Would you date someone who has a criminal record?

[DanaeAdam5]

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I definitely would, except if he had a criminal record about sexual assault etc.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Absolutely not! That's one of my instant deal breakers for me; I don't go for guys that have been in jail or did something against the law.

Now I might make an exception if it was something minor, such as a speeding ticket. Or they were jailed for doing something to defend himself and/or his family (eg: fighting someone that tried to attack him or his loved ones out of defense).
The important thing is he's upfront and tells me why he has one in the first place, then I'll consider the circumstances behind it.

[Wizzbang]

Would you date someone who was in possession of drugs, like weed for example?

[Cryptic-Game]

What if he was falsely convicted?

[NorthwestRider]

@Wizzbang Weed should not be crime in the first place so it would be silly if someone was arrested for weed lol

[Wizzbang]

@NorthwestRider I know, but in some states it is still illegal isn't it? I think it should be legal

[NorthwestRider]

@Wizzbang It will be legal in all 50 states very soon

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Would depend on what kind of record, why, and other factors. Some people have a record for a bullshit reason. My second husband actually had a felony on his record over a girl getting shot in the butt with a BB gun when he was 18. But, one: he wasn't the one who actually shot the bb, two: Her dad was a cop so pulled strings. So of course I wouldn't of not been with him because of that.
But a down and out repeat criminal, no.

[joesheks]

And you actually believe that story...

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@joesheks yes because I knew him from 13 years old. He was best friends with my best friend's brother so I knew the parties involved. And it's right there on the police record that it was a bb gun. But because it broke skin, blah blah.

[spartan55]

How about sitting in jail for a month for a suspended license?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@spartan55 that is a bad decision but not necessarily hardcore criminal

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Thanks for mho 🙂

[DanaeAdam5]

Your welcome :)

[AmandaYVR]

I would hear him out and decide based on the particular details. He'd better be fully honest about it. If I think he's lying or omitting, I'll walk. But I'm likely to accept many past mistakes, if he fesses up. (Some will be dealbreakers, but not just having a criminal record.)

[ObscuredBeyond]

Totally depends on circumstances. If she's a druggie, clearly not reformed, has a rotten attitude, gets furious if I talk above her 3rd grade reading level, shows contempt for my hobbies, thinks trailer trash tattoos and dye are awesome, fancies herself a model but can't be bothered to learn the basics of framing, lighting, posing, composition, and taste, let alone how to pick an outfit, or how to edit video to best convey an idea without looking stupid, and gets mad that I do care about achieving at least a minimal degree of professionalism, then adiablos. I don't have time for Instagram trash.

Now, if she's a modest woman who does care, but her watchdog attitude about keeping bureaucrats in check has led to persecution from corrupt ones, and she's on the verge of becoming a female Edward Snowden, and she's been to jail for blowing the whistle and ruining a politician's career by podcasting their ties to a foreign donor with insidious, openly-stated on C-SPAN ulterior motives? In that case, her having been kidnapped and railroaded into McPherson for a year and a half on trumped-up allegations of running an illegal mosquito ranch because of a tire in her backyard is something I'd consider a badge of honor. Where can I meet such a courageous patriot, whose achievements make Tim Brown look soft, and who can run circles in a debate around even myself, who makes other women look like drooling brainlets?

Seems the best matches I've found on Facebook are all widows in their early 60s, who have grandchildren now, who don't look a day over 40.

[cth96190]

My answer would depend upon for what they were convicted.
For example, there are plenty of people who deserve to be killed, so I might consider a murder conviction to be null, because the death made the world a better place.
If it was cruelty to animals, I would consider that the world would be a better place without that female.
There are too many possible variables to give a blanket yes or no answer to the question.
I work in private security. Every time that I have to interact with the public, it reaffirms by believe in eugenics. The criminal underclass is bred, not made.

[Cryptic-Game]

What if she was convicted falsely?

[Anonymous]

It depends. There's a huge difference between having something like having been caught with alcohol while underage or possession of marijuana, and something like sexual assault, robbery/burglary, theft, possession of hard drugs, or even worse. If it was something very minor that happened years ago, I wouldn't care, but if it were something major or he was a repeat offender with more than one conviction, no.

[Platypuss]

Depends on what kind of crime and why it was done.
I mean, sometimes people are helpless and they don't see any other way out.
And we must not forget people change, but that's aftermath. You must first be compatible with them, see if a potential if they can turn there life's around if they reasoned with.

[jgokgotit]

Depends on the crime. If it is for a felony then no because a law enforcement officer cannot live with a felon due to the felon's inability to live with a gun in the house. As for morally, people make mistakes. I would, in most cases, not care about their criminal past if it was indeed in the past.

[CaptainSmartass]

It depends on the records. If it's Justin Bieber's greatest hits, then no. If it's the Vengaboys, then maybe.

Oh, you mean a court record? Oh, well maybe, unless it's for violent or sexual crimes. I'm not dating some lass who'll beat me up or rape me. Hell no!

Simples...

[Tyson656]

For me it would depend on what and when. If it was when they were just a kid or something small and I liked them of course I'd date them. If it was something bad or more recently then it's a maybe but not a no if I like them enough.

[burlen]

That would depend the type of crime and propensity to reoffend. I certainly won’t date a murderer, attempted murderer, or terrorist, for example.

I wouldn’t mind dating a shoplifter or embezzler as long they have shown they can’t reoffend.

[faroutpharoh]

I would but i have a criminal record. I believe people can change wether its for better or for worse it just depends on their surroundings. Were like a cancer on this planet if your surrounded by other cancer cells and no cure you'll surely die but if your surrounded by cures or good cells. Cells replicate each other then. So if your a good influence on a bad cell you might change their life and the world.

[buddies]

My relationships are not based on who a person used to be. If they have not changed, then I would be careful, but a person should not be judged by his past.

[Jjpayne]

It depends on what it's for and if they plan to continue.

[Anonymous]

To be truthful God can change man so if it's God will that I should date someone with a criminal record then so be it I will. Sometimes we forget criminal are human being and at the end of the day who are we to judge them.

[Nicolette777]

It depends on the crime. Something really minor, ages ago and if he had a secure and good job. If not, no

[Adam1978]

Depends on crime and how long ago. Normally no because it a sign of bad attitude, morale and lack of respect and consideration of our fellow citizens.

[RJJ33666]

If its a really major crime for some bad reasons then i wouldn't. But if the crime was actually for a good reason, i would actually consider.

[ManHater]

Everyone has a criminal record. Men who have raped women and did not get caught. Murder etc... so honestly even your partner does not tell you everything. Women falsely claiming abuse and put men behind bars.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Depends on if he was reformed or if he just says he is.

[leonidas69]

No. Criminal records are worse than police records. It displays a certain level of being untrustworthy.

[CupcakeKiller]

It really depends on who what when where why how. However, I would be worried about my legal career.