Is it weird if a 23 year old (F) dated a 19 year old (M)?

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That 23 year old may or may not be me. I may or may not have been asked out by a younger guy... in my defence I also look 19 lol

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

It can be weird but doesn't have to be. I did it before but he was too clingy. And thats odd cause i like a clingy dude. But he was clingy too soon. He was trying to get me to move into his college dorm with him lol. Mind you, i had graduated college while he was going onto his second year. Plus we only knew eachother less than a month. He was moving too fast too soon. I mainly prefer someone same age or within a 2-3 year age gap

B_stuart1125 · Accepted Answer

Nope, you two are both adults and the age gap really isn't anything to worry about, it's only 4 years! Is it weird if a 23 year old man dates a 19 year old girl? I don't think so. Lots of my family have larger age gaps ranging from 4-8 years and they're in happy relationships🤷‍♀️

DonkeyDan · Accepted Answer

Oh my god, that's terrible, you can only date someone that is within 12 months either way of your birthday, don't you know the law.

Sorry could resist 😂 how would that be weird your both basically in the same age group. Would you be asking the question if you were 33 and he was 29? I don't think so, so why might you think it's weird at your ages?

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Accepted Answer

I think it's okay for a girl to date a younger guy when she's older
my late maternal grandma was 13 years older than my grand-dad
that's why my grandma would never tell people the age difference
but you could never tell my grandma held her age good

RasberrySlushPuppy · Answer

i know why you ask, 18-21 years old are most often students and usually on university campus living in student residence, which means they'll mostly be at uni libraries, parks, look forward to nights out in bars and nightclubs and weekend pubs. The idea of dating in this scene is just laughed at.
But if the 19yr old was living with at home parents whilst at uni then thats entirely different. This 19yr old is naturally going to be 'deprived' 😅

NathanDavis · Answer

it doesn't have to be weird no... but preferably, he has the mentality of an actual 19 year old, or older... and not the inexperience and immaturity of some 13 year olds, or it might get awkward for you if you have to babysit him through the date...

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

Honestly no considering you two are both technically adults, if the guy were under 18 than yes that be weird and really wrong. But most places considered nineteen years old as adults not to the full extent because he will still be underage to go to a bar but he is now technically an adult so no it isn't weird.

RealMarek · Answer

It is somewhat unusual, probably because men tend to mature later than women. Keep in mind that an age difference of four years at ages 19 and 23 is far more significant than the same age difference when older, say 29 and 33, so if the relationship were to last for a long time the age gap will seem less relevant. That said, if he’s remarkably mature for 19 years of age it should be fine. Keep alert for yellow/red flags, take things slow, and you should be fine.

Rachelspiks · Answer

Why would it be "weird"? I don't get it. Your question is weird.

ohshee · Answer

No matter what age he is he's going to be a lucky man

forthright · Answer

Oh come on, it's a fuckin 4 year difference! You're not 80!

Birdlegs · Answer

Ain’t nothing wrong with it but the looking 19 part doesn’t change anything

Cherry234 · Answer

No it's not weird. They both aren't minors and they're in the same age group. I'm 23 and I would date a 19 year old guy

Anonymous · Answer

Not weird at all. At the very worst, you’re with someone who was underage less than 2 years ago. You’re both adults. In 10 years, if you’re 33 and he’s 29, no one will probably even notice, much less care about it. Don’t worry what other people have to say (except for me).

sarahlumpkin · Answer

After reading "When Rabbit Howls" (I am an honors major in Phychology at University of Arkansas) I will never harp about the age gap between two non-related adults.

K-I-S-S · Answer

I was 20 when my girlfriend was 25. We have been together for pver 10 years now. Not weird.

Youdumbeotch · Answer

Yeah since you’re a female dating under at your young age it tells me that you’re not good enough for older men or those your age

Nick473 · Answer

No there’s nothing wrong with it and its a fairly small age gap. I also wanna say your pic is hilarious

ShyGuy201 · Answer

No, not at all. I’m curious as to why you would think that’s weird. 4 years isn’t much of a difference at 19 & 23 y'all are basically peers.

CuriousPost · Answer

If it doesn't make you feel like its weird, then go for it. I personally can't tell if a girl is 25 year old or a 19 year old specially relating to arab women.

DWornock · Answer

It may be unusual but weird is too strong a word. In a free society, you shouldn't use criticism in an attempt to control the behavior of others provided their behavior is legal and especially if their behavior does not harm others.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Nothing wrong with that. Just please treat him right and don't take advantage of him.

Twalli · Answer

I am dating a 35.5 year old girl, so age difference with a younger guy isn't an issue.

jeffryrobertbabb · Answer

Her friends would probably accuse her of cradle snatching. Having a number of older girlfriends, I'd say that the relationship was unlikely to last. When she finds an older marriageable man she will be off.

CordetteMonet · Answer

No, I don’t think so. You guys are both adults, and it’s only a 4 year age gap.

Lliam · Answer

Your both in the same age range, practically the same age. There's nothing weird about it at all.

SnakeBoop · Answer

Not really. more than legal in the uk. Its not the biggest age difference.

Azura_88 · Answer

No why? 4-5 years gap is okay. What the hell does this world expects now, same age?

belle_kai · Answer

He's of age so its fine. Although I would question his emotional maturity

worldscolide · Answer

Nothing wrong with it.. Just like there is nothing wrong if the genders were reversed.

karaspara · Answer

No not as common as the other way around granted but still perfectly acceptable

Andres77 · Answer

My first steady girlfriend was 24 and I was 18. Didn't last though

DaveToo · Answer

It's 4 years difference, not 40. What's the big deal?

Anonymous · Answer

I'm 23 and a 19 year old is the youngest I would date. It's not that weird.

Caliguy88 · Answer

No, in a few more years age won’t matter. But bars are hard at those ages together.

Iron_Man · Answer

It’s weird because most women are more compatible with older men and they prefer it

ArtieWhitefox · Answer

People need to mind their own buissness. That is Scriptural.

NorthwestRider · Answer

Lol nope  And people need to stop worrying about what other people think

greycadillacs · Answer

As long as he matches your maturity level there’s nothing weird about it

anylolone · Answer

Nope. It would be weird if you dated a cat. Or a 12yo person.

he-takes-a-part · Answer

If there exist a consensus then rest is ill mattered

OddBeMe · Answer

I usually think teens date teens. But this seems fine. Gender doesn’t matter if their of age.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not weird but I feel the same way when messaging people on dating sites who are 18 or 19. It's not wrong in only 2 years older but it just feels weird.

Hillary86 · Answer

You both legal age their a 4 year age difference so no.

TurkishDİxon3419 · Answer

I don't think the age difference of 4 or 5 is that important.

james_d0007 · Answer

No its not as long as you like each other which is what that matters!

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Even if you are 50 and dated a 18 yr old guy, I'll say it is normal.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

there's nothing wrong with that if you like him and you and him click to for it

dolemite89 · Answer

i went out with a girl that was 27 when i was 23 🤷‍♂️

Anonymous · Answer

Age gap is small less weird than 35 year old men dating 23 year old girl

MotorcycleMan · Answer

It's just a number ;)

BCA6010 · Answer

No. Don't waste yourself overthinking it.

Levin · Answer

Weirdest thing I've ever heard.

Dragonpurple · Answer

Only weird if you make it so.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

No, why should it be?

exitseven · Answer

Nope, if you like each other, then its all good.

jasco · Answer

As long as he's ok with it

Wise4myage · Answer

Nothing weird about that at all.

TallAnon · Answer

Unusual, not weird.

clampfan101 · Answer

4 years difference is perfectly fine.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Whatever you are into both adults

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Shark Chunks? That’s a good sign

WalkingBassist · Answer

No big deal as long as both people are 18. Any age

Ninani · Answer

You do you.

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