Generally, the fact that your username doesn't apply. Secondly, the new generations seem to have more or less self inflicted mental issues in an alarming rate. Thirdly, a whole lot of people these days seem to have forgotten every kind of value that made hanging around people stimulating. Hanging around with younger people feels like... I don't know exactly, but seems like I'm being out with a cardboard cutout with a voice recorder attached.
Yesss. Going on dates is like the same person over and over and same topics and nothing is interesting and the personalities are all the same!!! Iām so tired. Thatās my experience with guys but Iāve been told even with girls like their online bios and stuff are all the same and it seems like when on a date everyone isnāt focused on the actual date? It all just feels like people like are going through the motions on autopilot and I have had such difficulty finding it fun to date.
@DocJones wasn't sure cuz people have used it to insult me like I'm stupidš the name isn't too imply I'm so smart, just means want to be seen for my thoughts not just body or "v" like some people do
Men have to approach always. But a lot of us get made fun off when shooting our shot.
We are expected to read minds and know if you want to date us before we ask you out.
And if we not get shot down instantly we have to figure out what you want every Day.
So there is Just no winning for us.
But the worst thing is actually putting in effort too a bond and then after you get rejected and agree to stay friends not get time to recover but get to hear her nag about the guy she does date.
Offcourse you can let your emotions go to a friend but at least have the decency to let us get used to the idea u don't want us before complaining u can't find a good guy
Or even worse when we ask you out saying that u would like a guy like us but Just not us.
That is the worst one it kinda implies that we are the guy you want we are Just not hot or rich enough.
That money and looks thing was Just to say what the last thing Implies cause if you want me but not me one of those has to be the reason cause if you wanted the guy for the Personality the chemistry would have been there
Yes that can be but than say you don't have feelings or Just direct no without excuses when you say I want a guy like u but not u it is about looks or money
Getting ghosted, Getting stood up, they seem interested in but they are just bored, and that they will flirt with you and date someone else. That's from my experiences. :^(
I think one of the biggest things, is more people are aware of who your dating. As soon as I changed my status and photo on Facebook, people decided to throw their input in. My grandma is one of them, mentioning that I shoulda made my move long ago, while the rest of my family was a bit hesitant.
I'm okay with people's opinions now, but some couples aren't especially when it comes to same-sex couples dating.
The most discouraging thing is lack of commitment.. I was the same too... but have been with someone for a few months but I knew her before and it is amazing.. Dating these days I find people want to explore more and don't want to be tied down
The most discouraging thing for me, I'm too fucking old for you youngsters, although I have the same sexual desires and levels as a 25-year-old. And trying to date someone my age means I have to dig them up. Most are dead in my age range.
That's about 3-4 years my junior but, firstly, I haven't MET her, secondly, I'm in Central NY, and if she's not then it would make for difficulties "getting together". A woman in her 60's, I'm sure there are a few in my senior park but they all seem nicely settled into their knitting or bingo.
I can see a 25 year old dating a man over 75+ in the hopes that all his assets will be transferred onto her name upon his timely death. I donāt see her changing the diapers though lol. 25 and 35 can date though but thatās about the max.
Age doesnāt matter if itās around 10 years (unless itās at an awkward age period such as teenage years with an older man). What matters is compatibility, maturity level, shared values etc which a BASIC age gap shouldnāt hinder. Dating an old man is very suspicious though.
@lexiflexs Who said anything about a lasting relationship? I just love giving head so it doesn't matter what age I give it to. I love to see my lady scream with delight.
Simply no desire to do so , and from this post , seems most dates are a negative in some way , glad to not partake in this nonsense. Also , from a woman's POV , why would they date a single dad , when available men greatly outnumber available women?
When I was on Match. com I was only able to date one woman at the time. If I dated more than one I would confuse the two. "How is your son doing?" "What? I don't have a son!"
If the woman I was dating broke it off with me I felt devastated. However, most of these women were dating more than one guy. So if we broke it off she still had another, or several, men she was dating. The hurt wasn't so bad.
So I think it's all right to be dating more than one person at a time.
You have to be at your best, show no flaws or risk not seeing her again. Itās almost like men have to be fake to secure future dates and it sucks. Women set their standards so ridiculously high they almost never find Mr Perfect.
Uh, I have no idea where to go to pick up women in my town. The Club/Bar scene isn't for me. I like coffee but I sure as hell ain't breaking my 99% introversion for some libtard chick in which we will agree on literally nothing. So your guess is as good as mine.
Online dating is a dead end (for avg guys) I experimented with it. It might work for women, as they outnumber men on there like 10 to 1, maybe give that a try. Just be careful.
@Mossberg500 have you tried used Facebook to a find women. I has work for me to find friends through Facebook and met a some ex boyfriend from Facebook and yes I met a new guy with a learning disabilities. Dating sites doesn't even work. They just for hockup or seeking for a attention.
@Splatzonelover1 No I wouldn't know where to begin to meet women on facebook. I don't really have any friends that aren't dead, in prison, or have families. So it's a bit harder when you don't even have a 'buddy' to potentially extend you to others. But that's life for some of us.
My sister finally talked me into trying the devil app snapchat, i talked to a few women on there, but most of them are shallow, and will get bored with you if you don't keep them constantly stimulated, and even then, you know they are likely talking to several other guys at the same time. I found that app to be a self-esteem killer, and mine is already extremely low lol... I thought I made a connection with a few people, who turned out "fake" as far as personality goes. And that was the end of snapchat.
What I know for sure, is I'd rather be single than settle for less than what I think I deserve in a partner (that's not just a a reference to looks)
Women have a long list of standards but when you ask them what qualities they offer in a relationship its usually never the ones men need. Men typically want fit, feminine, cooperative, cooking, and a sense of peace. If a woman is incapable of these qualities, i swipe left or leave them unread. Thats why i dont pursue women anymore because i want her to be on my program if she expects me to provide, protect and make confident decisions
"want her to be on my program" But see relationships are supposed to be about what both want not just what "you want"... Your program? In a relationship, shouldn't it be more "our" ?
I say that because women control access to sex and men control access to a relationship. If she exhibits undesirable traits im not going to stick around. Take it easy, opinions may vary. I say my program because we all have personal standards but i can see how that may sound toxically masculine šš¤£š
"Our" implys that were in a serious and acknowledged relationship. There is no "our" if were dating. Dating opens up opportunity to having a relationship.
People just refuse to be honest I think is the most discouraging part of dating. I would much rather be hurt with the truth than made to look foolish by lies..
Everybody is fake nobody tells the truth anymore they lie about who the are and what they have and it's so frustrating for a person like me that's honestly from the start
@yofuknutz well people could stop being so casual about sex... People could stop dating people they only know online, cuz usually they online dating you and hooking up with someone on real life... People could start being honest. People could stop using people whether it's for money, attention, sex using is using...
Yeah itās become very dump friendly and just in a moment.. like one night itās I love you and the next āI donāt want to be with you anymoreā and remove you from all social apps and then get back on dating apps to find someone new like? What? How are people like this?
Right! Especially when people think it's okay to date one person and have sex with another and don't consider it cheating... Why not just date and sleep with the same personš¤·š¼āāļø
You know it all depends on the person because every person has a different situation which is unique to them and there is no one answer which is the same for everybody else. Like for example people who are dating may encounter problems and I think the biggest problem is when the two are communicating and each one is trying to figure out the reality of the other person and. It be lied to. I think itās best to just be honest and truthful about things and if you are then you will be fine and if the other person isnāt then you shoddily date them and if they are and you donāt like there reality then you also shouldnāt date them but if they are honest and truthful and you like the reality about them then you should marry them. I hope that helps
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Generally, the fact that your username doesn't apply.
Secondly, the new generations seem to have more or less self inflicted mental issues in an alarming rate.
Thirdly, a whole lot of people these days seem to have forgotten every kind of value that made hanging around people stimulating.
Hanging around with younger people feels like... I don't know exactly, but seems like I'm being out with a cardboard cutout with a voice recorder attached.
My username doesn't apply, how's that? š¤, what does that have to do with dating?š¤£
But, agree with the rest lol
Brains before beauty. It generally doesn't compute.
Yesss. Going on dates is like the same person over and over and same topics and nothing is interesting and the personalities are all the same!!! Iām so tired. Thatās my experience with guys but Iāve been told even with girls like their online bios and stuff are all the same and it seems like when on a date everyone isnāt focused on the actual date? It all just feels like people like are going through the motions on autopilot and I have had such difficulty finding it fun to date.
I think he is saying you must be really smart
@DocJones wasn't sure cuz people have used it to insult me like I'm stupidš the name isn't too imply I'm so smart, just means want to be seen for my thoughts not just body or "v" like some people do
I know you weren't implying that you are so smart, but I was.
@DocJones Thanksš
You're welcome š
Boys r becoming so lustful and they also would replace u for any reason... U can't know if someone lies or is truthful...
So very true
It's making women invaluable tbh
Womens behavior.
Men have to approach always. But a lot of us get made fun off when shooting our shot.
We are expected to read minds and know if you want to date us before we ask you out.
And if we not get shot down instantly we have to figure out what you want every Day.
So there is Just no winning for us.
But the worst thing is actually putting in effort too a bond and then after you get rejected and agree to stay friends not get time to recover but get to hear her nag about the guy she does date.
Offcourse you can let your emotions go to a friend but at least have the decency to let us get used to the idea u don't want us before complaining u can't find a good guy
Or even worse when we ask you out saying that u would like a guy like us but Just not us.
That is the worst one it kinda implies that we are the guy you want we are Just not hot or rich enough.
Why can't it ever be they don't feel that chemistry? Why does it always have to be assumed it's about money or looks?
That money and looks thing was Just to say what the last thing Implies cause if you want me but not me one of those has to be the reason cause if you wanted the guy for the Personality the chemistry would have been there
You can like someone's personality but not have physical or sexual chemistry with them
Yes that can be but than say you don't have feelings or Just direct no without excuses when you say I want a guy like u but not u it is about looks or money
Getting ghosted, Getting stood up, they seem interested in but they are just bored, and that they will flirt with you and date someone else. That's from my experiences. :^(
You right!! Too many people seem to be doing that
yeah, also feels bad when 3 girls ghost you. @Brainsbeforebeauty
Sorry you went through that
Yeah, well that's dating now in a nutshell :^(
I think one of the biggest things, is more people are aware of who your dating. As soon as I changed my status and photo on Facebook, people decided to throw their input in. My grandma is one of them, mentioning that I shoulda made my move long ago, while the rest of my family was a bit hesitant.
I'm okay with people's opinions now, but some couples aren't especially when it comes to same-sex couples dating.
The most discouraging thing is lack of commitment.. I was the same too... but have been with someone for a few months but I knew her before and it is amazing.. Dating these days I find people want to explore more and don't want to be tied down
Good luck hope it works out this time aroundš
The most discouraging thing for me, I'm too fucking old for you youngsters, although I have the same sexual desires and levels as a 25-year-old. And trying to date someone my age means I have to dig them up. Most are dead in my age range.
What about a woman in her 60's? Or hey my mom single and she 72š
That's about 3-4 years my junior but, firstly, I haven't MET her, secondly, I'm in Central NY, and if she's not then it would make for difficulties "getting together". A woman in her 60's, I'm sure there are a few in my senior park but they all seem nicely settled into their knitting or bingo.
I was joking about my mom lolol but the women by you you won't know unless you try
I made a couple of overtures but they are just dried up old ladies.
Why would a 25 year old date someone old enough to be her grandfather? Unless sheās a gold digger
@lexiflexs Exactly! And they can dig all they want. They still aren't gonna find much gold.
I can see a 25 year old dating a man over 75+ in the hopes that all his assets will be transferred onto her name upon his timely death. I donāt see her changing the diapers though lol. 25 and 35 can date though but thatās about the max.
@lexiflexs Yup. My dad and Mom were 10 years apart. They seemed to have gotten through nicely.
Age doesnāt matter if itās around 10 years (unless itās at an awkward age period such as teenage years with an older man). What matters is compatibility, maturity level, shared values etc which a BASIC age gap shouldnāt hinder. Dating an old man is very suspicious though.
@lexiflexs Who said anything about a lasting relationship? I just love giving head so it doesn't matter what age I give it to. I love to see my lady scream with delight.
Creepy old man.
@lexiflexs He he he!
Simply no desire to do so , and from this post , seems most dates are a negative in some way , glad to not partake in this nonsense. Also , from a woman's POV , why would they date a single dad , when available men greatly outnumber available women?
Cuz some women stupidš¤·š¼āāļø
The girl is texting the whole time on the date and making calls to friends, family, etc
Yeah, people definitely do that too much
And that's why people get stuff for the restaurant bill
When I was on Match. com I was only able to date one woman at the time. If I dated more than one I would confuse the two. "How is your son doing?" "What? I don't have a son!"
If the woman I was dating broke it off with me I felt devastated. However, most of these women were dating more than one guy. So if we broke it off she still had another, or several, men she was dating. The hurt wasn't so bad.
So I think it's all right to be dating more than one person at a time.
Online dating, but that has always been a real pain in the ass.
I was always the hangout type of guy, face to face just spending time as friends and then moving forward.
Same here. How both my long term relationships started
You have to be at your best, show no flaws or risk not seeing her again. Itās almost like men have to be fake to secure future dates and it sucks. Women set their standards so ridiculously high they almost never find Mr Perfect.
Mr perfect don't exist... Same for men looking for Me. perfect... She don't exist either because noone is perfect.
Uh, I have no idea where to go to pick up women in my town. The Club/Bar scene isn't for me.
I like coffee but I sure as hell ain't breaking my 99% introversion for some libtard chick in which we will
agree on literally nothing. So your guess is as good as mine.
Online dating is a dead end (for avg guys) I experimented with it. It might work for women, as they outnumber men on there like 10 to 1, maybe give that a try. Just be careful.
@Mossberg500 have you tried used Facebook to a find women. I has work for me to find friends through Facebook and met a some ex boyfriend from Facebook and yes I met a new guy with a learning disabilities. Dating sites doesn't even work. They just for hockup or seeking for a attention.
@Splatzonelover1 No I wouldn't know where to begin to meet women on facebook. I don't really have any friends that aren't dead, in prison, or have families. So it's a bit harder when you don't even have a 'buddy' to potentially extend you to others. But that's life for some of us.
My sister finally talked me into trying the devil app snapchat, i talked to a few women on there, but most of them are shallow, and will get bored with you if you don't keep them constantly stimulated, and even then, you know they are likely talking to several other guys at the same time. I found that app to be a self-esteem killer, and mine is already extremely low lol... I thought I made a connection with a few people, who turned out "fake" as far as personality goes. And that was the end of snapchat.
What I know for sure, is I'd rather be single than settle for less than what I think I deserve in a partner (that's not just a a reference to looks)
No idea! Iām just very happy that Iām not in the dating world.
Yes you arešÆ
@Brainsbeforebeauty and I am grateful! āŗļø
I know you are! And that's why you have a great marriagešš
@Brainsbeforebeauty thank you! We do work on it daily.
Women have a long list of standards but when you ask them what qualities they offer in a relationship its usually never the ones men need. Men typically want fit, feminine, cooperative, cooking, and a sense of peace. If a woman is incapable of these qualities, i swipe left or leave them unread. Thats why i dont pursue women anymore because i want her to be on my program if she expects me to provide, protect and make confident decisions
"want her to be on my program"
But see relationships are supposed to be about what both want not just what "you want"... Your program? In a relationship, shouldn't it be more "our" ?
I say that because women control access to sex and men control access to a relationship. If she exhibits undesirable traits im not going to stick around. Take it easy, opinions may vary. I say my program because we all have personal standards but i can see how that may sound toxically masculine šš¤£š
"Our" implys that were in a serious and acknowledged relationship. There is no "our" if were dating. Dating opens up opportunity to having a relationship.
People just refuse to be honest I think is the most discouraging part of dating. I would much rather be hurt with the truth than made to look foolish by lies..
Exactly!!
Everybody is fake nobody tells the truth anymore they lie about who the are and what they have and it's so frustrating for a person like me that's honestly from the start
Right!!
Its crazy I never thought it would be this hard to find something real and tangible
It used to not be...
So what do we do about the situation that we find ourselves
@yofuknutz well people could stop being so casual about sex... People could stop dating people they only know online, cuz usually they online dating you and hooking up with someone on real life... People could start being honest. People could stop using people whether it's for money, attention, sex using is using...
Preach sista! šš¾šš¾šš¾šš¾šš¾šš¾
Sad have to, should be common sense
So are you running for public office
The realisation that most people you will ever date will view you as disposable.
Seems to be these days. Wasn't always like that
Yeah itās become very dump friendly and just in a moment.. like one night itās I love you and the next āI donāt want to be with you anymoreā and remove you from all social apps and then get back on dating apps to find someone new like? What? How are people like this?
That being cheated on is almost is seemingly inevitable.
Right! Especially when people think it's okay to date one person and have sex with another and don't consider it cheating... Why not just date and sleep with the same personš¤·š¼āāļø
Is there a harm-reduction strategy no the last I think the end result is the same somebody is going to get kicked out of the house
@yofuknutz some people need to be kicked out sometimes...
I'm aware of that I have done that myself but sometimes our options are limited so what would be the harm reduction strategy
You know it all depends on the person because every person has a different situation which is unique to them and there is no one answer which is the same for everybody else. Like for example people who are dating may encounter problems and I think the biggest problem is when the two are communicating and each one is trying to figure out the reality of the other person and. It be lied to. I think itās best to just be honest and truthful about things and if you are then you will be fine and if the other person isnāt then you shoddily date them and if they are and you donāt like there reality then you also shouldnāt date them but if they are honest and truthful and you like the reality about them then you should marry them. I hope that helps