What happened was you conjured up a situation that was going better in your head than in real life.
I do not mean to be mean or offend but often times we women tend to do this.
We meet a guy who we like or who makes us feel better about ourselves and whatever we don't know about him, we just assume it because things are going well in our heads.
For example: You wrote "We’ve really connected and spent a lot of time together, becoming emotionally attached and bonded" but then went on to write how he behaved as the opposite. You wrote that here: "said he wanted to make me his girlfriend soon but wanted to be sure before jumping in" Here: "Yesterday, he opened his dating app and started messaging someone right in front of me" Here: "He said at the time he said that, I was the only one, now I’m not apparently." and Here: Then later at night, he said he’s not really into the BBW stuff because I’m a bigger girl. This doesn't sound very emotionally attached on his end at all.
Furthermore, A month is not long enough to know someone and a man telling you, you are a better lay than his previous partners is not a compliment to take. It's quite rude and belittles you to your skills in bed. A man introducing you to his friends or family does NOT (I can't stress this enough) does NOT mean he is serious about you. it means you are the one who will be around for now. And a man who uses needing time to commit is a man who doesn't believe you are the one he wants to take that leap for. Again, I don't mean to offend but he's just not that into you.
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Sorry to hear this. You definitely have to move on. If he does come back you will always have doubts.
You were intimate before knowing anything about him, and before becoming official. This shows you do not have clear boundaries and do not know what you have to offer. Talking every day is also unnecessary, and often detrimental too. What you need to do is develop clear boundaries, know what you are looking for, what you have to offer, and learn how to slow things down. Sex is never casual... no matter what society tries to sell you.
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