This question is mostly often asked by insecure women which is extremely sad, since in my opinion it should not matter.
But what is your take? Do you think weight is a big deal breaker? If she is an amazing girl, tons of fun In short your perfect match and she is wanting to change (want to get skinny), would you love her the same and support her? Or is that a no zone for you? Is there a such thing such as " Too big to date"? If no does that go for both medically/genetically "fat" or just someone who eats themselves big? Whats the weight limit?
Interested to hear your thoughts!
Guys, would you ever date a "fat" girl?
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I dated a chubby one although she was Japanese and maybe chubby by Japanese standards isn't so chubby in some other parts of the world. She had a very cute face and smile and bubbly personality. Yet she was both much shorter than me while heavier than me, and her waist was much wider than mine.
My only major complaint physically is that I tried to lift her in bridal position one time up a huge flight of stairs and I had to apologize to her and take a break. I wasn't strong enough to keep going without rest. I had girlfriends before her where they could sprint at me and jump into my arms and I was strong enough to hold them and spin them around. I really liked that feeling of being able to hold a girl easily, although it's somewhat tied to my own strength and I'm always looking to improve it.
It is more appealing to me if she is chubby and interested in losing weight for her long-term health. Then I am interested in tackling that problem together with what we eat together and training together (I am a very gentle and lenient coach, so I would not be so hard on her).
I am also always looking to lose some extra pounds. I can maintain a six-pack usually but I would like even more definition and vascularity and muscle. So if she has that interest in losing her weight and she would like to tackle it together like a team, then that is very appealing to me with us motivating each other.
I think if she has a pretty face that I can empathize with and a nice smile, I can be attracted to her. For example, I find Ashley Graham quite attractive in spite of her weight, and she seemed interest enough to lose most of that excess weight since the time she started becoming popular.
That ex I had was very pretty like her with such a nice face and the most addictive smile and laugh. That said, she wasn't so interested in losing weight. She loved taking breaks all the time to get ice cream or snacks from the convenience store. So her lack of interest in fitness was something I found to be a bit of a bummer. That said, I loved how happy she was with herself and her life and her overall positivity.
It depends on the guy. I would never say that any woman has zero chance. And many men actually prefer heavier women. Now, if you are extremely overweight, are you going to be approached by a Brad Pitt type of guy? If you are setting your sights on guys that are a 9-10, your expectations may be a bit off. But if you are more open to guys that are a bit overweight or whatever too, then your chances go up.
If you are heavy, don’t get all down on yourself. Just be who you are, be authentic, accept who you are and rock it. Some mean people may be unkind to you - but ignore the haters. You be you - and rock it.
Most of the girls I've dated were plus-sized (and my height or taller). So yes; I'd actually prefer a bigger girl. One who's at least 5'9", as well.
"Do you think weight is a big deal breaker?" No, not at all.
"If she is an amazing girl, tons of fun (In short. your perfect match) and she is wanting to change (want to get skinny), would you love her the same and support her?" Of course I would.
"Or is that a no-zone for you?" It is not a no-zone for me.
"Is there a such thing such as 'Too big to date'? ... What's the weight limit?" I'd say maybe once she reaches the 400 to 500 pound range, that would be too much for me to handle. Unless she was like 6'7" and up, perhaps.
My personal taste is that my partner's weight should be within the healthy range. After all I want to spend as much time as possible with my partner and staying healthy gives us more time together.
So if she was, as you say "fat", but systematically doing something to be fit than sure, but never if she was just sitting and doing nothing, because that lifestyle is not compatible with my mindset. So I guess it is more about her approach than the weight itself.
Personality is far more important than looks, of course if your just in it for a hookup, I'd imagine looks are more important (never just hooked up so can't say for sure.)
I've seen plenty of people over the years who were young, attractive and didn't age well. Now a lot of those skinny high school girls who rejected me cause I was slightly over weight, are massively over weight and I'm still slightly over weight.
As long as she is willing to date and try her best, I wouldn't mind. I even dated a girl once who was overweight, and on one of our dates we hiked a tough mountain trail to a cave. It was hard as heck for her but she gave it her best shot and succeeded.
I was way faster at her in hiking, but she had to sit down every 5 to 10 minutes... thing is in the end I suppose I helped her to start to get more active.
naw. and of course it should matter. it is very important to have a long term healthy partner. that's why men don't look for that. yeah sure you might feel healthy now and you might be for longer. but being fat is not exaclty a predictor of good health... so i think there's nothing wrong with people who are looking for a long term partner to want that.
after all, it's not like that's a thing you have no power over. it's your decision to be fat. it's not like having a short dick, which you litterally can't possibly change.
as a guy I used to be obese and the harsh reality is that no one wants you and trust me its true no matter what people say ''you will find your love'' blah blah its all bullshit you really have to have healthy body because obese % is not healthy at all
I myself workout daily and I don't have huge muscles but I have notices gains and more leaner than before this feels good so I focus on dating a girl around this so we can share common sense etc you don't have to be gym rat but go enough so you keep your body nice
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On my bumble a financial consultant keeps appearing. I like businesswomen and she has attributes I like in a, woman. However, blinded by what others would think I always swiped no. I am short but she is shorter. I know with my physique, it's not very muscular and giving my height, ladies may not be attracted to me. Here was a smart businesswoman and I turned her down often because she was overweight. Then covid loneliness made me take, stock and realise, I am not been fair to myself. Last time I forgot to extend her response when I swiped for yes. I am ready to pay for the rematch amount for when she appears again. You will find someone that will love you for who you are
It really depends on the guy. You got to be realistic that most attractive/fit guys are most likely not going to be into you. A small fraction of them might have a fat fetish but that’s actually less common than people make it out to be.
I remember I had an old female roommate a few years ago (she was 32 and I was 29) who had a pretty face, good career and decent skin. But she was also about 30lbs overweight. I asked her one time if she was dating anyone and her response was “oh I’m really picky”. I remember looking at her and just shaking my head and thinking to myself “you got to be kidding”.
Don’t be like her but also don’t think you can’t get anyone because you definitely can. But you need to be realistic. You will most likely be best suited with other heavy guys.
That would be a no go for me. We could definitely be friends, but I date girls who I view as potential sexual partners. Just because I like someone doesn't mean that I would want to have sex with them. They have to look fuckable based on my personal taste.
And, honestly, I want a partner that I feel proud to be with. If that sounds shallow, I don't care.
I workout hard everyday and been eating healthy for over 12yrs. The lazy personality behind the fat person is what disgusts me far more than her overweight appearance. It's the complete opposite of my personality. No I will not date a super lazy overweight woman. On top of that, the health issues are a lot higher, especially when getting older. If she changes her lazy personality somehow then let's have a gym date and I'll guide her to eating a better diet.
Yeah and they are always a victim about it. I have a medical issue. Uh what do you call a diagnosis of eats too much junk food and sits around all day? Just shows their terrible personality. Only fucked up people do that victim shit.
Perfect answer, I also dont like that personality that comes with it. Its that personality trait that then manifests in being fat next thing u know she ain't taking no showers and stinks.
No. And it's never really about a weight number. Two women could be the same weight and height yet one is toned and has a nice shape and the other looks like a melting ball of butter. Or a woman could be heavier than another at the same height and the heavier one is in better shape. See, muscle weighs more than fat. The main thing is the shape and her lifestyle.
