Could you date a woman who was unfeminine?

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Craftsman · Accepted Answer

The labels really don't matter to me that much. I have known some women who can tear down and rebuild engines and transmissions, and some women who look dainty in a dress and are at home at a society event. Some of those women are the same women. I have a real respect for people who can do things, whether male or female, masculine or feminine, dainty or otherwise.
One of the most feminine women I knew way back when asked me, while dressed to the nines at a formal dinner, if I thought women could learn to ride motorcycles. I looked at her, thought, "I'm going to take a chance here." and replied, "No part of the motorcycle is controlled by genitals. If the woman has hands and feet, and a brain and eyes, nothing says she can't ride a motorcycle." We were together for 7 years. I still miss the good times we had when we were people first, and boy / girl second.

LanzeWolf · Accepted Answer

I'm sorry, I don't mean to sound like an ass, but in truth what I look for in a woman is a Caring, Giving, Loving, Very Sexual and Strong woman, on the inside, The outside I like Her To be fit or close to it, I like a hard body, Don't get me wrong... I love it.
On the Other hand, I don't want her hard or harder than I am.
Damn, This question is harder to answer than I thought w/o sticking ur foot in your mouth.
I like a hard body but a Curvy, Soft & Supple Woman, With a femimine voice, Her voice has to be at least 5 octives higher than mine.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

After reading some of these replies from the guys, I realize I am definitely going to single for a LONG time.

I'm not very feminine; I'm a tomboy and proud of it! I realize most guys prefer "girly girls," which is fine.
But you can be masculine AND still be a woman as well!

elisa_0 · Accepted Answer

Lmaoo 🤣 I’m not bi so I’m just looking at other answers here but I understand what you mean by non feminine vs feminine. However my question is why is natural hair considered less feminine? I love philosophizing about these sorts of things bc they don’t logically make much sense.

SoWhAt249 · Answer

My first girlfriend was actually what is in English called, a Tomboy. And I loved her a lot. It's actually convenient. Men are generally expected to do the chores, women be like protecting their nails, don't want to get dirty, trying to keep their makeup intact. Not her. She'd always help me if I needed help. My only other girlfriend was pretty feminine, and didn't do this stuff. Well, she didn't even live close to me (my first girlfriend was a neighbor, and she'd run to help as soon as she saw me doing something), so that might be the case, but anyways. I loved them both equally.

Felicityoyo · Answer

What does "unfeminine" entail? Wearing Jean's? Little to no makeup? Being muscular? Likening things that are traditionally considered male activities like sports or videogames? Because virtually no woman wears makeup and dresses and obsesses over "girly" things all the time

silvermoon84 · Answer

I think it depends on the woman and on who the man is. I’m very girly and have a friend who is tomboyish and she gets more attention than I do from men so there definitely are men who will date tomboyish women but I’m not sure exactly about masculine women. The woman in the first pic really needs to shave her armpits though. That’s gross

jemismyname · Answer

i like girlier girls more, i think, but i can hang with dykey-looking girls or chicks who are grease-monkeys or have other less stereotypically femine traits or hobbies.

actually all 3 are super hot in their own way, especially if they really rock the style or seem comfy in being themselves. that's the best.

JKingOff · Answer

I was just like to point out that this is a very unfair choice for a lot of men and does not necessarily portray the situation in the question. Picture 1 is the picture of a dude, and picture 2 is my future wife! If you want to be fair and use a good visual example you should use two separate pictures of women, as opposed to a picture of a guy, and a picture of a girl. I'm just saying. Doing it this way kind of skews people's opinions in favor of no. in fact just because of the situation I seriously doubt you're going to get an accurate response.

worldscolide · Answer

Depends on what you mean by not feminine. Most women that call them selves not feminine are still feminine in my opinion, The following image is what an unfeminine woman is to me.. If you're not like that then you're more than feminine enough for me.. If that makes sense.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

I'm attracted to feminine girls abd prefer to date them. Nothing "wrong" with a girl being more masculine of course, but tomboys just don't entice me sexually or romantically. Some guys are more feminine and prefer the girl to be more masculine, so there's a match for everyone.

cute_short_nerd · Answer

Sexist scum, ALL WOMEN ARE BEUTIFUL IN THERE OWN WAY.

Massageman · Answer

No, but with a caveat. There is a loooooooong continuum between "unfeminine" and wearing a pink semi-formal and carrying a nosegay of flowers.
How about a nice Israeli Army commando girl?

She could put ME in handcuffs and I don't think I would mind - - - - - -

COMMODOREII · Answer

I like strong women like this but they are still feminine.  Juli Firso

CubsterShura · Answer

The woman in the first pic could be feminine and that might just be a photo, and the woman in the second pic might be a tomboy/Butch and that photo might have just been a photo as well. Femininity goes far beyond these mere pictures.

Anonymous · Answer

yes as long as she was still affectionate.
Regardless of her personality, I would still like to cuddle, share little kisses and just nice little romantic stuff like that.
But if she was too cold or robotic or just not interested in affection then I could not date her.

SkipStop · Answer

Never. That is very unattractive to me. Unfeminine women are not wife and mother material. *counting the downvotes*

ThePityPartyGirl · Answer

Besides the armpit hair, the tomboy girl looks really hot. If I was a guy I would want a girl who's just in the middle. Not too girly or makeup/fashion obsessed but is well put together.

Anonymous · Answer

Define "un-feminine" you can still be a tomboy and still maintain a degree of femininity. One of the most amazing women i know is a bit of a tomboy. It's because she knows who she is. She not ashamed of being that person and that self confidence is incredibley sexy. But when the situation calls for it she can ditch the blue jeans for a dress and she crushes it. Basically it's her incredible heart that shows through all the time. She genuinely cares about other people.

Jjpayne · Answer

Yes, I'd try to force her into clothes on special occasions like weddings and so forth but causally I'd be totally fine with it as long as we will still both affectionate with each other rather than acting like a couple of dudes

QuestionMark19 · Answer

Yes. Tom-Boys are very attractive. Celeste Bonin is very attractive and she's very Tom-Boyish. I'd go as far as saying that I prefer it, to very girly.

laurieluvsit · Answer

No, I am not into the butch types at all

Makeushiver · Answer

I haven't met too many women who were actually unfeminine. They may express their femininity differently or not look the same as what is considered the feminine ideal in the cultural norms of the time but not unfeminine

just_a_potato · Answer

The masculine ones are the girls I go for honestly, I'm not a top 😂

nodnol32 · Answer

I don't mind dating tomboys. Even if a girl is 'masculine' she is still a girl and she can be feminine in a different way. Beauty exists in different varieties.

Adam1978 · Answer

It depends on how. She can be a grease monkey and have as many male hobbies or interests as she wants but I wouldn't want one that become masculine as a person.

mattl338 · Answer

Yes absolutely, but the armpit hair is a dealbreaker for me. The girl in the top picture I would date if she didn't have armpit hair.

Orange_bb · Answer

I am not a lesbian so neither way i would. But girls with rude behaviour and use curse words a lot is pretty evident that they are just unattractive

ThisDudeHere · Answer

What would be the point of that? Literally the defining attractive attribute of the opposite sex and she doesn't have it? Why date then?

humanearth · Answer

Yes yes yes, my wife is just like a guy but has tits and a twat. I'm more feminine then she is. At least that what she says

ttnnkkrr · Answer

unfeminin how? like she has a dick? what does unfeminine even mean cause both pictures look feminine to me

nawtee_me · Answer

So what makes a girl not feminine? is it the hairy armpits? In some areas women do not shave under their arms. That does not mean they are not feminine, it means others judge them on what they do not know about them.
I mean I am not looking for Butch as a girlfriend but a little hair doesn't bother me.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

I prefer her to be feminine but also can have a so called tomboy side that likes to ride dirtbikes for example. Now if she was one that was mainly tomboy whose main foot wear are boots like this similar to this then that is too tomboy for me.

Could you date a woman who was unfeminine?

I can handle one that likes to camp and hike for example but still would need a feminine style moresssthan not even if uts an alternative style.

KatQueen1313 · Answer

I'm bisexual and to me it depends on how masculine she is. I like a woman who is kind of masculine.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm extremely masculine but I'm not gay or bi... so if boys don't like me or if no one lets me be myself in general, then I might as well just be nonbinary or be aromantic cuz fk people let me be myself damnit

nella965 · Answer

Most girls don’t dress up or do makeup on a daily basis. I think as long as you don’t act walk or talk like a man , you should be fine

John_Doesnt · Answer

The underarm hair is disgusting. If she expects a man to do anything manly like open doors or pay for dates or whatever, then she needs to at least shave her body hair.

Finchie40 · Answer

I prefer a girly girl but I don’t mind if she has a little tomboy in her , I just don’t want her dressing like a dude lol

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I find that even a lot of the "tough" ones are still feminine in some ways. They can be fun to hang out with.

Hunter7754 · Answer

Sorry but no, I like feminine women. If you dont want to be feminine, that's fine thats your right. Just dont complain if not as many guys are attracted to you. Just like women are attracted to masculine men, us guys like feminine women.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

I am open to the ideal of dating either or. however I prefer a woman in the middle. nice 50/50 or 60/40 blend

mermaidrocketship · Answer

I used to get in my head about this until I started seeing some of my ugly friends get married. Then I looked at couples in public. There’s plenty of hot guys with girls who have short hair or wear sweats or who never do their makeup.

theCobbler · Answer

Any Woman is not unfeminine! Femininity comes with being a woman; some chose not to show it, but deep down there's no escaping it! I'd rather have a tougher woman than a total pristine Woman!

Anonymous · Answer

As a woman myself I believe it doesn't matter if your feminine or unfeminine. What matters is how you see yourself and the person you date see you.

Rasheeah18 · Answer

I'm a tomboy and don't dress girly and i have a boyfriend so...🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

ElvenMr · Answer

The first one really doesn't try to look like a women tho. She might be more feminine if she wasn't dressed like that. I might be into her then, but generally no, i would prefer a more feminine women, which is not just about "wear pink".

American_Centurion · Answer

Every woman has a feminist about her though a woman who's very unfeminine or is manly in her mannerisms or stands and moves like a man is usually a lesbian case in point Ellen Page who is real pretty yet she stands and runs like a man.

virtue2332 · Answer

I was going to joke and say only if she had a big Dick but I couldn't even do that.

Madhatter920 · Answer

Depends on *how* unfeminine. Completely? No. Just enough to not be "girly"? Yes.

Kurαȷ · Answer

Unfeminine intellectually and emotionally, yes. Physically, no.

Redstang88 · Answer

Usually do, just don’t have anything in common with girly girls

Lost_Spark · Answer

Not for me but I do there is something about under arm hair...

StephenCF · Answer

Nope! If I wanted a masculine partner, I’d go gay and date those who do it best: men 😅

NewZion · Answer

Yes.  But that armpit hair is a deal breaker.

imjustadude · Answer

Would have one night stand with A. Would marry B and later tolerate her if she became like A.

poisonkissed3 · Answer

Yep. I'm a lesbian, and I find masculine women just as attractive as feminine women.

ShadowofRegret · Answer

Yes, most of people think is "unfeminine" or "unmasculine" is simply someone's personality traits.

Johnnyready · Answer

Of course, as long as she has a good ass and and legs, indeed it will be more fun, open a world of possibilities. like she can lift me and put my cock in her, and then I do the same to her... More games to play

blondfrog · Answer

I mean to some degree I can. If she's like a tomboy that is perfectly fine, but if she is like that chick with the hair armpits, hard pass sorry lol.

Unit1 · Answer

No such a thing as "feminine" or "masculine". These are social constructs 😁 But I do love beautiful women.

dwcl99 · Answer

I have. Unfortunately she turned out to be a lesbian. But on the bright side, she was super low maintenance. But sometimes there's something hot about a tomboy.

emmily2396 · Answer

Define feminine. Most people can't be put in a box.

winterfox10 · Answer

I like femininity too much, I'm afraid. I have dated tomboys, and that was okay. I think the best mix for me is a girly girl who isn't afraid to crawl around in the mud.

Oram52 · Answer

I would not date unfeminine girl at all, I prefer feminine girls, girly girls.

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