm not her type. 2. She has a boyfriend. Then again there's no way of knowing for sure if she's truthful about that or not. 3. I won't be able to match up to her standards.

Kaylove96 · Answer

No one likes me or loves me or wants me and my bff who I have a crush on said she’s not gay and she thinks girls can be pretty and stuff but she’s not sexually attracted to them

DaddyRollingStone · Answer

Nothing. We just celebrated our 2nd anniversary together

Dargil · Answer

Self discipline. I'm a good and honorable guy but I lack the ambition to step up. I wish I had something or someone to blame, but it's all on me, dammit.

peachyknees · Answer

The fact that we're in a long distance relationship and he lives in the future :))

VenomSpitter · Answer

She laughed at the idea of us dating and continued talking to me everyday like as if I didn't just ask her out. Broke me really

JSmuve · Answer

Life and myself both working overtime to get in the way.

BBFDancer · Answer

This is my dream girl personality. Not attractive enough to girls.

Anonymous · Answer

The people who are around me, I can’t get rid of them

friedofnone · Answer

I was with the girl I loved but she left me or some guy she knew for a week.

Pipeliner87 · Answer

What's stopping you from being with the person you really like/love?
You can't MAKE PEOPLE LOVE YOU! Let's put a gun to head of the girl I like and see how that goes hmmm? At 21 years old I thought the girl who made this would have been smarter.

potatoiswhoiam · Answer

He doesn't want us to be together. That's all that's stopping me, but I understand

Anonymous · Answer

He’s with someone else and has been playing me this entire time. And yet I still like him... I’m the guy’s safety net and I realize that and yet I still can’t get over him.

yyyasmiiimd · Answer

Im not his type im 3 years younger than him and hé only used me to get back with his ex

Abduruser · Answer

It is you. Feel open to them. Be yourself. It is up to them to decide. You have done your part. If matter goes south then chill. Nature will take its course.

Anonymous · Answer

He's a guy who always talks to girls- I really like him but my jealous comes out way to much with him.

guy-guy45 · Answer

Personally my own insecurities and general fear of rejection and embarrassment.

Kingfish3447 · Answer

Nah... waste of energy. I don't want to beg people to be in my life.

simplelikeme · Answer

Generally it would be because she is not interested in me. And I'm okay with that, why be in a relationship when both don't want the same.

DiscomfortZone · Answer

Well, there are two of them. I'm with my 6 month old daughter at the moment and my wife should be back from work later on. So I'm good :)

hunter74678 · Answer

You are stopping yourself to love/like with the person

JamesBoradil03 · Answer

I don't have anyone I really like or love. just not attracted to people rn. I don't know y

clampfan101 · Answer

Epilepsy and bad memory are preventing me from moving away from my parents, or even getting a job.

jenn11161986 · Answer

He's with someone else now 😔

Saville_Row · Answer

He's happy with someone else.

Reamer · Answer

There is no one I like atm

robocop666 · Answer

well all my favourite instagram models haven't met me for a start

DevylasArsaukas76 · Answer

we broke up, in 2001, we remain friends but she is Married, and I'm glad

Cocacolaaddict · Answer

Don't like the idea that she would love me because I provide for her instead of my personality

Anonymous · Answer

He cheated on me, and even though we’re still crazy about each other I don’t know how to forgive him

FukkinRocket · Answer

She cheated. My self respect won’t let me take her back.

ericpardon · Answer

She didn't feel like I did. Meth was more important.

Anonymous · Answer

She's promiscuous and that kills my attraction.

chazerley · Answer

i dont know if they like me

worldscolide · Answer

Nothing, I'm already with her.

COMMODOREII · Answer

I haven't found that person yet.

LordVarys · Answer

she ruined my life 😐

pocketman · Answer

There's nobody I like!!!

CutiePitie · Answer

Religion

KrakenAttackin · Answer

She is happily married.

F1Mad39 · Answer

It's very complicated!

Noctifer · Answer

A considerable amount of dirt

FrenchGirl2 · Answer

VERY complicated. I'm working on it

Account · Answer

I don't like anyone.

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