Guys who can’t normally score super attractive women, does it bother you? Do you care or get frustrated at all?

Question

I don’t mean this to sound as shallow as it does lol, but looks are a thing so I just wanted to ask for guys’ opinions. Like if you see a woman you think is super attractive with a great body and face, super hot beautiful whatever, but you haven’t ever been able to hook up or date a woman like this, does it frustrate or depress you? Or do looks grow to not matter anymore?

Also if you want to add- do you still go for women that you consider out of your league if you hadn’t lucked out with any super pretty woman before? Or do you immediately just not try?

Jake99999 · Accepted Answer

I have a question for you: Why do so many women think all men only care about finding a woman with a hot body who looks like a 10?

Sure there are a lot of very superficial and shallow men out there who only care about getting laid and counting their number of conquests, bragging about it, and the only thing they care about is sex. There are a lot of such men on this site, I have noticed.

Me, I sort of reject the premise that all men are just out there looking for trophies, the ultimate is to be with a model or something. That is just so shallow. I did date someone like that many years ago. She was empty headed, vacuous, selfish and couldn't even hold a conversation. She had a huge ego and everything was about her looks. Sex with her was boring. She was an idea, not anything real I lost interest in about 5 minutes. At the time male friends told me " you broke up with her? What are you crazy?". No, crazy would have been staying with someone like that just for some kind of bragging rights. Yech.

There are a ton of men out there who care just as much about what a person is like on the inside, and personally I don't care how hot a woman is, I will have zero interest if she is not intelligent and interesting to talk to, and is a real, authentic person who I can relate to.

Some of the hottest most awesome women are not the most obvious, fashion model beauties or look like a porn star, but how they are as a person more than makes up for them being maybe an 8 out of 10. Sex just for the sake of sex? It gets boring, its cold and empty. For me the best sex is with someone you get to know, that you care about each other, and it means a lot more than just getting off. And when the sex is over you still feel great hanging out with her.

I have never been frustrated or depressed because I could not hook up with whatever super attractive girl I see. My main criteria has never been purely superficial. I would try if I thought she was cool and I liked who she was on the inside. I would have no problem trying. But she has to have a lot more than just a hot body or I feel like I am wasting my time.

FilmGuy93 · Accepted Answer

Back before I had figured out how to attract women, I was never really frustrated by the lack of female attention I was getting (I figured there was some reason I wasn't scoring, and I was right about that). The way it always struck me was as a point of intellectual curiosity, like what's the ingredient I'm missing. The thought never occurred to me that the problem was with the girls. What DID frustrate me a little bit was the lack of usable feedback. I'd get a lot of women saying things like "you're weird" or "you're annoying," but never anything I could use to change my behavior.

It was only after a friend's older brother pulled me aside and told me that the reason I was fucking up with women was because the person I was/am wasn't the same as the person I was portraying myself to be through my appearance. Now the thing I tell guys to do is focus being the kind of person they would want to touch/be touched by, because women have to ask the same question when guys approach them. Why do I want to touch that that girl? Why do I want to hold her, kiss her, run my hands through her hair? Why do I want to smell her, and what do I enjoy smelling on her?

Women are asking all those questions in reverse about men and men need to understand that women already spend a lot of time and effort to be appealing, so they are hoping to find men who put effort into being appealing as well. Men need to replicate some of what women do, and it's not unreasonable stuff. You wouldn't believe the looks I get from men who don't realize that's not unusual for women to have a 3 or 4 step skincare routine that that they do every day as a simple matter of course. Meanwhile, we roll out of bed, blast our bodies with boiling hot water and rough soap, throw on a wrinkled t-shirt and eat breakfast.

Anonymous · Answer

Understand, most men find most young women attractive. In fact I've never dated anyone I found very attractive other than my ex wife as I was never good at asking women out (she asked me) all I wanted was a partner who loved me and took reasonable care of herself.

After my divorce I tried online dating , but to be honest the only women that responded were so unattractive I doubt I could have sex with them. Part of the problem is I'm from a city where most guys are well over six foot tall. Unfortunately most women around here weigh more than the men. It's quite common tubes a six foot five guy with a six pack who works out daily dating a 259+ pound women with missing teeth.

By the time I left the city I was over thirty and had given up on women. Suddenly I'm getting attention, but I'm not interested.

Understand, when I was married she didn't pay any bills, didn't cook, never cleaned (she did her own laundry that's about it) and I was ok with that given my choices. Considering I was lucky to have a girl at all in this area i was willing to take any abuse to avoid being alone and the chance to have a family.

At this point I've become bitter and depressed and actively avoid women.
As far as attractive woman go, I look away..

"I see the girls walk by dressed in their summer clothes, I have to turn my head until my darkness goes"

VanillaSalt · Answer

I’m disgusted by super hot women. It’s like watching a playboy porno. All the women are big tits and ass with fake moans gaping asses and blonde hair. I’m not even remotely attracted to something I perceive as fake.

I like real. The flaws make the women. A woman who’s self conscious with her stretch marks is going to appreciate it when I complement them. There’s limits but otherwise average is hot hot is not and ugly is still ugly until your desperate or drunk enough.

Not that I date anymore. I’m tired. I see no value in women. The only thing special about them is having children but their too busy putting down the idea of family. I can’t respect women anymore so of course I’ll never find one. Even if I found a perfect one that’s ideal in every way… marriage isn’t an option because she can screw me on a whim. Most women say no to that as well so…

Pj1981 · Answer

I have never pursued a female I didn't think I could get and I haven't been rejected by a woman I pursued but maybe subconsciously I have avoided certain types of women. I can't say I have passed women out of my league cause I've had them. I haven't had to pursue too many either though cause I've had long relationships but if I feel a strong attraction to a woman and were both single then I will go for it. I haven't even tried to get close to someone for a few years. I'm about ready to get back out there though and with most meeting new people happening online I have to admit my confidence is a little down because I have been able to charm my past women in person. Now their are hundreds of profiles to choose from and nothing but a picture to be attracted to.

iio123 · Answer

I think the worst thing is loving someone and losing her so I guess looks grow out as there's always gonna be someone hotter. If you love someone you usually want her and only only her and nothing else will do. If you're thinking ow maybe I want someone hotter then that's not a good sign if you're in a relationship. That's the case for most people. Others use a concept of settling for someone, that's a different story and then yes, they can be frustrated cus they are looking at it all wrong, ther's good and bad in everything. I'd say just find someone who is as hot as you then there can be no problem.

Anonymous · Answer

The world runs on value. People don't want you not because you are unworthy but because you lack value that can be gained and is accessible to everyone. Honestly I've so many women take of their makeup and you realize that aren't any better looking than guys. And they all have secrets and insecurities they hide just like the people who seem perfect. Don't let it fool you. All they have done is hide their shit better than you have. I'll never considered someone out my league over something they didn't even have to work for. This is the problem with girls. Y'all view shit like this. Men don't.

RawIronhide · Answer

So to quickly answer, yes it's frustrating, it only frustrated me in my early teen years.
As you get older you realize how overrated looks are.
I'm not unattractive but sometimes girls act like their above my "league" here's the thing though, there are no leagues.
I'm a hard working, motivated, self-improving good intentioned person. They would be lucky to have me.
If they think I'm not good enough, that's their problem, I'm constantly doing better.

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

When I were a teenager I used to be jealous that I couldn't get a super attractive girlfriend but after being an adult I honestly don't care about looks as much of course I still want my girl to look pretty but being extremely attractive isn't a priority for me.

tropicalbreeze · Answer

Maybe when I was immature and earlier into my 20s. But at almost 30 and having had multiple jobs and literally lots of bad life experiences and awesome life experiences all in the last few years: I'm in a perfect happy state of mind. I'm quite happy single actually. I feel like my ego is enough for me. A woman would just crowd my vibes. Lol. 😘😋🤭

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Once and awhile I will see a girl that is absolutely perfect and feel a bit depressed about it. But it doesn’t bother me for long. Dating in general, but dating attractive people especially is way more trouble than it’s worth.

ThatNoUVAtYourEyes · Answer

I can, and never found a single one of them remotely worth the trouble they expect (attractive/handsome) men to go through).
Just look at how sad Magic Johnson is next to gis wife - sure, she is good looking, seems kind, but also seems to like chatting to boys a tad over the limit.
Most of those women believe they are god's gift and must (not just should) be showered with attention (and preferably money) while they are busy chasing more sex (either that, or you do it and they go crazy - women are generally very bored and refuse to live without the drama)

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

Guys that worry about this, just realize that it's a numbers and confidence game. As long as you take care of yourself and know what you're worth and ONLY go after women you think are out of your league, you'll always end up with women that others consider out of your reach. I've never dated a chick that didn't blow people away. Check through the comments on here from women about how I look when they don't like what I have to say, I've still dated models, gymnasts, high level athletes, and strippers.

I might look average, but in reality I'm way more that and most people know it.

Anonymous · Answer

Sort of but I also see them as abrasive people because of the lifestyle they live. And the fact that I’m interest also shows that other guys are interested which kills their appeal.

Take Belle delphine as an example. Just viewing content it’s apparent that she’s insanely attractive, without knowing anything about her you could suspect she’s toxic. Then when you see more stuff, the nude stuff, and hear about the bath water thing and all that, you realize she is absolute cancer.

That’s basically attractive women: Repulsive and attractive at the same time.

For approaching, I don’t try anymore. When I have done it, it apparent that I become another face in a crowd of guys. Not a fan of that. Plus they usually take approaching for granted. So that also makes them seem weak and not respectable.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Dating for men is different from dating for women. Guys have to work hard and hit the gym twice a day to attract beautiful women. Some need to be 6'2 even. Guys just want a respectful and cute/pretty women. It only bothers guys that dont do the work. No pain no gain

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Don’t give a shit really.

she might think she’s super attractive, however that’s all subjective.

I tend to just go with who I like and has what I like about a girl.

my version of sexy and attractive will be different to the next persons.

it’s utterly pointless even bothering about if or if not you can go for someone super attractive (if this is anyone), you go with who you like look of and is approachable ,

crazy8000 · Answer

What society or many consider attractive isn't necessarily real attraction for the person in question. it could even be repulsive.

An direct brutal honest answer to your question.
Couldn't care less since most female's aren't really attractive. ( mostly a persona female's get/believe without anything to back it up )

BCA6010 · Answer

Finding women with attractive looks isn't the problem; the problem is how many are emotionally unstable, carry lots of baggage with them, or just outright aren't interested in a relationship leading to marriage or starting a family, which to me, finding someone for that purpose is the only real reason for dating in the first place. Looking beyond looks for these other qualities can get very frustrating the older you get...

Youdumbeotch · Answer

Most men don’t go for super attractive but rather just attractive and no I personally don’t try and don’t think women care if I did or didn’t.

They don’t notice me after 27yrs so my priorities are elsewhere, reproduction wasn’t my purpose on this planet

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

It depends on who or what you find attractive. I’ve dated girls that I thought were super attractive but my friends thought that they were unattractive. That’s why I don’t focus on that if I find a girl attractive I’ll just approach her I don’t think about is she a super model or is she way out of my league

TwistedSukuna · Answer

Nah, not being able to score a beautiful woman doesn't really bother me, it'd be nice and all, but I'm more occupied with finding someone in general, like I'd love to have someone to just cuddle with every once in a while again ya know

Finchie40 · Answer

If she catches my eye , I try , sometimes I get lucky and sometimes I get denied. But to me It’s better to try then not try at all , The way I look at it every girl I am attracted to is out of my league. If I didn’t think she was beautiful and attractive then I wouldn’t even bother

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