My boyfriend doesn’t want me hanging out with my guy friends. Do you agree?

[Anonymous]

So my sister and I (ages 18 and 20) started hanging out with two other male siblings of our same age (ages 18 and 20) around the same time I started talking to my current boyfriend. When I’m hanging out with these two brothers it is always with at least a trio, if one of us can’t make it. But the majority of the time it is all four of us in a group. Me, my sister, and these two guys. I have never hung out with one of them one on one. Nor do I have a closer connection to one or the other. We do all see each other quite often, that being said! Once a week at the very least. We are just a little friend group. I don’t really have many friends outside of these guys and my sister.

Throughout the time that my boyfriend and I have been dating he has expressed discomfort in my friendship with these brothers, he says that it is disrespectful to our relationship due to the fact that they are of the opposite gender, and that it is a burden he has to carry each day thinking about it. He says it stresses him out daily and he is very unhappy and uncomfortable that I don’t see an issue with this friendship. My boyfriend says that I’m the only one who doesn’t think it’s strange for me to be in a relationship, and still hanging out in a group with these two brothers.

My boyfriend wants me to stop being friends with these guys, I don’t think that’s right. I think it’s normal and healthy to have friendships with people of more than one gender. I’ve reassured my boyfriend many times that I’m not interested in either of them, and they are not interested in me either. They literally talk about their dating lives with me...

I don’t want my boyfriend to feel uncomfortable all the time about our relationship, but I am unwilling to stop being friends with this group of people. What do I do? What should I say to him? What do you guys think?

[R4zor]

I think you don't understand man so I try to tell you why is he trying to stop this:
We men really don't need women other than for romantic possibilities and these two guys are thinking about getting closer to you they won't show it because society shoots them down but this is the truth
Your boyfriend knows exactly what these two guys want from you and it makes him insecure
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Now you got the reason either break up with him or stop going on 2n2 dates (Sorry but if I was him I'd leave you not because I'm jealous but because I think you don't care about men's emotional needs)

[Iron_Man]

Yes I agree too many things can come up things can happen. I know how guys think they act like they’re your friend but they really want something else. The moment you start having problem with your boyfriend that’s a big golden ticket for the friends to play off of all that and tell you everything you want to hear. Telling you I can’t believe that bastard how could he do that to you trying to brainwash you to make you hate your boyfriend. And if you’re crying
of course they’re gonna hold you and tell you I am here for you let it all out everythings going to be OK. Then once you end the relationship they then go in for the kill to claim you for themselves.

[omgwhocareslolll]

i don't think it's your boyfriend's place to tell you who to hang out with. don't ever forget that you are your own person and no one can tell you what to do especially your boyfriend. so if you want to hang out with that friend group, go ahead and do; it is not up to your boyfriend who you can be friends with. but in my opinion, if he continues to meddle in your life you should break up because it means he doesn't trust you. and a relationship without trust won't work.

[likelyOK]

Ugh memories of former boyfriend jealousy, yuck I don’t like this behavior

[Ms_Vanderquack]

Your boyfriend is clearly defective. You should get a refund.

[Avicenna]

If he feels that way and that strongly, you shouldn’t hang out with them

[Whtevernever]

Your boyfriend needs to get over himself.