He said I’m going to be single forever?

Question

We got in an argument behind his ex and i wasn’t really responding and he said “that’s all you have to say?” “I’m going to be single forever”

Browneye57 · Accepted Answer

Don't argue. EVER. If you can't have an adult discussion, exchange on any subject, then table it for later. Nothing gets accomplished with emotional outbursts and dramatic statements.

This is something the wife and I learned from a competent marriage counselor - you MUST place the relationship above any petty differences between the marital partners. Nothing from either can be more important than the union itself. Otherwise, it cannot survive.

So you may have to come back to a subject of disagreement several times, or you may even come to the realization that you're just never going to agree on it, so you simply agree to disagree. NO ONE ON EARTH with you always agree with on everything - it's impossible.

And the break to table a subject and come back, allows each to cool off, to devolve from it emotionally, and become more willing to compromise. In many cases what seem all too important at the time becomes something that's just not very relevant any longer. In many cases these differences are simply each's feelings, that are misunderstood or assumed, or felt as though they're invalidated.

And you have to OWN your own shit. You don't blame the other, you declare how it affects YOU. The word track "you make me ___" fill in the blank should never be allowed in any adult discussion. No one can MAKE you anything - YOU get to choose. So YOU decide what the affects of a situation are on you and OWN that. For example, she dresses like a tramp and goes out drinking and dancing with her girlfriends. I would say, "This appears to be lack of respect for our relationship. And I feel rejected and dismissed, it provides an avenue for a third party to intrude on our relationship." You don't accuse her of cheating, you simply express what it looks like and feels like TO YOU.

Xitomyth · Accepted Answer

Clearly he has issues/insecurities... Granted, not responding is usually a sign of either shock or disinterest. I can understand why he got frustrated over that, he was expecting you to have at least an opinion or a reaction. Not everyone does. I don't know how you react to things, but I'm not surprised you were quiet. As for him being single forever, that's more on him, he's the one with issues and clearly never takes responsibility for his actions or choices. Most people who think that they'll be single forever are usually going after the wrong type of partner or have no idea how to be one themselves.

crazyish · Accepted Answer

He's trying to control you and your responses. Honestly it's very toxic and he had the choice to talk to you about it like an adult instead of making a declaration like that. Which insinuates that he doesn't want to be with you if you are not going to act or respond in a certain way. He wants you to take blame for whatever is going on. He wants you to fix it by apologizing for getting upset because he believes he did nothing wrong. Tbh it's a threat. Either do what he expects of you or be without him. He believes that you will forgive and forget about what caused the argument just to make sure he stays with you. It's manipulation and it can and often will get worse. MHO is to move on from him. He can't take responsibility and never will. Your mental health is way more important than a guy or relationship. I know it seems small now but trust me, you don't want to know what going down that path will lead to.

Siren777 · Accepted Answer

Don't give someone the power to decide how you should live or how you will end up. That's only up to you.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

1. "We got in an argument behind his ex" Not sure what that means. 2. "he said 'that’s all you have to say?'" He said that to you? 3. “I’m going to be single forever” He said that to you?

Anon621 · Answer

I think he was being petty in the moment from what it sounds like. Of course, most people do not wish to be single forever but don't take his words to be true. The way I see things, it seems to me you have been at least gaining experience putting yourself out there and dating people so I think that in itself is very difficult and many people will respect you for it including myself even though I have been single for almost 5 consecutive years now since I have not really applied myself to finding a relationship at this moment since I am taking time to find myself. Nevertheless, I think you should try to end the relationship if he has been this petty with you because it seems like he is just trying to get into your head and is becoming toxic.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Because he expected you to invest more in communicating with him and its probably what ruimed his last relationship. I've been there too, its frustrating when women talk more than men yet communicate overtly. The only woman that i trust not to sugar coat things is my mother.

DJB72 · Answer

Walk away. Now.

That line is manipulation 101. If you stay with him after that, he's chosen taking power over expressing love. That's a path towards abusive behaviour, either emotionally or physically.

Either way, you deserve a better man than that.

The_Maphio · Answer

Arguing about exes is never gonna end well.
Depending on what the content of the discussion have been, he might be thinking that women are not worth it anymore after that one ex, and he's going to go back being single. At least in words. Keep him close and try to make him forget his ex. If he doesn't, he's just not ready for another relationship.

Finchie40 · Answer

It sounds like he is trying to play victim and to make you feel sorry for him so you will be like oh no don’t say that. I want to be with you , it’s a insecure control tactic he is trying
To pull , word of advice Run

A_Bell · Answer

You sound like you've totally, never, ever, pinky promiss, certainy haven't said anything mean to him ever.

People get angry, they say mean things. Arguments are two way streets and wr never like to admit we are one direction.

If he truly says such things without provocation, then dump him. If you just want one sided sympathy for a two way argument, then stop whining.

REALSTEEL · Answer

Well we all know that's not going to be true everything takes time and time heals all wounds so he will have to get over the current situation and wait for another see you know one one chapter ends in a book another chapter always begins so everything will work out

seanras · Answer

Girl, don't have to come to GaG for every little thing that happens between you two -- do you both genuinely care for each other and enjoy each other's company?

If you do, you both will be more reasonable in your conflicts.

Why bring all the exes and others in this? If he's being unkind or hurting your self-esteem repeatedly, don't continue to date him.

EaterPeter · Answer

You are not going to be single forever. We live and learn. Hardly anything good comes put of past and ex business. If you have any ex artifacts visible hide it or let it go. I believe you were hurt and stonewalling when you went quite. Look up online what's stonewalling according to gottmans and what are the four horsemen and antidote to them as well.

Citizenkirk · Answer

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NibirX · Answer

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ohshee · Answer

Wait a minute you said that to him or he said that to you

scarlett96 · Answer

He’s a bitchass but also could’ve used more context

rachel776 · Answer

immature boys say things to try to hurt you when they're mad

serious · Answer

Maybe he realised that you were the best woman he had in his life but lost you.

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

Dump his nasty ass, he's Immature & insecure just my opinion ✌️

FreyaRed · Answer

I guess he have heard that many times in his misery. XD

Lliam · Answer

Then let him be single forever. There's nothing else you can do. Move on. Forget about him.

Dragonpurple · Answer

Your still young, that isn't the case at all... there is more options out there than him.

AdithyaR · Answer

I'm confused. Did he say he's gonna be single forever or that you were?

EssenceOfLight · Answer

Intention of such comments is to hurt you. Outsourcing of entire responsibility on their exes is very common by people who did a lot of negative things in their former relationships.

princeofromance · Answer

That is him saying, I know I just screwed things up in a big way. He is thinking that you are going to dump him, and never return.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

No your not that's just some shit guys say to fuck with your head and break down your self esteem your humble intelligent and cool asf you'll definitely find someone

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Did he say it in a positive way? Because being single means also being free, no commitment, no compromises

OddBeMe · Answer

He said that because you’re breaking up? Or you’re not together?

Likes2drive · Answer

I guess he is trying to feel sorry for himself and telling you

Marioz86 · Answer

Dear lord take thee wheeel!

ManHater · Answer

Hey maybe we can hit it off where he left off and settle for a man twice his stature.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

This doesn’t look good. Has your son reached his limit?

Anonymous · Answer

My guess is your first boyfriend was in high school or in your teens

devilish-cutie · Answer

He is mad you are not responding him

rodeschaap · Answer

He's insecure and feeling hopeless.

VanillaSalt · Answer

I’m missing the question.

JosyJosy · Answer

I guess he said that then.

Ironic_Method · Answer

Whats the question here?

invalid1 · Answer

Don't worry my creep ass will always be here

exitseven · Answer

I am sure that will not be the case.

Walamagicc · Answer

Ok so what is the question here?

Iron_Man · Answer

he's an x for a reason move on

zagor · Answer

He said that about you or him?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

He was talking about himself?

scott04sa22 · Answer

I'm forever single 🤷🏻‍♂️ Join the club

Anonymous · Answer

he seems frustrated with you to me

Vetis · Answer

Cause being single rules

msc545 · Answer

Smart man. Marriage is a horrible deal for men.

JamieLoves · Answer

Cause you’re going to be single !

Anonymous · Answer

he will be single... or you will be single?

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Question is not clear

ALewis30 · Answer

He might be over reacting

JEndigoBleue · Answer

Oh, brother. SMH.

Floppy2112 · Answer

What’s the question?

BazookaTrouper · Answer

Sounds like a bluff.

ItsMeItsMe1989 · Answer

yeah?

sixtyeightplusone · Answer

if he's lucky

Yuuibtony · Answer

Move on

Calgarydirty69 · Answer

no kids?

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