The past is like a shadow, it follows you wherever you go, the light shines it into view. It haunts you like a spectre you can't rid yourself of. That's why personal responsibility is so important.
I have only a few deal breakers but sadly women and men have low low standards nowadays. All I ask is she doesn't have more than 5 partners, that she doesn't smoke or do drugs and that she likes my taste in music. That's it.
You're wrong about someone's past not being an accurate judgment of them. Their past is based off their morality and everything, unless there's a paradigm shift. But even then, you can't change the fact that a person is a whore, or has other issues, and is unsuitable for a relationship.
It's not being picky. It's being smart. Why the hell would I invest the rest of my life into a whore?
Did you ever doubt that you were his priority? Because I feel like the most important thing is whether or not the person makes you their priority. I’ve never dated anyone with more than 5 partners though
No doubt on that one. He fought so hard to communicate with me after I stopped. And he has always been really sweet on me. I hate to sound mean, but it’s his problem and not mine. It’s only a major crush; he will get over it.
It depends. If she's in a big financial hole, suffers from mental illness due to her past, was a sex worker, has kids, has a history of STDs or can't commit and has trust issues due to her past, yeah, those are all dealbreakers.
I feel bad that you liked this lol, I jus come here to piss people off because I’m a sad little friendless man who is mad at the world and very bitter because girls always reject him lol,
Don’t take anything I said seriously, I’m jus being a dick x
I figured something like that. Most people who are bitter like that, especially on GAG, tend to try to push misery on others. But it’s okay, not bothering me
It is not so much the past more about how they deal with it and take charge of the present.
but things i wouldn’t accept is domestic violence, violence toward children, someone who left their kids for no reason at all. Would never be with someone who accuses me or something and can’t take responsibility for themselves.
for me i don’t see tattoos as a dealbreaker and i wouldn’t mind being a man’s 5ft or even 10th or 20th sexual partner.
I can look past a lot if I feel someone is worth dating. I don't much mind their past, it's how they treat me in the present. Obviously their past can tell you a lot about who they are and how they act, but I will judge them based on the present too.
Any relationship that I'm in should have an open dialogue. If someone is feeling put off by something that was said, or something that was done, it shouldn't be kept to themselves. That's what causes it to eat at the relationship.
Part of growing to together is finding your partners rough edges and rounding them out. A good partner would want to do this as well because it makes them a better person, regardless of if that relationship lasts or not.
That being said, if you hold high standards, or hard deal-breakers, you should stand your ground and continue searching for what you want. I respect you for that. There is no point in pretending to like someone that you don't like.
Im very harsh with somethings and not harsh with others. For example if a girl did something generally dumb i dont care. But if she made poor sexual choices then she's gone.
well, people fuck up but it shouldn't be the end of things. even knowing someone's past relationships doesn't mean you know the whole truth. i'd get to know more
I'm willing to do overlook a girls past if she's moving towards a brighter more stable future and if that means eliminating old friends who continue to do stupid things then so be it. But if people are living their life vicariously one day at a time with low self esteem and not changing their ways. Why would I give her a chance?
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The only thing thats a deal breaker for me is a criminal past, or having had hundreds of sexual partners.. I personally have only had 8 including my wife. My wife before me had only had 2. if it goes beyond 10 im not interested. I dont get along well with promiscuity.
They are "dealbreakers" for a reason. Most I won't budge on, unless she makes some SERIOUS efforts to amend for her past (that's assuming she even needs to).
I'm not picky about a gal's past. The thing I realized is that we ALL have a past. Even if you don't have a "past", there is a reason for that and that might be even "bigger" than a person with a past.
I have ALWAYS been for men having standards. I think it would solve a lot of the problems they face against modern feminism. But that’s just my personal view
the sexual revolution has changed men's outlook on women. It's a shame that the sluts aren't kept in check by their respectable female peers. Men certainly can't do it. That shit would get shutdown stat! lol
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The past is like a shadow, it follows you wherever you go, the light shines it into view. It haunts you like a spectre you can't rid yourself of. That's why personal responsibility is so important.
I have only a few deal breakers but sadly women and men have low low standards nowadays. All I ask is she doesn't have more than 5 partners, that she doesn't smoke or do drugs and that she likes my taste in music. That's it.
High body count is scrictly determined by their appearance and age.
For example.
If you take two attractive women and one is 20
And the other is 30
And both have the same body count of say...
10?
I’d always go with the 30 y/o
Every day. Why? Cause it means she isn’t a slut, and nobody wants a slut
You're wrong about someone's past not being an accurate judgment of them. Their past is based off their morality and everything, unless there's a paradigm shift. But even then, you can't change the fact that a person is a whore, or has other issues, and is unsuitable for a relationship.
It's not being picky. It's being smart. Why the hell would I invest the rest of my life into a whore?
Did you ever doubt that you were his priority? Because I feel like the most important thing is whether or not the person makes you their priority. I’ve never dated anyone with more than 5 partners though
No doubt on that one. He fought so hard to communicate with me after I stopped. And he has always been really sweet on me.
I hate to sound mean, but it’s his problem and not mine. It’s only a major crush; he will get over it.
It depends. If she's in a big financial hole, suffers from mental illness due to her past, was a sex worker, has kids, has a history of STDs or can't commit and has trust issues due to her past, yeah, those are all dealbreakers.
Nah you’re jus a bitch, it’s shallow to dump someone cos a tattoo but whatever
keep being you, keep being a bitch
personally I would date someone for who they are, I wouldn’t care about their tattoos if I loved them
Lol 😂
I feel bad that you liked this lol,
I jus come here to piss people off because I’m a sad little friendless man who is mad at the world and very bitter because girls always reject him lol,
Don’t take anything I said seriously, I’m jus being a dick x
I was jus blowing off steam from my own problems lol
I figured something like that. Most people who are bitter like that, especially on GAG, tend to try to push misery on others.
But it’s okay, not bothering me
Glad it doesn’t get to you
It shows your strong
It is not so much the past more about how they deal with it and take charge of the present.
but things i wouldn’t accept is domestic violence, violence toward children, someone who left their kids for no reason at all. Would never be with someone who accuses me or something and can’t take responsibility for themselves.
for me i don’t see tattoos as a dealbreaker and i wouldn’t mind being a man’s 5ft or even 10th or 20th sexual partner.
I guess his tattoos were cool when you first got together? You didn't see them?
I didn’t date him. They were one of several reasons why I wouldn’t be his girlfriend.
Wow, only his fifth?
I would consider that inexperienced still.
If he’s into sex only as a casual activity, he can go be a whore but he ain’t getting me
Not into short term gigs? Fair enough, but not all of us pervs are into it *just* for the sex.
I like making someone I care for bathe in euphoric bliss.
Nope. But tbh it’s not my fault he developed a crush on me either. He’ll get over it 🤣
I can look past a lot if I feel someone is worth dating. I don't much mind their past, it's how they treat me in the present. Obviously their past can tell you a lot about who they are and how they act, but I will judge them based on the present too.
I'm more interested in where they are going than where they have been.
Any relationship that I'm in should have an open dialogue. If someone is feeling put off by something that was said, or something that was done, it shouldn't be kept to themselves. That's what causes it to eat at the relationship.
Part of growing to together is finding your partners rough edges and rounding them out. A good partner would want to do this as well because it makes them a better person, regardless of if that relationship lasts or not.
That being said, if you hold high standards, or hard deal-breakers, you should stand your ground and continue searching for what you want. I respect you for that. There is no point in pretending to like someone that you don't like.
THANK YOU ❤️
Love your explanation too by the way because that’s just how I feel
You're very welcome
Im very harsh with somethings and not harsh with others. For example if a girl did something generally dumb i dont care. But if she made poor sexual choices then she's gone.
Right 👍🏼
Same with guys, at least for me
i can't date someone i know has dated someone i've known or had sex/messed around with them
Nothing to do with people I know. My friends don’t like him at all lol
well, people fuck up but it shouldn't be the end of things. even knowing someone's past relationships doesn't mean you know the whole truth. i'd get to know more
I'm willing to do overlook a girls past if she's moving towards a brighter more stable future and if that means eliminating old friends who continue to do stupid things then so be it. But if people are living their life vicariously one day at a time with low self esteem and not changing their ways. Why would I give her a chance?
The only thing thats a deal breaker for me is a criminal past, or having had hundreds of sexual partners.. I personally have only had 8 including my wife. My wife before me had only had 2. if it goes beyond 10 im not interested. I dont get along well with promiscuity.
They are "dealbreakers" for a reason. Most I won't budge on, unless she makes some SERIOUS efforts to amend for her past (that's assuming she even needs to).
I have to give a person a little mercy. Besides I look at a person's present highlights rather than their past faults.
I'm not picky about a gal's past. The thing I realized is that we ALL have a past. Even if you don't have a "past", there is a reason for that and that might be even "bigger" than a person with a past.
Whats the difference from being a person 2nd 5th or even 10th sexual partner? It's still not the 1st.
I'm don't dwell on their past unless its quite extreme like they have a history of cheating and crime.
If a woman has a high body count I won't even touch them. I dont date prostitutes, I have standards.
Good 👍🏼
glad to see a female that actually agrees and doesn't find a man having standards to be sexist. There is hope yet!
I have ALWAYS been for men having standards. I think it would solve a lot of the problems they face against modern feminism. But that’s just my personal view
the sexual revolution has changed men's outlook on women. It's a shame that the sluts aren't kept in check by their respectable female peers. Men certainly can't do it. That shit would get shutdown stat! lol