Do guys get jealous over their girlfriend having guy friends?

[peacchyy]

I know everyone's different, I just want to hear different opinions about it. :)

[Anonymous]

I would only be opposed to her friendship with a guy if she spent time alone with him and texted/called him often. For example, if my girlfriend was alone with another boy at his house or a restaurant, that is crossing the line and is shady. If you have a boyfriend you should only be spending time with him alone. The same goes for guys too. If they were just friends, why would she need to be with him alone and not invite you? It would make me think she is likely cheating or at least has feelings for him. My girlfriend and I have rule not to be with other people of the opposite sex alone (excluding work reasons and family members). If we are part of a group of friends with people of opposite sex, it is fine to hang out as a group, because that is a platonic setting. But being alone with another person of the oposite sex crosses our boundaries, because we are in an exclusive, commited relationship. Emotional or physical intimacy should only be between us. I have no desire whatsoever to get really close with another women, because I only have eyes for her. And I expect the same courtesy from her. I let the women I dated up front my relationship boundaries and that I wanted our relationship to be first priority. My ex thought it was ok to lie about texting and seeing her male 'friend' alone, even though I told her I was not ok with that. I dumped her because she didn't value or care about my feelings. I deserved better than that and found my amazing current girlfriend.

[AynonOMouse]

The majority of those guy "friends" are trying to get with her and most guys know that. If the girl claims they aren't either she isn't socially intelligent, or she keeps them around on purpose as a back up plan when things don't work out with someone else. Most of her guy friends will be there for her to give "advice" that somehow always leads to her not liking her SO and blaming him for things he never did.

[peacchyy]

I see that happen a lot, and I have had guy friends before that made it seem like my boyfriend was the worst person for a tiny mistake. I don't anymore because of this, but yeah.
I agree. :)

[AynonOMouse]

Yep, I've lost respect for former friends I had when I seen them do the exact same thing and interfere with women's relationships just so they could get them and use them.

Personally when I am friends with someone I avoid talking to, hanging out with, or adding their SO on social media, and whenever they have a problem in their relationship I tell them, "It isn't my place to give you advice or comment on your intimate relationships." Pretty much that exact quite. That way I know I didn't interfere, and they can't blame me later on for decisions they made on their own.

I also never date anyone that was ever intimate/romantic with a friend either, but many people I've known IRL do that and I disapprove.

I think the only way a guy and girl can legitimately stay friends is if they behave like I do, and also if they had both been single at the same time before and still weren't interested in more than friends for whatever reason.

[peacchyy]

I like your perspective on it. :)

[AynonOMouse]

Thanks. Not many people think the same way though. Just make your expectations clear from the start of what is and isn't acceptable to you and hopefully that will help you avoid the incompatible people. :)

[dermworm]

Spot on

[jcjj1991]

I think so, in general. However, some guys actually try hard to make their girlfriend feel comfortable with their guy friends. Or they like that she has guy friends so they can keep an eye on her. If the boyfriend is the friendly type he will probably be friends with them too and not think about it.

[peacchyy]

Oh, I never thought about that. Although, keeping an eye on her while she's with them is kind of creepy. Need to be more trusting :)

[jcjj1991]

Lol. I worded it wrong. More like help her out while the guy is gone. Like a friend asked me to stay with his wife while he and the guys went to buy food. I was so awkward but she was excited to get to know me. Purely friendly of course lol.

[FunCouple35]

It depends a bit of the atitudes from both the guy and the girl... My wife has a lot of friends with which she has a lot of confidence and the guys with her, but they know their limits since she is a married person... It depends on the character of the person we are speaking about... If she is a lady, or he is a gentleman and respect each other relationship with their partner, then I think it is cool...

[Jayden_Tan]

I am fine as long as she doesn't prioritise them over me. I am just afraid she will actually fall for them and ended up doing things behind. my insecurity thicken especially if we are in a long distance relationship. it's not I dont trust her but based on her stories about her ex, she always cheated so I dont give any exception to this. there are still guys texing her, sending dick pics. I dont know what she replied. that's why I often send my time with her and keeping her occupied

[Meropatrick]

Not really. That means she is a healthy person and have friends. Having friends can be really important. They can help a lot if they are good friends. And be a shoulder to cry on. Also they bring you joy. So I would not hate that for my girl. But what matters to me is that she sets the boundaries and not let things cross from just friendship to a relationship with her guy friend

[mrdrawesome_esquire]

As long as she doesn't purposely flirt with them and the guys also aren't suspicious, it's no big deal. I've mostly seen it be all good

[Madhatter920]

For me? A little. It's less so with them being friends, more so with the amount of time they spend together. Especially if that time is spent alone.

[akshay1998]

Yyyyeeeesss, maybe some guys don't show but they get jealous I don't know if this same happens to girls but my girlfriend too doesn't like me even talking to a girl so we are on the same page

[peacchyy]

Awh, it's nice that you guys are dedicated to each other that much.

[LVbrando85]

Girls with male associates I dont mind. They usually disappear when you get serious. But if her best friend is a guy or most of her friends are guys, we can be friends with benefits but I won't gamble on a relationship with her.

[In_Trance]

Guys don't wanna see or hear about other guys. Just like girls don't wanna see/hear about other girls

[Anonymous]

When Harry Met Sally. He ALWAYS wants to f*ck her. Always! Women kid themselves that guys aren't interested in that but deep down they know that's why he is around

[winterfox10]

I don't get jealous, but I never trust her male "friends." I've had too many relationships get squashed by friends who were more interested in the outcome of the relationship than was appropriate.

[chriscdi]

i just dont see the point of her having a guy friend if she has me as a male perspective for everything

[Anonymous]

If she isn't attracted to any of them or they to her, what do I care. If she tells me she is I will be with her on visits or she will avoid the ones with issue all together (out of her choice naturally).

[cth96190]

No, not at all.
Of course most (perhaps all) of those males would be beta orbiters who wanted her, but she chose me and was riding my penis, so I could care less how many male friends she had.

[SjE78]

some do, some dont, each of my gf's had guy friends... and only 2 tried to make it an issue... 1 of those though cheated with one of her guy friends

[Aaron_Stone]

Do girls get jealous over their boyfriend having girl friends?
Your honest ans will most likely be similar to mine.

[Aaron_Stone]

Speaking of ones I have observed, be it guy or girl they just get jealous.

no bias in jealousy.
Even kids get jealous when some other kid steals their parents attention.

[ManhattanAgent]

I wouldn't tell her to stop hanging out with them or anything but I'd be wary.
Depends on the kind of guys she's friends with.

[Grkgod12]

Some guys definitely do.
But it depends on the people involved, and your relationship.
Are you in that situation now?

[EzraWells]

Only if/when they say they're with their girl mates but then a mate noticed her SC map was at a campground in his his town 2hrs away, so we visited and found her in bed with one of her male 'friends' 😅

[Numbnuts89]

Makes me wonder why she needs male "friends", if she has a "boyfriend"

Make sense?

[peacchyy]

Yeah, I understand that. My boyfriend isn't very fond of it either, so I respect his view on it.

[Numbnuts89]

Then why do you still have them

[peacchyy]

I don't, I meant since he doesn't like it, I don't have guy friends, haha.

[Numbnuts89]

Why did you ever though

[peacchyy]

I had guy friends before I was with him, but it was nothing more than a school friendship and none of them really cared that we didn't talk anymore, and neither did I.

[Numbnuts89]

Sounds like they weren't even friends. Sounds like you were USING THEM

[peacchyy]

Not really... They were school acquaintances, I only talked to them at school, and we weren't close at all.
Nothing more to it. We all drifted apart anyways.

[Numbnuts89]

Exactly. YOU USED THEM

[peacchyy]

If that's what you want to take from it...
I never asked them of anything and we only talked about school work. Nothing more to it.
You're reading too much into it.

[Numbnuts89]

YOU USED THEM!

[peacchyy]

Haha, okay... If that's how you see it.

[Numbnuts89]

im gonna block you now

[Torari]

Yes. Its a natural evolved instinct. Evolutionary physiologist call it "mate guarding". Because women with lots of male friends are more likely to have a different mans baby, which is a waste of your effort to raise in the genetic sense.

[Trojan6]

No we get upset because we can understand other guys intentions better than any others.
Most of the girls can't.

[hatim_tai]

if the relationship is about having sex... and i'm having my share of sex... then no... if the relationship is more than sex... e. g. long term, marriage etc... then may be it can be a different issue.

[wouterv]

We have girl in my Friend group her boyfriend first thought one of is liked her but now 2 years later we are all really good Friends she more like a sister so IT depends all on time and situation

[cloud49]

I have girlfriend, she has more male freinds than females. I don't ask her to not talk with your male friends. I simply say it's okay go and talk if you want and then she loves me more telling you love me.

[jason0559]

Too some extent only if they are friends but if they are more than that it can be trouble for our relationship

[Anonymous]

I'm going to be completely honest, yes. More often than not it also makes me insecure

[Strahd]

Short answer. Yes. Longer answer. Depends on the relationship or time spent with one another.

[Richard-Tilburg]

I do not, they where her friends before she met me or they are my friends. l

[AD240pCharlie]

No. I have female friends so it'd be very hypocritical if I did.