How do I ask an introvert girl out on a date?

[Anonymous]

[modelUN242]

Oh my gosh, I'm very introverted. A guy in high school liked me because he was talking to me a lot and I noticed him staring at me but he never had the guts to ask me. I was deathly afraid of being in a relationship because I was focusing on school and I guess I had low self-esteem so I tend to not trust people. The best thing you can do is to be friends with her, like the guy, if he continued talking to me for a bit, I could have opened up, and usually I talk a lot when I'm comfortable with someone. Also, smiling and asking follow-up questions are nice. Definitely ask her to meet up for coffee, library, bowling, movies, walk in the park, somewhere where you can have a peaceful conversation together.

[Cowboy6666]

I'm shy guy in this regard to ask a girl.
But in online world I'm confident 😂

[modelUN242]

@Cowboy6666 Haha, I love conversing online.

[Cowboy6666]

I like to chat and talk online more 🙂

[Cowboy6666]

But there isn't any girl to chat with me regularly 😂
If you want to talk follow my profile ☺️

[Asker]

Should I offer her a hug if it goes well?

[Gibbby]

OMG! Please just ask her out! But fair warning, she might be shocked and say no in the spur of the moment due to the shock. Don't take it personally... (from personal exp) even if she says no.. ask if we could be friends? I feel like it will take time for her to open up more.. So maybe give it like 1-2 weeks, just talk to her gradually.. see what she likes and all.. then at around 2 weeks go out on like a 1 on 1 date [uhh i dont know where you'd go during this COVID situation maybe online games?], if she says yes

[Asker]

Ya I am trying to come up with an outdoor date.

[Browneye57]

You don't ask a girl 'out', or 'on a date'. You invite them to do something fun with you.
"I have tickets to [name that concert] wanna go with me?"
"The gang will be at [so-in-so's bar] after work on Friday - stop on by and visit."
"Let's get some coffee and talk."
"I'm walking [name that park] on Saturday morning, wanna join me?"

If they turn you down without asking for another time then they're just not interested. IT's a polite rejection. NEXT.

And don't confuse shyness with introversion - they're two completely different things.

[Bananaman177]

Just suck it up and go ask her, 99.9% chance she says no anyway, so just shoot your doomed shot and get it over with so you can get back home and come one step closer to realizing you're just going to work for the next 50 years and then die alone in a government-run care home where they dehydrate you because you're worth more dead than alive.

[Asker]

Bahaha that is depressing.

[HobisSunshineXD]

For me, my nervous reaction is to smile. So things like this would stress me out, and because of my nervous reaction I wouldn't want to make the person asking me to feel more uncomfortable or too hopeful thinking that I'll say yes when its my nervous reaction for... everything.
So:
Ask her out or confess feelings, ask her to think about it, and let her get back to you with her answer. Don't rush her or she'll get scared and even more nervous. That'll make her not want to go out with you.

[Asker]

Maybe: would you like to meet at the park and do some nature photography together for about an hour or so? We both like photography.

[HobisSunshineXD]

Yes! That's a good start. It makes both of you comfortable because its something you both like to do. Even if it doesn't seem like a date or she's not sure, you two will both be in a comfortable environment to talk about it. Besides, if you don't like spending time with the person, what's the point in being in a relationship? I think its awesome that you both have photography as a key interest.

[Asker]

Should I bring food? She mensioned that she likes fruit so maybe a fruit bowl. That's all I'd bring dont want to go overboard with things.

[MrScorpioT]

Find out what she likes to do on her free time for example, watch anime. Then ask her if she wants to cosplay and chill 😈😂😂😂.

I'm joking, if y'all are comfortable with eachother just ask her out, what's the worse that could happen? Friend zoned? She says no?

Life continues on if she says no and doesn't realize the person you are and what you could be. As it is said "there are plenty of fish in the sea."

If she says yes though congratulations, you go BOIIII!!! and remember not all relationships start of perfect and just take time to know and respect eachother.

[finallylettinggo]

First: you take at least 4 cute kitten videos as a calming distraction.
Second: food is always a plus.
Fourth: quietly aproach from down wind.
Fifth: deliver a goat head to the mountain witch.
Lastly: you make her laugh and feel comfortable, try not to be overbearing or crowding, don't go super heavy on compliments, and be real but also respectful because introverts are people too. Also, ignore 1-5 and stop looking for 3.

[JFelix]

Lol 😂

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

Introvert did you say?

[Asker]

Thanks for the luck.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

a word of warning, if she needs a taxi to get to places. ABORT

[Asker]

Lol. She has a car.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

okay major improvement! introverts tend to be anxious. be confident.
Example: I'd love to go for a walk with you, we could walk through a park and settle down for a picnic. I make home made cupcakes too for desert (change it however you please). Im free on [add date]. I love warm sunny days where you can just look up at the sky and talk about good memories. Normally i just go alone and i dont go too far on walks, but I've always wanted to go with someone and explore that little bit further who knows what we'll find. We can be ourselves. What do you say?
This is a nice touch because it adds mystery, you show confidence, skill, a tiny bit of vulnerability not too much.

[Quackthulu]

Same way you ask anyone else on a date. Just don’t try taking her to some fucking night club or something.

[Asker]

I thinking frisbee at a park... or maybe a hike.
Should I ask in person or over text? I'm a noob.

[Quackthulu]

Don’t take a girl off into the woods alone on a first date, the whole point is to make her comfortable enough to open up and actually communicate, not to be worried the whole time if you are going to murder her.

Just take her out for coffee or something

[Asker]

What the hell up with these axe murderes messing it up for the rest of us.
Ya I see your point.

What do you think about going to the zoo?

[Quackthulu]

Zoo is better. But the whole point of a first date is to find out if they are worth having a second date with. That means having a place to sit down and talk and actually get to know another. You wouldn’t try and do a job interview at a zoo would you?

It should be a comfortable, but quite place. There should be other people around, but not be crowded. She should have an easy way to get out if she is uncomfortable, but there should also be other things to do in the area if things go smoothly.

[Asker]

I work at the zoo but that is besides the point. I have just had a hard time comming up with an outdoor date. I don't think she would be comfortable indoors with covid.

[Quackthulu]

That’s also a fair point the whole pandemic thing does make dating more complicated.

[Asker]

Should I offer her a hug if it goes well?

[Quackthulu]

Nothing wrong with a hug.

[MissDawn7961]

I am an introvert woman and you may try this ! just walk up to her and say - hi ! would you give me the honor of going out with me for a snack and chat? if you will then here is my contact information so we can set up a time and day for this date - ! that is all there is to it ! thanks

[Don-_-Don]

You literally just ask her, what other advice could you possibly need?

[Asker]

Just in English? Is there a specific way?

[Don-_-Don]

You're over thinking it, all you have to do is say "would you like to do on a date with me" or something like that. If the girl likes you she'd be more than happy to. There are not any other tips and tricks involved, just be genuine.

[bobalife]

Be confident & charming :) find out what she likes and plan something related to it, then she will be more open and down to do it with you. Goodluck!

[Karin_Anna]

Just ask her, maybe instead of saying "date". Just ask her out for a coffee or something and just take it from there

[Asker]

Im trying to keep things outdoors.

[slatyb]

Do you know her? Then greet her and ask her to lunch or coffee or whatever.

If you haven't spoken before then say something like "Hey, I see you all the time but never said hello. I'm Anonymous."

[DavidDong]

Dont see why it wouldn't be like any other date.
Express yourself like someone who is accepting of their behaviour.
That's it, introverts are introverts because they prefer to be away and they feel a wee bit judged on that.

[TadCurious]

The same way you would anyone else. Introversion isn't the same thing as shyness (although many people conflate the two things). But even if she is shy you simply ask her out.

[Zelda_5]

Just ask. Add a 'it's okay if you don't want to' at the end to make her feel comfortable saying no if she wants to.

[MCheetah]

You literally walk up to her and ask her out on a "low-expectations, no-obligations" date. Don't make a big thing; just do it.

[FreyaRed]

ask her nicely and give her some time for processing of your offer

[Asker]

Always nice :) How long should I wait for her to get back to me I don't want to come off as pushy?

[FreyaRed]

one day, maybe two. Not longer, otherwise she will think your offer wasn't serious.

[Miristheiss]

All the bold, take charge, go after what they want guys will not have any problem getting around her shyness.

[Sevenpointfive]

you make her feel comfortable. it's that easy

[Asker]

Is there anything specific?

[Sevenpointfive]

find common ground and things you like in common. be a friend

[sheikalana]

The same way you would ask an extrovert girl out on a date.

[skunkbeard68]

Don't look at her!
Just hand her a nice hand written note.

[Asker]

Lol.

[In_Trance]

the same way you'd ask an extroverted.
The fact that you think there's a difference is your stumbling block