Why is there a stereotype for girls liking bad guys but no one talks about guys liking bad girls?

[Somegirl408]

i think its because there are more bad guys than bad girls in the world.

[livin_hi_808]

This defines the expression OPPOSITES ATTRACT to a tee. Women or girls rather like the bad boy persona from my experience for different reasons. One is that they as girls have been primped and steered to be an upstanding debutant or at least told how to not be an "all out whore" growing up. So many different views on how to be right and good that the nice young lady allows herself to fall for the opposite to live at least vicariously through the "trouble" that comes along with that particular guy whether its that her parents don't approve, her friends are concerned or she likes that he treats her a certain dirty type of way that exhilarates her.
The other girls who are attracted to the bad boy type are also brought up thinking they personally need to be a certain way and be with particular type guy much like her. But this girl does see that she's attracted to a bad boy. She's taken the time to meticulously cherry pick all of his good attributes and separated the rest. He then becomes the forsaken and undesired "project". (I attest to you that this is true and accurate.) Girls of this caliber strictly want someone to fix. She will object to all of his bad boy attributes which first fed the lust that she now has built in her hot burning loins. This girl is tricky though. To the average guy who finds a healthy, smart and encourages him to change. Then the sound and logical young man sees the change as a positive move. Following his transformation she loses interest and breaks it off to move on to her next "broken bad boy in need". As for guys seeking the bad girl.
Well we have plenty of bad girls in general population to choose from. So we look for the good girl who we can make bad. Seek out the sweet, inexperienced daddy's girl and turn her into a dirty little who wants to please her new daddy. It's the opposites. So I don't know why but it's apart of our DNA that we want the least tainted but most willing and eager to please female to mold and train into our own sex objects.
But this is from my experience is just a sigh of immaturity. Once the girl becomes a woman they tend to cut ties with that bad boy who brought her through the ranks of forbidden excitement and sought out a grown man with stability and characteristics that have drawn females to males since the dawn of existence... APPLES. No, actually they seek out a provider, hunter/gatherer essentially. Men go for a female with a developed body for the deeply rooted internal genetic makeup of those who identify as heterosexual.

[molonski2]

I think in general terms the women are ( sometimes ) more loyal , guys will tend to try and use the " bad girl " , but with always in the back of this mind having a " get out " clause.
Women often go to the bad money ( drug dealer ) etc , famous drug dealer in Australia , his glamour wife has only ever hung out with crooks , got pregnant to two of them , she loves the " money for nothing " , but as soon as he was finally caught , what did she do? stopped coming , off to another drug dealer.
Its stereotypical for sure , but the gangers mole , bad boy follower , exists more on the female side , its the thought that she also somehow will " save " him , unfortunately it basically NEVER works , they like the thrill , the danger.
Used to run a team of female strippers , one was just naturally stunning perfect breasts and looked like real life pokohautis ( spelling ) , who did she end up with? Massive bad boy , drug dealer , lovely bloke , but just dangerous. Goes with that territory.

[msfuntastic]

No one cares about the guys who go for bad girls. Those guys aren't usually all that high up the social ladder, they have low "market value" among most women. So no one cares what they do. Women naturally have a higher market value and lots of desirable women go for assholes.

[chris_987]

Guys sleep with every girl regardless of there personality, it’s quantity not quality

[rebeliouse]

@msfuntastic
what is a bad girl actually like?

[msfuntastic]

@rebeliouse Steals his money, uses him, acts violently towards him, stalks and harasses him, etc. Usually into drugs, booze, hanging out with the girls, gets into fights with other women.

[MzAsh]

In rap culture “bad bitches” are definitely pedestalized. Look at Cardi B. Even she got someone to wife her up and make a mother out if her. Some guys just don’t like to admit how much they encourage that type of personality but many men just love it regardless.

[Birdlegs]

Bad bitch is more about looks than how she acts or her personality.

[MzAsh]

Where do you get that?

[Birdlegs]

The term “bad” is basically only used for really attractive girls at least in the black community. “She’s bad ash”. Bad bitch is just an extension of that. “I got a bitch who is bad” can just be “I got a bad bitch”. I don’t like saying the b word about women tho so I just say bad personally

[rebeliouse]

@MzAsh
what is a bad girl actually like?

[TonyV]

I dont think most guys "fall" for bad girls, they realize they are bad but good for some quick easy fun, so they have the fun then stop talking to them.

Girls seem to actually fall on love with bad guys, them seem to seak them out on purpose ( I know women dont intentionally date bad guys, but it's just so obvious to is that they are bad that it's hard to believe woman dont see it)

I dont agree that there are pre bad guys than girls, plenty of bad girls out there.

Girls seem to find the bad traits "interesting", they are bad but still ultimately make the girl think about him, makes her interested, then they tend to fall for him saying stuff like" you dont know him like I do" or "you dont see the other side of him"

Guys can recognize the red flags but will go through with it to get laid real quick then disappear, they know she isn't relationship material but they are willing to fool around so why not?

[Novacane]

I think it can come down to what someone already said "@anniisa97"
There is an abundance of men that are lonely or get no attention from women, as for women they get attention from men regardless of how they look. Men are more driven by sex and women are driven by attention. If you really think about women are the gatekeepers of relationships/sex, they get to decide who doesn't and does get one. Men are only as faithful as their options and sometimes they don't have that many options compared to women so they take what they can get. Also, a woman complains more, for being the gatekeepers of sex the often choose the wrong one and complain about how it's "all men" when it's just the men they are choosing, men don't complain as much they just have to deal with it since that's what they can get.

[UncleJessieRabbit]

God's curse to men when his created beings fell. :(

[ArztSchlachthof]

You know, we guys use to joke about girls' "I'm different" card. If I am to say which is the more stereotypical sex, it would be the opposite of mine, I'm sorry. Bad girls are like ¾ of them all, so there is no point in calling them like that. I'm judging by their "sexual drive", "level of interest and ambition" etc.

My view is just the opposite of yours - it's because there are vastly more bad girls than bad boys because almost every girl is "bad".

And this is, again, my observation based on experience. It might be just local or because of "luck", but that's how it is here and thus it formed this opinion of mine.

[USMC-Crossroads]

Because 'bad girls' are called sluts, skanks, and trash. Just like 'bad boys' are actually assholes, pigs, and wife-beaters.

You can keep all the hot chicks who like bad boys... when they grow up and want to be treated like a queen, I'll be here (... until I'm not).

[Ryfyle]

Why would you waste your time?

[USMC-Crossroads]

@Ryfyle Point taken.

[Explorer91]

isn't It obvious lol.
men vigorously discuss topics like this as they want to know how to attract women and get laid,
women on a whole can get laid without having to analyse whether guys are into bad girls or not, it’s like who cares, bad girl or good girl he will usually be down.

[Grond21]

Women prefer bad guys when they're focused on men who do whatever they want. And they're not focused on the fact that the bad guys often have a lot of baggage and don't know how to live a life respecting someone else. Practically by definition.

Men don't want a bad girl because we don't find a woman who does whatever she wants and is disrespectful attractive. The biological wiring is different.

One bad guy can attract many women, but one bad girl will attract very few men. It has nothing to do with how many there are in the world

[askandgiveAnswers]

Some girls have had more history of excitement in areas of life, or bedroom, or drinking. Sexy hot times can be depending on how bad is bad. If being bad as aggressive in sex life, oh yes. You are a better outcome than other good girls that are too soft and won’t be as great is 1 thought. If bad is drugs, that is not the bad type. That is needing help as drug type. Many people pick drugs, people find each other if ya want that.

[Goatmeal]

I think it's a very fair question. My answer would be that women have more choosing power in relationships than (most) men do. So their preferences are both more significant and more obvious.

Aside from a few very popular men, all women have more options than men do in dating.

If a guy opens a Tinder profile, maybe he'll get a few matches after vigorous swiping and a handful of chats going eventually.

Women get so much attention one of them literally invented Bumble to avoid guys initiating.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Because people are less willing to admit women can be assholes, and because its much rarer to find a guy who wants to date an asshole.


There aren't less female jerks than male ones, but there ARE less SINGLE female jerks than male ones. Not by much mind you, because men will often put up with attitudes they hate just to be with someone, but few guys are masochists, whereas women who swoon over the bad boy seem to be much more common.


I personally can't stand jerks, or crazies, or even snarky people.


When it comes to women I prefer the heart of gold clingy types who are overflowing with affection and kindness.

[f4iry]

its bc the patriarchy wants women to be feminine submissive housewifes and men want to be seen superior and an "AlPhA" to women so if a guy liked a badass girl that defied those stereotypes it wouldn't fit with what the patriarch is trying to accomplish lol

[Jay13496]

Good luck getting a boyfriend with that hostile and judgmental attitude. 😂

[MrPlentiful]

Lol with that mindset ure actually the type of girl that will die single

[devilman666]

@MrPlentiful you truly underestimate the lengths that simps will go to.

[Ryfyle]

More like "Badass Girl" doesn't exist.

[ronaldo75]

Because men aren't as full of shit with our intentions and desires as women are. Men very clearly and in no uncertain terms have said over and over and we want to FUCK bad girls but MARRY good girls.

Women want to change bad boys into good guys and fail 100% of the time. Then you get to your mid-30s or 40s and demand the good guy you rejected when you were hot give you a home, family and fat bank account. When you dont get it you start to hate on younger girls and demand that society and the media find you attractive.

[MCheetah]

That's because most guys DON'T like dealing with bad girls and all their drama and bitchiness. Not to mention, there are less bad girls out there than bad guys, and usually the only guys who put up with bad girls are simps and cucks. I myself want a GOOD girl with a kind heart. Bad girls are trash.

[StunningANDbrave]

Beat me to it, good post.

[Anonymous]

It is because these girls are very pretty, young and broke. So some guys are butthurt that they could not date these hot girls. I have never seen a lawyer, doctor, teacher, nurse or any financially settled down mature woman in her mid to late 20s dating badboys. So if you see a guy that complain about girls dating badboys, then he is just just shallow idiot who can't stand it that the hot young girls dont want him or he still go to highschool since majority of girls who date these badboys are minors or very young women. If these badboys dated ugly, not young women, none of these guys cared. I seriously dont understand the deal with it. So why do some guys care whether an immature crazy girl date a badboy? Why do you want a minor or an immature girl since girls who date badboys are minors or immature? Why dont you just approach mature older women that are not crazy nor very young? Just admit you are shallow

[Cathy7734]

I know several men who like "bad girls" but they don't like to talk about it. For example, one pays a Dominatrix for one hour. The other enjoys strip clubs. I guess men don't like to talk about it because it sounds foolish to spend all that money. It doesn't cost women any money to hook up with a jerk.

[devilman666]

What do you define as a "bad guy"?

[lonestar_01]

Most high value men date and pursue long term relationships with women who are good hearted, want to move with them, and build something worth while with them. These guys who chase 'bad' little girls, honestly they're bums. Met plenty of these type of low value guys and honestly decent girls, stay away from them

[CasaNorba]

let's be honest, because its nearly impossible to see a bad girl with a nice guy.

also not a lot of nice guys are desperate enough to go after bad girls, talking from experience a nice guy will always be aware that a bad girl will always be out of his league.

[exitseven]

I dated somebody who might be considered a bad girl. Looking back it think I was looking for a new project to work on. She was just way too mercurial.
I think that so called bad girls get a bad rap. They are just like any other girl maybe with a little more baggage.

[CasuallySamsonite]

I think a lot of guys in the comments have the wrong image of a "bad girl" ...
Personally I can dig it, the idea of a strong, independent woman who isn't squeamish or incapable of outright violence if the situation calls for it is pretty attractive honestly. I'm a pretty tough guy, I don't have much desire for a prissy, fru-fru / high maintenance type.

[PaynefulPleasures]

I'm not a bad girl, I'm a bad ass, straight up true ✌️

[anniisa97]

Because there's less female incels. There's also more lonely men in the world than there are women, so you just don't see women complaining about what men like as much because women in general are not as desperate to get laid.

[MrPlentiful]

True, incels complain about guys girls like being "bad" cause they hate them, not cause theyre bad

[Djaay]

You know that's just not true... at any level. In fact , I will call you on any level you may think is in this stereotypical nature of the question. Because for some reason the bait here has been switched to discredit the opposing party.

[BuffHeracross]

I love bad girls because they are so rebellious and different. They got that confidence that you can't beat. All the other girls are shy and are like "Oh no I just want to be friends" or leave you on read cause they are too afraid of commitment but the bad girls are like "Who's mamma's little ***toy" and I'm just like 😍😍😍