Are you a needy person when dating someone?

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AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

I don't think needy is the word for me at all. But I can be a handful, lol.

I think there's sort of three different types of situations.

1. I've 'tried out' some guys, see how they fit, because they asked me out and/or had interest in me, but those situations didn't last long at all. I had to end them pretty quickly, as I knew there was no chance.
2. I didn't approach them in the first place, and wasn't sure at first, but their great personality can win me over. It might build a bit slowly, but feelings can grow.
3. But only in scenario 3, am I wanting more, more, more. Can't get enough of them. These don't happen often, they're very special. But I want to saturate myself in them, marinate in them, explore every nook and cranny, and set up shop, lol (I was going to say something like 'in the backyard' but that implies back door, and no, I definitely don't mean that.)

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Actually I'm the complete opposite! I rather a guy just let me do my own thing, and just be available as need be.  I'm not the clingy, needy type because I like my space.

BillHe1 · Accepted Answer

I've always been a workaholic, with an on and off again sex drive depending on my work habits. She's always hated that and threw it up at me quite often. I usually try to keep my distance... I'm not a clingy guy and don't care for or need a constant Close Affectionate attention.
I love my wife and I'm sure she loves me, she hasn't given me any reason to doubt that.
We have never had MAD PASSIONATE SEX, even in our younger years. We usually had very intimate slow sex enjoying the moment and feeling; usually only once a night, very seldom could I make it twice. But I do have to say that I have taken het over the top many times while laying between her legs.

I just Need Her to Allow Me To Do What I Can Still Try to Do.

Citizenkirk · Accepted Answer

Yea, I need her not too stand me up, embarrass me in public places, talk trash to people when I'm with her, who might be armed, say things to the waiter or waitress when eating out, that will guarantee urine and dandruff in our food and drinks, and continuously try to convert me to some stupid religious affiliation or other.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Isn't that what relationships should be, about, wants and needs? So what's too needy? Do I need constant attention 24/7, no... Do I need to feel loved always and a priority in their life? Yes... Do I need to be the only female they're flirting with or intimate with, yes! Too needy or not, that's what I would need...

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If it is a long term relationship, I need to know that I am loved.

JosyJosy · Answer

Not really. Not like "Whatcha doing?" "Miss you" "You leave me on read" all the time kind of stuff. We do talk daily, but we each still have our lives to live, we respect eachother's. But I need affection, love for the relationship to works, but that's the basics right?

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Yes but this mostly has to do with my mental illness. I have favorite people and I tend to be a bit much towards them in relationships and in friendships. I've ruined friendships with jealous and frankly toxic behavior. It's something I'm working on and trying to control but sometimes I don't even know that I'm doing it

DizzyDesii · Answer

I have expectations that I expect them to meet and keep. Its not needy if i made myself clear on day one. They chose to stick around so they should live up to it

AiriTakaichi · Answer

i can be very soft, sensitive, affectionate, shy, and clingy sometimes
im very soft and quiet in general and if im with someone i’ll want lots of hugs and cuddles and head pats
although i won’t be too clingy

Alyssa11 · Answer

Lol what’s needy? Do I need constant love and affection? Yes for sure. Can I go a few hours without talking to my partner and just getting on with my life? Yes for sure I can.

electromagnetic · Answer

Needy wouldn’t be the right word. I think I like being justified. I’m okay with being left to my own vices but at least justified every so often.

LogicalGal123 · Answer

I think it depends. I usually become annoying so the guy would keep his distance from me for a while when I feel a little overwhelmed. I like to do my own thing thing stuff.

AddictedGirl · Answer

I need constant communication and interaction.  Otherwise it messes uo my head. If that makes me needy then yes. Otherwise dunno.

Jjpayne · Answer

For, I'm kinda desperate to find someone, to be in a relationship before I get to old 😅

Moonlight31 · Answer

Nope. Believe in space and time away from time to time. It's healthy to both have separate lives.

Lina26 · Answer

I used to be. now I want attention at times and other times I want to be myself

Sam_Not_Simon · Answer

I would say yes and no. I understand that a person needs their own space and I respect that but I also want to have a significant place in my SO’s life. How are we dating if I’m just a background character?

legalboxers · Answer

Not needy.. A text so I know your okay, a text before you goto sleep, a text during the day so I know you thinking of me. Nothing crazy. Nothing bad. Since everyone is virtual Im sure it can be done.

faye_girl · Answer

I dont like needy guys.. but I am pretty needy and clingy.

Justneedtokno · Answer

No, I like quality time and words of affirmation and acts of service

David92506 · Answer

Does insecurity mean I'm needy? When I like someone I'm scared she will find someone better than me. This is because she has a lot of options and men are always trying to get her attention.

Iron_Man · Answer

No not me I’m the one that’s offering pretty much a lot

exitseven · Answer

I would not call myself needy but I like to stay present in her life and hope she appreciates that. I mean talking on the phone maybe once a week and seeing each other just about every weekend.

JHNS98 · Answer

Unfortunately I am, and very much so... Maybe even too much... This is because of my past... I haven't been the best with girls, you see... (sounds worse than it is)

Minahh · Answer

I'm kinda clingy yes but I also like to be independent

janæquinn · Answer

- Not just dating, I'm not a needy person at all. - My love language is physical touch.

Josh4206 · Answer

Nah not really, as long as she goes hunting with me every once in a while id be happy

genericname85 · Answer

normally i am not. but if i'm crushing on her, i can be a needy bitch xD i've been there before. didn't do me any favors.

karaspara · Answer

I don’t think so as long as there is trust and respect for each other I’m fine

ChiTown33 · Answer

Quite the opposite. I'm so independent. Most women can't even figure out if i'm still interested.

Cowboy6666 · Answer

nope but i love talking/texting a lot. of course we both can be busy sometimes and i can understand that

dragoblack · Answer

I'm more.. distant, treating the relationship like best friends with romantic benefits, and i like to tease

HateMetaL89 · Answer

Nah. The woman will lose interest. Plus I have other things to do...

SphynxUK · Answer

No. I’m not needy at all.

I_love_you_3000 · Answer

No. Idc bout anything

Siren777 · Answer

No. I enjoy healthy personal space.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

That all depends on the one I'm dating.

JamieLoves · Answer

I need my space , but I want to be touched and hugged... I like PDA a lot...

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

I used to be but I've been single long I've become emotionally distant

Slim57 · Answer

For the most part I'd say no but I could see that sometimes with my sex drive maybe I can be

whatdoyouwantt · Answer

In a healthy way

Desiree16 · Answer

Oof.. yes.

sheikalana · Answer

Needy in moderation.

Aquariusmystery · Answer

Yes and I really wish I wasn’t so codependent

Marhaban-1 · Answer

To some degree

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah I am and this is what im working on atm

Floppy2112 · Answer

Nope. I am easy.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Nope.

msc545 · Answer

No, not at all.

In_Trance · Answer

Apparently yes

Ahmedola2021 · Answer

No p am not

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