Has technology helped or hurt dating?

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hellionthesagereborn · Accepted Answer

Hurt it. People go online but most of those relationships fail. I think it creates a false boost to women's "value", as men chase women, online men of all walks of life are going to be able to chase that woman and she can take her pick. This results in women getting an average of 200 messages for every one a man gets. This screws men obviously because now instead of just competing with the few people around he has to compete with a much larger group, but it also hurts women because you have to sort through so many other men.

This is an even bigger issue when you realize that since its online, you don't get to see their confidence, their personality etc. you only see the superficial so even if they look good on paper, that is manufactured (I have seen women's facebook and instagram photos that I know in real life. They do not look like that. . . at all. Men can punch in what ever positive trait they want and she can't tell the difference as well so no one really knows what is real and what isn't (it could be honest but they could be ommiting negative traits but when you see them in person you can get a better feel of who they are based upon the way they dress, carry themselves, speak, joke etc.).

So I think it actually makes things worse over all (which according to the statistics most relationships that start online end in failure so stats show its worse as well).

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Dating is a process through which young guys and girls interact with each other, develop some confidence in their ability to interact with each other, learn some things about the opposite sex, and learn more abut themselves and what they want in a relationship by experiencing different types of relationships.

Young people who live solely on the digital world don't talk to the opposite sex, they text. It is a horrible means of communicating anything that has emotional content and they learn acronyms and emojis but not how to talk to each other. They ask for dates by texting and break up by texting. That is a coward's way to handle such matters and they learn no self-confidence.

Technology has helped dating via online dating sites. I have used online dating and met many nice women who I never would have otherwise met. I have more choices for dating because of online sites. I know that many people complain about online dating but most of them do not put much effort in and they expect instant results.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Virtual dating apps have been a boon to INTRODUCTIONS before dating. This is wonderful. If you text with someone and find out they have to have a woman who's five foot seven with double D breasts, this will automatically eliminate many women from dating that particular guy and alert a woman that this guy wants a fuck date.
If you spend a week or two talking to someone via text, then phone calling them before meeting them, you do get to learn enough about them to eliminate them from their text and talk revelations. It's good in that sense.
But relying on virtual dating AS equivalent to in person dating is absurd. You have to spend 60 hours of in person time with someone before you can decide on them being a FRIEND! That's longterm study of the subject. Not possible relationship material.
If someone is nowhere NEAR you, you cannot have a valid, working relationship. People can hide all kinds of lies by you never have met them. All you have to do is watch re runs of MTVs Catfish to know how that works out.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

I think it has had a very negative affect on dating...
*Dating sites seem to be more for people looking to text, sext, pic collect, or hook up...(from what I hear, do do dating sites)
*People spend more time on their devices then they do actually hanging out, getting to know people... Was easier before technology because people hung out more, did actual things than be behind a computer screen or playing video games all day
*And technology is destroying relationships because even people said to be in relationships are still communicating, sexting and other stuff with people online... To me flirting is flirting whether it's the person behind the counter at the store or the person behind the computer, if you dating me, if you and me are in a relationship than I expect to be the only one you flirt with, see nude, etc., etc...
*People seem to spend more time with technology than with their partner these days...

coachTanthony · Answer

I am going to go out on a limb and say  It's helped!

Lliam · Answer

It has probably hurt, mainly because, instead of going out, playing with friends, interacting in person, engaging in outdoor activities, etc., they spend time on devices. They don't learn how to interact with people and they don't have circles of friends to interact with. So when they get old enough to start dating, they don't have a clue what to do or how to act. They have no groups of peers to learn from. And they aren't hanging out or engaging in activities with groups of boys and girls where they can meet members of the opposite sex.

Plus, their marriage to media through their devices, deluges them with unrealistic, commercialized images of what to expect from the opposite sex. So kids wind up with inferiority complexes on one hand and, at the same time, want partners who look like movie stars. They also think sex is like some of the shit they see in porn videos.

DamnSam · Answer

Until companies who make money with dating software that "personalized ads" can be used different at the gender...

Same dating app/webside always got multiple different ads but like one for guys tells that everyone can find a nice slut out there, while the same company advises in tv like elite partners with high educations are our profession...

To reduce that down to hard facts

Usual 55-65% of all profiles are fake, but made from the company used by workers to get you to spend money there (total legal, you can read it in the agreement under "user motivation")

~80% of the males are there to get laid
~80% of the women are there to find friends and maybe after that get laid
Because of the different advertising

It may look like it would be helpful but its designed to look like it would...

Real help looks different to me

spartan55 · Answer

Great question. It's definitely given everyone more options via various apps/social media etc. That sounds like it would be a positive on the surface, but it creates a 'grass is greener' mentality towards potential partners. The result is a low value, high turnover dating scene.

Tyrael · Answer

Partly a bit of both.

Text messages and then MSN messenger was peak dating assistance, that's all you needed. You still needed to know the person, the technology was just an aid.

Now it's gone way too far and I'm not sure it's good thing.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

I'm old school in dating. Approach the girl IN PERSON, strike up a conversation, and ask her out if I think it is worth pursuing. Technology is only helpful in that it is easier to contact each other if there are traffic issues or the such. Dating sites don't work fr someone with as nondescript of a face as mine.

Don-_-Don · Answer

I would say help, but despite there being dating apps I just see most people still complaining about how lonely they are and how they can't find a good man/woman. I'm going to go with hurt.

TallAnon · Answer

It really depends how you use it, it's a tool after all.
The tricky part is that while it allows for many many more options, that also means people are more picky. If you think back 400 years ago in a smaller village, there's 6 dudes your age, pick one of them or be alone, pretty simple. Now you can basically find the entire world and you can keep looking for exactly what you want.. but it's unlikely you will succeed unless you spend a LOT of time.

msc545 · Answer

This is a difficult question. It has hurt dating in that dating sites are pretty much false hope for almost all men and a lot of the women that use them, and it paradoxically has helped in that at least a few people are very successful at using social media and those dating sites.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Killed it like the dodo
Nowadays it is just a contest of the vain, rich and clueless
If you don't fit with the narrative, you're a reject who will be removed from the gene pool as soon as it becomes convenient

Jjpayne · Answer

Whoa! Moving gif! Nice!

I'd say hurt. My looks are not my selling point my personality is. So simply having a picture and a brief nutshell view of me does not do me justice. I'd like the opportunity to prove myself in person instead

LemiaOfTheCodes · Answer

Depends on the retrospect of the specturm your looking at. Post covid.

Netflix etc Killed Blockbuster
We could see the Death of cinema with Disney

So Yes it has but there are still people you dont know what Tinder is.

AndrewMG · Answer

I'm not a fan... never used a dating site... but I'm guessing it's helped millions, from a personal point of view I've only ever dated people close to me/in my social circle so I've never relied on technology.

Avicenna · Answer

It’s mostly hurt it. It’s much more of a numbers game and, more important, it puts even more of a premium on looks.  tje only positive I der Id That it expands your Geographic reach.

OldSchool_Metalhead · Answer

Both. The advantage is that it makes it hell of a lot easier to meet people. The bad is that people can easily pretend online

DiegoO · Answer

Hurt dating in a way, and better it in another. If you already knew your date in person, technology helps keep you in contact with your date. If it was all online, technology can easily make you believe in a delusion.

slatyb · Answer

It helped me. I met my wife on match. com. So I think it’s been positive in allowing people to meet who otherwise never would have.

Gedaria · Answer

It's changed it for some , I find internet dating more like entering a madame house choose a girl to have fun with. But I like the old school way , going out and finding a lady...

Wise4myage · Answer

I'm gonna say both. Technology has helped people meet who never would have otherwise, but its also destroyed lots of relationships from people hooking up off social media sites or various other ways.

Tonita91996 · Answer

Hurt dating because you are not getting any relations that are natural. It is all rushed and make you come off as desperate.

Massageman · Answer

Hurt it. It is just plain HARD to be unambiguous when someone (usually) can't see your facial expressions, etc., as when at a personal visit.

loveslongnails · Answer

I think its helped more than it has hurt, but it has also created a whole new methodology and my personal jury is still deliberating on that!

Jamie05rhs · Answer

It's had zero affect at all. Because people don't use it. Or they misuse it. I'm sure it's helped facilitate hookups, though!

DrunkenMonkey1423 · Answer

Helped the girls, completely detementrally destroyed guys egos. Overall damaged

Skankhunt · Answer

Hurt. It's just shopping for a girlfriend. It's not personal. Some people use it to boost their ego's.

LEADFOOTboi · Answer

i think the demographic is improved... but there may be other effects... like... now, looks are almost all that gets you in the door

pigoat · Answer

Nothing Neitger

havingfun101 · Answer

Autoblow A. I. and I are wondering why dating is even an issue?

MannMitAntworten · Answer

It has created a shit show I am glad I do not participate in.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Hurt. More options, less appeal. In addition, this stupid mask thing would not play such a role as it has! Well online anyway..

Jerre · Answer

I think technology has helped dating. With all the available apps available, it makes it much easier to keep in contact with people.

alance99 · Answer

I would hurt coz most people just want hookups on dating apps

Chikky · Answer

It helps a lot

uknown789 · Answer

its depends but its help dating sorry i do not known the answer sorry

aftermydemise · Answer

I'd say it has helped it and hurt it both equally

Ericalovescats · Answer

Helped increase quantity but not quality.

CasaNorba · Answer

dont know as I dont date either way

moviedude714 · Answer

It's probably been the same as it's always been

Agem123 · Answer

More options, but less quality😂

skeetskeetskeet · Answer

It's allowed me to Meet my dream girl

knight2468 · Answer

It’s help but I miss old ways

In_Trance · Answer

Helped

blondfrog · Answer

It has hurt it.

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

Helped.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Both i. say

Mehzmeh · Answer

50/50

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