What do you think of a girl who has a boyfriend but flirts with another guy?

[Anonymous]

She flirts with this guy at work everyday. She really likes his attention. She gets jealous whenever he talks to other girls and gets territorial. They sometimes flirt over text or over instagram. She hides all of this from her boyfriend.

[coldmarch]

Well, what to think? At first sight, she looks like a full coward who can't face to close her relationship before opening to other potential partners. If I see a person doing this, I would start to label them as people with a small sense of responsibility and not reliable in general, that could harm their career and social success if I'm not the only one taking such conclusions.
But before judging, there could be other shades that could add to her justifications:
1) From how much time is this going on? A couple of weeks? She might not even being realizing/admitting to herself that she is getting into this guy and labels him still as a friend because it's a very recent thing. She might still realize it soon and then taking her responsibilities (to break with her boyfriend, or to stop flirting with this guy). So, give her some time, if it's very recent.
2) Are they actually flirting or they're just being chill friends in a way that you label as flirting but that they're not living it as such? Some friends can just really getting along but never stepping into romance or attraction (most of my friends are/were males in my life and I have/had many of these situations).
3) She might have a violent partner and this would excuse her fear in breaking with him. Getting another partner in the meanwhile might be the key to feel "safe" enough to escape from the violent one drastically once and forever.
4) She might have babies and pets, or her boyfriend might have a very serious condition that requires always her supportor, other kind of family-related things that she is regretting or that overstress her and that she can't really "abandon" out of nowhere, so she might be just "playing" without really dating the guy in the end, just to get some illusion of freedom (many married men do this online). Still, this can easily cross the line and trigger a crisis in her life.
5) Her partner already betrays her from a while, she discovered but didn't face the discussion yet, so she decided to take her revenge (maybe she didn't think that breaking with him would be enough) and will break with him soon after making sure she succeeds in the betrayal. Very small justification, but can soften the condemns.

I know you're fishing for collective judgement against her here, but consider also these possibilities just in case.

[tatianamay]

I'm pretty sure she's gonna cheat on him with the guy from work and she's toxci af and I'd dump her in a heartbeat

[teamvic]

Two things, one she's toxic, two she's either gonna cheat on him or leave him for the guy at work

I'm suspecting she gonna cheat

[he-takes-a-part]

Natural

[Tim-loves-it]

I think its hot!