I think they meant “doing too much to gain our attention” you know? Working too hard at it vs. working too hard!
@CrazyGirl2 oh, thanks lol. I guess I can see how a woman might take that women are generally more fickle like that. "Do more"! "Well now you're doing too much". Honestly I may or may not influence what I think but either way I would appreciate the effort.
Yet look at movies girls idolize growing up. Fairy tale wedding, man goes through great lengths to get her attention, save her, or win her back... But in real life, guy does some sh... like that and he's crazy cops are called and then restraining order... They say and act like its the type of guy they want, but really its not... They appear desperate because you ladies are allowing men to believe that is what you want... dont fight for her love... just dont give damn about it and then shell be so confused why the guy isn't trying to get with her, she start with seeing if she can win his attention now...
@kmg9150 You say “the types of movies you watch growing up fairytale wedding, man goes through great lengths to get her attention to save her or win her back…“ Yes, when we were growing up,! We’re not 12-14 year-old little girls anymore! We are allowing you men to believe that is what we want? Life is not a movie! We don’t “make you think” anything… How on earth could we possibly “MAKE“ you think anything, especially when we haven’t met yet? That’s not what we make you think, that’s what you ASSUME! Like I clearly said in my post, “attraction is like a magic formula. You put too much in it’s ruined, you put too little and it’s ruined”, how is that on us? How are women responsible for decent guys not knowing how to ask a woman out, or especially how to treat women once we are on the 1st date? All of those “assholes, bad boys, players, and womanizers” know how to treat women… That’s how they get to go out with us in the first place! Dress nicely, stand up straight, and look us directly in the eye when you ask us out! If we agree to go out with you, don’t spend the date telling us about all the “bitches“, “sluts“, and “golddiggers“ that have mistreated you in the past… You’re on a date with me, make it about me! It’s not that I’M selfish, it is simply that no woman wants to spend an evening listening to a man whine about how he’s been mistreated by all these other women in the past! That doesn’t exactly scream “I am really interested in getting to know you better“!
@CrazyGirl2 its not just movies from growing up, there's is a great deal within Romance genre that depicts this behavior. "I just want to meet a nice guy for once"... define nice... Like a guy that sees he made a mistake and trying to correct it comes of as trying to hard. You magic relationship cake is more like a complex circuit board of checks and balances with a chance if self destruct of one dont go right... you talk about guys whining about there exs, Well its better than dating some for years and them telling you how happy and in live with you they are only to be completely the opposite in a matter of a few days with no significant event to have caused it... You complaining about immature boys but can you see why they would talk about how women did them wrong... Im 36 and its still occurring, now I could go I into detail about how much the one tried replacing my role as the father of our son, but surely your can grasp why men would feel a certain way to the opposite sex. Further more, so you dont want a guy that gives a "flying fuck" whether or not the girl he said he's in love with is no longer in his life. Forget and move on, says a lot about about the girl, hell people stand in line for days to get a good deal on a gaming system during black Friday, I guess that speaks a lot on what kind of love women really want,"Oh my god he was going to take a bullet for me, what a loser, he doesn't even care about his own life why should I want to with a guy that has no self worth or respect?" "Yea girl, you can do better". You all say one thing when its another that your want. Then You get that and it changes again. Have stopped on those guys and said look, stop talking about the ex, would you want to hear that from me? Pay attention to whats here now I the present, if not ill end up in the past and no chance I. The future... nah you prolly just went on listening and then ghosted a guy making him think it was a decent date...
@kmg9150 LOL 😂. I did not say even ONE of the things you said I did! “You say…” NO, no I actually didn’t! What I said was like a magic formula (ie very difficult to get just right) Furthermore, I never once sad that I, or anyone else, expects you to “Not give a flying fuck about…”. What I said was, we don’t want to spend a first date listening to you whining about other women when you are on a date with us (meaning me specifically in this example). Look, clearly someone has hurt you, like a LOT! Maybe you should spend some time getting over that hurt, before you inflict your vitriol on the next unsuspecting woman! One thing women DO expect… if you are asking us out, you are over your last relationship! I think it is only fair for women to expect that when a guy asks us out, he’s not still emotionally entangled with his ex! (Whether they are positive OR negative emotions)! Good luck to you!
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or when you'd call and you get the answering machine and just have to wait lol
@Nomina I still can't do answering machines to this day... a phone goes to voice mail I suddenly become a bumbling idiot! lol
Lol. Then let's go even further back when there wasn't *69 and you can just hang up
@Nomina Sounds like my idea of heaven... I mean clearly I have low expectations of what paradise is, but hey I never said I was perfect lol
She probably sold it & gave you a sob story.
@hahahmm I believe so
A girl stole my driver's license once. There's some messed up people out there.
@hahahmm Yes I agree with you that is messed up
Yes, when they come across as not too interested, or busy with other things, it signals me that they are not interested.
many things? 🤷♂️😂
it's 2021 by the way. We're like 21 years into the future.
The future is now.
no. The future is after the now.
Wow, you're just full of factoids today.
You're talkative today. I think you're doing too much.
this 2000's music better was anywayshttps://youtu.be/5qm8PH4xAss
Time and space is relevant anyways.
Go for men instead then
Shut up. Don’t be sensitive around here.
I wasn't being sensitive? The one on Anon whos sick of women because he can't get laid, and telling everyone else to shut up might be though