Men won’t leave me alone?

Question

Feeling a little frustrated.
i literally lie to people and say I’m in a relationship at work or wherever. People usually find out and think in a weirdo for lying. They don’t get it that I’m so sick of people trying to date or ask to have sex with me. I genuinely just want to not date or have sex with anyone, but then people accuse me of being a lesbian,
i even walk with headphones in the street, sometimes when a guy is near me I even talk to myself like a weirdo pretending to be on the phone, and guess what STiLL they try talk to me.
how do I seriously turn people off more, my body is not even that great. Very average. I have a very nice face though.
I seriously don’t get why people won’t leave me the hell alone, I have intimacy issues and don’t want to date or have sex with anyone and I’m sick of lying just to get people off my back.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

My advice to you as somebody who still goes through this my entire life is this. Stop worrying about your body. Your body has nothing to do with them. Stop worrying about two personalities. Your personality has nothing to do with them. Stop worrying about your overall Behavior. Because you're over Behavior doesn't necessarily mean that they're going to be attracted to you for those reasons. The problem is that you worry too much about yourself that had nothing to do with those men. I'm telling you it for somebody who has continued to go through it her entire life. You need to tell people to mind their business. You need to be very blunt and let them know you owe them no explanation, you're not interested, and if they don't leave you alone you're going to report them. They have no right to sexually harass you. Your body is not your business, what you look like it's not that business, it is simply not their business. Your personal life is not even their busy. They want to get into a bigger because like you said they're trying to date you because they want to have sex. Scratch that. You're not trying to date you. They want sex. That is the key reason to be involved with you in the first place. Without that they wouldn't even bother. Because they've been told it like they got to pursue it like a dog. And then when those type of guys get called dogs they want to get offended. But when you hear the kind of things in a sexual Spirit some people have especially those who didn't wait for a man to have sex. What are you hearing? People are pretty much having sex like wild rabbits and dogs. They put versus sucks. That's supposed to be pure and an emotionally bonding besides physical bonding experience between husband and wife that can only be explored by husband and wife without any prior knowledge of anything other than the necessities of understanding that the penis go into to the vagina, if you ain't careful you at risk for sexually transmitted diseases, and other things oh, and you teach him about that. As far as anything else you only learned about that in order for you to avoid those situations. Not no oral sex, not no anal sex, not know any kind of other stuff that's perversion and goes against the natural order that God commanded between a man and a woman. He does a concern about that they concerned about hopping in your panties see what they can get and then if things don't work out well don't matter if its monthly 10 years later, even if it's the marriage, that we need to dump you for another woman. Many of them now have no respect that's why they go on Instagram, and the other social media, not just reading Playboy magazine cover of Sports Illustrated because they are obsessed with having women. They are not caring about you. When they get you and always and all those two pluses cases that is not of God still want to jump on you that's why when they look at your body you represent what they already been programmed to go after. Sadly women are programmed to do the same thing. Many years and decades ago depending on what culture, men's bodies and woman's body was covered. That's why in Middle East you don't see men be having them so short with, their legs exposed, or anything of that nature. Because it's about to respect and protecting yourself. So that way when you are married you get to the Explorer that part of your marriage. People wrote himself because they were so busy being exposed to everybody's body. Now everybody can't respect with everybody else's body having will make it even worse you can't even respect the body that we have we want to try to have the kind of body somebody else's got. That's how messed up this world has become. But what to talk about what's religious so much, and how oppressive it is.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I know by how I dress on a certain day whether guys are going to leave me alone. It doesn't take much to make yourself unapproachable, ugly hat, weird sunglasses, loose-fitting shirt, things like that. If I wear a little skirt and flats or something cute like that I know boys are going to be all over me that day.

tuvwxyz · Accepted Answer

I have a 3 warning system, maybe you could adapt it - ask politely first, 2nd time be more firm, 3rd (final warning) pull out pepper spray... they don't fear consequences if you act bitchy, but getting pepper sprayed can be quite painful, and knowing they won't get anywhere, at this point would likely rather leave you alone.

Make sure they understand before being sprayed explain (firm and direct on 1st warning), "I'm not trying to be mean, but I really would prefer you leave me alone, as I don't want to be bothered right now", 2nd "I asked you to leave me alone", 3rd pull out pepper spray, 4th you were more than reasonable & they asked for it.

Mofunfour20 · Accepted Answer

If you have intimacy issues and don’t want to date or have sex with anyone and you're sick of lying just to get people off your back then just say that or get another job. you're never gonna get over the intimacy issues if you're lying to others and yourself. Lies and problems go hand in hand, stop.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe you just need to be more firm and direct in your words and tone. Keep it simple. Still nice, but firm. Something like "thank you for asking but I'm not interested sorry", and leave it at that, walk away or carry on with what you were doing. If they continue to ask, say "I've told you I'm not interested, please leave me alone now"

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I think you need to actively seek out a man. It sounds to me like you're really hot and you can have anyone you want. So use that to your advantage. Search for your ideal man; and when you find him, ask him out. Once you've claimed your man, you'll be taken, and you won't have to lie to anyone anymore.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Don't lie then. Just tell people you aren't interested.

clampfan101 · Answer

There are good men out there that will treat you respectfully and start as no more than friends if you desire them to.

K-I-S-S · Answer

Have to be more blunt, wear a wedding ring, learn to fight (just incase)

Anonymous · Answer

You describe things as if you were surrounded by pure desperate men jumping on you.

Yourfriend2021 · Answer

Start wearing Halloween fake noses or stuff like that and see if it helps.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe you need to look like a lesbian so they won’t bother you, it’s a shame that you are pretty but don’t want a boyfriend because of intimacy issues

Anonymous · Answer

LOL and in 10 years when you dont get the attention you will be just as pissed off.

gyaz2 · Answer

if you truly want men to leave alone wear a long black burka n hijab

Anonymous · Answer

Tell them you are asexual.

es20490446e · Answer

Just say you aren't interested.

CeeJay02 · Answer

Don't be nice, tell them to fuck off

Anonymous · Answer

Just give them a little smooch

zagor · Answer

Work on a good RBF.

SamFromFL · Answer

Are you asexual

CantGetItUp · Answer

Wear a burka

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