Would you date someone who has a criminal record?

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Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Absolutely not! That's one of my instant deal breakers for me; I don't go for guys that have been in jail or did something against the law.

Now I might make an exception if it was something minor, such as a speeding ticket. Or they were jailed for doing something to defend himself and/or his family (eg: fighting someone that tried to attack him or his loved ones out of defense).
The important thing is he's upfront and tells me why he has one in the first place, then I'll consider the circumstances behind it.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Would depend on what kind of record, why, and other factors. Some people have a record for a bullshit reason. My second husband actually had a felony on his record over a girl getting shot in the butt with a BB gun when he was 18. But, one: he wasn't the one who actually shot the bb, two: Her dad was a cop so pulled strings. So of course I wouldn't of not been with him because of that.
But a down and out repeat criminal, no.

AmandaYVR · Answer

I would hear him out and decide based on the particular details. He'd better be fully honest about it. If I think he's lying or omitting, I'll walk. But I'm likely to accept many past mistakes, if he fesses up. (Some will be dealbreakers, but not just having a criminal record.)

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Totally depends on circumstances. If she's a druggie, clearly not reformed, has a rotten attitude, gets furious if I talk above her 3rd grade reading level, shows contempt for my hobbies, thinks trailer trash tattoos and dye are awesome, fancies herself a model but can't be bothered to learn the basics of framing, lighting, posing, composition, and taste, let alone how to pick an outfit, or how to edit video to best convey an idea without looking stupid, and gets mad that I do care about achieving at least a minimal degree of professionalism, then adiablos. I don't have time for Instagram trash.

Now, if she's a modest woman who does care, but her watchdog attitude about keeping bureaucrats in check has led to persecution from corrupt ones, and she's on the verge of becoming a female Edward Snowden, and she's been to jail for blowing the whistle and ruining a politician's career by podcasting their ties to a foreign donor with insidious, openly-stated on C-SPAN ulterior motives? In that case, her having been kidnapped and railroaded into McPherson for a year and a half on trumped-up allegations of running an illegal mosquito ranch because of a tire in her backyard is something I'd consider a badge of honor. Where can I meet such a courageous patriot, whose achievements make Tim Brown look soft, and who can run circles in a debate around even myself, who makes other women look like drooling brainlets?

Seems the best matches I've found on Facebook are all widows in their early 60s, who have grandchildren now, who don't look a day over 40.

cth96190 · Answer

My answer would depend upon for what they were convicted.
For example, there are plenty of people who deserve to be killed, so I might consider a murder conviction to be null, because the death made the world a better place.
If it was cruelty to animals, I would consider that the world would be a better place without that female.
There are too many possible variables to give a blanket yes or no answer to the question.
I work in private security. Every time that I have to interact with the public, it reaffirms by believe in eugenics. The criminal underclass is bred, not made.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends. There's a huge difference between having something like having been caught with alcohol while underage or possession of marijuana, and something like sexual assault, robbery/burglary, theft, possession of hard drugs, or even worse. If it was something very minor that happened years ago, I wouldn't care, but if it were something major or he was a repeat offender with more than one conviction, no.

Platypuss · Answer

Depends on what kind of crime and why it was done.
I mean, sometimes people are helpless and they don't see any other way out.
And we must not forget people change, but that's aftermath. You must first be compatible with them, see if a potential if they can turn there life's around if they reasoned with.

jgokgotit · Answer

Depends on the crime. If it is for a felony then no because a law enforcement officer cannot live with a felon due to the felon's inability to live with a gun in the house. As for morally, people make mistakes. I would, in most cases, not care about their criminal past if it was indeed in the past.

CaptainSmartass · Answer

It depends on the records. If it's Justin Bieber's greatest hits, then no. If it's the Vengaboys, then maybe.

Oh, you mean a court record? Oh, well maybe, unless it's for violent or sexual crimes. I'm not dating some lass who'll beat me up or rape me. Hell no!

Simples...

Tyson656 · Answer

For me it would depend on what and when. If it was when they were just a kid or something small and I liked them of course I'd date them. If it was something bad or more recently then it's a maybe but not a no if I like them enough.

burlen · Answer

That would depend the type of crime and propensity to reoffend. I certainly won’t date a murderer, attempted murderer, or terrorist, for example.

I wouldn’t mind dating a shoplifter or embezzler as long they have shown they can’t reoffend.

faroutpharoh · Answer

I would but i have a criminal record. I believe people can change wether its for better or for worse it just depends on their surroundings. Were like a cancer on this planet if your surrounded by other cancer cells and no cure you'll surely die but if your surrounded by cures or good cells. Cells replicate each other then. So if your a good influence on a bad cell you might change their life and the world.

buddies · Answer

My relationships are not based on who a person used to be. If they have not changed, then I would be careful, but a person should not be judged by his past.

Jjpayne · Answer

It depends on what it's for and if they plan to continue.

Anonymous · Answer

To be truthful God can change man so if it's God will that I should date someone with a criminal record then so be it I will. Sometimes we forget criminal are human being and at the end of the day who are we to judge them.

Nicolette777 · Answer

It depends on the crime. Something really minor, ages ago and if he had a secure and good job. If not, no

Adam1978 · Answer

Depends on crime and how long ago. Normally no because it a sign of bad attitude, morale and lack of respect and consideration of our fellow citizens.

RJJ33666 · Answer

If its a really major crime for some bad reasons then i wouldn't. But if the crime was actually for a good reason, i would actually consider.

ManHater · Answer

Everyone has a criminal record. Men who have raped women and did not get caught. Murder etc... so honestly even your partner does not tell you everything. Women falsely claiming abuse and put men behind bars.

Breanna_nonbinary · Answer

Depends on if he was reformed or if he just says he is.

leonidas69 · Answer

No. Criminal records are worse than police records. It displays a certain level of being untrustworthy.

CupcakeKiller · Answer

It really depends on who what when where why how. However, I would be worried about my legal career.

purplepoppy · Answer

No. Generally people with a criminal record have committed sev several crimes before their caught.

ellkell · Answer

That really depends on the crime and if they're living a constant life of criminal behavior

Aarvagol · Answer

Well, I believe in second chances, so if he change his way in life and regret his deeds. I can do it probably

BloJo · Answer

To be fair, a traffic citation counts as a crime. Thus, anyone who has ever been caught speeding or who did not put enough money in a parking meter has a criminal record.

zagor · Answer

Depends entirely on what it is. If they got a DUI or a shoplifting or drug possession hit from ten years ago, no problem. If it's something like that Bobbitt thing, forget it.

TMcCaa · Answer

there's nothing wrong with it... most especially if it was in the past-- kinda depends on what kinda criminal-- murderer, rapist wouldn't fuck with them

OpenNudist · Answer

Personally I would want to know the extent of criminal behavior. Beyond that I work for a Defense Contractor so the Immediate answer would be an astounding NO

CAT80 · Answer

Depends on their current personality and actions, not those of the past.

Miristheiss · Answer

Probably mot. I guess it depends what it was they did.

funride74 · Answer

Criminal record is a broad field. Would make it dependent from what he or she did

_no_one_ · Answer

First i would like to know the reason for criminal record and then i would like to see the improvement in that person.

MbSaAl · Answer

It depend about his criminal record. If he is a good guy who involved in a stupid thing and got caught, and then moved on then why not.

dudeinohio · Answer

If they had one or 2 mistakes, I'd be ok with that. An extensive criminal history would be a deal breaker, though.

USA1960 · Answer

I would certainly have no issues dating a woman with a record, provided I could see in her a sincere heart and evidence of a renewed life.

Fuentes · Answer

Depends on the rap sheet they're some people who just have made mistakes but aren't criminals repeat felony offenders are criminals tho, Misdemeanors depends on the issue

cloud9vortex1234 · Answer

Yes, but it depends on what it is and if they have a long Rap Sheet. It doesn't make you a Bad Person if you have a Criminal Record. People make mistakes and can improve.

StephenCF · Answer

If it’s not murder or unprovoked assault, then yes 👍🏻

KingdomForAKiss · Answer

Most likely, no. It probably depends on how far back the crime was and also what the charge was.

LOVETRUEHEARTS · Answer

Well, if the person has changed 'in a better way, then yeah.

AmeerX · Answer

If they did any crime for money or fraud then no. If they murdered but even that was for right reasons then yes.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m currently dating a guy who is in prison. He’s an ex I reconnected with. Also wanted to mention he’s on the same block as my brother. Him and my brother are more on a speaking term now because of me, does that make sense?

clampfan101 · Answer

If it wasn’t too bad, and it had been long enough since she did any crime. (Gotta be sure she’s changed her ways.)

MasRus · Answer

depends on what they do and if they still makin same mistakes and gettimg trouble

smb930 · Answer

Sorry, I've had one speeding ticket. I guess I can't date anyone.

Matt57 · Answer

If it was a victimless crime, I wouldn’t care too much. It would still depend on what it is though.

najekim · Answer

Does that include speeding tickets or parking tickets since they come from breaking laws, like the more serious criminals? ;)

JellyBean99 · Answer

I currently am with someone who has a criminal record but it's really not that bad. He beat up a guy who was trying to kidnap his girlfriend at the time from a club.

somedude1589 · Answer

Well, I would probably draw the line after convictions or maybe a petty theft charge or something of the sort. Nothing violent, negligent, or anything else that would indicate a bad person.

CrazyRay43 · Answer

Depends what the charges were, such as stated in the post

NorthwestRider · Answer

For sure yeah expect for murder, sexual assault, animal abuse, etc

Valricthehalfling7 · Answer

Depends on what they did I have a criminal record unfortunately haha so it wouldn’t bother me

Anonymous · Answer

AmaZing the number of women that would date criminals.. probably believing they will “fix” him and then wonder how children have to grow up in broken households visiting Dad in prison

Clarke498 · Answer

I don't think so. But i guess it depends on what the charge was.

hwvzhssb · Answer

until she doesn't want to harm anyone ( specially me)

Kathy_Scorpio97 · Answer

Depends on what it is was for. If she was arrested of domestic abuse no.

Cryptic-Game · Answer

It would defend on the crime and if there was a false conviction or not.

Chitown10 · Answer

Yes. doesn't everyone deserve a second chance or at least happiness?

ross_galler · Answer

It depends on which types of criminal record they has if. definitely not gonna date a murderer

Jenni84 · Answer

Yes, depending perhaps their explanation. An the crime.

DarkKnightNinja · Answer

If it’s crazy stuff, then no. If it’s little things, then yes.

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