Why do I keep thinking about this girl I don't like anymore?

[Anonymous]

I've liked this girl for nearly 4 years I was close to dating her once but never did, but about two months ago I stopped liking her completely because I was tired of her and liked this other girl way better. But for the past two weeks i dont know why but I keep thinking to myself what if i still like her, what if the girl i like now isn't better than her, what if I'll start liking her again, and I can't stop checking her social media still even tho I only do it like once a day if even now, and it's really pissing me off because i know i dont like her anymore because i literally barely thought about her for two months and didn't care about her at all or our past and i like someone else now way better, but for some reason I keep thinking about these things in the back of my mind. Anybody know what this might be?

[designer1]

I used to go through this mental f***ery with my ex. It sucks, it really does. I thought about him a lot even though our relationship was terrible and I convinced myself that I hated him and didn’t have any feelings for him anymore, so I was confused as to why I was still thinking/ obsessing on the thought of him. I used to check his media often as well. Wasn’t sure why. I was curious I guess. I wanted to see how his life was doing. You probably check for the same reason but it’s important that you stop. By doing this you are giving your mind fuel to continue to think about her and conjure up feelings that aren’t really there. You were probably in love with her and still have some unresolved feelings for her. For me, I had to except that I didn’t have to hate him in order to move on, that my hatred was actually hindering my progress.


Also, the more you fight a thought that pops in your head, the more it comes back to torture you. I had it so bad that I was dreaming about him. Stuff that made me even more confused. Things that twisted my feelings into something they never were. I wasn’t even thinking about “him” anymore. Just a version of him that my mind concocted. So next time you think of her, try to really focus on the thought rather than fighting it off. You might figure out why you’re still thinking of her for yourself and how to stop.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Could be you have feelings for or "still have feelings" that you're not ready to admit/accept..
Could be as you moving on with someone new, it's closing the door on your past with her which brought her to mind..
Really though, only you can know why you're thinking of her

[lightbulb27]

Are you denying your feelings about her and what happened? Did she hurt you in some way... underhandidly? A lot of attraction is sub conscious... rooted in childhood... there may be something you relate to her and in your mind, trying to work that out.

My guess is you are trying to work through something subconsciously that you did't understand and still have feelings. I'm not saying you liked her. Boys are often trained to deny their own feelings and self. Things happen in life we cannot even make sense of as we don't have context. We are left to sort it out which can be very difficult. So much is passed onto us as children when we are sponges.

Girls (and guys for the girls viewpoint) can be underhanded manipulative, subtle... like the "boiled frog" analogy... cook it slowly so it doesn't notice.

I've lived that more than once, I was the boiled frog. be careful of who you give your heart to, and your motive.

beyond that... this may be subject for someone to dig deeply into you and what is going on... counselors, friends, reflection, books, etc..

Social media is a poison in this sense and should be cut off. I've made that mistake as well.

your at the age based upon human history you should have a woman, be working all day to farm 10 acres of land and have 2 kids. our society is really screwed up, be gentle on yourself... were wired for something else than what we are getting.

[A_Bell]

Because you actually like her?

[Asker]

Trust me. I don't

[A_Bell]

You are seething with rage and want to lash out?

I'm out of ideas.

[AJRay64]

Could be an obsession.

[Justneedtokno]

Because we romanticize a lot of things

[collie22]

maybe cause she likes you

[Anonymous]

because you never stop liking her

[Asker]

I did...

[Asker]

Still don't

[In_Trance]

you tell us

[lefleurlotus]

she’s manifesting