Should I confide in my boyfriends sister or just talk to my friends?

[Anonymous]

Is it wrong to talk to my bf’s sister about how he’s treating me or should I just talk to my friends I don’t think we’re going to last it’s been over a year but he’s being very selfish wanting me to drop everything and just leave my hometown ASAP because he’s over it. I love his sister I talk to her about personal stuff but not him... should I tell her how I’m feeling about him just choosing to leave me behind

[btbc92]

No. It is not wrong. Like his sibling, she is responsible in a way to address his behavior if parents are not available. Because of their family. And any misconduct on his accounts affects the WHOLE family. The only thing I will say is that there are boundaries and you never cross lines where you're talking bad about her brother. They are still family. Your friends can only offer you advice and maybe emotional support. You are not legally married for him to make such demands, and if he cannot respect you, it may be time to move on. And he needs to be responsible.

[Asker]

Their parents are dead. And they’re both kind of messed up I’ve done everything I could to be there for him and comfort him through all the stuff he puts me through but I think this is the last straw if he wants to move then fine leave I’m just sad

[btbc92]

You are not his mother. He is not a man, and it's damaging your health. It's time to go. You can only pray, but you cannot be this guy's savior. Only Jesus saves. And he has to want to change and ask God and Jesus to help him.

[Cdnowl]

I’m not sure that’s a good idea. But sounds like you need to move on from this relationship. You could reach out to her after and see if she wants to remain friends but I would really involve her.

[slatyb]

Yes, it's wrong to talk to his sister. Talk to your friends. It sounds like he's ready to go and you are not, so it's going to end. That's life. Presumably there are other young men in your town. Or you can keep in touch and later decide whether you want to join him.

I don't think he's "very selfish". He's ready to leave. Presumably there's nothing there for him. Is he leaving for a job, for school, for better opportunity? All of those are good reasons to be moving.

[Asker]

He’s running away from
His responsibilities he’s a father now unintentionally hooking up with some girl while going on dates with me and here we are a year later I’ve stayed if anything it would be an honor for him to walk away on my part but I care for him. I think I’ll let him ruin his life more at this point he’ll also be taking a pay cut leaving only a matter a time before she comes after him for child support

[slatyb]

Why are you with him? He's no prize. Is that the best you can do? Are you also a single parent?

[Asker]

Because I liked him I found out like 4 months ago about this baby situation and figured I’d try to make it work. No I don’t have children

[slatyb]

in my opinion you are better off without him. You "found out"? So basically he's been lying this whole time? A pet rock would be better.

[Miristheiss]

I don't know... probably your friends. That is kind of personal info. You could affect their relationship... turn them against each other.

[Asker]

Oh yes true I don’t want to do that

[Avicenna]

No, talk to your friends instead. You would be putting his sister in an awkward position.

[musicaltrash]

Maybe you should talk to him about how you're feeling. Don't choose people that don't choose you.

[hasdrubal164]

Yes do it