You could say that you’re not ready for dating or anything like that because you want to focus on education and school so that you could be secure and in a good position before you start dating anyone.
@ArrowheadSW Thank you. To me, there’s no point in putting a person down or making them feel awkward or even to have them question themselves later on when a different, non-personal approach could be taken. Tbh, it’s the same way I approached it for years and I actually was focusing on education and school. Lol
@1Anon I had a bad experience in college with a woman who I wasn't interested in dating anyway. I guess she got the impression that I was going to ask her out because we were "kind of" friends. She spent like 5 minutes saying demeaning stuff to me. Her approach was quite the opposite! I avoided her from then on because she must've had some serious issues. I ran into her 2 years later and she remembered that and was apologetic. She must've got some therapy or something. That was good.
LOL Yeah even though that was decades ago, it is still in my memory because it was such an awful experience. And what was she thinking? I was a pretty friendly guy and tried to be friends with everyone. She had some reason to "shun" people I guess. I'm glad I ran into her when I was leaving the University because she DID say some things that were apologetic and was very nice to me at that point. Yeah I think she must have got therapy. But wow what was her problem? I didn't expect that in college... LOL
Personally, as a man, I think if guys get offended to your simple rejection to his pursuits, he’s being a little bitch. It’s not up to you not to be offending it’s how he takes it. That being said, a simple “no” suffices.
@Dj8vrrjdi Lol bitch boys... funny thing is how many girls told me stories of guys acting out or reacting. When I see it hanging out friends or not, I usually scold the guys and say,
"take it like a man" "respect her wishes" "be a little bitch and go back to your mommy and tell her what happened." etc. Honestly weird how guys get offended.
Smile sweetly, bat your eyelashes, and say: "Take your rifle and fuck off at the high port!" If he's ex-military, he will laugh his ass off and give you a kiss then leave. If he has no military experience, why did you go out with him in the first place?
I always had this issue but the best way is to just say “no”. Straight up cuz like if u lead them on it’s just gonna hurt them so saying no and explaining why maybe.
Good luck. You have ti strike the right balance between closing the door but compassionately. isn't easy. but I suspect you know that. There is always some pain
Just be nice about it is all. A lot of guys hesitate to even go for it because girls can be really unnesscesarily mean when rejecting them. Not being a jerk about it will suffice.
You don't. Just say it in one or two words. Or just simply say "sorry but you're not my type" If you try to be nice, there is going to be chance that he is going to guilt trip you and take advantage of it.
Just tell him you don’t look at him that way. It happens. I’ve been told that. I’ve told people that... if he’s a good guy he won’t push it. Maybe a question or two...
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You could say that you’re not ready for dating or anything like that because you want to focus on education and school so that you could be secure and in a good position before you start dating anyone.
That's a pretty good way to approach that. It isn't personal that way.
@ArrowheadSW Thank you. To me, there’s no point in putting a person down or making them feel awkward or even to have them question themselves later on when a different, non-personal approach could be taken. Tbh, it’s the same way I approached it for years and I actually was focusing on education and school. Lol
@1Anon I had a bad experience in college with a woman who I wasn't interested in dating anyway. I guess she got the impression that I was going to ask her out because we were "kind of" friends. She spent like 5 minutes saying demeaning stuff to me. Her approach was quite the opposite! I avoided her from then on because she must've had some serious issues. I ran into her 2 years later and she remembered that and was apologetic. She must've got some therapy or something. That was good.
@ArrowheadSW Oh wow really? That’s crazy!! Yeah she definitely grew up or had therapy or something!
LOL Yeah even though that was decades ago, it is still in my memory because it was such an awful experience. And what was she thinking? I was a pretty friendly guy and tried to be friends with everyone. She had some reason to "shun" people I guess. I'm glad I ran into her when I was leaving the University because she DID say some things that were apologetic and was very nice to me at that point. Yeah I think she must have got therapy. But wow what was her problem? I didn't expect that in college... LOL
Personally, as a man, I think if guys get offended to your simple
rejection to his pursuits, he’s being a little bitch. It’s not up to you not to be offending it’s how he takes it. That being said, a simple “no” suffices.
Youd be surprised how many little bich boys there are
@Dj8vrrjdi Lol bitch boys... funny thing is how many girls told me stories of guys acting out or reacting. When I see it hanging out friends or not, I usually scold the guys and say,
"take it like a man"
"respect her wishes"
"be a little bitch and go back to your mommy and tell her what happened."
etc.
Honestly weird how guys get offended.
Am glad there are strong men like you around.!
@Dj8vrrjdi 🤫😉😎 Thank you for the compliment.
Smile sweetly, bat your eyelashes, and say: "Take your rifle and fuck off at the high port!"
If he's ex-military, he will laugh his ass off and give you a kiss then leave.
If he has no military experience, why did you go out with him in the first place?
More context would be nice but definitely do not ignore him and hope he goes away; no one appreciates being ignored.
Tell him that he flatters you with his persistence but your feelings for him don't go beyond friendship; please accept this as your final resolve.
I always had this issue but the best way is to just say “no”. Straight up cuz like if u lead them on it’s just gonna hurt them so saying no and explaining why maybe.
As a guy , the best way is just to tell him the truth, cause why lie, if he finds out that you lie, it literally ruins him so just be honest
There's no nicely really, there's only respectfully. If you respect the guy you reject him with clarity and honesty of purpose.
Politely you can say, I don't think we are suitable for each other. It's my answer to most guys in the dating app.
Good luck. You have ti strike the right balance between closing the door but compassionately. isn't easy. but I suspect you know that. There is always some pain
Just be nice about it is all. A lot of guys hesitate to even go for it because girls can be really unnesscesarily mean when rejecting them. Not being a jerk about it will suffice.
Look into his eyes and say, "back off jerk!!". Oh wait you said gently. Lol
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“Sorry, I’m not interested. I hope you can understand.”
Thanks for your time but I’m not interested... super simple
You don't. Just say it in one or two words. Or just simply say "sorry but you're not my type" If you try to be nice, there is going to be chance that he is going to guilt trip you and take advantage of it.
Tell him you don't see him that way. You're not giving him a specific reason but you are telling him the truth.
Say that you're not interested? Honestly is the nicest and kindest thing you can do.
Just tell him you're not interested. If you don't, he will be persistent.
Just be honest.
You’re really nice, but I don’t feel that connection...
Just tell him you don’t look at him that way. It happens. I’ve been told that. I’ve told people that... if he’s a good guy he won’t push it. Maybe a question or two...
I literally just tell them that I’m already talking or dating someone else