Do you ever worry other girls or guys will take your lover?

Question

I don’t worry about that, I’m so kind and selfless, I don’t ever think I will ever get outmatched by another more attractive girl.

exitseven · Accepted Answer

I do not worry about it. We have been married 25 years. If it was going to happen it would have happened already.

LonelyDeer · Accepted Answer

No. If I had that worry, I wouldn't be with them in the first place.

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

This has never made sense to me. No one can "take" your partner. It takes two to tango, and they have to willingly cheat or leave you for another person. If they think so little of you to do that, why try to keep them around, anyway? As far as I'm concerned, the other person can have them (not to mention they will almost certainly do it to them as well)!

TwinTonyz · Answer

There was an idea I thought of years ago and still live by.

"At any second for any reason at all, your partner can leave and there is nothing you can do about it."

I'd asked someone I was then interested in about this idea and she wholly agreed that's the way it should be.

This shaped my perception of all things and accounts for about 40% of the reason why I don't pursue relationships. I find it odd that anyone would believe their partner is committed to them. There are hundreds of people in your immediate vicinity, and swathes more if one's willing to travel. To think someone would want to experience just you for the rest of their life is an audacious belief.

Lately, I've expanded this to include exceptions. If you're always the best person in the room, if you never exhibit unlikable qualities, if you pursue perfection and produce results, then you may delay likely onset of this reality. That said, it is an inevitability that she will want someone else. If she doesn't want you, there's nothing you can do. To that end, is it even worth considering or worrying about?

natured · Answer

No, not at all , also because physically i'm 100% his type, and he is VERY PICKY (a Virgo) and he also loves my personality, so i strongly believe that he is not even thinking about replacing me... I mean good look finding a naturally tanned with green eyes and brown hair italian with a kick ass personality... *shrugs* ...-NOT THAT IM FLAWLESS DON'T GET ME WRONG... but i had to say it it's so fun  LOL .  I mean other than that, I think it's a self esteem thing in general, if people are insecure they will always be scared, and that might even chase the partner away... at least according to me I might be wrong but i nsecurity is the cause of many many many issues in relationships.  
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USMC-Crossroads · Answer

Not at all. In fact, I prefer it to happen as soon as possible, if it's going to happen at all. Even in my 20's I always felt that if she wasn't marriage material, there is no point in dating. Time goes by so damn fast, seeing someone just for sex seems ridiculous to me. If she's gonna go, then go.

Explorer91 · Answer

Not really, I have my own goals, dreams and things I want to do with my life outside of my partner, sure life is better with them. But if he was to leave me. I have so many awesome things and feelings of purpose I want to Do with my life that could fill my life with meaning until I find a new partner.
when I was younger I used to worry about this because my whole life happiness was based around being with this person, now that my life is about my goals and being with my partner is an addition I do not worry about this much at all. In fact the opposite. I get excited of the idea of who else I could meet in my life. Someone with a different accent, from a different country, with different life experiences I could hear all about, cool stories.
Its just perspective.

Splatzonelover1 · Answer

yes, this what happen to me while I was in college and one girl had a crush on my ex partner and knew is was her was very dramatic and always got us in trouble. I went to a learning disabilities special college. is happen more then once with. one girl threated me to break up with my first boyfriend that I did had. other girls tried to get involved with my relationship when I told them not and they didn't listen to me. I also told guys that I did have relationship that do not trust this girl or women. some women didn't even listen to my partners. this is why i do not want to have a hot looking guys and always run into girls liked that

45Fstraight · Answer

Many have tried and all have failed (including his ex). Sometimes I enjoy watching other women try to pick up my husband. It's the one's that won't take NO for an answer that are the most entertaining.

Anonymous · Answer

Glad to see so many confident people who believe in themselves. Always do. No matter what. Coming from someone who was nothing but good to a man who left me for someone else, I miss that feeling of knowing I’m good
enough before that happened. However, I still feel good enough. He tried to come back but that doesn’t matter. I want to be happy and want him to be as well, and I’m currently with a man who has wanted me since we were 14. Ten years later he is nothing but good to me, so I’m pretty confident he will stay. I’m very lucky to have him

feralmermaid · Answer

Men cheat, women cheat. It fkn sucks, I'm dealing with mine who I knew was but couldn't really accuse him until there was absolutely no doubt. It usually doesn't matter how great or not great you are it's the individual who makes that choice. Feelings hurt, then all of a sudden you are like.. ffs now what? So I never worried because you can't control others actions. Just hurt

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

Sore I mean we they are humans they can slip up but I wouldn't dwell on that, just always find a way to keep the relationship fun and loving. The ball is in their court, however, so if he leaves for another person it just shows how much you meant to him. On to the next.

ZackBan · Answer

Hmmmm usually kind and selfless people don't say so about themselves.
Also they get cheated on the most just so you know.

As for me no I don't worry about that because I own who I am for better or worse with me a girl knows what she's getting and what she's not getting if it's not enough all she has to do is walk away

lovelyhoneybones · Answer

Nobody can take your lover. Your lover is choosing to go with someone else. People get this twisted all the time. If someone can come in and win over the affection of your partner, they weren't yours to begin with. Relationships require committment to succeed. You're not committed if someone can sway your heart.

Anonymous · Answer

I never had to worry before, until my ex bestfriends stole him just for fun because they wanted to for lust while cheating on their boyfriends too. If I ever had to suspect or worry about a future lover going astray, that means he broke my trust already which lead to an unhappy relationship that I do no longer want to be part of.

PI3T3R · Answer

I like the idea of a multiple people in the relationship (takes a village to raise a child)
I am not attached to anyone, belief we can have multiple partners with some rules that suite all parties of the relationship.
The Four Agreement Book is a good foundation
What are the Four Agreements?
Be impeccable with your word.
Don't take anything personally.
Don't make assumptions.
Always do your best.

_bunny_ · Answer

Hm kinda? My man is super dense so he might not even realize it

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

You do realise that 'take' as refereed to in your question makes the assumption that a partner has no say in the matter. My g/f isn't that easily swayed.  Nope I don't worry.

slatyb · Answer

Not at all. My wife is rarely attracted to other men. I'm attracted to many other women but I'm not going to destroy my marriage for a fantasy.

purplepoppy · Answer

Challenge accepted.  It's not a case of being sweeter or more attractive. It's about doing the stuff his girlfriend won't.

yofuknutz · Answer

It sounds like a stupid question but is pretty relevant these days

atiquahbby · Answer

Actually depends on the person. When someone likes me I usually think there's some unique characteristic about me that the person likes. So I don't usually worry

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

"Once burnt, twice shy" as they say. It's happened once already, so in the back of my mind there's no reason to assume it couldn't happen again, given the right milieu. I would hope it doesn't happen again of course, but hope is not a strategy.

meetkitty123 · Answer

No I am not. Not because Im overly confident... And think Im better than all... No anyone can be cheated on... I just know If he attempt to stray... There will be hell to pay! 😈

PuffGirl · Answer

Yes, and I hate that I worry that. Obviously I don't want to get hurt but it also stems from fears surrounding my childhood. My parents split up due to infidelity and it has left me paranoid that history will repeat itself. I don't want it for any future kids I may have either.

Janessa2021 · Answer

If they were able to take him , he was never mine to begin with

kinkyguy45 · Answer

No, I’d let her go, she’d come back. They usually do and I’d turn her away. No drama needed in my life. You wanna leave? Ok, bye

Mofunfour20 · Answer

No because if they go with someone else she wasn't meant to be with me. Better she leave and stop wasting my time if she's interested in other guys

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

No, I can't say I've ever had that concern. I've never felt like my partner's interest in me was waning, so ot didn't matter of others were interested in them

keniyaa · Answer

right I ain't dating no one but I do fear someone else more attractive will take my crush but ion know.

NathanDavis · Answer

she was bisexual, so no... either guys or girls, it was never a worry

Hairylegs222 · Answer

No because I make sure a girlfriend for me is loyal every time I'm in a relationship and she actually takes me seriously. Women that aren't like that I'm not interested in to begin with.

Sugar_7 · Answer

I don’t worry if he loves me enough he will stay and if not then it’s his loss.

On_cloud_wine · Answer

He wouldn’t be my lover if I ever felt that kind of insecurity

designer1 · Answer

I used to. Not so much anymore bc I’m like if my man is that disloyal then u can have him!

Blackcupcake · Answer

no not really and if he can be taken then he was never mine to begin with so she just helped me dodge a bullet

kina003 · Answer

Oho? It can happen. But that's the biggest part in a relationship right? Faithfulness as long as your partner is truly faithful to you then you be at ease.

DiegoO · Answer

Learn this: no one take no one. If your partner cheats on you, or dump you for someone else, it's because the relationship, at some point, became senseless for she/he.

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

They can try, and if they make a move in front of me, they'll get the opportunity to walk away; if they don't, well I'm well trained in kicking ass and won't stop until the twitching starts.

Tunasub · Answer

I myself don't have the time to be worried about that and if the person I'm with is so easily swayed by another then she was never committed to me after all..

Somegirl408 · Answer

no i dont because guys always seem to chase after me so i dont think i have anything to worry about

karaspara · Answer

No if his head is that easily turned i'll help him pack bye 💁

Asianguy123 · Answer

I was so paranoid when I dated first time. but it didn't happen

I_Can_Help · Answer

You will lose your lover, Jennifer. It's not about kindness it's about hotness & you are elderly now :( I'm sorry :(

red324 · Answer

Some of you are in denial. The one that says you've been married for 25 years. That's how divorce happens. You get lazy and the spark disappears.

TexasRed95 · Answer

If I had a girlfriend my main worry would be that I can't make her happy. Not so much that someone will "take" her.

Medhat-M · Answer

Well I hope.. I hope... I'm gonna choose right... And even if they did screw it it's their loss.. Good riddance

Omario2049 · Answer

I understand what I bring to the table which makes me extremely confident and reassured. I don't think I've ever actually accused an ex of cheating🤔. No ordinary guy is any competition for me.

libsaretards · Answer

Nope. Until I have a reason to not trust her I do not worry. Once that trust is broken, I walk.

cth96190 · Answer

No. There is nobody to take. Alone and celibate for 21 years.

clampfan101 · Answer

They can’t take away something I don’t have… And if I did have a lover, me loving her back would include trusting her. No fear.

girlinthemirror · Answer

and the lover is an object who can be stealed? lol... first i will have questions to my lover and then just leave, or leave without questions

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

Either the person you are with hot kidnapped or left you for someone else.  My girlfrihas turned down guys who have tried to get with her.

DWornock · Answer

If she is doing well, there is no need to worry. If I'm doing well, likely she will look for an upgrade.

collie22 · Answer

could happen, i try not to be worried about that. if she leaves i'll deal with with that when it happens. Trying to stay positive

m33lad · Answer

I hope so! I promote the girl (s) I date to go for other guys.

HairyPoppins · Answer

If they want to leave me then go. Nobody is stealing anyone though.

Den1971 · Answer

Nope if she wants him she can have him. Don't run back no matter what happens or is happening to you

scott04sa22 · Answer

They always ditch me for someone else then they move on very quickly after seeing me.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Not that they would take her, but that they've already taken her.

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

No, he's only got eyes for me 😊

Prideful · Answer

I'm single and seeing society I'm already worried !!!

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