How picky are you to avoid dating a person because their past is a dealbreaker? (Page 2)

[FourDoorViper]

I wish i was more picky, but i don't hold someone's past against them.

[Siavash_1990]

Are you truly an angel?

[Yads_Is_Back]

LOL sarcasm 🤣 nothing close!

[Siavash_1990]

😂😊

[es20490446e]

What is their present?

[MannMitAntworten]

I mostly could give a damn about someone’s past.

[Gedaria]

No. We all have a past...

[newfreshstart]

i have never dated before so i'm not sure

[bluetoblack99]

How old is this guy?

[Yads_Is_Back]

He’s 28 now. Why?

[bluetoblack99]

You think he’s a man whore just because he’s only had 4 sexual partners in the past?

[Yads_Is_Back]

A whore enough that I don’t want him, that’s correct. I want a man with more respect.

[bluetoblack99]

That’s not that many partners.

But maybe you can find the “40 year old virgin” or something. But I highly doubt you are going to find a guy who fits all “your standards” but you might find a few good liars out there. At least this guy is honest.

Do what you want. But your in for a rough road.

[Yads_Is_Back]

I mean, not really, because I have my dream man, whom I’m very lucky and blessed to have. I wouldn’t want a 40-year-old, virgin or not. I’m only 23 lol
Good men are not actually that hard to find if you respect them, are good to them, show how much you appreciate them, and give them something to respect too.

[Yads_Is_Back]

And I don’t think my standards are unreasonable. They’re high, and it takes a really good man to meet them, and I’m proud of that because it keeps me away from the ones who would be bad for me, like the particular guy mentioned in the question, and it gives me the good man I love. Low standards and no goals leads to destruction and waste.
So my standards are high, but they’re reasonable as long as I’m not a hypocrite about it, and my man meets them and actually exceeds them and everything I’ve ever wanted.

[bluetoblack99]

If a guy is honest about a gray past thats a sign of some decency. There are lots of very good liars out there.

I’m no saint (my number is much higher than his) . But I have never in my life lied to get laid although I’ve seen tons of other guys do that. I have refused to answer unfair questions but that’s not the same as lying.

I just see you getting suckered for some scumbag in the near future. He will tell you everything you want to hear. But he will be a liar. By the time you find out it will be too late.

[Yads_Is_Back]

I disagree. We’ve loved each other for over a year, and he’s never lied to me. Plus that I know his family and his sister has been my best friend for the last five years - all through undergrad.
I think maybe you just can’t accept that I’ve actually found a man who’s good enough not to have to lie or avoid questions.
And that’s another thing that helps me determine if the guy meets my standards. If you don’t answer the questions then it’s safest for me to assume the worst, especially if your answer is what I want then you’d just answer. So lying and not answering are really both dishonest.
But yeah... let’s just say I’m so lucky and blessed to have the perfect man I have.

[bluetoblack99]

You loved him over a year but you didn’t date him?

[Yads_Is_Back]

Yes I did, and we’ve had a crazy year, turned out engaged, and he makes me happy and is actually more than just my definition of perfect. My standards are high, and he is literally beyond perfect. Add to that the fact that we love each other.
Again, I’m super lucky. I’ve got it made.

[bluetoblack99]

Then why are putting a post about a past experience? Your weird.

[Yads_Is_Back]

My experience is an example; it’s not the point of the actual question.

[Yads_Is_Back]

I also added an example in the update. A lot of times on here I post a question and I guess I don’t word it well because people are like whaaaat?

[Yads_Is_Back]

I’m proud to be weird lol

[bluetoblack99]

Yeah but it’s dwelling on past problem that shouldn’t be an issue all considered.

[Yads_Is_Back]

I have no reason to dwell on the situation; it’s history and he still wants me but that’s his problem.
Again, I used it as an example because I guess a lot of times I misword or am not clear with my questions on here. (English isn’t my first language, so maybe that’s my excuse. Lol) The update is another example.
But thank you for sharing your view

[GreenGold1992]

Depends on their past

[bklynbadboy1]

I'm picky too there's nothing wrong with that

[Nayyr]

Extremely picky

[Yads_Is_Back]

Yes 😁I like what I like, and actually it saves me a lot of problems. Some things I just straight up do not accept.

[On_cloud_wine]

I feel you 100%

[Anonymous]

I only fuck virgins who have never watched porn.

[Anonymous]

I am very picky about it.

[bannacookies]

I couldn't.

[jahaims]

Very