Would you date a girl who wants to wait until marriage?

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oldasIfeel22 · Accepted Answer

I could do it under the following circumstances:

1) She is doing this for faith based reasons which I very much respect. But if she’s an atheist/agnostic doing this for some other odd reason I wouldn’t trust her. Without God this is isn’t possible.

2) I know with 100% certainty I’m the only man in her life.

3) I can personally wait but my the scary question is can she?

My deepest fear would be her cheating on me during the wait out of boredom. From what I’ve observed over the years is to never underestimate the female sex drive. Now that feminism has incessantly pushed female promiscuity with no shame it makes women more prone to cheating (and they make bs reasons to justify it). That’s the scariest part.

However deep down this is really is I want. I’ve just never found a woman (who I had strong feelings for) who was willing to do this. It’s a long shot at my age to find a woman who sincerely wants this. But it would be a huge late blessing from God if it happened.

ohshee · Accepted Answer

I would but at the same time there would have to be something because I'm very passionate person that desires a lot so I would have a question for you let's say you met a guy it says yes he'll wait but the guy says okay I respect that and we can do that that can we have foreplay can we still have sex without having sex without penetration for instance I agree to it you agree to it we're having four play we're making out we're both naked I roll over on top of me I set you up on my hips and it's like you forward and slide you back. Slide you forward and slides you back until you are straddled on each side of my cock I pull you down on top of me as I slide you forward and back so your clit drags along the top of my cock I know I can bring you to an orgasm but I mean would you be willing to do that with the guy did since yes he will wait

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes I would, but it's not necessary. I am planning on waiting, if I choose to get married, but that may change. I don't experience sexual attraction anyways, so

hi_it_is_me123 · Accepted Answer

Yeah i only date virgin guys who wait till marriage

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Yes, if I thought she was a great candidate. . . but it would be a short engagement!

HawkPerception · Answer

I personally wouldn't. The whole notion of waiting until marriage to have sex came about with religion. Religion is ancient and outdated.

I do what feels right. If I'm in a relationship, I believe in giving it 100% and having that physical imtimacy is necessary to give 100%. The only thing that really separates a friendship and a love relationship is the physical imtimacy.

We are human and there's nothing wrong with sex or sexual desires and it does not defile you by losing your virginity. Anyone that thinks so is immature.

Qdbrown · Answer

When I was younger, from 18-40, I would have wanted a sexually experienced woman. I would have wanted to know we were a good match in the bedroom.

That said, knowing what I know now, if I could go back, I would have sought out a real virgin and built that relationship strong and around derranged idea that we grow to be long-time partners. Into a family and then into retirement. Now I have that perspective, I would not marry an experienced girl from the get go.

Why? Because id you're going to get married and have kids, as a man, your sex life is gone to be curtailed. Compatibility is not that big of deal, but a real partner that will go thick and thin with you to the end is. Now after you have kids and they are nearly out of the nest, then the couple can cheat and even become swingers. Whatever... But for your family's sake, find a long haul woman and wife her up. Don't give her a lot of understandimg how to be sexually liberated until the kids are of good age.

iluvtoknow · Answer

Would I? I don't want to have sex until marriage myself, so this would be fantastic for me! When I mate, I'll mate for life.

Plus, why rush? If I get into a relationship, sex is the last thing I'd want in the foundation of it.

I'd want a girlfriend to be my best friend and walk the road of life with me.
I'd want a relationship based on mutual admiration and enjoyment of each other's company, not physical pleasures!
I'd want to use sexual stuffs as something that might be able to be shared with her in the very long run, not before it's certain that we won't be leaving each other.

So what's the point? There are better things in life than that.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Wouldn't bother me at all. Gives me plenty of time to get all the other life together details sorted out. And there will be a LOT of said details! Only a fool thinks marriage is nothing more than a contract to a permanent roommate you can screw indefinitely.

Also, if things fall apart and we have to call off the wedding , no sex means less sex-related drama. The dream fell apart , you just walk away. Little more than a really long and expensive game of Monopoly.

Get too sexually entangled in advance , however, and you only set yourself up.

Jonny59 · Answer

yes that means she actually cares about having a guy for a long time or maybe life time who knows most people having sex before marriage is just not good idea I know we both genders are horny af but still its worth holding it
for me its good only if we kiss, hold hands, cuddle sometimes its just getting horny but holding it and if ur partner is fine with that its a very good sign he can endure even bad things in the relationships since he can endure without sex its a plus but not many people want that

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Probably not, but that's because I don't view marriage as necessary for commitment, as I'm not religious.

I'm not too bothered about sex in general, as a virgin, so I'd wait for that, but if you're going to be living with a person, then I expect it's just going to happen at some point.

If I wanted marriage, then I'd wait, but I don't.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

Yes but it depends. I wouldn't wait ten years before having sex, so their must be a reasonable time table for when marriage will occur. On top of that I would definitly want to know that she is going to actually have sex with me i. e. she isn't asexual, she isn't going to decline my sexual advances after marriage etc.

The_Maphio · Answer

Dating implies one thing, first and foremost. And since they're not going to give THAT until marriage, one who starts off with that piece of info is not somebody I'm gonna waste any time with.
If I was looking for a stable relationship, I'd still go with NO since I love sex, but others might be more patient or not have strong sexual drives.

stevie123 · Answer

I would not wait until marriage. There are too many variables with sex that if you were incompatible it would be too late to wait until after the ceremony. I have gone with girls that were quite incompatible. An example would be number of sex times per week was either too few or too many by a long shot and they never could adjust. That's why it is a good idea to try before you buy as the saying goes. It is hard to get out of a marriage that doesn't work

TurboKid · Answer

I wouldn't say "never" if I was single but the idea seems very strange to me. It is not so common in my culture. I'm assuming you can at least do things like kiss, hold hands, cuddle? What exactly is and isn't allowed in such cases? Can you lie together naked? Take a shower together? Or is that already something reserved for after marriage?

Gray-Wisp · Answer

A relationship with a woman who has had sex with other guys statistically will significantly lower the chance of a marriage being successful. So technically, it would only be ok to not wait for marriage if two people gave their virginity to each other and then ended up getting married afterwards. At that point it's more like a coincidence than a policy which defeats the logic of waiting until marriage. It's more like dating a woman who didn't wait until marriage is a red flag.

Ditto626 · Answer

I would say no. I respect people who wait but I want to make sure I'm compatible with the woman sexually before I commit my life to her. There's more than the missionary position and I want to experience more adventurous stuff.

AskJonNsa69 · Answer

If I found her attractive and she was a Christian and held firm to her beliefs I would find that conviction sexy. Also I’d hope that she would have a lot of pent up sexual frustration and a high sex drive ready to be worked out as soon as we got married. So I’d be down.

Rennitenn · Answer

Yes I would wait but I have one weird one strange what do you call it condition. I would have to see them naked they would have to stand in front of me fully turn around and see everything and make sure because I'm not going to buy a car that I'm not going to see the interior of before I buy it. That makes me terrible person and I'm awful. But I wouldn't want to be married to someone that I wasn't attracted to. That would be mean to do to somebody

Nikola321 · Answer

Yeah. I am religious, + I'm asexual, so I don't really care about sex at all :D I only care about girl's personality and when it comes to looks, well, I only care a little about the face :D

coachTanthony · Answer

Nope. Have a great day!

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

That works.

Horniness: You afraid I’m gonna kick your little mermaid ass all over this course in front of ALL these people?

Me:... N*gaa, do you know who I am?

Horniness: HELL NO N*GGA. I don’t give a god damn

*Revenge if The Fallen*

VanillaSalt · Answer

I’m not getting married so no. Marriages one sided for women. Men gain nothing from marriage that we don’t already have in the relationship prior... we actually lose privileges. Besides. Boo one my ago is dumb enough to claim to be a virgin.

Paolaa988 · Answer

I didn’t wait till marriage to have sex but if I met a guy who wanted to wait I don't know if I could wait. Sex is important to me, I’d like to know if we’re sexually compatible.

jahop · Answer

I’m not that religious and I’m not into that. You guys do whatever you want but I wouldn’t personally do that.

slatyb · Answer

No, why would I marry someone without some notion that we are sexually compatible. Most women who want to wait until marriage have some religious reason, and I'm not religious.

MrDaley35 · Answer

it depends if u are allowed to do other pleasures like bj, fingering, spooning, cuddling, masterbations together, or other fun then yes but if its nothing at all then no.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

No, because it's not something I want. I can understand if she's a virgin and holds a strong belief, but still not for me. The longest I would wait is 3 months or 90 days total.

MelissaMarie9614 · Answer

I'm waiting till marriage! As long as my future husband will go along with that.

dtweed1996 · Answer

That depends on what she allows before marriage and what won't happen until marriage like my girlfriend will allow anything before that and she keeps having dreams of us being committed and we have only been together for 5 months

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Of course I would lol. That's the same thing I want.

es20490446e · Answer

YESS. I don't think that's necessary. But I would clearly prefer that over someone who has sex with me, and then disappears. Which is pretty much the STANDARD these days.

IndieScent · Answer

This might sound bad, but no. There's nothing wrong with anyone who chooses to do that, but I just don't feel it's compatible with how I am and what I look for in a relationship

Rok4bakAR · Answer

I really dont care what girls say. lol they never mean what they say anyways. I do my thing and they can play their own thing. And see who can get what.

Titanic1912 · Answer

I do. I’m not losing my virginity until the wedding night.

Daniela1982 · Answer

So you are really asking if someone is a Ho or not.

Better_off_here · Answer

i would sure do that, if she is worth dating and having next to me i would say she is best to wait until we are married. plus sex is far better with someone you love and care for.

AmeerX · Answer

Obviously waiting for a girl like that. I am virgin and that's very important in our culture too

he-takes-a-part · Answer

Why not is girls is able minded can keep on dating you explain it to her that you are simply unique but Im not so i can have sex but that won't destroy my love to you

Anonymous · Answer

Nope! Would you buy a car without test driving it firt?

Anonymous · Answer

No, I would not. Sexual compatibility is critically important to a healthy, happy marriage. Why would I leave something so important to chance? Try before you buy.

exitseven · Answer

I did this once for a few years. I don't know if i would do it again.

Anonymous · Answer

No, I wouldn't. Sexual compatibility is too important to leave to chances and I would never marry a woman before I knew we were sexually compatible.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes and have. I'll respect her wishes, but I personally don't agree with it and think it's a big mistake.

ToastyOats · Answer

I'd marry a girl that wants to wait until marriage!🤔

RHK36 · Answer

Nope, all the power to you I'm just not interested in that type of relationship.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

I wouldn't because I enjoy sex and making love too much. On top of that I don"t want to get married.

msc545 · Answer

I wouldn't want to marry someone I had never had sex with and find out later the sex was terrible.

Twalli · Answer

I would only date her long enough to find that out. I would finish the date, but I would tell her that we aren't a couple anymore

Anonymous · Answer

I define Marriage as a life term commitment before God. I will never have sex outside of without marriage.

Joshua0213 · Answer

Yeah if I was truly attracted to her I would wait till marriage definitely

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

I have respect for people who are strong enough to wait. But to answer your question, hell no 😬

2021biguy · Answer

Maybe you won't know if you are compatible in bed so it's not a good idea to wait to find out.

DWornock · Answer

Sure! Why not? After all what she claims she wants has little to do with what she does.

Wise4myage · Answer

Maybe if I was a virgin too and felt a real connection to a girl, otherwise no.

wickhamhayls · Answer

no, since i don't see the value in waiuting until marriage. i like peple who aren't stuffy or tradition-bound.

otaku_owl_91 · Answer

No because she's either lying or topping other guys off.

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

There aren’t any. All women fuck the moment they feel they can justify it.

jerdanro · Answer

I've been married once before and not sure if I want to try that again, so no.

kevyhanma · Answer

Yes but she needs to understand that just because she’s waiting doesn’t mean I will

Asianguy123 · Answer

in theory yes but in reality no.. men need to release

robocop666 · Answer

only until a better option comes along. stupid fucking idiot

GollyRojer · Answer

Yeah. After kissing me a couple of times she would cave.

IAMNathanael · Answer

I would and that's what I'm doing now

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