Hard truth here. There’s not much that a college aged man brings to the table when a woman has access to the world via the internet. Women have so many options that they don’t have to date within their localized pools so they don’t this is causing problems for everyone all over the civilized world and women have gotten a completely inflated sense of value when most of them aren’t even half as attractive as an average woman 10 years ago. This won’t change until the government takes action agains the new age of sex work and female on male manipulation and the resulting epidemic of simping. There’s a strong likelihood that this won’t come about until the house, senate, and president are all republican or moderate and acknowledge that men are being targeted for this new age of prostitution.
Focus on yourself, women aren’t worth your time right now, especially if they’re attractive for you to notice. Older guys get the attention now because we are higher value marks for long term theft of funds and have more stable lives than younger guys. We aren’t in a better position. For example, I make roughly 10k over the local median income and it still isn’t enough to get the women I really want and that’s not even bringing up that I have hobbies, have skills, am a trained fighter, and am built like a short fireman. Women, that are normal, are inundated with so much choice that they’re paralyzed with indecision and it results in them making no or bad decisions because they don’t know what to do.
It’s a struggle for us all; I truly hope the world clears up for your generation though, women my age are a lost cause for the most part and that’s a hell I wouldn’t wish on anyone else male or female.
Uhm, probably is because the older man has an aura of authority, and gives off the sensation of having found his path in life, his direction and having his ''stuff'' together.
Key word in this topic is ''giving off the sensation'', or to better put it, perception.
I've discovered that since I'm in a position of authority, style myself and act older - by always wearing suits or mao jackets - and my hair has started to go grey, more people give me at least 10-15 years more and consequentially, I get approached more both by older and younger women.
The feeling of protection and it’s common that the older men like to get to the point. People will make the comparisons and say “there are older men that are immature” but let’s be realistic most of the time they’re mature. There’s a bad batch in every group but some older men don’t have time to beat around the bush.
They’ve had their experiences and their fun in life now they want to get to the point and figure out what’s the next step with the woman they’re seriously dating. I’m attracted to a man that is at least 5-8 years older than me. I’m in school continuing my studies and I’ve had my experiences that was fulfilling.
I’ve found myself and I continue to keep my options open and see what’s out there. I have an expectation to come across a man of older age and possibly date, be in a exclusive relationship, and marriage. I don’t want to be with someone who is indecisive or we’re struggling to make ends meet.
Lol its you dude. Not the girls.
Are you really trying to convince me that the majority of girls in your uni are into older men? It's just not true. Stop looking at women to give you a chance, and take a look at yourself. Why don't enough girls want you? You know the answer and if you don't, start working on your goals and taking more care or yourself. Try to work on your confidence and to enjoy life without worrying about women, thats when you'll look happy, and thats how people start finding you attractive
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Think about it. You want those girls primarily due to their youth and looks. They want guys primarily due to their maturity, confidence and prowess. When I was around 19-25... sure I attracted girls. But when I reached 30 and onward, it was getting stupid. I've been hit on by girls that were 18 all the way to 45+. But when I was 22 girls that age weren't as abundant. Even now there is a 29 year old that wants to date but I prefer being single. Bear in mind that this only improves if you really look after yourself though. If you strength train, are content, on your purpose, and growing stronger, fitter and happier as you age, then everything improves. When I was your age I was skinny, weaker and looked like a boy. As I got older I put on mass, my frame got bigger, neck thicker and still kept a youthful look without the baby face.
Let me put this simply as a man 11yrs ur senior. U ARE NOTHING NOW COMPARED TO WHO U WILL BE IN TEN YEARS.
I'd actually urge u not even take girls seriously until u're passed 30. U have no clue what u like, what u want, where u want to be, just nothing. What makes u valuable as a man is ur ability and utility, at 22 u really don't have any. However girls are valued for their beauty which is at it's peak between 16 and 26. So their fun time and urs are quite a bit different as u're peak utility value is 30-50. Think of ur life as an adventure game where u have to level up ur character, ur 20s are litterally for building ur character... Literally! Just talk to girls so u don't become socially awkward and clueless but focus mostly on building urself. Build network and hoard wealth... Women will come and they will come in hoards, u will litterally get sick of all the girls u will be getting.
Whatever man--just enjoy it when you're a junior in college. You can date any of the freshmen and sophomore girls and they'd love to because you're an upperclassman. You can date any of the junior girls because they're your classmates. And the senior girls who haven't found a dude in their class aren't going to be interested in the underclassmen so you have a crack at them too. Just hang in there--it gets better for a dude.
Of course, once you graduate and head out into the world, you're back down to the bottom of the heap as a 22 year old dude!
That is bc ma y men in the younger ages, especially in the generation that is now between 18 and 25, don't have their lives under control, they don't live alone, have no money, are stoned all day, that's not what girls usually looking for in my opinion.
Why should a girl apologize for wanting a guy with more experience?
When the older guy is older eventually he'll be too old and you younger guys will be in your prime.
It's a balance.
Don't rush it.
You'll do well in the end.
Your impatience right now is pouty... not manly.
Give it some time.
You're going to be just fine.
Would you like a list?
1) Maturity
2) Responsibility
3) Dependability
4) Confidence
5) Know what they're doing (aka they have a job & aren't playing video games 24/7)
etc,
etc.
Boys trapped in adult bodies aren't that interesting except, that is, to easy/cheap women.
I've dated 4 people. One person was 5 years younger, one person was the same age as me, one person was 1 year older and current boyfriend is 7 years older. You have a chance. Don't belive the bs that only dating older men is a real thing lol
Haha yep. A real man is the true prize.
Ever see lions fuck?
The girls just melt. They cream their jeans.
It's time for YOU to do the work. Do what it takes to be a real man. So hit the gym, HARD, finish your education and get a great career making BANK, and you'll gain the confidence you need from the effort. And you'll have all the pussy you can stand. I guarantee it.
In my experience I’ve always been attracted to guys older me. Even the guys who are pretty much the same age as me, have been older by a few months lol. It’s not like a guy being younger is a dealbreaker but for some reason I just find older guys attractive.
That being said, I also know several women who have dated and who are married to younger than them- it’s not an every woman thing, different women are different.
What I've noticed about older guys, in common with myself, is I don't obsessively use my smartphone, have learned to look others in the eye, confront directly, and deal with people straightforwardly, while many guys I know cower at the idea of even breaking up with a girl over the phone (voice-to-voice)... I don't think it's an age thing, so much as generational, where the teens now never learned basic skills that would grow confidence & backbone.
To answer your question... Maturity. Older guys are more mature than younger guys and they've likely already played the field so there's less risk for the girl to be used.
Don't worry. When you get older, those same girls are probably going to ask you why you're dating younger women.
It’s like you and your mates etc.
I joined the Air Force Straight from school and the at about 22 was at college doing higher qualifications.
what got me was the immaturity of guys my age.
There were loads of available girls and we tapped off with a lot.
while we were doing the chatting girls up, the civilians guys our age were acting as if still at school.
Well most women are into guys who are either older than them or around their age, they generally are hesitant about dating younger guys.
Many might say that this is because younger guys are more immature and girls just mature faster than boys and I partially agree with that. SOME young men are immature, but there are some that are emotionally and socially intelligent enough to handle dating. Ironically, though, a lot of immature girls will date older guys because it MAKES them feel more like mature adults, not because they actually are. These are the ones that might end up with immature older men.
There's nothing you can do about girls who want to date older men and are attracted to the (idealized) stability that they may or may not have, but there's still plenty of girls who will date their own age. Begging for them to "give you a chance" because you feel left out isn't going to attract them tho.
s it's probably you... because on my first year in college this was never a problem, even among postgraduate women there were "chances"
and it wasn't just me, for others as well but no... it wasn't the majority
so it has to be you and not being mature enough... a lot of guys in university still act like they're 12 or 16 years old
You have to understand how the sexual value of both men and women work. Women are most sexually valuable in their youth, whereas men must earn their value, and that usually takes time.
A lot of the time it's not so much the age as it is the wisdom, experience and maturity that they are attracted to, older men typically are also typically more put together and grounded then younger ones and have stability.
Older guys are more grounded in their masculine frame. When you're 32 you won't think the same way, trust me. Keep working hard because women respect leaders.
Its all about stability and guidance bc the older guys have experience so they get an advantage to draw from there experience also they could reference them which makes life easier for the girls simple as that
Maybe it is because those older me simply are who they are and attract women because of their sprezzatura, instead of getting upset and complain about it online when girls don't fall into their arms.
Dominant and dominating is two different things.
Dominant people rarely dominate others.
Those that dominate tends to be insecure non dominant ( not necessarily submissive ones )
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