It bothers me a lot because I feel like when he is looking at them he sees them in a sexual way and thinking basically dirty thoughts not only that but I feel like it's because he finds her more sexually attractive than me and more exciting to look at
Because he can't have her
True and to be honest I Don't check out other men. I'm to busy comparing myself to other women to be honest
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That is what I was kinda thinking but if it's in their nature and if they can't help it then I have no choice but to change my mindset on it and work on building my confidence and security more
It does make me feel horrible though even though he said that he doesn't even notice that he is doing it
And that he would never do anything to hurt me and that he loves me and wants a future with me
It is kinda a turn off for me though specially when it's damaging me
It's in all humans nature to be bad people. Lol. That's why as mature adults you fight that bad behavior and put other people above yourself. They CAN help it. Like I said, may will try to convince you men can't control it and that it's "unhealthy" for them to try to but it's just a manipulation tool to guilt you into staying quiet about your own (completely valid) feelings. I promise you, there are guys out there who can and will choose to avert their eyes because they know their ogling eyes are for you only, likewise your ogling eyes are for him only.
First of all,I never check other guys out,Second of all I know it's in their nature,I can't help the way that I feel,I know it might sound silly to you but to some women it can actually really hurt them
I do or a matter of fact! I was just badly mistreated in the past if you must know!
Look if you have nothing nice to say,Then I would rather if you took you're rude comments else where please!
I do have a lot more to offer than just my looks but yes it does bother me because I have been treated like shit my whole life
So take you're rude, smartass comments else where please! You can get you're point across to me without the smart ass remarks and comments
Damn, you're annoying.
And you're rude
Has you're mother ever teach you on how to have respect?
True,I still need to mature just a little bit more and gain more security and self confidence. I think that's my main problem. I'm sure he does find me very attractive and probably rathers me over all of those other women that he checks out
I think it's just the way us women are
We want to feel special and like we are the most attractive lady even if we are not
Learn to appreciate yourself! Learn to love yourself! A man is just a means to understand himself. Happiness is in you and not in someone else. Don't waste your energy on jealousy, just live. But if he is a womanizer, then the choice is simple either you will be one of them, or he will constantly make fun of you and you will suffer because of this
I know it's more got to do with me than with him, it's in men's nature and I also know that I'm the only one that can make me feel happy and secure it's not up to my partner to do that and I definitely don't expect him to
I think it's mainly because in my last relationship I got cheated on and my ex used to check other women out also but looking at their boobs... in fact my ex even motorboated his friends boobs in front of me... I was really embarrassed and felt awkward at the time so I didn't really know what to say to them But my current boyfriend doesn't do that thank god and we have a very strong relationship
I did and he still does it :(
I feel like it's effecting our relationship and he is here sleeping on the other side of the bed while I'm pretty upset and low... no cuddle :(
Yeah weather and wearing masks makes it hard
Unfortunately,Would love to wear something that would get his attention more, also I live with his family soooo I kinda stick to the clothes that don't expose much as it would be very disrespectful towards his family or at least that's how I feel
100% agree. "Human nature" should never be an excuse for anything, for men or women.
I did and he is now sleeping on the other side of the bed while I'm here pretty low and pretty upset... no cuddle tonight :(
I guess you could do things to keep his attention while out so he won’t look at other women, maybe if you dress more provocative and then he will be keeping his eyes on you and other guys from looking at you instead of looking at other women
Actually I meant to write that on my post not yours but it’s meant for her
Maybe so,I do tend to cover up a lot because I don't like to show much skin and because the weather is pretty cold
people dont know what they got until its gone
I know it's not his fault, I confronted him tonight and now he is on the other side of the bed :( no cuddles tonight
how about no sex for a week? LOL
I just Don't want it to get in the way of our relationship though :( it literally makes me feel really low and like I'm not good enough because I'm not new to his eyes or fresh to his eyes... so he wants what he can't have
well you could always where pants that are kinda see through so he can see your ass and thong. He would be so glued to your ass that he will not look at other girls
Haha, I could but I'd say he would still be checking other women out :( mainly women with black hair I have noticed because he admitted that he has a thing for women with black hair
Or their ass or boobs i have also noticed
well how do you feel about dyeing your hair black
Not gonna happen haha I shouldn't have to dye my hair for my man to notice me :(
that is very true. Well maybe you should try women. lol
He does it in front of me and sometimes I catch him
It’s disrespect to just do it in front of the person you’re with. No one who values there relationship stares at another gender with lust with no regard for there significant other that’s right there.
One time I caught him looking at this womans boobs that was right in front of him, another time I caught him checking out a womans ass right in front of me, also one time there was a woman in a supermarket with her partner also and he literally turned his head to the side but not only that when he seen them leaving, he was looking in that direction...
And in a shopping centre there was this woman that had a bit of skin showing and he literally walked back over to the side to check her out
Confront him and see what he says. His response should let you know all you need to know.
He says he loves me and wants a future with me which is great but I would prefer if he just focused on me more rather than the other women. He is currently sleeping on the other side of the bed, Usually he cuddles me
Anyone can say I love you. The word I love you is to often abused with little action. Confront him about how you feel about him looking at other women, love should cause him to respond positively.
I did and he just fell asleep after saying that he loves me and that he wants a future with me yet he's here sleeping on the other side of the bed?
How long have you been together?
Two and a half years
I'm living with him and his family
Does he always sleeps apart from you, like on the other side of the bed? Or is it once in awhile or different all the time?
It seems to be whenever I talk to him about my insecurities when it comes to other attractive women
Yea he probably upset with you. Just let it go for now. Next time just join in and make a comment sometimes like yea she got a nice butt lol.
I had to be honest with him and I don't understand why he would be upset?
Wait. Some of the ways he's checking out women with you there is sounds pretty suspect...I've been with a woman that was really insecure, and that basically drove me away. On the otherhand, if I were checking out women purposefully in front of you; that means I'm just not into you any more and too chicken shit to say anything (based on a younger self).But that's me.How often do you confront him about this?
A few times, he said that he doesn't mean to do it and wouldn't do anything to hurt me. I asked him does he think any sexual thoughts when checking them out. He said yes in a sexual way but that they are pretty that's it
Then he said that he loves me and wants a future with me
It's not a problem, It's more me that's the problem and I just want a way to deal with it in a healthy way when it happens because I'm pretty insecure about myself and I Don't check other men out
if you want to deal with it in a healthy way next time you catch him staring at other hot chicks call him out and ask him to bang you as rough as he would like to bang them. Say "I want you to fuck me the same way you would fuck those dirty sluts" see then how he'll get turned on by your confidence and forget about everyone else.
No I don't to be honest I just compare myself to other women
To be honest I'm not sure how too :(
Is he being subtle about it, or obvious?
Sometimes subtle other times not
No, he's a free man, he can do what he likes once he doesn't do anything to hurt me