Should I mention something about a second date guys?

[Daniellep1995]

So I just went on a date with this guy and it lasted 5 hours. At dinner, towards the end of the date he said he was definitely interested in seeing me again. he also gave me a very big hug and told me to text him when I got home safe. In the text, you will see what he responded. It’s the last text.

[Lliam]

When I met my future wife for the first time, we had a similar connection.
We met through a pre-internet dating service. She was the sixth woman I had met through that service.
We talked and talked effortlessly. She gave me a kiss in the parking lot before we parted.

I had more dates lined up and might have gone ahead with those. And if I had and time went by, I might have been afraid to call her again for fear that she would be upset that I hadn't called back sooner.

But two days after our date, she took a chance and called me. She said some friends had offered her two tickets to see the Rolling Stones and Red Hot Chili Peppers and wondered if I was interested. Of course I was!

So we did that. At the concert, she placed her hand trustingly in mine. We continued to date exclusively after that. I proposed a year later and we got married a year after that.

[Akshayjosh]

I understand you dilemma.
While its good to be open and Frank,
I see the problem here is that u don't want to sound cock thirsty.
I think from a girls perspective, you could just send him a text saying hey, you looked great in your outfit that day , very few men care to make sure they look clean and will groomed up.
And wait for him to respond... You can take it from there.
Am sure if he doesn't really back or doesn't ask you out again he is not into it.
No worries either ways move on. 😄😄

[OlderAndWiser]

He already said he wants to see you again. You don't want to wait for him to ask for the second date?

[Dongtai]

Absolutely. Even the playing field. If you’re playing the field he should be allowed to as well. You date multiple guys. He dates multiple girls. Who doesn’t love a challenge? May the best man/woman win.


If we aren’t in a relationship I’d be open to a girl dating other guys but I’d want to know too so I’m not investing everything into this one girl who isn’t doing the same for me. I wouldn’t hold it against her. I wouldn’t give her all of my time and effort. Here’s the catch. If I find a girl who I REALLY like and she’s not dating multiple guys and wants me to stop? The first girl is out of luck.


So just make sure you’re choosing the right guy. If he’s monogamous and has a pair he won’t stick around for a girl who’s dating another guy UNLESS he’s allowed to date other women. And there’s no guarantee he’s the type to do that. He might prefer dating one girl at a time. Just be open and honest with him.

[TheFlak38]

Five fuckin hours and the only thing he got was a grandma's hug. You can say that you had a blast with all that free attention you got from him. What he would say about that date if a friend asked would be something along the lines of "OMFG it was horrible man. I wasted five fuckin hours of my life with that bitch. I gave her all this attention, made her feel special, wasted money and all I got in return was a hug. Next time she should just come over to my place, fuck and get out of here"

[Lionman95]

you could say that you want to meet him again, if you don´t want to ask for a second date. If we you want to be more on the safe side, you could tell that you would like to have a second date with him. That doesn´t make you look needy if that what hinders you, by doing so you would still show him that you like him and you´re interested in him.

[Daniellep1995]

Thank you. What do you think about his reply?

[Lionman95]

I would say that he´s definetely open for a second meeting and that he had good time with you. I´m only guessing but it could be helpful for him, if we you mention that you would like to meet again or mention another date if you want to. That you could encourage him to step further and take your conversation and relationship deeper because you can show interest in him without being needy.

[Daniellep1995]

Yeah, I agree with that.

So this is what I said.

“Likewise. I appreciated getting to know more about you and am interested in continuing to do so.😉 So if you're up for another adventure with this mysterious gal, we should do it.” 😜👌🏼

I tried to keep it playful. I used the word “mysterious” because we were both joking about that on our date.

[Lionman95]

So good to me. I wish you good luck and that it works out for the both you.

[MannMitAntworten]

Sure, why not. I get the impression current times confuse certain men or how or whether to move forward with someone leaving a bit of initiative up to women - which I have a feeling confuses certain women just as much too. So again, why not? Go for it...

[NightOwl8801]

Go for it , hopefully you'll pick a winner and not a guy out just wanting some.
Hope it goes well if you go for a second date

[Daniellep1995]

Thank you!

[NightOwl8801]

You're welcome

[wankiam]

i think from that he was expecting the text conversation to continue... i bet he is left wondering the same as you, if you really liked each other. anyway no harm can come from asking him if he wants to see you again

[R4zor]

Ask him are we gonna hang out again? done because this is what you wanna know
YOU SEEM TO BE A GOOD GIRL BE STRAIGHT FORWARD SO YOU WON'T GET HURT!!!

[triff]

I would wait and play the game You ar beautiful and if he can't get his act together why should you waste time Sounds if he wanted to see you what conversation facilities has got

[teamvic]

Mmmm mentioning a second date right after the first is a little too soon.

I do think you should bring up the next one, if he brought up the first but i wouldn't do it right away

[Makeushiver]

If you liked him and he seemed like a guy worth a second date by all means though a big hug is less promising than an extended French kiss his concern's seem admirable.

[DavidFox]

Something like : Hey Kieth my weekend is filling up quickly with things to do. Can we pencil in our next date for Friday or Saturday night? Wanted to make sure I block out time to see you again :)

[BoredNCrazed1324]

He obviously had a good time. It's no rocket science lol stop being a chicken and mention that second date 😊👍

[Massageman]

While his response may seem somewhat "guarded", he said he wanted a second date, so, offer him up something- a picnic without masks, maybe! Binge watch all the episodes of "The Magician", etc.

[RHK36]

I pretty much operate with openness, clarity and straightforwardly. Just mention you had a good time and you'd be down to go out again. If he likes you he'll make time. If he doesn't then move on.

[Marcuslrh]

Sure mention a second date you both clearly enjoyed yourself 🙂and he will be happy when you do

[Nawlins34]

I see nothing indicating bringing it up would hurt your chances with him, go for it.

[Anonymous]

Stop overthinking, he is just glad that you two decided to find date partner at same time.

NOT, that you both decided to search for other people.

Just send him something interesting, if he will take to long to respond.

[EssenceOfLight]

I guess this isn't the enthusiasm you have expected?
His reply is very "diplomatic", don't be surprised if he doesn't reply anymore.

[Browneye57]

Wait and see. Find another guy to date in the meantime. Have options.

[Steve37]

Definitely. He already said he wants to see you again. If you don't mention it back, he might think you aren't interested.

[kinkydrummer]

Sure why not go out on a second date with him. What do you have to lose?

[mrgspoter]

I dont know what your saying or asking or the point to this.

[Sevenpointfive]

uh oh. same season? red flag

[sensible27]

Do what you feel like doing I guess

[loveslongnails]

Let him ask you. Don't bring it up to him.

[Daniellep1995]

I actually did because the majority said too. Lol

[Daniellep1995]

this is what I said.

“Likewise. I appreciated getting to know more about you and am interested in continuing to do so.😉 So if you're up for another adventure with this mysterious gal, we should do it.” 😜👌🏼

I tried to keep it playful. I used the word “mysterious” because we were both joking about that on our date.

[Daniellep1995]

But I let him initiate for the most part.

[loveslongnails]

Did it work?

[Daniellep1995]

Yes it did. We have a date Sunday.

[Matt57]

Sounds like you both enjoyed it, so of course.

[Unit1]

Green lights everywhere. You're not seeing them?

[sensible27]

Green lights everywhere?

[Unit1]

@sensible27 yes. What's the hold up is what I'm asking. What she's waiting for?

[sensible27]

Nervousness I guess

[sensible27]

Green lights as in?

[Unit1]

@sensible27 an invitation proposed

[Cowboy6666]

And now he hasn't texted you again?

[Daniellep1995]

I sent the text in green and he sent the dark one. I don't know what to follow up with?

[Cowboy6666]

hmm follow me I will give you some tips there

[Daniellep1995]

Followed

[Cowboy6666]

Check your message box

[Cowboy6666]

Just reply to my message

[joeldalton]

Sounds like he's into you