How Are These Dudes Picking Up Girls So Easily?

Question

Ok, I decided that once I get stationed at a base with the Air Force, I was about to try to pick up girls because I've always wanted a girlfriend. So, I did a couple of pills and found out that girls prefer guys to come up and show interest. Today, I decided to look on YouTube about guys picking up girls and there these dudes who are randomly approaching girls and able to get their number. At first I thought, well, if these guys can do it, I can too. Then, an another thought came up, are these dudes going through tons of women randomly and most of them got rejected and they just edited them out. I'm not sure.

https://youtu.be/0fpf0Vh0v14

https://youtu.be/cj9tvIFcUeU

sagevalentineee · Accepted Answer

I don't think you should believe the videos because I can't be sure whether they are staged or not, so just let me give you some advice.

I've been approached by guys in public many times. Some are successful, some are not. As humans we all make a judgment on our first seconds of seeing someone, and then later on once they start talking and we observe their body language we make a second judgement.

These first impressions are vital. You will get categorised one of three ways, either a threat, forgettable or there may be some attraction.

I think the first think you need to do is be prepared for failure. It's a bit risky when approaching a stranger. If you don't expect anything to come out of it, then you won't feel let down, and that way you can behave in a confident manner without being nervous - likelihood is - you won't see them ever again. That way if you get rejected, you just accept it graciously.

Secondly, you need to make sure you look a bit appealing. If you are dressed too down, in dirty or baggy clothes, looking a bit rough, you don't look very attractive. It's not necessary to put in a huge effort, just make sure you are clean and presentable.

Approaching someone it very difficult, overconfident and you appear threatening, nervous and you lack sex appeal. You can't be too persistent because that's a turn off, but you also have to seem interested. So I can't really provide any fool proof advice, except I will tell you about two times where I met men who really knew what they were doing.

I was walking around Oxford street, London doing some shopping I passed a man who was sat on a bench who tried to catch up with me. He said Hey a couple times and I stopped walking. I think he was slightly nervous because he actually waited a bit to catch his breath. It's hard to recall, but I think he said something like 'I saw you walk past, and I thought you had great style, I just thought I had to come talk this pretty girl.' What he said worked because he had clearly taken the time recognise that I'm very into fashion and mentioned it so I was very happy. He was tentative when he said it, but also confident, he was looking me in the eye properly. We introduced ourselves, and after like 5 mins of conversation my bags were actually slipping off my shoulder and he helped me hook them back on again and touched my bare shoulder. From that, there was actually a great deal of sexual tension. Then he said he had to dash somewhere, so took my number and left. I've always felt that he really knew what he was doing, because he was mysterious, confident, not overbearing. And from knowing him now... yes he knows what he's doing. This guy is a bit of a player. We had a fling for like a month or two, but now we're actually really close friends. And he introduced my to my current boyfriend, which was great.

Even though we didn't end up a couple or anything like that, I was definitely nuts about him for awhile. And his strategy is very good, as I've seen.

Cherokeehp · Accepted Answer

I’m pretty sure those videos are either fake (scripted) or edited to not show the rejections. Picking up girls is really just a numbers game. You miss every shot you don’t take. If you’re a moderately attractive guy with a moderately pleasant personality then there’s basically a 50/50 chance that girls will be receptive of your advances. The more girls you talk to the more girls you’ll hit it off with. Just have the confidence to approach women. Be polite. And accept the rejection gracefully if they’re not interested.

Electric_Dreams · Accepted Answer

I want to start by saying I'm a big fan of these guys, the Dropout crew little' Joe there, and Juan. And I know my pranks and I know for a fact these guys do not fake pranks, they are dead set against it very principled on the matter, and as a prank fan I can quite easily tell staged pranks from genuine pranks. Not that you said or implied this but there's always some douchebag calling pranksters phonies without looking into the matter or knowing what the hell they're talking about. You want fake prankster hit up Trollstation, Fouseytube, Roman and Vitaly; the more popular ones, because as with most things the masses prefer the unimaginative fake option to the hard earned real.

So now that's out of the way, yes they film all day and cut loads out. Occasionally they upload outtakes. That said, it's not difficult to work out that these guys are confident, they have a degree of charisma that comes with that, they don't take themselves too seriously, they are not afraid of rejection, they're brave.. but there's also a degree of camaraderie.. I reckon I could give it a crack and eventually score if I had little' Joe, Steve Schapiro, Big Daws, Kid Febreze and Lara Fraser egging me on. The fact they have a crew motivating them and that they want to prove themselves too is probably a factor too.

The irony is that most of these guys are actually with someone so they don't actually get with the girls in the videos.. even they get their numbers and everything and then they have to say it's for a video they get the vocal release and everything and they're not really looking to hookup or whatever. I always think the girls seem to take it surprisingly well when they find out that.. if a girl came up to me and wanted my number then said it's just for a video I'd be like "ohhh.. haha.. yeah, funny.. ha.. ha.. so.. fun.. [god damn it]"

Levin · Accepted Answer

Yoyoyo. L-Dawg in the house. Educating the motherfuckers on Gag!

Check out Steven Schapiro's videos too.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/VzcTEcoEwsw

To answer your question.

It's just practice. A huge amount of balls. Not giving a shit. And expecting (not getting unduly affected) by what will be a huge amount of failure. If you're going to go up to women, you should expect and be okay with a huge amount of failure and rejection. If you expect to talk to women, and for things to be rosy and movie like, then you're going to be in perpetual disappointment mode. Not least because even if the woman is attractive and nice , you won't necessarily have anything in common or any kind of chemistry. That's why you should be as casual and non-expectant about it as much as possible. You should set yourself some small reasonable realistic challenges. Say to talk to a few girls who give you a good vibe or look at you on a night out. The other thing is, a lot of those guys won't hugely care if they get rejection. Take Steven, I'm sure he has his own girlfriend, and is pretty comfortable in his life. A rejection won't make or break him.

Also, people need to stop saying those videos are fake. Some will be fake. But there's not really that much huge benefit to faking those vid's. There's no reason why they can't be done in real life.

I remember talking to one super hot Aussie on a night out, bloody shaking inside I was!

Alice2398 · Answer

It fake these girls are paid off Craigslist and are usually aspiring actresses desperate for money most the time given a script and go home after they get their money.

I hate videos like this because it gives young naive men the complete wrong idea about women and sets them up for disappointment. Most women are brutal when it comes to men approaching them and its risky as hell for a man to do something like that. One of 4 things will happen, she will tell you to fuck off, get scared and think your gonna try and rape her , think your a over confident fuck boy or give you their number is your extremely good looking.

I wouldn't say these videos are fake but its probably because the girls didn't want to come off mean and felt intimated so probably gave a fake number and it's also not hard to get a girl on a college campus. Most College students /uni students will fuck anything.

VIVANT · Answer

That is fake fake fake fake.
I don’t care if it’s uncut or people claim they don’t like fake videos. It’s obviously fake a video can be uncut and fake. They just plan it before hand.

It was so fake they all suck as actors and he is REALLY obnoxious. I wouldn’t talk to a guy telling me he likes me when he doesn’t know me. Just shows all he cares about. That he can’t tell the difference between liking and physical attraction. He’s dumb. Also he’s very annoying in the way he says hello -all frenetic. #PASS

I-am-a-nobody · Answer

Just watched the second video. (The dwarf might be getting pity.)
I believe this 100%. They probably edited out some failures, but it's not that hard if you think of it. He's probably hitting on college freshmen who are extremely impressionable and not too paranoid. I can't say I was this smooth, but I got enough numbers (back in the day) from total strangers to know it's not impossible. When I was about 18, I worked a festival booth at an all girls school. Like shooting fish in a barrel...
Guys like girls and girls like guys. It's like a pair of magnets.

ArchersArrow · Answer

Thatwasepic guy actually approaches girls in university/college because it’s considered a social place for them and easily will interact and look for new friendships. If he would go to a club or any other place that adults socialize at it would be much harder because then girls will consider more his personality , his appearance and his social and economic standard. In my opinion. You shouldn’t be looking for “girls” you should be looking for the girl whom you will marry and have a family with because that’s life and that’s gonna make you comfortable in more ways. Yes people talk bullshit about marriage but they always forget to talk about the good things in their life. Now , where to find that girl? You socialize. Meaning that girls are humans too. You need just to make new friends and get to know new people. When you find the right girl for you marry her and please don’t make girls whom you’re not getting married with become pregnant or tamper with there feelings. We’re all humans.

TremorJay · Answer

No the videos aren't fake. Yes they cut footage of them being outright rejected (those people wouldn't agree to be on camera anyways). Most importantly, this isn't "picking up girls", these are just number closes. Girls will often give out their number, because it's a nice way to end the interaction. At least half those numbers will flake, especially if the interaction wasn't memorable. Since these interactions are so short, I doubt they would qualify as memorable. It's kinda sad how many people will just shout FAKE, because it doesn't match their reality.

You could even tell that the girls in the first video were feeling sorry for the dwarf

crazy8000 · Answer

I'm little suspicious with those clips. most likely a lot of cuts.
Apart of that.
It is that easy today since very few if at all goes up like that because of how society is developing. especially on campus since vast majority is single and are open for what ever in that age group in that circumstances.

Everything is how you deliver and appear to be, what kind of feelings that got triggered. (sexual feelings usually works best to get anywhere with female's in the short time perspective)

codyccc · Answer

Its basically a con
Step 1 you do some recon and try and fuiger out if she is a girl who can be picked up check for wedding ring and signs she's single and looking and see if you can gain any information like the book she's reading extra
Step 2 you use all the information to craft a approach if she has a book do a quick Google on the plot is she's is wearing a band shirt google the bsnd extra
Step 3 you make your approach and i would suggest if everything goes well just leaving her with a card with your number so she doesn't feel pressured and the ball is in her court

Porcelaine · Answer

Of course they edit them out. But not all of them. The second guy, I've seen plenty of his other videos, he has been rejected many times. When you feel confident the girls will be more responsive, you won't get nervous or awkward, and even if they reject you, you won't care. The second guy has done it so many times he just laughs off the rejection.

Radio4men · Answer

*you know these are clickbaits around 98% of them right? And the short guy talking to girls, girls can have no interest in you and wana be nice and they give you their number and then ignore you.*
A) They're low wage paid actors on youtube. (The girls I mean.)
B) the girls are simply being nice. Do you know how many #'s I get when I approach girls. tons!
From 40 girls, I might end up sleeping with like 4 of them that month.

Girls generally over all the hotter they are men dont approach them. So they like when a guy just talks to them.
*I like you i want you and etc..* its all BS I dont buy it. Its very child like.

Torari · Answer

Its a mix of both.
Women love confidence. In fact, you'll even have better chance coming off as cocky than you will coming off as down to earth. Approaching a random stranger and flirting with them in a socially calibrated manner comes off as extremely confident.

However, no matter who you are, or how confident you are. Not every woman will find you attractive. Even the greatest modern day casinova will be rejected at least 60% of the time.

You just need to learn to deal with rejection in a healthy manner. Instead of taking it like a peronal insult. There are a million reasons a woman might reject a man, and only 10% of them have to do with the man himself. Just take it curiously and move on to the next woman.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes--of course they are only showing you the examples where the succeed! Kind of like how ALL of social media works. Of COURSE the only pics that show up on Instagram have been curated!

You need to get out in the field and practice, practice, practice. You can take inspiration from these vids in terms of things to try out, but YOU need to try them out and work on your delivery and reactions.

Good news is your a freaking Air Force dude! THAT is going to have some cache with a lot of chicks! Not ALL chicks mind you, but for the ones interested in God and country, there's a lot to be said for being a military man! Good luck dude!

fonduegirl · Answer

This isn't science of stupid TV show where you get to see ugly videos of trial and error. Most often than not, uploads like this are either fake and edited or focusing on result only.

Do not compare yourself with such.

That'd be madness.

MCheetah · Answer

Yes; that's exactly it. These men probably got rejected 10-20 times for each girl who was positive to them. They probably spent two or more days filming. Some of them are probably just actresses or the crew's friends, too. Any success with women is partly a numbers game and partly having high market value (tall, good looking, fit, confident, young, etc).

(Holy hell; this post is from 4 months ago? Why are they telling me to fill it out just now, then?)

HeyMikeyLikesIt · Answer

Yeah lol the rejections aren’t shown, and sometimes it’s staged with a girl they know or pay. But some guys can do it because of how confident they are in themselves and women are really attracted to that because it sparks curiosity wondering what this guy has that makes him so confident, or what about him gives him that fearless way of approaching them.

Also they are descent to good looking guys to some girls so that helps

Truthatanycost · Answer

If you approach women to get with them, then your dependence on the outcome will kill your vibe. But if you approach women without being concerned about the outcome, then you are more likely to be successful. Having said that, in today's METOO culture, your simple approach has the potential to ruin your life. If you think that's worth risking, then go ahead.

Liasso · Answer

Depending where you live, you might succeed but you might also go to jail for herassement lmao it depends on your luck. From my own experience i can say that women like men in uniform, girls like aproachable/funny men in general more then a man in uniform.

genericname85 · Answer

well first of all, that shit is staged. but those people that are really good at doing that are so good, cause they practiced and failed a lot to become good.

you know as with everything in life you wanna be good at, you only become good by constantly failing.

DellBell · Answer

I think it's all staged that's why... also I don't know if that is the right way to do it... if a guy came over to me out of no where in public... i would feel uncomfortable if a guy randomly did that in public... would give off the wrong impression of you... you want to meet a girl... you could meet one through a friend, dating site, nightclub or bar?

jessicasissy · Answer

These looked scripted and painfully acted out. That being said there is one thing that all men who are successful with women have in common, it's attitude. Once you realize that really the worst a girl can do is tell you no it becomes easy to ask them out. Even in the worst case scenario where a woman gets theatrical in her refusal if you play it off like it's no big deal the attitude backfires on them.

BlessedDaddy · Answer

We do this really wired thing. We go up and start talking to them, be kind and make them laugh. It's really that easy. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. When it doesn't, don't look at it like you failed. We are not meant for everyone. Just learn from it and live on.

My dad used to say that anyone can get laid at anytime. They just might have to settle.

MannySimms · Answer

Go for it and hit on the best looking ones!
I was always ugly and very skinny and dated many WAY out of my league.

I got a real rude rejection once.
I apologized, told her I was gay and thought she was a guy.
She changed her tune and got interested!

Not a bad blowjob for a woman!

Now, get out there and strut your stuff!!

Anonymous · Answer

The videos? Scripted/edited/horny college students. Not the point though. The point is to go out and ask the question. It's not hard till you start askung yourself questions. So dont, ask her the question. Not the internet, not your drinking bud, her. And if not her, then her! Eh, no luck there... throw on the blues and ask her! Aha! It worked!

SaraSmithishere · Answer

Honestly, these might be scripted.

Also, for the dwarf, I think a lot of girls just gave him their number to be polite.

As for the second guy, he seemed like he was sort of a dick. The women he hit on were really young and seemed a little bit freaked out by him, so they maybe gave him their numbers just to get him to stop. I used to give men fake numbers when I was really young (like 21), just to get them to leave me alone.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Those videos look staged & sound scripted to me. But, yes, there truly are suave guys who can score better than most.

laPrincesitaRoxi · Answer

It’s fake lol I’ll tell you this much everybody struggles buddy even the hot guys you think don’t

MoreThanFriends · Answer

As a guy who has been approaching girls like this since I was 11, there's definitely something weird going on in these videos. Either they're scripted or he found a university campus with the friendliest/easiest girls in the world. Here where I live women most of the time don't even stop to talk to you if you randomly go up to them like that, much less give you their number.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

What no one is telling you is girls only like attractive guys coming up to them, if your unattractive they consider you a creep and in some states/nations it's considered sexual assault. My advice is stay on base, stash your paychecks away, and retire at the ripe old age of 45

BuchitaBuchys · Answer

Because they were paid to get picked up that easily lol

TheDongMonologues · Answer

Editing, obviously. Gimme one of these dorks right now and let's take to the streets to compete. Or make me a filmmaker and gimme a handicapped person with gigantic balls and I'll make him look like James Bond by just editing out all his rejections.

willgua · Answer

Broo. Believe me, this is real. I've done this a Lot of times. For most of the girls it'll be the first time someone does that. And if you do it confident, with nice body language and good eye contact. THEY WILL FEEL ATTRACTION.

FictionalCharacter · Answer

I’m sure once you’re in the Air Force, you’ll meet another female colleague through there. Then strike a conversation and become her friend, then boyfriend.

Anonymous · Answer

Cause it is fake or these girls give their numbers to seem nice but dont respond back. I mean you also get filmed, and are pressured to give your number. Looks matter. I like how unattractive guys chasing hot women but also would call women shallow if women do the same.

emmily2396 · Answer

I am 99% likely tp rwject anyone approaching me on the street because you are a stranger and I can't trust you and I don't do well under pressure.

Arjunaguy · Answer

They probably don't show the failures and it's impossible to get a yes all the time. They probably go talk to women who are more likely to say a yes.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

They probably only show the good ones. But confidence is attractive. If you can approach a girl and not come across as creepy or intimidating then you probably have a shot

DRad123 · Answer

In all fairness, getting someone's number or saying that you'll talk soon/arrange something doesn't necessarily mean anything's going to happen. Ghosting happens a lot also.

1CentWorth · Answer

well, women like confidence. Unless they are feminists, at which point approaching them could lead to sexual harassment because some women are frigging nuts.

Anonymous · Answer

because 99% of all of those are set up just to get views. The girls are aware they're being filmed so they agree to whatever. I've never met a girl in my life who laughs and gives out a number when the first thing a guy says is "you're so delicious". haha. Only in fake internet land.

Avicenna · Answer

Most girls you approach will either be in a relationship or not interested. Do not let that daunt you, though. There are plenty of girls out there who are potential girlfriends.

Yads_Is_Back · Answer

Some guys rarely get rejected because they know how to get women. But that’s rare in a man today

Anonymous · Answer

speaking for the dwarf i can think of two reasons:
first: he isn't evaluated by the same standards so he isn't "short" or at least he has an excuse for being short because dwarfism is recognized as something you shouldn't make fun of (i don't know if it's true. dwarves forgive me if it isn't)
second: she's not taking him seriously, not as a potential date that is.

the second guy is hot

American_Centurion · Answer

Confidence plus it's a set up youtube click bait video

AaronKrieger · Answer

It's probably fake because I don't see most people instantly talking to strangers like that like how they do in those videos.

dmgstarfleet · Answer

not only edited out but the girls they picked up were probably plants-acting for the video and not truly random

MrWolf · Answer

Those fake stuff. Nah man as an soldier myself.  Being natural helps a lot. Don't need advice or any other stuff.  Be yo self seriously.

OsloMan181 · Answer

This videos you shared are clearly fake, there are some genuine videos on YouTube, but they usually edit out their rejections.

Bandit74 · Answer

They could also be paying the girls to react how they want. Also just because a girl gives them their number doesn't mean she's actually going to go out with him or even respond.

Lman3000 · Answer

Has anyone told you about paying people to pretend or that people can edit footage to make it look like how they want to portray it? Trust me the shit you see is not real and trust me you'll never find these couples anywhere online.

cth96190 · Answer

The videos are either setups with girls who have been paid, or hundreds of rejections were edited out.

BestUserName100 · Answer

Honestly? I didn't even watch the vids but they could be paid actors.. Like they payed them before hand and told them what to say..

hellacray · Answer

You better watch out cause there are people out there that fake their pick up videos by hiring actors/models.  Honestly if I were you I'd stay away from these pick up artists.

ryancg · Answer

The goal is to not try to pick them up, they can sense that shit. I've always found success just casually talking. No need to put on any kind of act.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think most men pick up women anywhere in public unless maybe they are at a bar or club and/or drunk. Plus, most pick up videos on youtube are fake.

JackSmy · Answer

Players, telling them lies that they believe, and then they get used!

maluhiakoa · Answer

Probably is staged! Attracting women is pretty easy, and most part of it is confidence

Phoenix98 · Answer

While those videos are probably staged, what they're doing is possible you just need to have confidence and charisma.

lockster · Answer

Well for starters they realise getting women isn't complicated and they dont give up and bitch online after 1 rejection like many incels do

blondfrog · Answer

You dont see the end results for those do you? Do you know how many women have said yes then changed their mind later? True success is at least hooking up with her. everyone knows that.

AcidT0y · Answer

They probably just threw the girls $20 to be in the video. That first girl in the dwarf video sounded like she was already wearing a mic when he approached her.

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