How do I ask an introvert girl out on a date?

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modelUN242 · Accepted Answer

Oh my gosh, I'm very introverted. A guy in high school liked me because he was talking to me a lot and I noticed him staring at me but he never had the guts to ask me. I was deathly afraid of being in a relationship because I was focusing on school and I guess I had low self-esteem so I tend to not trust people. The best thing you can do is to be friends with her, like the guy, if he continued talking to me for a bit, I could have opened up, and usually I talk a lot when I'm comfortable with someone. Also, smiling and asking follow-up questions are nice. Definitely ask her to meet up for coffee, library, bowling, movies, walk in the park, somewhere where you can have a peaceful conversation together.

Gibbby · Accepted Answer

OMG! Please just ask her out! But fair warning, she might be shocked and say no in the spur of the moment due to the shock. Don't take it personally... (from personal exp) even if she says no.. ask if we could be friends? I feel like it will take time for her to open up more.. So maybe give it like 1-2 weeks, just talk to her gradually.. see what she likes and all.. then at around 2 weeks go out on like a 1 on 1 date [uhh i dont know where you'd go during this COVID situation maybe online games?], if she says yes

Browneye57 · Accepted Answer

You don't ask a girl 'out', or 'on a date'. You invite them to do something fun with you.
"I have tickets to [name that concert] wanna go with me?"
"The gang will be at [so-in-so's bar] after work on Friday - stop on by and visit."
"Let's get some coffee and talk."
"I'm walking [name that park] on Saturday morning, wanna join me?"

If they turn you down without asking for another time then they're just not interested. IT's a polite rejection. NEXT.

And don't confuse shyness with introversion - they're two completely different things.

Bananaman177 · Accepted Answer

Just suck it up and go ask her, 99.9% chance she says no anyway, so just shoot your doomed shot and get it over with so you can get back home and come one step closer to realizing you're just going to work for the next 50 years and then die alone in a government-run care home where they dehydrate you because you're worth more dead than alive.

HobisSunshineXD · Answer

For me, my nervous reaction is to smile. So things like this would stress me out, and because of my nervous reaction I wouldn't want to make the person asking me to feel more uncomfortable or too hopeful thinking that I'll say yes when its my nervous reaction for... everything.
So:
Ask her out or confess feelings, ask her to think about it, and let her get back to you with her answer. Don't rush her or she'll get scared and even more nervous. That'll make her not want to go out with you.

MrScorpioT · Answer

Find out what she likes to do on her free time for example, watch anime. Then ask her if she wants to cosplay and chill 😈😂😂😂.

I'm joking, if y'all are comfortable with eachother just ask her out, what's the worse that could happen? Friend zoned? She says no?

Life continues on if she says no and doesn't realize the person you are and what you could be. As it is said "there are plenty of fish in the sea."

If she says yes though congratulations, you go BOIIII!!! and remember not all relationships start of perfect and just take time to know and respect eachother.

finallylettinggo · Answer

First: you take at least 4 cute kitten videos as a calming distraction.
Second: food is always a plus.
Fourth: quietly aproach from down wind.
Fifth: deliver a goat head to the mountain witch.
Lastly: you make her laugh and feel comfortable, try not to be overbearing or crowding, don't go super heavy on compliments, and be real but also respectful because introverts are people too. Also, ignore 1-5 and stop looking for 3.

ChocoBrownieMonster · Answer

Introvert did you say?

Quackthulu · Answer

Same way you ask anyone else on a date. Just don’t try taking her to some fucking night club or something.

MissDawn7961 · Answer

I am an introvert woman and you may try this ! just walk up to her and say - hi ! would you give me the honor of going out with me for a snack and chat? if you will then here is my contact information so we can set up a time and day for this date - ! that is all there is to it ! thanks

Don-_-Don · Answer

You literally just ask her, what other advice could you possibly need?

bobalife · Answer

Be confident & charming :) find out what she likes and plan something related to it, then she will be more open and down to do it with you. Goodluck!

Karin_Anna · Answer

Just ask her, maybe instead of saying "date". Just ask her out for a coffee or something and just take it from there

slatyb · Answer

Do you know her? Then greet her and ask her to lunch or coffee or whatever. If you haven't spoken before then say something like "Hey, I see you all the time but never said hello. I'm Anonymous."

DavidDong · Answer

Dont see why it wouldn't be like any other date.
Express yourself like someone who is accepting of their behaviour.
That's it, introverts are introverts because they prefer to be away and they feel a wee bit judged on that.

TadCurious · Answer

The same way you would anyone else. Introversion isn't the same thing as shyness (although many people conflate the two things). But even if she is shy you simply ask her out.

Zelda_5 · Answer

Just ask. Add a 'it's okay if you don't want to' at the end to make her feel comfortable saying no if she wants to.

MCheetah · Answer

You literally walk up to her and ask her out on a "low-expectations, no-obligations" date. Don't make a big thing; just do it.

FreyaRed · Answer

ask her nicely and give her some time for processing of your offer

Miristheiss · Answer

All the bold, take charge, go after what they want guys will not have any problem getting around her shyness.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

you make her feel comfortable. it's that easy

sheikalana · Answer

The same way you would ask an extrovert girl out on a date.

skunkbeard68 · Answer

Don't look at her! Just hand her a nice hand written note.

In_Trance · Answer

the same way you'd ask an extroverted.  The fact that you think there's a difference is your stumbling block

kmike2020 · Answer

if u are in her circle , jus ask her one day,, if your not,,, first you got to get in the circle

Liam_Hayden · Answer

You ask her out. Why does everyone complicate this?

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

Very cautiously and honestly.

jimmy2 · Answer

She cute but needs to know that somday she will come out for life

jkm1864 · Answer

You walk up to Her and just ask.

pigoat · Answer

You ask an extrovert guy to talk you through it

zagor · Answer

Same way you ask any other girl out on a date.

Iron_Man · Answer

Just basically ask her out

Twalli · Answer

Ask if she'd like yo go out for coffee or a meal.

OddBeMe · Answer

By just doing it. Us introverts are just shy.

tHISpLACEiSbONKERZ · Answer

"Would you like to go on a date with me?"

Pliskin55 · Answer

1. Be handsome 2. Be rich

sensible27 · Answer

Slowly.

blacknpurple · Answer

Directly ask her

AmeerX · Answer

Confess over letter

gmahesh · Answer

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