Are monogamous American women a thing of the past?

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Should American males concerned with the lack of monogamous women look for women in other cultures

Tiffany_Taylor_Made · Accepted Answer

Monogamy is not a thing of the past for American women. Plenty of American women value monogamous relationships. In addition, unfaithfulness isn't non-existent among women in other countries and cultures as well. However, finding a loyal woman requires wisdom and effort. When dating, to uncover whether the woman is loyal or not, find out what her opinions are on cheating, why she left her ex-boyfriend, and if she has ever cheated before. If this doesn't cut it, you might have to do a "background check" and inquire with people that she knows about why her previous relationships ended. In addition, loyal women are more likely to make sacrifices to be with the man they love. Such can come in the form of spending money, buying gifts, or giving up things in her life that could make it easier to spend time with you. However, if you find that she is more of a taker in the relationship without any balance of giving, then don't be surprised if she does end up cheating. Communication is also very important. The truth is that, in relationships, women have needs. If the goal is to remain in a monogamous relationship and start a family, financial security is important, as well as sex appeal, and sex quality. If you're broke and struggling to pay bills, as well as unattractive, and bad in bed, then a woman with poor communication is likely to cheat on you with a more capable man rather than talk these issues with you.

Thus, the wise thing would be to instill good communication when you first enter a relationship, make it clear that you're open to all criticism, and try to be the best man that you could be. The problem is that many men don't put in the effort to ensure that their women are loyal. Instead, they concern themselves more with wanting a woman that is a "perfect ten" or close to it, enter a relationship with her with hopes of having sex with her, and just hope that everything goes well from there regardless of her personality or past history. Such men often have the mentality of, "Well, if I show her I'm a nice guy, then she shouldn't leave me." A lot of these men are just happy to be having sex and in a relationship to where they don't put in the effort to determine if their relationship is actually good for them. In fact, in many cases where the relationship isn't good, the signs were there from the beginning, but many men don't bother to investigate and address them. The more men focus less on her ass and titties and more on the content of the woman's character when approaching and dating, the easier it would be to notice that monogamous American women are, in fact, pretty common.

Mia-Wallace · Accepted Answer

I don't know. I'm not American. But what are we talking about? Sexual, social, or marital monogamy?

As far as I know and read we're not exactly sexually monogamous, at least not to the degree wolves are. We are mostly dependent on social and marital monogamy when we consider lifetime sexual and romantic commitment to one person. It is culture, norms and laws. It's said that it was prefered due to its benefits and one of its most important aspects was better child-rearing. And it is obvious western culture changed to a degree after the sexual revolution.

Now what I personally see is that (some) people (not just women) want to have a relationship like their grandparents, but don't want to follow the cultural protocols they did.

There's also the mising link in many relationships which made us more inclined towards monogamy: The child.

And there's also the fact our living conditions are changing with technology. Some people don't even find any meaning in life anymore. I guess they react to it by messing around and seeking short term pleasure.

ChurchOfSteel · Accepted Answer

The monogamous American women are just uglier and less valuable, now.

Just fuck the hoes. That's what they want, so give it to 'em. Then ignore the fatties and the uglies with Masters and Doctorate degrees who think that puts them on the same level as a hot chick. Which it DEFINITELY doesn't, as all men of value know.

But yeah, American men are more and more seeking women from other cultures. Nothing wrong with that. American women need to figure it out, before they're asking where all the actually "good men" have gone. And the answer will be: overseas.

That said, I find plenty enough American women sufficient. Typically, these are the more traditional and also health-minded ones who still hit the gym and value their bodies, along with their minds. It seems a lot of American women seem to just default to thinking, "The body means nothing; I am my mind." Um, no, you are both your body and your mind. You need both of those, dum-dum.

Anyways, fuck bitches; get money. Just get better and better with women from fucking hoes that when you eventually find that one that makes your eyes light up, you'll be able to romance the shit out of her.

RenegadeSailor · Accepted Answer

The average 18 year old today has shown strangers on the internet pictures of her butthole, you seriously think manogomy is on the table?

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

No they're not!
But then could also ask,:
Are monogomous American men a thing of the past?
JUST women? So only women cheat or avoid monogomous relationships and men don't 🤔I see more men on here talking about "hit it and quit it", "I'd fuck a single mom but not date one", etc... than I see coming from women. Monogomy, cheating, etc is a personal person characteristic that both males and females can be capable of or not capable of.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

It sounds like you are overgeneralizing to the extreme. Have you had some bad experiences with cheating Caucasians?

Anonymous · Answer

Men are the gatekeeper of a relationship (marriage), and women are gatekeeper of sex. And this was a fair exchange in the past hundreds of years.
Now we have dating apps where women can pick any man from hundreds and give sex to him, but only a few percentage of men are being selected by all of these women and those men having a lot of options with women doesn't want to settle with all of these women, hence leading more to non-managmony.

Well, the rules of managomy were established among humans so that when women who are older and not fertile anymore they can still have a partner and so that other men can get a chance to have a partner too. There were responsibilities around sex, as having sex meant having a kid, and that's why women were protective of themselves and men were afraid to indulge in sex unless some women welcomes it or offers it.

But since the invention of birth control, women stop being protective of sex and giving sex to men out of marriage without any problems. It end up being just having sex without getting in a relationship.

Women give sex without the exchange of a relationship. Men don't have any loss but women do because they don't get anything back with this trade.

youngmix · Answer

I wonder if you're asking if there are modern American women who only pursue a single person at a time?
And I wonder if the issue for you is that we have sex with some or all of our beaus, or that we do not maintain our virginity until we get married?

From what I know, many people (especially men) pursued multiple relationships for at least the past few generations, and eventually got serious with the person they liked the most when they were ready/forced to, or with the person they knocked up (especially in the past).

If the problem is maintained virginity, then good luck.

Women have more freedom in the modern world, and if a guy wants a monogamous relationship with us, then we will have to be ready for that kind of relationship, and we have to be sure that he meets the criteria.

For me there are a few qualities that the relationship must have, but I'll focus on the most important/relatable:
-low maintenance, so that I can keep to my schedule (this means that I can spend time around him but not with him, if that makes sense)
-sex has to be intensely enjoyable, but if it's not, then we're probably not going to be meeting twice
-I have to know that he would consider monogamy with me

MCheetah · Answer

Not yet, but they're endangered. Straight women, too. I am so SICK of hearing every other woman being a lesbian ('bisexual'). It's so fucking annoying; it seems like a Millennial trend to be "cool" more than anything, cause I refuse to believe all women suddenly just turned gay overnight, even knowing women naturally have "gay (by male standards)" tendencies already. I still refuse to believe there are no more women who are actually into (masculine) men out there. Same with monogamous women, but they don't seem as rare as straight women currently do.

doopayo · Answer

I’m so confused. Isn’t polyamorous relationships viewed as taboo still? Cause I’d that’s the case than monogamous would be the norm and what’s practiced the most in the US.

I also don’t understand why a lot of people are saying non-white women are the best for monogamous relationships, what does race even have to do at all with weather they prefer being in a monogamous relationship?

If you’re dating/married to someone you should both disclose weather you’re comfortable with dating monogamously or polyamoriously in my opinion

Hyped_up_on_coffee · Answer

Most people are monogamous. You might just have found yourself with a kinky friend group or something. But in general most people date around before getting serious as well. It’s just important to state what you want to the person from the get go , to cut the bullshit

J2ohhhhh · Answer

I have no problem with interracial dating (I'm myself a mixed race), but it would be more sustainable to fix your own fucked up culture. Monogamy is not a feature that can be applied to anything, it is the outcome of different life choices and sacrifices that had to be taken, responsibility in other words, and why it is worth it, you cannot just charry pick the stuff you like from other cultures, if you want something from the culture you have to respect it as a whole.

syxdeep2 · Answer

I have dated women of other cultures and the cultures are actually the problem when dating outside of America. Not saying it can never work... it just has not worked for me. Simply because the way American's know love and show love is not the same way as other cultures love. Sensitive men in some cultures are considered pathetic compared to their own culture. A lot of American men are just too sensitive to be exposed to the harsh nature that some cultures don't even want to say "I love you" for instance.

whitehide · Answer

And my teacher told me "there is no such thing as a stupid question". There were approximately 167,941,551 women in the USA as of the 31st of December 2020. I think if you go grocery shopping or some shit, and look very closely, you might actually see a monogamous American woman. But you need to be bery careful, the can be quite territorial and easily provoked, they will rip off your balls and keep them for themselves if you get too close.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Just because hoeing has become more common doesn't mean all American men and women do it. Feel free to go for other cultures

JuneLady · Answer

By monogamous, I am presuming you mean having only one male in their life, ever. If so, I do qualify.
They may be becoming a thing of the past, but there are reasons why monogamy (especially in women) has lasted so long, and it's not some "patriarchal tyranny." Honestly, women are the moral fibers of a society, as they take the primary role in teaching younger generations. When we become unconcerned with traditional morality, things tend to fall apart.

Gravit1 · Answer

Monogamy is the expression of Faith, belief, and values. People without any aren't likely to have it anywhere on this planet. Christians are faithful to God who commands sex is only for marriage which is between a biological man and biological woman. Even then not all Christians follow God's commands consistently as all are fallen to begin with. That however does not change God's standard and it is only possible to accomplish with Christ. You will find unfaithful people throughout this world and every culture has baggage, but without faith it is impossible to be faithful.

Anonymous · Answer

They are not. Canadian women however...

I'll be straight with y'all though... if you dudes would stop SIMPING FOR HOES and actually keep your woman in line, like a man, you'd be fine. Do not allow them to disrespect you in any way, demand a high standard of behavior, be clear. If she disrespects you you call her out right then and there. If it's in public, you say "honey we need to talk" and go tell her what's up. There are things a good woman will do to keep a man from indulging in the worse aspects of masculinity as well, both genders have their roles to play, but I really want to put the onus on men here. You simps have driven the price of dick down to a flat 0, hell they're offering negative interest rates, have some self respect and STOP SIMPN, STOP BEING WHIPPED, stop being so afraid to be alone again

NotARobberYet · Answer

White women are a lost cause, sorry if you can't deal with it.

If you wanna find a faithful woman, you MUST go for women of different races and nationalities, forget about white women, they're too corrupt to care about anything valuable that hasn't a price on it.

silvermoon84 · Answer

I think monogamy as a whole is becoming rare, but as an American woman I think there are still plenty of people (both men and women) who are monogamous. I’m one of them

Dargil · Answer

Not so much monogamy as infected with Feminist Derangement Syndrome.
They are useless except for an additional income and a wet mouth and pussy.
They reject authentic femininity. I married an East Asian girl.

Anonymous · Answer

Oh yes, they are. American women want to have their cake and eat it too. All the time. I know a Nigerian man in his 40s who's still single and complained of it, since if you bring Nigerian women here, even, they become just like those pixies.

Romance is severely outdated. Men, go your own way and don't share anything you worked for with women.

Kas19 · Answer

Monogamy doesn't exist anymore. Everyone wants an open/poly relationship.  This is sarcasm, incase it wasn't obvious.

Anonymous · Answer

No, today people can even get a divorce if they want to pursue someone else, once it was not like that, so more reasons to cheat then.
But sure a man can go and look elsewhere.. why not. Up to them.. Though, I'd say if a man keeps ending up with a woman who cheats he could also consider if it is just a specific type of women he falls for. If it is, he might just end up with the same pattern in another part of the world.

Anonymous · Answer

You need to be a bit clearer on what your concern is. I would posit that monogamous is the most common approach that most women in America has. That is, when they're in a relationship, they're faithful and only bang the one dude. Not only is that common--that's the norm.

Perhaps what you're REALLY concerned about is "virgin" though. As in you have a problem with dating girls who have been boned by other dudes in the PAST. Finding women who are attractive and haven't gotten with other dudes in the past is probably much more rare now than say 100 years ago. Is that what you're concerned about?

MrNameless · Answer

At the very least, there's as many monogamous women as there are men. More women are feeling more sexually liberated and having flings or friends with benefits (which might not necessarily be poly) before settling down.

Truth be told, today's youth are having less sex than boomers did when they were their age.

TruthBringer · Answer

Compared to a few generations back, it seems to be much less than before. I wouldn't day gone, but reduced significantly would be a yes. Many factors contributed to the fact that marriage rates are at an all-time low now and why groups such as MGTOW exist and are growing bigger and bigger.

Adam1978 · Answer

Lack of belongings is goings to create a problem in any society. So a person who drift between on partner to the next won't be a good fit as a parent. This core family doesn't really need to be a father and mother. So unless you manage to build another core family and can raise the kids within it, the whole momogamous relationship. Monogamous relationships is just the easiest most basic form of a family unit. Anything else is even more likely to break.

MalesGOD · Answer

Women cheating one a large scale is not a new thing since the min someone figured out how to abort babies. Grew larger with.
1. Women's right to vote
2. Birth control
3. Laws unfair to men
That's the basics. Women have so many options on how they cheat but no matter what they almost always have zero possible downsides for cheating. Men have nothing but downsides when they cheat or women they are involved with cheat.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

Monogamy is not a thing of the past. Not even close. I have never seen anything to support the claim that it's a thing of the past.

What I have seen is that the "hookup culture" doesn't exist, and people actually have less sexual partners today than they did in the past. Number of sex partners is not quite the same thing as monogamy, but it's closely related.

JohnPrestwick · Answer

Yes. There's no evidence that belief in monogamy is declining. In fact, it may be *increasing*. See here:

loveslongnails · Answer

Speaking in a statistically significant manner, American women are no more or less monogamous than the worldwide average. Certain cultures may have more a taboo against it, but if you're speaking strictly about "averages", the asker's statement is not accurate.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

No, but monogamy in general is becoming more rare. I think people now days are so stressed and uptight about having sex that having sex in general has become more rare. The numbers about hook up culture have been very well established; people just aren't bangin'. Apparently there are many women who don't do hookup sex anymore because it hasn't been satisfying sex.

minibigproblem · Answer

No. I don't understand where this idea that monogamy is dying or something, but it’s not. This has been an issue that has been spoken about since 1897 from what I’ve gathered. In the novel Dracula by Bram Stoker MINOR SPOILER Lucy talks about her love for 3 men, but she sticks to one because society doesn’t like love triangles. She even says that she wishes it was acceptable. So yeah this is an old topic, and you will always find people that are into one partner, or more.

Anonymous · Answer

I think America has the most monogamous girls in general and if they lack then the other countries are far worse. Just look at all the scammers it’s usually females from other countries scamming men from America.
such retards that fall for their fake love and then end up crying and broke. I don’t feel sorry for these men. At all.

Wayne0810nv · Answer

Actually in a way yes and no because in a lot ways they could be more loyal but at the same time men need to stop making women toxic were the reason why so many women are not loyal cause the majority of the time a woman is way more loyal then we are so take care of your women guys or they will find a better person and if you do get a women from another country she will leave to if your being toxic

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

No! They are still out there, the society is shaming them so they don't go out and just talk about it. You have to digg for a while till you see one

kkirk4442 · Answer

I'm around many people with monogamous relationships. It depends on who you hang around with, and what their values are.

DiscomfortZone · Answer

No, I don't think so. I believe pleanty of them still want a single partner more than the whole pathetic "polyamorous" social pose. At least the mature ones who are actually worthy of respect.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Women are only as monogamous as their options allow. If a bitch has an option to fuck a new guy, she will do it. Always. She's never your girl. It's just your turn. Never marry. Never cohabitate. Pump and dump only.

Avicenna · Answer

There are still some, but there are lots of great women overseas as well

modelUN242 · Answer

Uhh, there are conservative American women who are monogamous. Where are you looking?

slizzle01 · Answer

Unless I really care about a guy and think I could marry him there's no reason to stay monogamous. Multiple people is way better than one person.

Ace_Chidorigafuchi · Answer

I think... Do you, and what you need will follow as a result.  You got this man. Don't overthink it too much. Time to get up in some ethnically foreign, strange female walls. Perfect.

Marco86 · Answer

I think it's a good idea to marry a foreign woman. Women born and raised in Asian countries definitely make better wives than women that grew up in western countries. It is as obvious as the sky is blue.

MillenniumBill · Answer

That's the new trend. The trick is going and staying over there and not bringing girls here from what I've been told.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

Why do women take this bait?

ChefPapiChulo · Answer

women have options now. They dont have to choose the ugly man, with bad breath, and overall poor hygiene. That's really only thing that's changed.

TheFlak38 · Answer

why would women accept attention and love from just one man when they can have a buffet of cocks?

zagor · Answer

Don't deceive yourself into thinking foreign women don't cheat.

RACSKC0B · Answer

Why would women from other cultures be any more monogamous?

Anonymous · Answer

Why are you showing Asian women on a question about American woman? To show yellow fever?

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Yes and no. If you're rich and alpha asf you can get women to be faithful to you easy. Otherwise id say not.

anylolone · Answer

If they want to remain monogamous, well, though luck, monogamous people are a rarity these days.

Aphrodite801 · Answer

You should be concerned with the fact that your 39 and look like you’re in your 50s

Feelicks · Answer

If they are they're not owning it and being openly polyamorous. Most women have a need to feel like they own you.

MountAverage · Answer

Where? In the real world? Or in the delusional fantasy world of embittered incels?

Tomtom9090 · Answer

Are you implying white women carry too much baggage therefore men should consider dating outside their race?

Kabluie · Answer

Non-mono is okay with me if they are okay with it, can spend time with everyone we all love.

Anonymous · Answer

pretty much. 99.99% of women today are nothing more than cheap whores who like to fuck around aka fuckgirls

tHISpLACEiSbONKERZ · Answer

I'm having a hard time telling if you're a troll or if you simply have bad luck when it comes to thinking.

Anonymous · Answer

Watch out, some of those Asian women just want your money. Monogamy definitely doesn't last as long as it used to.

Massageman · Answer

Re the update -  Having my wife find out about her scares me the most ;- )

Anonymous · Answer

A friend of mine swears by Filipino women. He says they are much more family oriented then American women.  He brought her over and has been married for about 9 years now.

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