I get the same from women as a guy and for me, it's just that. You get to know these "signs". For example I've wrote a nice fairly long message before telling her about myself and asking some questions about her, and I'll get a reply back and it's a sort sentence at best, that maybe answers 1 question, that's it. Doesn't ask me anything and no effort at all to carry on the conversation... that's my first sign. And if I'm always the one messaging them, and they never do first, that's the next sign. No effort at all on their part.
But there are a couple of other possibilities. It is possible for example the few days in between that he's got busy and forgot about you completely, especially if you've had limited conversation and especially if you haven't emailed him (like if you are waiting for him to you first?)? It's also very possible if he hasn't heard from you, that he thinks you are no longer interested. Sadly when there's no communication, people tend to make assumptions, especially early on. However if you have messaged him and he's several days, that's different and I'd take it as disinterest.
Also you talk about guys not wanting to take it to the next level, but how so exactly? What I mean is are you sure they don't want to? Example again if there's lack of communication and assumptions are made. Like if you think he doesn't because he hasn't suggested a date, that doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't want to. He may think you're not ready yet for example. Or like women, every guy is different as well and may need time to get to know you a bit first online before a first date, even a virtual one. But yes if you're sure they have no intention of it, then that's different and yes, disinterest I'd say. Sadly I think it's also the nature of online dating. I think very few take it seriously at all, men or women. Which is sad because I think on paper it's a great way to meet people.
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When I was on online dating sites, these are the rules I imposed on myself:
- No lies, provide details of important things (like deal breakers). This way, people I message can read my profile and have a good idea of what to expect from me in the long-term. Don't expect serious people to take you seriously if your profile is empty or lacks relevant details.
- Do not tolerate laziness. If you start chatting and she gives 1-word/sentence replies, doesn't ask questions, or delays more than a day in replying, move on. This is dating with intention of a serious relationship. If they aren't excited to chat with you, or to take 10-15 minutes of a 24 hour day to write a message, I doubt I'd want a relationship with someone like that.
- Accept the fact that you are just an option until you take communication out of the site. I think this is more relevant for guys. Girls are usually the ones having to wade through hundreds of messages online.
In your case, I think the 2nd point is most relevant. Don't tolerate laziness. It's probably a waste of time as well if you don't hear back fast enough and they don't apologize. No one is ever too busy, if they care, they will make time for you.
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The guys seem busy and maybe don't want to seem desperate. Also it's very easy to run out of things to talk about so keeping the conversation going can be tough
Don't take their replies, or lack thereof, personally. That is just the way guys are. Most of them live for the moment and may not realize that there is a result for the worse when they run hot and cold when communicating.
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What's the simplest thing that would improve the current situation the most?Girls doing the same shit to me... its like if I ignore em, they dbl text, but if I get back in a timely manner they ignore me for days on end. Its just dopamine farming for em
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Wow women are exactly the same so weird
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