Fill in the blank. I am undateable because_____________________?

[coachTanthony]

[Cynicaldreamer]

"I refuse to settle for less than I deserve."

I refuse to settle, or deal with nonsense.
Some people take that as me being demanding, having high or unrealistic standards, or asking too much... thus making me "undateable."

That, or maybe men just aren't attracted to me in a romantic sense... who knows-

I'm fine with that. At least I'm happy, and not stuck in an unhappy relationship or marriage like some people out there!

[coachTanthony]

Being in happy is key and most important.

[HiveBee]

A happy relationship is probably rare in the grand scheme of things lol

[ShangVal]

I don't think a woman can ever have unrealistic standards and I applaud any woman with so called unrealistic standards. The level of any civilisation is always the level of its womanhood because the nobler a woman is, the nobler a man would have to be to be deserving of her love.

[MCheetah]

I am undateable because... I'm short, overweight, dark, ugly, unegotistical, and unwilling to bribe someone into pretending to like me or become a cuckold.

Women aren't into short guys.
Women usually aren't into guys who are overweight/fat.
Women aren't into unattractive men.
Women aren't into men who aren't full of high self-pride (arrogance, confidence, swagger, etc).
And women aren't into guys who don't wine and dine them and spend all their money on them if they aren't attractive to those women.

I'm also not into lesbians (queer women; "bi"). They're one of the biggest turn-offs, to me.

So it's not really that complicated. *I* think I'm datable, but I can't do crap about my inadequate height. Or my looks. And I don't *want* arrogance. That leaves all straight women on Earth off the table. 😅

[ChrisMaster69]

I’m normally undateable because I often expect too much of the other person.

I expect them to go for a 5 mile run, I expect them to go to gym.

I also expect them to think for themselves, to stand up to me when I am being a twat.

I need someone similar to me (but not a twat) to counteract me and stand up to me.

likely wife my ex girlfriend was a kickboxing instructor, my ex wife did similar stuff and both of them have motor racing qualification certs for competing.

dating a quiet timid girl is simply a nightmare

oh and there is the small matter of depression, PTSD and screaming in my sleep 😂😂

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I'm too old to play games or put up with lies or be what someone wants me to be... You either love me or you don't, but if you do, it'll be the "real" no holes barred straight up truth me...

[coachTanthony]

No more games 2021

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍

[DCooper]

"No holes barred" ? Holy freudian slip, Batman.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@DCooper omg 🤦 didn't mean THAT way LOL is that why all the likes🤔 lolol

[KrakenAttackin]

@DCooper Ha! Ask @Brainsbeforebeauty about "penis butter"!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@KrakenAttackin Maybe that's why gained wait during pandemic... Penis butter as fattening as peanut butter🤣

[jennifer_bloom]

Because I hate doing outdoor sports and prefer crunches at home

[katyya_lov25]

The majority of the dating pole consists of fuckboys/fuckgirls. I’m a female interested in men only and I had the displeasure of encountering a number of fuckboys as a young teen to young adult. I’m 25 years old now, and now it’s time to grow up and learn from your mistakes and avoid immature men who still aren’t ready to commit and don’t know how to handle/treat a lady. I’m not settling for less than what I deserve, and if that means to be single for a little while that is fine, until I get to meet the right guy for me , then that’s fine with me. I still have plenty of things that I want to do with my young adult years while I’m single.

[HiveBee]

Blasphemy! Surely girls always make great choices in men! Lol...

Congratulations. My question is, now what? What do women do after they wake up and realize what you have?

Not every great guy out there is going to approach and chase you. Not every great guy is immediately attractive to every woman on the surface.

I wonder how you and other women go about this search for an actual good man?

[katyya_lov25]

Huh?

[JEndigoBleue]

@HiveBee One thing for sure and this to be true... A "man" that knows what he want and looking for will not let the "woman" escape him. If he want said woman, there's nothing (he's thinks he's unattractive, makes a moderate living (compared to desired beliefs all women want a 6 figured man), shy, etc.. whatever is his internal flaw within himself about himself, will keep him from getting with that woman.. He will find the courage or approach to get said woman.

We're not talking about the females on the dating apps or as @katyya_lov25 mentioned "Fuckgirls/immature females, etc. A "Woman". He will definitely step up to the plate. I've never met one that did not. My brother would not be considered attractive, but he step to my sister and found his approach to get with her. He married her too... the rest is history. And, my sister is attractive. She has no problem with men trying to get with her.

If the woman and are meant to be together, they will be together. All this fuss people talking about is nothing. If folks take their time in getting to know people ANNND know what they want, stop fantasizing, etc... and have standards, they wouldn't experience all these bad relationships.

[JEndigoBleue]

That's brother-in-law

[HiveBee]

@jendigobleue well that's exactly my point. Not every "real man" is going to do as you say.

I guess you dont want them than. You dont consider them "real men."

But that's why men become fuckboys or emulate fuckboys.

Because we know women want us to approach and chase. And so men learn to do so from the fuckboys that OP is saying she is done dating.

Not to mention, we dont all agree with toxic masculinity. The idea a man must be a certain way, or else women won't like him.

But maybe that is the truth we are lying to all men.

We all have lied to us men since day 1 of birth. We should all be as you say, if we want a woman.

But most of us have been broken down and taught not to be that way. Because chasing a woman and going for what you want is harassment.

[HiveBee]

@jendigobleue your comment is so good I have to make another comment.

Because I do tell guys to go for what they want. If they like a girl, they should "shoot their shot."

Problem is, we all have been shamed since birth for it. For being men. For being the pursuer.

Many men believe it is wrong and offensive to approach women. That women hate it and see us as potentially stalkers and rapists.

Just because a man doesn't go for what he wants how you describe it. doesn't make him not a real man.

You dont know what kind of feminist brainwashing has destroyed his ability to go for women he wants. Most men I think want to be respectful to women and to show women they are safe with us.

But you see that same man as less than a man. Because he doesn't go for you if he wants you, he must not be a good lover, boyfriend, husband, father, and everything else.

I think that's incorrect.

[JEndigoBleue]

I never said it makes him a good man. I'm saying nothing "insecurities" will stop a man from trying to get with a woman that's a good woman.. A woman he knows he needs in his life. The mother he wants to have for his children, etc. The woman he knows will elevate with him in life. The women for the sake of discussion that you are referring to are immature. A "woman" will not be dismissive to a man that she can clearly see his being genuine and not a jerk or ass. Annd, even if he's a jerk or ass, she deals with him according. She's not rude but firm with him in what she will tolerate. I'm always cool with men. I never made none feel bad because I wasn't interested in them. I feel if the tables were turned, I wouldn't want him to treat me that way. That's a "woman" not a girl mentality. What you think has been women were girls in a woman's body. The mindset is a girl. Grown adults don't act like that.

[JEndigoBleue]

And, a man shouldn't feel ashamed if his intentions are good.

[JEndigoBleue]

Oh, you said "real men" What's a real man to you? A man is a leader, right? He'll have to "lead" his family, right? If he's scared to initiate the start of a possible relationship, how can trust he will have the courage to lead anything else. Yeah, you'll be nervous or even a little fearful, but you meet the challenge head on, etc. It's not what say, it's how you say it. How you go about and deal with "adversities" not what you go through. You're going to take a lot of hits on the chin before being successful. You meet more "no" than "yes" in this relationship game. I wouldn't let that push me from pursuing a good woman when I meet her all because of the girls you met before her.

[JEndigoBleue]

Annd, a man and woman should know their need in a person and not so much the want. What type of woman you need? You want her to be attractive and good personality, etc. But, what do you need in a person? Understanding, compassion, wisdom, etc... Comforting, etc. One man's needs are different from another. But, you should know you needs. Needs are far greater than wants.

[HiveBee]

I think the truth is probably that the idea of a "real man" is complete nonsense.

Women have to do the same things as men do. Yet, if a woman does not, she is not labeled as less than a woman. Usually, she's labeled as a victim of the patriarchy or something.

I think this is what toxic. masculinity is. The idea that somehow, some way, men must be and act and engage in the world differently than women do.

But we dont. There isn't anything a man can do that a woman cannot besides things that are extremely physically demanding. Such as home defense or like, emergency natural disaster. Naturally, the man is going to scoop up the kids and wife, and use his physical strength to evacuate everyone from a disaster of some sort. And a woman can do it too of course. Maybe she's a single mom. But. a man will do it. better cuz we're stronger.

All humans, whether man or woman, must face this life and deal with the challenges that come with it.

What is toxic in my opinion, is the idea that somehow that is a fundamental part if being a man. It isn't. Not if women must do it as well. It's just normal human stuff.

I mean I dont know. Clearly women are attracted to men who engage with the world and its struggles head on with confidence and so on.

So if men want to be attractive to women, we must be all those things women must be to live their own lives.

I think men see it as unfair, because we as men, are willing to marry a woman who can't engage with the world. We are happy to support you and all that. To do all of the facing the world for the woman, while. theoretically she raises the kids right?

But we just dont live in that world anymore. Women must live. their own lives and I'm sure they are happy to. Housewives of. the 50s were not very happy lol. I dont think women want to go back to being house wives.

[HiveBee]

If. we go back to the top and read the OP opinion I responded to. She talks about fuckboys and players right.

Many men fear being labeled as that as well. We dont want you to think we're abusers desperate for sex.

there's so many good men out. there who would be great to the women they are with. But they dont know how to become that kind of person that not only is a good person, a good partner, but also is ATTRACTIVE to women, with the ability and options to shop around and date.

Those same great men, may have been taught that they are evil abusers who women fear.

I know. I've. asked lots of. guys and gotten this answer. Many men fear offending and hurting women.

Of course if I have to give a guy advice I'm gonna tell him to go out and get woman skills. Talk to women, approach, ask. them out. Flirt, everything.

So many men, including myself. im the past, feel like this is fundamentally WRONG and BAD to do.

We really do. And it takes quite a lot of experience to realize that it's not wrong and bad to approach women and to work on your interpersonal dating and so on skills with women.

[HiveBee]

For so long I was SO scared to approach girls. Not cuz. i feared rejection.

I feared making her feel bad in some way. Afraid of me, or think I'm a creep, or w/e.

Now I know, at least for me, girls love it. Never had a bad experience since I've realized that it's Ok to approach women and such.

But it's a skill. It requires learning and practice to gain confidence.

The same woman can react to me very differently depending on how I act. If I'm too shy she can't stand my presence. If I'm confident she won't leave me alone.

This in my experience is univefsal across women in my experience.

All I'm saying, is there is too much conflicting information.

Not. to mention all the toxic masculinity and other toxic. beliefs that plague society and just fuck up everything for. everyone lol.

[Azura_88]

I am too good for most people.
I also know that I'm sounding arrogant but why not? I am 100% emotionally invested, loyal and transparent, honest about everything, I hate to keep secrets and I love passionately and care like a dog. I want it forever.
But unfortunately most humans lie, deceive, come to use you, get bored, are flirts, lusting, play you or are simply unsure about their emotions.

[Azura_88]

Also if my trust is violated, then they see my conjuring the nun side... I have another side and it's not at all pleasant when it comes out.

[Clarke498]

Sounds like something all women should aim to be and what all men should be grateful to have

[Lionman95]

I´m undateable because I don´t understand it when girls like me. I can´t interpret body language and I´m most times interpreting it wrong.
I´m undateable because I´m not good at bonding and making friends. I have kind of a trust issue and I always think that no one would come when I make a party, so I don´t make parties.

[Daniela1982]

Because of my strong facial features and pointy hat..

[ChiTown33]

"It's not easy being green" - Kermit

[PaynefulPleasures]

I don't play games, take anyones BS, I'm straight up true, hard working, love me or leave me alone, I don't give a damn ✌️

[FakeNiceGuy]

Of mt repeated murders and people practically dedicating their lives to repeatedly destroying mine stabbing me in the back repeatedly murdering and neutering and blocking me into a corner and constantly attacking me for years and years and years and years.

[scooogy]

I am undateable because I can't fill in this blank.

[coachTanthony]

Ha ha ha

[jamesgoldman]

I'm a broke workaholic with autism
My back is gone, my ankles are shot and I have a heart condition
I'm out of shape and can't do anything about it because of the aforementioned heart condition
I'm the youngest boomer right down to the cigars and yellow gold

[ChiTown33]

I just really just don't find women to be worth it to be honest. I mean I'm fine with being friends and whatnot. But the minute they start to have feelings for you they become completely irrationale. On top of all that they expect me to pursue them? Why? What exactly do you bring to my life that I should alter it for you? Lol. No thanks.

So I guess the answer is. "I'm undateable do to women's massive ego's? Lol

[InferiorElegy]

Because of many factors, including looks, wealth and definitely looks. This isn't Disney, no girl ever says, "I want the most vile looking man ever to love forever or even for a moment"
The beast doesn't find true love in real life. Love doesn't exist for those of us truly ugly people.

[Slartybartfast]

The beast was super wealthy...

[InferiorElegy]

@Slartybartfast I'm not wealthy and even if I was and all of a sudden girls started finding me "attractive" I wouldn't date any of them because none of them would actually want me.

[Adam1978]

Women actually have to put in an effort to get my attention.

[Exc3l]

They might not want your attention dude, your 42 bro, just court one already

[Adam1978]

Then no harm done, I am enjoying my life. Courting? why would I put effort and money towards todays spoiled women, if they don't return the favor? They need to learn that men also have a value, and that it needs to be a fair deal or no deal.

[TwistedTube]

based

[BakedBeanieBabie]

I am undateable because I am too goddamn opinionated.

[na2398]

Opinions that most people deem offensive?

[ShangVal]

Or maybe they simply see it as being insubordinate or disrespectful or argumentative

[SashaAMB]

I have no self esteem and I miss really big obvious hints that someone is interested.

[rxm_bxl]

I feel I do not have the mental capacity for relationships.

[Anonymous]

"me & my 3 personalities can't handle another opinion"

[NightHawk99]

My plans for a New World Order are impossible for you to understand.

[joeldalton]

my wife is uptight and won't let me have a girlfriend.

[Sonorous]

Sadly, I don't value dating or marriage. So, I will inevitably turn down anyone that would want to pursue that with me.

[Juxtapose]

.. SIKE! I'm hot as fuck & have a girlfriend who spreads her legs whenever I want.

[Slim57]

Dating or even hooking up with the opposite sex is more of a hassle to put up with than I care to handle

[blank_expression]

one nighters are easier for me

and/or

the slightest amount of bullsht sends me packing permanently

[pjf1958]

Looking like you have 'down syndrome" is not a first impression that instills confidence regarding your intellectual potential.

[Slartybartfast]

For guys it's because you don't have looks, height and money.

For women it's usually obesity and unrealistic standards.

[CaptainOverthink]

I'm not ready to be myself with someone I have feelings for.

[Citizenkirk]

Because you say so. If you approach a girl with that attitude, your likely to make a believer out of her.

[Shark_61695]

I don't make a good first impression, suck at small talk, unlikely to be picked out of a crowd, rarely smile, oblivious to flirting and a little negative (amongst other things).

[Coulis]

I don't date I'm a Muslim woman is so I don't have boyfriends.

[katyya_lov25]

Which explains why you’re still single at 36

[Gothgrl]

@katyya_lov25 is the a rule that says you have to be married at 36? Ageist much?

[Coulis]

@katyya_lov25 I was married for 11 years actually. I am also secure enough to be happy single since I have hobbies, friends and my kids.

[Coulis]

@gothgrl no in Islam there's a rule that you have to be married to have sexual relations. I was married at 25.

[Coulis]

@katyya_lov25 and no i didn't date my ex husband. Sadly, the good times came. to an end and we are focused on our kids.

[namjoonstree]

I never text back 💀 like I just don't like it lmao

[kevyhanma]

Fuck you and everyone like you

Including myself😂

[namjoonstree]

lmaooo true

[AJRay64]

I don’t believe love lasts. For the people who make it work, congrats.

[NathanDavis]

I'm just not looking to date, I got things to do first.

[Mofunfour20]

I haven't fully stepped into my life's purpose to be toxically masculine

[NyceGuyFinishingLast]

I am undatable because I want to be single.

[FunkyMonkee]

... girls couldn't spot a good guy with a seeing eye dog to smell one out!!!

[Anonymous]

What the fuck do you think...

[AdithyaR]

Because I refuse to step out of my house to socialize.

[invalid1]

I am datable if girls just lower the hubris 😂
Sorry for not filling the blank. 😅

[ayomanwya]

I am undateable because the way my bank account is set up, the thing is I got a checking and a savings but all the money is in my savings so I gotta switch it to my checking. But it’s going to take 3 business days

[Guanfei]

I'm not someone women would date.
I'm physically not what they want, which in turn makes me very shy and insecure, which women don't like either.

[Shihab91]

Because i learned new questions to ask at the first date. Thanks to @Brainsbeforebeauty. 😂😂

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

😂😂I know why lolol and don't forget the questions NOT to ask😂

[Shihab91]

No need the only thing i will ask is "how are you?"

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

😊😊

[Shihab91]

Her: why you don't ask questions and get to know me?

Me: I'm protecting my kids...

Her: you didn't tell me you have kids?
🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Hahahahaha😂😂😂your "little swimmers"😂

[Marhaban-1]

I'm depressed and don't want to date anyone at the minute

[CallmeTheKnight]

I don't see myself as undateable. I'm just selective in who I date

[JackofSpades]

I'm not sure if I've got over the last woman I fell in love with.

[taeh_ie2]

I’ll rather stay home all day.😕

[I_want_a_moustache]

Honestly, I know I'm a terrible partner but it's too hard to fix right now. I'm self-centered and I can be abusive sometimes

[NoLookingAtSoleil]

Totally datable. The most dateable guy in the universe basically. I do engage in real world politics when I have to (is my grand fault)

[FatherJack]

... I'm a single dad...

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That shouldn't make you undatable

[Slartybartfast]

Most of my friends are single dads, none of them have dated in a decade.

[FoxnEagle]

I work night-shift and I'm selfish

[Redstang88]

I have no patience for lies and games

[lpoots]

I'm a fucking creep
I'm a weirdo
What the hell am I doin' here?
I don't belong here

[TheBigGuy9]

Because “I can’t keep my dick in my pants.” It’s why I don’t date anymore.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Its not my main goal

I'm aromantic

I don't like spending a lot

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Also i just cannot be bothered. I'm just happy of what i do

[Cowboy6666]

Coz I am South Asian and expecting a miracle to happen lol :)

[kevyhanma]

It’s too much bs going on

women lie just to string you along

[DaveToo]

I'm old. Prove me wrong.

[Juxtapose]

Find a girl with daddy issues who wants a "grandpa".

[DaveToo]

@Juxtapose ROFL!! Thanks!

[Juxtapose]

[Gray-Wisp]

I'm too based and redpilled.

[Jenngirl00]

I care about my career.

[Soulkiss]

Health problems that I have to arrange my life around.

[EssenceOfLight]

... I'm already enslaved

[lovedejj_xo]

I’m dating someone lol.