What's stopping you from being with the person you really like/love?

[sossosxo]

[broken_heart_at_48]

I've been with my wife for close to 30 years the first 23-24 years were what true love is and what love storey's are based off of. Then things changed suddenly I had to go out of town for a job and she changed then I got seriously hurt while I was away at work and she acted like I wasn't welcome in my own home I told her then we were done but as long as she could handle it I wasn't going anywhere until my youngest was grown well she realized pretty quick that she blew it and was in a panic that I didn't want her anymore. She was my everything and I always put her on a pedestal and she knew that was over. Now fast forward we still get along and lived together up until last October. She became deathly ill she came within about an hour from death and now she's still not better she went from looking and acting healthy to being paralyzed from the waist down and is skin and bones. I've never stopped loving her and I would give my life for hers without a second thought but I still don't think it could ever be like before. I'm not going to leave her while she sick. She chose to go stay with her family when she first got sick thinking she would be able to come home pretty quick but she's not able to travel because she's to sick. This I why I'm not with the love of all time past present and future. That's all I can't see through my tears to type

[standingUP]

Dear Heavenly Father please bless this man with the love he deserves and heal his wife/ With all the grace and love with your power come fill both these souls with your will.
in Jesus' name Amen

[IlyaTheImpaler]

Her boyfriend

[sossosxo]

It be like that

[IlyaTheImpaler]

Thinking about how he fucks her ragged every night makes my heart ache. In class she looks like she doesn't sleep well, poor girl.

[Meropatrick]

That sad frog ☹️

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I don't have one. I really just want to remain single.

However, I will say that the only person I've ever felt truly comfortable and like I could 100% be myself around was one of my exes. However, he was really toxic in a lot of ways and there were 1,000 things working against us. My friends have been pushing me to get back with him, but for many reasons I won't even get into, that's a horrible idea.

[Thisismyusername94]

Fear of rejection, distance, heartbreak. A lot of the guys I feel see me as more of a wife material vs girlfriend material. Most guys I like are looking for girlfriends vs looking to settle down

[sossosxo]

Oh my god yes this is how I feel! You literally put it into words

[Cynicaldreamer]

At the moment, I'm just tired of trying. Every guy I like or want to date is: already taken, only sees me a friend/sister, or doesn't feel the same way. You know, I get rejected.

I got sick of being rejected so I just stopped trying. A person can only take so much rejection before they get sick of it. So I prefer being alone: less drama, heartache, and disappointment.

[GoodManDave]

My shyness, and that I highly doubt she's interested. Part of it is that she seems so busy that I'd be the last thing on her mind or schedule. I don't see her much, and we don't talk a lot Partly my shyness, and partly because she's rushing off to some other thing she's got going on. So the crush is just kind of "meh." Like, if she came back into my life and said "You know, I think we should go out" I'd say "Yes" in a hearbeat. But as it is now, I'm not working that seriously to make it happen. I haven't seen her in ages, and we don't ever really get a chance for much small talk, let alone the more "serious" conversations. It's barely a hello and goodbye. She might sort of recognize me outside of work; But the best I can say is that she doesn't completely ignore me if she sees me in passing... but again, she's not interested. And I've kind of given up on trying to pursue anything with her. It's a crush like a "passing fancy." I've been interested, and shy about it for years, but it's not been a serious "I MUST have her" thing.

[friendlymbflirty]

Well, one reason is I want to better myself first and finish the goals that I want to accomplish, and be in a place in my life where I am ready for an actual relationship.

Two I recently got out of a really long, kinda bad relationship and want to try and experience new things, and date. I never dated before. I never was even allowed to hangout with people of the opposite sex without someone being around to watch me. So dating is new and fun and confusing.

Three we are LD right now, but I'm planning to move back. So I'd rather wait till then. And even then we'd still have to be sure its what each of us wants, and how we fit in each others lives.

[DizzyDesii]

I wanna feel i look good enough for them to accept. I know its a shitty excuse considering i dont care that much to look good for anyone else... but with him, i was told by someone that he didn't really like how i looked when we were kids... even if his opinion has changed, a part of me thinks maybe it didn't. So i rather just look my best before giving it another go

[ss1230p]

I am short. Which is not actually an issue. However, in a group discussion she said casually "oh I thought he would be a short, meek loser but he turned out normal" when we were just roasting another dude who was about to join us in the fun. Later on, I felt that our talks were so juicy and she was so sweet and spicy. We don't talk due to distance between us but she is sweet and respectful to me and asks if I am going to meet her soon or not. Feels good. But maybe this is just some friend level shit.

[Purplemonkey24]

I have too much going on. I dont have the time. I dont care about my body enough for him, I dont want to be abused and broken down again, i don't want to feel alone and that's all his company brings me. I'm finally doing okay, I dont want him to crumble my world again and tell me I'm not worth it when everyone deserves a fighting chance..

[DonCachondo]

That woman probably doesn't exist, and it's now apparent to me that the vague longing I learned to associate with her is simply part of the human condition.

[Will23v]

If i did really like someone I would prob be to scared to make a move on her.

[sossosxo]

Why is that

[Will23v]

Only done it twice and got rejected guess i wouldn't really be scared i just wouldn't think she felt the same as i did and i wouldn't make a move

[Will23v]

@sossosxo Do you think that makes me a loser?

[sossosxo]

That doesmt make u a loser, you just sound a bit cautious there's nothing wrong with that especially in this generation where people just wanna fuck around and not genuinely take interest in someone

[Will23v]

@sossosxo thanks, appreciate ur opinion

[Anonymous]

I need to work on my mental health and take care of myself first

[Ripper_E]

They don't feel the same way and we live very far apart. Her career path is taking her further away, and she has a boyfriend now.

[Akshayjosh]

Well I don't love her. That's for sure.
But am not able to hitch up with her. Cause all I have is lust in my eyes.
I know this, she knows this.
And she is elder to me by 25 years

[DonCachondo]

I don't know about this woman but I would imagine any 52yr old woman would be thrilled to be lusted after once again, especially by someone as young as yourself

[Akshayjosh]

Really. I wish it is the way you think.
I think she is enjoying the attention I give her, but also not making any move, and not complaining too.

[scooogy]

I wanted to get to know her first, and meanwhile I see that her life seems completely different to mine, like yes, it seems sort of monotonous, but on the other hand it's just stable, far more so than mine.

[Brindale]

Work time/can't afford a place together/soon it'll be distance too

[opnbuk59]

Well the one thing that's stopping me is I have to find her first a real woman

[Regmorus]

Non-existence or better her being in one other world 😁

[Dargil]

Self discipline.
I'm a good and honorable guy but I lack the ambition to step up. I wish I had something or someone to blame, but it's all on me, dammit.

[loving_my_life]

My crush asked me out earlier, but I told him I needed some time to think. I really love him, don't get me wrong. But above all he's my dearest precious friend. I can't stand to think what would happen if we were to break up, I just don't want to lose him. I know it's stupid that he's literally asking me to date him already. But I'm so used to protecting myself first. I guess what's stopping me from dating him is myself. My own insecurities and doubts. :(

[McKellar]

1. Commonly I'm not her type.
2. She has a boyfriend. Then again there's no way of knowing for sure if she's truthful about that or not.
3. I won't be able to match up to her standards.

[Kaylove96]

No one likes me or loves me or wants me and my bff who I have a crush on said she’s not gay and she thinks girls can be pretty and stuff but she’s not sexually attracted to them

[DaddyRollingStone]

Nothing. We just celebrated our 2nd anniversary together