What is the best way to tell someone you have met someone else?

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Omario2049 · Accepted Answer

Let's take a step back here. Why were u with someone while looking for someone else? This doesn't sound like an issue for men as much as women. I know this is women's typical dating strategy to not want to be alone and will hold on to someone they don't want while searching for someone else. I believe the term for it is "Monkey branching".
However to address the question. At 22yrs old I had to do this when I got my side chick pregnant and had to make a choice between her and my girlfriend. I make what I believed was the stand up, manly decision and chose the girl I got pregnant. I sat my girlfriend down and beat around the bush a little while I searched for my testicular fortitude and then told her in detail what had happened and what I had decided to do moving forward. She started crying half way in, which made it a lot harder to continue but I did. Also it didn't really end with that one conversation, it's something that dragged on for months and many conversations in person and over the phone while I offered her closure. I cried my ass off many times over.
What women don't seem to be able to comprehend about when men cheat vs when they cheat is that men cheat to fill a need. We're not out here searching for a replacement for u, we're simply satisfying whatever void u aren't or maybe can not even fill. It's usually just sex and maybe some fun and nothing more. We generally aren't trying to replace u, just giving u a helping hand. It's just that due to societal norms, men don't feel like they can have that conversation. Just like the great many other feelings we have that we don't know if it's even ok for us to have these feelings and thoughts because damn near everything innate to us is shamed or frowned upon. But I learned through that to never "cheat" again and to tell a woman exactly what I want based on my feelings and she just has to deal with it or not. Many have not and it's mostly because it goes against what they know and beleive is right. And that's fine. However some have been mature enough to open their minds and at least have the conversation and explore solutions.
WoW I really went off there. Holy shit. Hopefully it's still relevant to the conversation 🙄

Leavesbound · Accepted Answer

"I have something to tell you. I'm gay. I tried to not be gay. So I picked the sexiest most beautiful girl in the world to turn me straight. I'm so sorry I used you like that but it just didn't work. Not even the most beautiful girl in the world could straighten me out."

After that make sure she never meets your new girlfriend.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

There is no easy way. It's like ripping off a bandaid: it's going to hurt, but over time you become numb to the pain... so to speak.

You have to politely tell them you're seeing someone else. That's it. Don't lie about it, just be upfront... and the sooner the better.

Now let me tell y'all what NOT to do- because to me, this part is more important:

DON'T GHOST THEM. I can't emphasize that enough. Thinking you're sparing their feelings by phasing out of their life? No, if anything that does more damage.
Don't use some cliche excuse. You know the type, "It's not you, it's me..." or, "You deserve better." Just don't okay? We all know better
Don't ask to be friends. This line... ugh. Yeah I really want to stay friends with someone I had feelings for and they rejected me? NO.
Don't give them false hope. By that I mean telling him/her that things might work out or change one day 🙄
Don't tell them via text or messenger! Act like an adult- sending someone a "Dear John or Jane" breakup text is insulting. Do it in person, or if that's not an option, use the phone or video chat.

Based on: my own sad, pathetic, but eye-opening experiences with being rejected.

purplepoppy · Accepted Answer

"Love can be defined as a bond that keeps people together despite the easy availability of better quality partners. But I'm like a fat kid at an eat all you can buffet and I've been sampling loads of those better partners. It's not your fault, there's just so many of them, I'd be stupid not to. So sorry it's bye, but don't be sad and remember to aim lower next time, she'll be less likely to look for an upgrade"

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

No matter how nice you try to be or soften the blow, someone's still going to get hurt... So just be upfront and honest and be respectful if possible...

electromagnetic · Answer

“I think we should break up because (insert reasons here)” I don’t like the idea of breaking up with someone and saying it’s because you’ve found someone else. It’s simply saying they isn’t shit. They don’t have to know that much. Just end the relationship and start a new one with your new person

thimmslicc · Answer

Been ghosted in 2019. Been broken up with through text in 2020.
The boys I dealt with ain't shit.
Oh well, from what I've been receiving after a few months of moving on, they weren't really happy at the moment until reality kicked in.
Blocked. Left on read. I got the last laugh.

Anonymous · Answer

Start by saying that you haven't been happy for some time, since that's usually the case when you meet someone else.

And then say that you weren't looking for someone, but you have met someone and you want to pursue something new with them, and you would never cheat, so you're doing the decent thing and breaking up with them first. Then leave. Don't hang around and let them think that if they cry or say the right thing or promise the right thing that you will change your mind. Just leave.

Qdbrown · Answer

Look them straight in the face and lovely say, "You are being replaced with someone way out of your league! Can you get all your crap out of my place asap! And don't leave anything..."

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

Just be straight up true ✌️ Forget the drama,& BS!

designer1 · Answer

There is no good way to do this if you were in a serious relationship with that person. Just be honest and hope that you can be friends/ acquaintances again one day. Give them a lot of space after it’s done.

natured · Answer

As bad as this sounds, it's better to rip the band-aid off immediately.
It's sad that people have to face these situations, but if they do and if it happens it's better to come straight forward and be honest.
But NEVER DO THIS through a text
It's a matter of maturity in general.
-D-

DaveToo · Answer

Just say it. If you love the other person then trying to spare his or her feelings that you're leaving only prolongs the pain.

MotorcycleMan · Answer

Be straight up about it. Kind, honest, firm. ... and do it now. The longer you put that off the worse it is for both parties. Have the respect to let them know.

slatyb · Answer

When they call, say "Sorry, it's not working for me. I wish you the best." Then make arrangements to swap possessions if you have any of theirs or vice versa.

Wiredone · Answer

There is no easy way to say it. It's better to just come out and say it instead of beating around the bush.

Supernormal · Answer

What? There're arnt any best way to do that. Just like asking what's the best way to break someone's heart.

pleasestopthis · Answer

I don't think there's a good way, but there's a less painful way. Which in my opinion is to do it as soon as possible and in a respectful manner. Before everyone else whisper behind my back, I want to know it from him first.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

If you have met some one else you have cheated. So their isn't. If the relationship isn't working, you break it off like a reasonable person.

Sarahr123 · Answer

Umm don’t tell them that. Just say it isn’t working and you think you guys should go your own ways.

exitseven · Answer

Don't go with your new boyfriend to some place where she knows I will be and show me I was getting dumped that way.

Slim57 · Answer

Honestly I feel like ghosting is better than telling them you found someone better, speaking from my personal experiences, ghosting can lead you to wonder but knowing people keep choosing others over yourself just sucks even more

Mofunfour20 · Answer

If she is non-compliant, call the other woman in front of her. Make them compete or agree to share. there's only one of him and two of them, basic supply and demand

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Immediately. Just rip off the bandage, take your lumps, and carry on elsewhere.

collie22 · Answer

tell your significant in person and be honest about it , and do that before you start cheating

princeofromance · Answer

There is no best way to do this. I guess just come right out with it.

fr44c3iqqs · Answer

I don’t really think there is a right way. If you really are in love, it shouldn’t be replaced by anyone else.

msc545 · Answer

You take them to a public place with a lot of others around, and kindly say "I've met someone else" and whatever else you need to say, then take them home.

fonduegirl · Answer

I just told him I wasn't replying cuz I was busy with someone else

NoLookingAtSoleil · Answer

Honesty and not being malicious (though most people are busy hurting others in revenge at their upbringing without even knowing it)

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know, why don't you tell us? Isn't that your job?

Iron_Man · Answer

I don’t do that there’s no reason to sneak around once I’m in a relationship

innerman · Answer

Just text them... you dnt wana see her cry,

Waldoe · Answer

There is NO good way, bite the bullet and be honest, but try to be kind

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

By text?

es20490446e · Answer

I won't do that to begin with.

WhiteWolf69 · Answer

Tell them honestly. Be open and honest

Goatmeal · Answer

I want you out by the 1st

Guardian45 · Answer

Straight up.

kevyhanma · Answer

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