For what reason would you turn down someone attractive who was interested in you?

Question

I don't care if they are attractive or not, if I see no use in having a close relationship with them or some other profit, I turn them down. What about you?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

As a man this is tricky. I have gotten nervous when I was younger when I had a girl who was seemingly hotter than me approach me. Didn’t happen often but it did happen (including a girl who is a now famous actress once).

- She’s in a temporary “I’m sick of assholes” stage in her life. Unfortunately this is not a permanent switch for most women. Whether of not she truly appreciates a genuine (not fake) nice guy depends on three things: her father figure, her personality and her environment growing up. If any of these areas are subpar than she is always going confuse abusive assholes with masculinity. It takes a lot for her to permanently get over this. She usually finally makes a switch when she herself looses attraction due to age, substance abuse or weight gain.

- She’s being insidiously disingenuous for her own ends. That is she is using me as placeholder/backup to play against some other guy she really likes. Some women definitely have this sociopathic behavior.

- Some guys are insecure about their own potential and sell themselves short. They think the other girl is out of their league when she isn’t. They think she’s too good to be true. This a confidence issue guys need to fight.

The most beautiful girl I had ever met in my entire life approached me once in college. She wasn’t stupid either. She was studying Pre mess. I didn’t know how to handle it back then. I kept backing away then overpursuing. I sent mixed messages.

We made out once and then I got friendzoned. She also met her future husband and father of her children right in front of me. She gave me attention so I would respond to use me against him. I was too young, naive and inexperienced at the time to realize what the bullshit she was doing.

Anon621 · Accepted Answer

Looks dont matter to me. I would turn someone down if I could tell straight away they were not going to compliment me, they are interested in something other than the relationship such as sex or money or constant attention including texting every minute, and I would also turn someone down who is desperate because I would tell them to go find self happiness just like I did and then try to find a relationship after they found self happiness. I make it very clear from the start that I'm not interested in money so if they want someone who actively wants to be "successful" and has more money than I do i can respect that and I recommend for them to find other people. With me I say I am efficient with my money which means I'm not gonna be cheap but don't expect me to take you out to Vegas for vacation every year or take you to a fancy expensive 5 star restaurant. I would much rather prefer to get to know you on a dodgy Tuesday afternoon and its raining outside and we both happen to be in 7 eleven drinking some slurpees together waiting for the rain to dry.

oiqt99 · Accepted Answer

Sometimes, even if a guy is attractive and you have things in common, there may be something about his personality that can be a turn-off. For example, I had an encounter with this attractive guy who was smart, successful and we even had a lot in common (mainly background/family-wise). However, he didn’t seem completely genuine in his pursuit of me. (I’m not saying I’m one of those girls who believe the guy should do everything and the girls can just lay back and expect to be chased. NOT at all.) I show r mutual interest, but it just didn’t seem to go anywhere. It also became evident that he talked to/hung out with a lot of girls (again, that’s fine) but he would then constantly post about how single he was and how much he wanted a relationship. It just didn’t seem like his actions lined up with his words. From what we discussed before and how he acted on social media, I think he deals with a lot of insecurity stemmed from his childhood. It seems like he’s constantly trying to prove himself, thought he does not need to, he’s already successful! He could get a beautiful girl, but he needs to learn how to genuinely connect with others.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

If the attractive person is abusive or high maintenance or unfaithful or lazy or disloyal or a spend thrift or a liar or a pessimist, I could understand breaking up.

ManOnFire · Answer

Interesting question. Since I'm a guy who doesn't really pursue very attractive women, I would wonder why one is even interested in me. A lot of times really attractive women view themselves as being able to have any guy they want which is unappealing. And they often see you as expendable, and are arrogant.

So even before she was interested in me I probably wouldn't be interested in her. I suppose I could see where it goes, but I've already dated women like that and they have all played out the same.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

A beautiful woman can attract a man and hold his attention for 30 minutes or an hour. To keep this guy interested, she needs to be a kind woman with a gentle soul, be intelligent, and be committed to the idea of a long term equal partnership. And she can't
1. look like my sister,
2. have the same first name as my mother, or
3. insist on me eating liver, lima beans, or sushi.

MCheetah · Answer

- She's a feminist/cunt. (DEALBREAKER)
- She's very stupid and/or closed-minded.
- She's polyamorous/not single.
- She's gay (homosexual, "bisexual," or any other variation of homosexuality). (DEALBREAKER
- She's a known liar and/or cheater. (DEALBREAKER
- She's a criminal or ex felon.
- She has massive debt and/or looking for a sugar daddy.

Luv2BRealExotic13 · Answer

Probably a vibe they give off or I don’t like their energy. A personality trait or disorder I can’t tolerate. We might not have that much in common. Did they pass a criminal background check. Were their results clean on the STI panel? Maybe they’re not that stable and no ambition. These are my top reasons.

Citizenkirk · Answer

You mean, like, a hot, sultry, classy looking Dame in an all weather trench coat wearing dark glasses 🕶️ and a large hat too conceal her adorable Auburn tresses of wild sexy hair yeah she reaches into her coat and pulls out even though envelope with the word [CLASSIFIED -- for your 👀 only] stamped on the front in glaring red contrast too the dull vanilla envelope it's stamped on?
Yeah been there done that who hasn't

For what reason would you turn down someone attractive who was interested in you?

But I got responsibilities if my own too think 🤔 about, loitering around GaG community Don't have time for international intrigues.

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

One time there was this really good looking, popular boy at school who was and still is obsessed with me but his personality was vile and he treated girls like crap. Just because he was extremely attractive he thought he could get away with being a shitty person. I told him I'd never date him if he was the last man on earth and I was also the only girl who could make him nervous so when I said that to him, he ran off and cried and I felt no gulit because of how many people he hurt and thought it never come back to bite because of who he was and then I served him with karma

_TuffledChick_ · Answer

Personality.
I guess this is kinda self explanatory.
lets give an example:
let's say There was this hot person i was kinda into, who really really really was attractive. like, a lot.
I go say hi, we meet each other- turns out they can't think for themselves, has racist or homophobic beliefs, completely lazy, unwilling to put in effort, rude, abusive, narcissistic etc.

They hot? check
Everything else? NOPE
this equals out to be a fat NO.

Things they can't control i dont care about: like a bitch of a family (unless he supports them), aura of masculinity or femininity, can't fertilise, etc.

menina · Answer

For many reasons, for instance if they had a mental illness, if they had a racist family, if they were very religious and couldn't accept the fact I'm Agnostic, if they smoke and drink.
Another thing that would make me reject them was if they were white. I find white men attractive but I feel that if I dated one, we would end up having a lot of problems.

Dontaaa · Answer

My reasons:

*I can foresee us just not working out

*I'm/They're not their/my type personality wise.

*They have a considerably bad track record with previous relationships.

*They're narrsacistic and/or psycho

The list goes on and on...

kitty71 · Answer

I was attracted to a guy very much and he was also find me attreactive and interesting but then even if we were not in a relationship or dating but we knew each otehr for 5 years. He turned me down to continue getting him to know him much better, even if he find me pretty and attractive and he told me that like one year after we met, he turn me down because I was not like sexual enough for him. even if he found me attractive and easy going and a nice person, it was just the sexual part he thought of me was a turn down cause it did not meet what he really liked. He never gave me a chance to communicate with him or to come up to an understanding between both. and talk like 2 adults to overcome my fears and understand each otehr better and this guy I was so hooked on, the only really guy I had been so hooked on in my life.

Dennisjf12 · Answer

For me, I have had two chances for sex only. Both women were very beautiful. The latest one was a stranger. Her husband had seen some of my posts online and thought I was very lonely, which I am. I was very surprised at his offer to have sex with his wife, which I turned down only because I was married. I have been online for over 20 years and never had anyone offer me his wife for sex. He sent me many pictures of her, some of which I had seen online on another site and had made some comments.

The second offer for sex was harder to turn down because I have known this woman for years and had seen pictures of her online. She is my age, and very beautiful, and is a swinger. Sex with her would have been a three-day party, and she would have not only blown the lid off my head but off of everything else too. If she lived closer to me, things might be different. But not have sex with her will be something I will regret for the rest of my life.

Anonymous · Answer

There are a lot of attractive people out there that just don’t appeal to you. At least that’s the case with me. I think Jennifer Aniston is pretty, I think Jennifer Lawrence is objectively decent looking... uhh, I’m horrible with celebrities now... I don't know, point is, they just aren’t my type. Their personality doesn’t really grab me. Not to say I don’t think they wouldn’t be cool people, but I’m not particularly attracted to them. Even the hottest of women, if their personality sucks, that matters a lot.

I think it’s very hard to truly find someone you’re actually attracted to and that feels right for you. It’s very rare, at least, it has been for me, and I don't know why.

nella965 · Answer

hun, just because someone is physically attractive, it doesn't mean that I'm attracted to their personality. Physical attractiveness will allow me to be open to talking to them. But it really does not mean anything. Its about time that folks stop over glorifying physical attractiveness. It really does not mean that a relationship will start.

Avicenna · Answer

Lots of reasons, actually. -Mental illness -Big financial problems -Being a spendthrift -Bad personality -Prone to violence -Pathological liar -Bad character -Severe medical problems

CakesNCream · Answer

Oh, so many things!
If they're dumb, if they have bad habits (for example into drugs, smoke etc), if they are full of themselves or generally come across as a mean person, of they're too into their looks to the point they are almost like a ken doll

Nick568 · Answer

Bitchy/bullying behavior. You could be the hottest person in the world but if your personality is shit then I'm out. Way too many guys simp over horrible women just because they're aggressively horny and it makes me roll my eyes to the back of my head.

Elsa143 · Answer

If he's flirty with every beautiful girl on this planet, it's clear that I'm gonna be his timepass.
If he's a people pleaser, liar and not productive.
If he loves to show off for no significant reason.
If he's an open book 'for everyone'.
If he loves to make thousands of friends. This is very superficial.
If he's not emotional.

_smallbeginnings · Answer

Honestly, even if the guy is attractive and wants to be with me, he has to show that he genuinely cares about me. He has to show respect and kindness. Not just towards me, everyone. I will never date someone who is rude to others or thinks he is better.

Purple_Rose · Answer

If they: -are already in a relationship -smoke or do drugs -are abusive -are lazy -are a compulsive liar

JustTheTrue · Answer

If she bring too much drama or if she is a modern feminist who needs no man and a pair of cats is all she need to be happy.

rouchan95 · Answer

Well I just don't mind it's personality what matters I have a handsome best friend and girls are head over heels for him but he's interested in me but uk we're friends so 🤷🏼‍♀️

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

I would turn someone down if they had toxic relatives, or a mental disorder like bipolar or depression. No amount of beauty is worth those prices.

There's probably a few dozen other things I would add to that list, but yeah.. drama-infused women are also a hard nope.

Worth noting - I would consider them for one night stands or friends with benefits.

Screenwriter · Answer

If you're too busy doing something else, or you're not into a casual dating experience, sure, the best thing is to turn them down, or say you're otherwise occupied.

CookiesandTae · Answer

-If I can't form a strong connection (emotional etc) with them that's a no bueno.
-No personality whatsoever and simply agree to everything. nahh
-When they lie for the simplest of things
-Already in a relationship
- Disrespectful and the list goes onn

pervertedjester · Answer

I always watch out for the Personality they're swinging with and the Drama they're dragging behind them.

SaraSmithishere · Answer

Bad personality. I am a really attractive woman and I've gone out on so many dates with attractive men where there were so, so, miserable and pessamistic, and just wanted to complain about the Republican party, the current administration, poverty, global warming, etc.

BackAgain602 · Answer

I would turn them down fast simply because I wouldn't be good enough for them in the long run. Plus, I'd have to constantly worry about them falling for someone who was just as attractive as they are.
There is no way in hell I'd ever date --let alone attract--an attractive person. Just no.

ElvenMr · Answer

If i don't like them for some reason, it's not going to happen, no matter how good she looks.
Like when she is not my type at all, can't talk with her at all, or she has some bad habits, that i know she won't just abandon, like smoking..

InferiorElegy · Answer

If that was to ever happen to ME, I'd immediately think there was an ulterior motive or I'm being pranked again, nothing positive would be going through my mind and I would probably question them about why they would choose me, given my past experiences have all been shit and by questioning them I'd probably seem like I was turning them down or seem like I'm not worth the effort, which I'm not.

So my answer would be that they show interest in me and that's never been a good thing for me.

sheikalana · Answer

If we don't vibe or if we don't have the same goals in life.

pleasestopthis · Answer

In my case it would be because I'm not interested in having a relationship or a casual arrangement whatsoever

_Angelsbaskett · Answer

God! some people could be the SEXIEST HUMAN ALIVE but have the worst personality and attitude! and only care for themselves! and selfish, thats a no. but if you are very caring and sweet and opened minded then ofc :)

Siren777 · Answer

No connection, no attraction (no spark, you can think they're goodlooking but not your type), negative mindset, disrespectful... such a long list.

Dongtai · Answer

Personality, emotional unavailability, bad sexual chemistry. So many reasons. There’s more non-physical reasons to turn someone down than physical reasons.

Anonymous · Answer

I have done that twice, and in both cases it was because of personality and ideology. In particular, both were feminists with unhealthy perceptions about men and gender.

ARWINGx1 · Answer

Generally: Expectations. That I "worry" that IF someone attractive would be interested in me, I (likely) wouldn't be able to keep up with their "needs"/"desires"

Paolaa988 · Answer

If we didn't have some sort of connection or interests that were similar, are not seeking the same things

Anonymous · Answer

If they’re rude, if I am already in a relationship, or if I don’t have a good connection with them. Because I’d like to date someone who I can connect with, if it’s not there then I dont think it would be a good relationship.

_Clara_ · Answer

Being rude, not knowing how to behave, and being liar, I refuse these features if they exist. He may be handsome, but the most important is character. I can't even have a friend who has no character.

MissRomantic · Answer

If they aren’t Christian, smart, kind, and seem like an f**kboy who jumps from girl to girl. Intelligence and kindness is a total turn on if the guy is Christian and attractive.

Alpha09 · Answer

If they are rude, disrespectful, taken or have literally no personality to speak of, it's a no from me.

MillenniumBill · Answer

"Never trust a beautiful woman. Especially one who is interested in you."  - Magneto, from 'X-Men 2'. (Sounds like good advice to me.)

AffectionKing · Answer

Where they're at mentally, are they fun to be around, do they have a goal they're chasing, do we mesh well, are they good with kids, how do they treat others, and if she doesn't have self respect!

Therisinghero12 · Answer

If I'm not in a good enough situation or state of mind to support a relationship; for example if I was very busy with work I would probably turn them down because I wouldn't have the time to give that they deserve

SirJohn42 · Answer

if our persanilties clashed. Know she's sexy but has an evil heart id walk away.

Anonymous · Answer

If they are mean and bitchy and think themselves above others in a bad way just because they are pretty. A fair amount of pretty girls are like that , especially when they are young. It's even hard to take with them , without any romantic interest at all.

Kas19 · Answer

If we don't have chemistry, if you're not funny, and if you're rude to people. But that's about it. I just have to enjoy talking to you.

rodeschaap · Answer

If his personality is shitty, when I’m not ready to date or want to date at that moment and when I’m in a relationship.

yolo18 · Answer

If I couldn't vibe with his personality, then yes, I would turn him down. Even if he looked like Jason Momoa

slatyb · Answer

Knowledge of previous unethical behavior or poor habits, e. g. excessive drinking, any tobacco use, or simply a lack of common interests.

R3DthatDude · Answer

If I’m not ready to be in a relationship because of some reason... I would still date them lol I’m a sucker for pretty women

Cici33 · Answer

If the man kept asking me or begging for money and in turn he wasn't trying to help me.

JEndigoBleue · Answer

No intelligence. Don't know how to hold a conversation. Not manly enough.  A handsome "MAN"... heart, mind, body and soul. Yes! You have my attention.

slimguyasks · Answer

If she is corrupted she would eventually dump me. So it's better to avoid toxic relationship.

lillianaustin · Answer

if their personality isn't as great, and if the only good thing about them is their looks

dpy87 · Answer

I feel exactly the same. I like a attractive people but if we have no chemistry it doesn't matter how they look, I lose interest. Im not a hookup guy so that plays a factor. Others thats all they look for.

Anonymous · Answer

For a lot of reasons. If the person isn’t kind to me and others, if the person cheats, if we don’t click personality wise, etc. Having an attractive face clearly wears off if that’s all there is to it.

Pink2000 · Answer

If I was in a relationship.  if they were in a relationship.  if they were rude. if they only wanted sex.

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

If that person doesn't add substance to your life or is Narcissistic and abusive.

casserolie · Answer

they got a crappy ass "my shit dont stink" personality

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