Why is there a stereotype for girls liking bad guys but no one talks about guys liking bad girls?

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i think its because there are more bad guys than bad girls in the world.

livin_hi_808 · Accepted Answer

This defines the expression OPPOSITES ATTRACT to a tee. Women or girls rather like the bad boy persona from my experience for different reasons. One is that they as girls have been primped and steered to be an upstanding debutant or at least told how to not be an "all out whore" growing up. So many different views on how to be right and good that the nice young lady allows herself to fall for the opposite to live at least vicariously through the "trouble" that comes along with that particular guy whether its that her parents don't approve, her friends are concerned or she likes that he treats her a certain dirty type of way that exhilarates her.
The other girls who are attracted to the bad boy type are also brought up thinking they personally need to be a certain way and be with particular type guy much like her. But this girl does see that she's attracted to a bad boy. She's taken the time to meticulously cherry pick all of his good attributes and separated the rest. He then becomes the forsaken and undesired "project". (I attest to you that this is true and accurate.) Girls of this caliber strictly want someone to fix. She will object to all of his bad boy attributes which first fed the lust that she now has built in her hot burning loins. This girl is tricky though. To the average guy who finds a healthy, smart and encourages him to change. Then the sound and logical young man sees the change as a positive move. Following his transformation she loses interest and breaks it off to move on to her next "broken bad boy in need". As for guys seeking the bad girl.
Well we have plenty of bad girls in general population to choose from. So we look for the good girl who we can make bad. Seek out the sweet, inexperienced daddy's girl and turn her into a dirty little who wants to please her new daddy. It's the opposites. So I don't know why but it's apart of our DNA that we want the least tainted but most willing and eager to please female to mold and train into our own sex objects.
But this is from my experience is just a sigh of immaturity. Once the girl becomes a woman they tend to cut ties with that bad boy who brought her through the ranks of forbidden excitement and sought out a grown man with stability and characteristics that have drawn females to males since the dawn of existence... APPLES. No, actually they seek out a provider, hunter/gatherer essentially. Men go for a female with a developed body for the deeply rooted internal genetic makeup of those who identify as heterosexual.

molonski2 · Accepted Answer

I think in general terms the women are ( sometimes ) more loyal , guys will tend to try and use the " bad girl " , but with always in the back of this mind having a " get out " clause.
Women often go to the bad money ( drug dealer ) etc , famous drug dealer in Australia , his glamour wife has only ever hung out with crooks , got pregnant to two of them , she loves the " money for nothing " , but as soon as he was finally caught , what did she do? stopped coming , off to another drug dealer.
Its stereotypical for sure , but the gangers mole , bad boy follower , exists more on the female side , its the thought that she also somehow will " save " him , unfortunately it basically NEVER works , they like the thrill , the danger.
Used to run a team of female strippers , one was just naturally stunning perfect breasts and looked like real life pokohautis ( spelling ) , who did she end up with? Massive bad boy , drug dealer , lovely bloke , but just dangerous. Goes with that territory.

msfuntastic · Accepted Answer

No one cares about the guys who go for bad girls. Those guys aren't usually all that high up the social ladder, they have low "market value" among most women. So no one cares what they do. Women naturally have a higher market value and lots of desirable women go for assholes.

MzAsh · Accepted Answer

In rap culture “bad bitches” are definitely pedestalized. Look at Cardi B. Even she got someone to wife her up and make a mother out if her. Some guys just don’t like to admit how much they encourage that type of personality but many men just love it regardless.

TonyV · Answer

I dont think most guys "fall" for bad girls, they realize they are bad but good for some quick easy fun, so they have the fun then stop talking to them.

Girls seem to actually fall on love with bad guys, them seem to seak them out on purpose ( I know women dont intentionally date bad guys, but it's just so obvious to is that they are bad that it's hard to believe woman dont see it)

I dont agree that there are pre bad guys than girls, plenty of bad girls out there.

Girls seem to find the bad traits "interesting", they are bad but still ultimately make the girl think about him, makes her interested, then they tend to fall for him saying stuff like" you dont know him like I do" or "you dont see the other side of him"

Guys can recognize the red flags but will go through with it to get laid real quick then disappear, they know she isn't relationship material but they are willing to fool around so why not?

Novacane · Answer

I think it can come down to what someone already said "@anniisa97"
There is an abundance of men that are lonely or get no attention from women, as for women they get attention from men regardless of how they look. Men are more driven by sex and women are driven by attention. If you really think about women are the gatekeepers of relationships/sex, they get to decide who doesn't and does get one. Men are only as faithful as their options and sometimes they don't have that many options compared to women so they take what they can get. Also, a woman complains more, for being the gatekeepers of sex the often choose the wrong one and complain about how it's "all men" when it's just the men they are choosing, men don't complain as much they just have to deal with it since that's what they can get.

ArztSchlachthof · Answer

You know, we guys use to joke about girls' "I'm different" card. If I am to say which is the more stereotypical sex, it would be the opposite of mine, I'm sorry. Bad girls are like ¾ of them all, so there is no point in calling them like that. I'm judging by their "sexual drive", "level of interest and ambition" etc.

My view is just the opposite of yours - it's because there are vastly more bad girls than bad boys because almost every girl is "bad".

And this is, again, my observation based on experience. It might be just local or because of "luck", but that's how it is here and thus it formed this opinion of mine.

USMC-Crossroads · Answer

Because 'bad girls' are called sluts, skanks, and trash. Just like 'bad boys' are actually assholes, pigs, and wife-beaters.

You can keep all the hot chicks who like bad boys... when they grow up and want to be treated like a queen, I'll be here (... until I'm not).

Explorer91 · Answer

isn't It obvious lol.
men vigorously discuss topics like this as they want to know how to attract women and get laid,
women on a whole can get laid without having to analyse whether guys are into bad girls or not, it’s like who cares, bad girl or good girl he will usually be down.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Because people are less willing to admit women can be assholes, and because its much rarer to find a guy who wants to date an asshole.

There aren't less female jerks than male ones, but there ARE less SINGLE female jerks than male ones. Not by much mind you, because men will often put up with attitudes they hate just to be with someone, but few guys are masochists, whereas women who swoon over the bad boy seem to be much more common.

I personally can't stand jerks, or crazies, or even snarky people.

When it comes to women I prefer the heart of gold clingy types who are overflowing with affection and kindness.

Grond21 · Answer

Women prefer bad guys when they're focused on men who do whatever they want. And they're not focused on the fact that the bad guys often have a lot of baggage and don't know how to live a life respecting someone else. Practically by definition.

Men don't want a bad girl because we don't find a woman who does whatever she wants and is disrespectful attractive. The biological wiring is different.

One bad guy can attract many women, but one bad girl will attract very few men. It has nothing to do with how many there are in the world

Goatmeal · Answer

I think it's a very fair question. My answer would be that women have more choosing power in relationships than (most) men do. So their preferences are both more significant and more obvious.

Aside from a few very popular men, all women have more options than men do in dating.

If a guy opens a Tinder profile, maybe he'll get a few matches after vigorous swiping and a handful of chats going eventually.

Women get so much attention one of them literally invented Bumble to avoid guys initiating.

f4iry · Answer

its bc the patriarchy wants women to be feminine submissive housewifes and men want to be seen superior and an "AlPhA" to women so if a guy liked a badass girl that defied those stereotypes it wouldn't fit with what the patriarch is trying to accomplish lol

ronaldo75 · Answer

Because men aren't as full of shit with our intentions and desires as women are. Men very clearly and in no uncertain terms have said over and over and we want to FUCK bad girls but MARRY good girls.

Women want to change bad boys into good guys and fail 100% of the time. Then you get to your mid-30s or 40s and demand the good guy you rejected when you were hot give you a home, family and fat bank account. When you dont get it you start to hate on younger girls and demand that society and the media find you attractive.

MCheetah · Answer

That's because most guys DON'T like dealing with bad girls and all their drama and bitchiness. Not to mention, there are less bad girls out there than bad guys, and usually the only guys who put up with bad girls are simps and cucks. I myself want a GOOD girl with a kind heart. Bad girls are trash.

Anonymous · Answer

It is because these girls are very pretty, young and broke. So some guys are butthurt that they could not date these hot girls. I have never seen a lawyer, doctor, teacher, nurse or any financially settled down mature woman in her mid to late 20s dating badboys. So if you see a guy that complain about girls dating badboys, then he is just just shallow idiot who can't stand it that the hot young girls dont want him or he still go to highschool since majority of girls who date these badboys are minors or very young women. If these badboys dated ugly, not young women, none of these guys cared. I seriously dont understand the deal with it. So why do some guys care whether an immature crazy girl date a badboy? Why do you want a minor or an immature girl since girls who date badboys are minors or immature? Why dont you just approach mature older women that are not crazy nor very young? Just admit you are shallow

Cathy7734 · Answer

I know several men who like "bad girls" but they don't like to talk about it. For example, one pays a Dominatrix for one hour. The other enjoys strip clubs. I guess men don't like to talk about it because it sounds foolish to spend all that money. It doesn't cost women any money to hook up with a jerk.

lonestar_01 · Answer

Most high value men date and pursue long term relationships with women who are good hearted, want to move with them, and build something worth while with them. These guys who chase 'bad' little girls, honestly they're bums. Met plenty of these type of low value guys and honestly decent girls, stay away from them

CasaNorba · Answer

let's be honest, because its nearly impossible to see a bad girl with a nice guy.

also not a lot of nice guys are desperate enough to go after bad girls, talking from experience a nice guy will always be aware that a bad girl will always be out of his league.

exitseven · Answer

I dated somebody who might be considered a bad girl. Looking back it think I was looking for a new project to work on. She was just way too mercurial.
I think that so called bad girls get a bad rap. They are just like any other girl maybe with a little more baggage.

BuffHeracross · Answer

I love bad girls because they are so rebellious and different. They got that confidence that you can't beat. All the other girls are shy and are like "Oh no I just want to be friends" or leave you on read cause they are too afraid of commitment but the bad girls are like "Who's mamma's little ***toy" and I'm just like 😍😍😍

CasuallySamsonite · Answer

I think a lot of guys in the comments have the wrong image of a "bad girl" ...
Personally I can dig it, the idea of a strong, independent woman who isn't squeamish or incapable of outright violence if the situation calls for it is pretty attractive honestly. I'm a pretty tough guy, I don't have much desire for a prissy, fru-fru / high maintenance type.

anniisa97 · Answer

Because there's less female incels. There's also more lonely men in the world than there are women, so you just don't see women complaining about what men like as much because women in general are not as desperate to get laid.

Feelicks · Answer

It's all about the ways a girl is bad and how it contrasts with how she's good.

In short I like a lady in the street and a freak in the sheets.

I like my women smart, naughty and just a little bit mean. Like a sweet candy that cuts your mouth just a little.

Tonita91996 · Answer

Because people find ways why they can be an asshole so they can do what they want to do. People are like vicious snakes they dont care about nobody about themselves. Their excuse is that you are desperate that is why they act the way that they do but they cheat and do wicked stuff just because they dont care.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Not sure about “bad girls” … pain in the ass girls on the other hand are quite plentiful and out number the rest. Essentially leaving them as a lone option. Leaving the question of how much of a pain in the ass can man handle. Apparently I have a high pain in the effing ass tolerance. Granted, I return volleys.

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

I'm not a bad girl, I'm a bad ass, straight up true ✌️

sunshine69er · Answer

Perhaps it's like, " The whole project , fix IT thinking... thing.  Even the girls mom's love a bad boy 😈  " Bad girls are good fun , but you don't take them home to meet the mother 🤪😜🤣

Anonymous · Answer

There are definitely not more bad guys in the world. Being a bad person is not gender specific at all. There are tons of women who are gold diggers and use guys for money. The reason most guys don't like bad girls is because men are generally attracted to different things than women. Bad boys are popular with women because women tend to believe they can change him and make him be better for her. Men tend to hate bad girls because they are usually prone to drama and guys don't have a fantasy of changing a problematic girl for the better. Guys tend to hate drama and usually either care about attractive, naive woman who they can manipulate to get in bed or attractive loyal women who want a serious relationship. Girls are usually more attracted to complicated relationships with drama and guys usually prefer women with clear goals.

HonestThoughts · Answer

hahaha that's a good question. I had my toxic/crazy girl phase and I know a lot of other guys who seem to go for those types too.

I guess a lot of the "nice guys" like to use the "girls only like assholes!" excuse whenever they get rejected or go through a dry spell.

anylolone · Answer

That makes no sense, scarcity tends to bring the value of goods up.

The reason why no one talks about guys liking bad girls is because guys who like bad girls are held responsible for the obvious consequences of their stupid taste.

And if you like bad people for being bad, that makes you bad.

Anonymous · Answer

Well there is, they are just labelled "ho's", "sluts", etc. Lots of talk about them. Just different labels. You might be partially right also though. And even more stereotypical, women tend to want "bad boys", even the ones that say they don't, were guys generally don't really, they want the "good girl". Well, some like the bad girls, but women don't want to be "seen" that way.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

"i think its because there are more bad guys than bad girls in the world." Then you'd be mistaken with how many "good girls" there are. I put an obvious quotation mark. Meaning bad girls who gets away with a lot of stuff which would make sense why they love bad guys because it turns out they're not so good themselves.

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

Because guys don't want bad girls for relationships; we don't like them. Some men use them for easy puss, but that's it. It's a lot like how guys will fuck and date fat chicks, but nobody actually cares about them or wants them. They're just easy, and a step to something better for a lot of guys.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys generally don't like bad girls. Bad girls go twerking half naked for rappers music videos and guys don't want that as their partner.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/pPw_izFr5PA

There are of course some, that love, run after and even marry gold diggers but i have never understood why they did what they did and I won't be one of them.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

What is a bad girl?
Some gold digger who uses men as their walking wallet, robs them of all their belongings when divorcing, likes to cheat, doesn't give a f. about a guys feelings, babytraps a guy, has a huge ego and sets high demands

Thats what I think is a true bad girl. Not the false steretype girl that is into motocycles, tattoos and reckless adventures.
If you consider the stuff I listed above, there are as many bad girls as guys, if not more

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

It depends how you class bad girls. My ex is tattoos, piercings and races cars. that’s historically my type. but none have been bad

Anonymous · Answer

All women are bad like bad guys and will. chase the same. bad guy.

Mem. just lie th body of the" Bad" chick.

Women. like the body personality and money lf the bad guy and will put. up with stuff.

Most Men don't have access to bad secually attractive girl.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

Because guys DON'T like bad girls. statistically men prefer nice women and women do not prefer nice men. Hence the stereotype.

Interstate · Answer

I have never heard of Guys going after "bad girls". But there are guys who for one reason or another find something attractive about trouble-making girls. They BOTH are in need of help, if you ask me.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Because bad girls are often aggressive and argumentative. Whats to like about non-compliant bad behavior. Its what made jerry springer funny but in reality its not what men want

HawkPerception · Answer

Because I don't care for bad girls. I like them to have lewd minds, because it means they embrace that sexual desire is natural, but good girls are always going to be the most attractive.

boombastik · Answer

I don't think there is a stereotype for bad girls. They are called hoodrats, bad bitches, or ghetto but never have I heard someone refer to a girl as a bad girl unless it was in a sexual way. But that's just me. Maybe it's different in other places.

Honesttguy · Answer

I dont like bad girls they piss me off and makes me want to pepper spray them. So maybe thats why no one talks about it. Maybe guys can't tell difference all they see is ass and boobies moving

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

It's the truth lol it's not stereotype they like bad guys in sense bad to others authoritative and not abusers for themselves.

The guys with attitude who can put someone down if they challenge his authority

devilman666 · Answer

Cause bad girls get a pass and are even viewed positively

JackSmy · Answer

I thought that the guys that liked "Bad" girls, were called "Playa's" getting with the 'Hos, and passing STDS!! LOL!!

The-Wise-Phoenix · Answer

One reason is that by the time most men reach their late 20s they begin to realize that bad girls are bad new. This is not true for women. I know women in Their 40s and 50s that still chase bad boys.

worldscolide · Answer

That's because most men don't like bad girls. I can't stand em personally.

Omario2049 · Answer

Bad girls isn't really a thing because men seek out those types of women for easy sex but have no interest in committing to them vs women seeking out Bad Boys and completely pledging a legion to them and being devoted and committed to them.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Asks a question and typically is vague by there defination great...

jshm2 · Answer

Mainly because "bad girls" tend to be either hookers, strippers, or bipolar maniacs. Nobody has time for that.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

There is, though. There's definitely a lot of guys who go for bad girls.

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

Bad girls do exist they are usually girls who tends to use their physical beauty to swoon guys for their money. They are called femme fatale and they are definitely huge among guys.

chaznthat · Answer

Bad Girls are more sexy in my opinion

FilmGuy93 · Answer

There are plenty of people talking about how guys like bad girls. It just tends not to be as common as the other way around.

Grubhub · Answer

First of all what is a bad guy? Most girls don’t like criminals or murders

Chthou95 · Answer

I mean a lot of girls do date shitty men that have crminal records & act like thugs who break the law. So although not fully, there is some truth to it. But guys don't actively chase after bad girls the way girls chase after shitty men

Anonymous · Answer

Because it's not really a thing. Sure, there are some exceptions, but it's much less common than the reverse because guys just aren't into those things generally speaking.

Azazeres · Answer

We have a saying for men: “don’t stick your dick in crazy”. The thing is, the sex is usually better.

joeblow123 · Answer

We don't like bad girls aka bitches. We like nice sweet girls. We don't like psychos, drama queens or other liabilities.

TheFlak38 · Answer

There is a stereotype for men liking mentally fucked up women. We call them simps, manginas, Captain SaveAHoe, pussy slaves, orbiters, white knights.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

I have known guys who were drawn to "bad girls" (Strippers mostly), and it never ended well. Bad girls are just toys.

NightHawk99 · Answer

We don't like bad girls. We like the good ones. But they all keep going for bad men... The only reason I can think of is daddy issues.

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