Guys, would you ever date a "fat" girl?

Question

This question is mostly often asked by insecure women which is extremely sad, since in my opinion it should not matter.

But what is your take?
Do you think weight is a big deal breaker?
If she is an amazing girl, tons of fun In short your perfect match and she is wanting to change (want to get skinny), would you love her the same and support her?
Or is that a no zone for you?
Is there a such thing such as " Too big to date"?
If no does that go for both medically/genetically "fat" or just someone who eats themselves big? Whats the weight limit?

Interested to hear your thoughts!

GoldenAxer · Accepted Answer

I dated a chubby one although she was Japanese and maybe chubby by Japanese standards isn't so chubby in some other parts of the world. She had a very cute face and smile and bubbly personality. Yet she was both much shorter than me while heavier than me, and her waist was much wider than mine.

My only major complaint physically is that I tried to lift her in bridal position one time up a huge flight of stairs and I had to apologize to her and take a break. I wasn't strong enough to keep going without rest. I had girlfriends before her where they could sprint at me and jump into my arms and I was strong enough to hold them and spin them around. I really liked that feeling of being able to hold a girl easily, although it's somewhat tied to my own strength and I'm always looking to improve it.

It is more appealing to me if she is chubby and interested in losing weight for her long-term health. Then I am interested in tackling that problem together with what we eat together and training together (I am a very gentle and lenient coach, so I would not be so hard on her).

Jake99999 · Accepted Answer

It depends on the guy. I would never say that any woman has zero chance. And many men actually prefer heavier women. Now, if you are extremely overweight, are you going to be approached by a Brad Pitt type of guy? If you are setting your sights on guys that are a 9-10, your expectations may be a bit off. But if you are more open to guys that are a bit overweight or whatever too, then your chances go up.

If you are heavy, don’t get all down on yourself. Just be who you are, be authentic, accept who you are and rock it. Some mean people may be unkind to you - but ignore the haters. You be you - and rock it.

MCheetah · Answer

Most of the girls I've dated were plus-sized (and my height or taller). So yes; I'd actually prefer a bigger girl. One who's at least 5'9", as well.

"Do you think weight is a big deal breaker?"
No, not at all.

"If she is an amazing girl, tons of fun (In short. your perfect match) and she is wanting to change (want to get skinny), would you love her the same and support her?"
Of course I would.

"Or is that a no-zone for you?"
It is not a no-zone for me.

"Is there a such thing such as 'Too big to date'? ... What's the weight limit?"
I'd say maybe once she reaches the 400 to 500 pound range, that would be too much for me to handle. Unless she was like 6'7" and up, perhaps.

Mango-man · Answer

Well... It depends on circumstances

My personal taste is that my partner's weight should be within the healthy range. After all I want to spend as much time as possible with my partner and staying healthy gives us more time together.

So if she was, as you say "fat", but systematically doing something to be fit than sure, but never if she was just sitting and doing nothing, because that lifestyle is not compatible with my mindset.
So I guess it is more about her approach than the weight itself.

Dragonpurple · Answer

Personality is far more important than looks, of course if your just in it for a hookup, I'd imagine looks are more important (never just hooked up so can't say for sure.)

I've seen plenty of people over the years who were young, attractive and didn't age well. Now a lot of those skinny high school girls who rejected me cause I was slightly over weight, are massively over weight and I'm still slightly over weight.

As long as she is willing to date and try her best, I wouldn't mind. I even dated a girl once who was overweight, and on one of our dates we hiked a tough mountain trail to a cave. It was hard as heck for her but she gave it her best shot and succeeded.

I was way faster at her in hiking, but she had to sit down every 5 to 10 minutes... thing is in the end I suppose I helped her to start to get more active.

genericname85 · Answer

naw. and of course it should matter. it is very important to have a long term healthy partner. that's why men don't look for that. yeah sure you might feel healthy now and you might be for longer. but being fat is not exaclty a predictor of good health... so i think there's nothing wrong with people who are looking for a long term partner to want that.

after all, it's not like that's a thing you have no power over. it's your decision to be fat. it's not like having a short dick, which you litterally can't possibly change.

Jonny59 · Answer

as a guy I used to be obese and the harsh reality is that no one wants you and trust me its true no matter what people say ''you will find your love'' blah blah its all bullshit
you really have to have healthy body because obese % is not healthy at all

I myself workout daily and I don't have huge muscles but I have notices gains and more leaner than before this feels good
so I focus on dating a girl around this so we can share common sense etc you don't have to be gym rat but go enough so you keep your body nice

Anonymous · Answer

On my bumble a financial consultant keeps appearing. I like businesswomen and she has attributes I like in a, woman. However, blinded by what others would think I always swiped no. I am short but she is shorter.
I know with my physique, it's not very muscular and giving my height, ladies may not be attracted to me.
Here was a smart businesswoman and I turned her down often because she was overweight. Then covid loneliness made me take, stock and realise, I am not been fair to myself. Last time I forgot to extend her response when I swiped for yes. I am ready to pay for the rematch amount for when she appears again. You will find someone that will love you for who you are

backblueblack22 · Answer

It really depends on the guy. You got to be realistic that most attractive/fit guys are most likely not going to be into you. A small fraction of them might have a fat fetish but that’s actually less common than people make it out to be.

I remember I had an old female roommate a few years ago (she was 32 and I was 29) who had a pretty face, good career and decent skin. But she was also about 30lbs overweight. I asked her one time if she was dating anyone and her response was “oh I’m really picky”. I remember looking at her and just shaking my head and thinking to myself “you got to be kidding”.

Don’t be like her but also don’t think you can’t get anyone because you definitely can. But you need to be realistic. You will most likely be best suited with other heavy guys.

Lliam · Answer

That would be a no go for me. We could definitely be friends, but I date girls who I view as potential sexual partners. Just because I like someone doesn't mean that I would want to have sex with them. They have to look fuckable based on my personal taste.

And, honestly, I want a partner that I feel proud to be with. If that sounds shallow, I don't care.

Hairylegs222 · Answer

I workout hard everyday and been eating healthy for over 12yrs. The lazy personality behind the fat person is what disgusts me far more than her overweight appearance. It's the complete opposite of my personality. No I will not date a super lazy overweight woman. On top of that, the health issues are a lot higher, especially when getting older. If she changes her lazy personality somehow then let's have a gym date and I'll guide her to eating a better diet.

hahahmm · Answer

No. And it's never really about a weight number. Two women could be the same weight and height yet one is toned and has a nice shape and the other looks like a melting ball of butter. Or a woman could be heavier than another at the same height and the heavier one is in better shape. See, muscle weighs more than fat. The main thing is the shape and her lifestyle.

Miristheiss · Answer

No.
I have to be physically attracted to a romantic partner.

I would have dated thicker, curvier girls, girls that were bigger but in a healthy sort of way. I wouldn't dated girls that had nice, hourglass figures but were a little bigger, just a little on the chubby side.

Full blown fat? Rolls and substantially overweight? No.

humpbackjack · Answer

Sad to say there has to be some attraction there to get my attention or to get me thinking about dating but I think if I knew her and got to really see her inner spirit and it just glowed so clean and bright I would be able to support and stand by her and even help her to figure out a good diet and solid workout routine. I believe I would see her as who I know she’s gonna be

VanillaSalt · Answer

Not anymore. I’ve done it she wanted to workout for years and never did. At the end she was 400lbs and I said never again. Never ever again. I’m pretty loose with my standards but I won’t bend on this one.

Anonymous · Answer

Fat girls aren't for me. And hey, so many of them still expect a really fit guy anyways which is hilarious. Nah, especially if she's fat BEFORE having a few kids? That's just a recipe for disaster. No offense, but she's gotta be hot enough for me to get an erection to at least.

Dennisjf12 · Answer

Fat girl, that depends. I would to see her and meet her to see what she is like. I am a fat guy, too so. You should expect to have a skinny girlfriend, what we like or don't like can not ofter be put into words what we want or don't want we have to meet that person to see what they're like.

loveslongnails · Answer

I'd never date a FAT girl, and by that I mean significantly overweight with jelly rolls and cellulite all over her. But I WOULD date a somewhat overweight girl who was trying to get toned or down to a better weight. This is especially true if she's a fabulous person in many other respects. A girl can always LOSE weight, but she can't GAIN a personality. I prefer a girl to be more than 50 pounds lighter than me, depend on her height and build.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Yes there is definitely too big. Nothing can make up for it either. Total deal breaker. I could never be with someone who doesn't weigh significantly less than I do. Usually 130lbs is max cut off and less is ideal. Most of my girlfriend weigh like 95 lbs

Anonymous · Answer

Not since I read that fat girls won't be with fat guys. Why would I give them any consideration? It is just as bad as women who say they won't date a guys with kids but they cry and moan that men won't date a single mother.

What percentage of women are hypocrites?

ToastyOats · Answer

99 percent of women who are fat are some combo of stupid, lazy, low discipline and other mental deficits. This amazing personality fat girls is one in a million.
I would date a fat girl if she would use my health knowledge to lose weight, but I would never accept her as she is! This recently happened to me, first mention of her getting healthier, boom, blocked.
Just shows how little she would respect her partner.
No man wants to be with a fat girl!

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

Depends on what you consider fat. I’ve dated girls that some people would consider fat that I thought were just curvy. Also i only date curvy women, I do not like size zero girls like a lot of American people do. As for “is there a weight limit” yes of course not to be rude but I’m not going to start a relationship with a women that is 600 pounds

Twalli · Answer

I don't date anyone who isn't a friend. Therefore I have no problem hanging out with a fat girl. I won't date her though. I am rather small and skinny. I don't mind height, because that can't change. Weight is a different story. A girl who is unable to control her weight is not attractive. Likewise I wouldn't date an anorexic girl for the same reason.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I won't date a ''fatty''. Myself, I take care about my mass - I expect the same from ''my'' girl. My limit is relatively 'low'.

XSea-Sonic · Answer

Most people in America are considered overweight or obese via their BMI. So yes.
Moreover, weight has nothing to do with one’s personality. It would be horribly shallow to discount anyone with an elevated BMI.

Jouth · Answer

Some people are more genetically pre disposed to being fat, but anyone can get healthy. I wouldn't date a girl who was fat. Though if she was trying to get healthy and was actively working on it with success, I could see myself being a part of that relationship.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Not long term. Theyre often emotionally unstable. There comes a certain confidence when your body is capable of running 2 miles. You dont look like bear food

cal5h23 · Answer

It depends on who you want to date. Some guys love big girls and thats there thing. Personally for me im a fitness junkie and would like someone who is more on my spectrum. My opinion though if you slim down you have more options to choose from. But girls no matter what weight or height always have more options then dudes so it depends on what type of man you want

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely. I’m with a plus size girl now and she is fun and sweet. Every once in a while when we go out, I’ll see some guy getting berated by his girlfriend who is in shape but he will stay with her even though she treats him like garbage because she has that “perfect body”.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I wouldn’t no it’s not something I’m attracted to and I’m a physical/fitness kind of guy work manual labor, workout etc I like staying active. i want someone like me in that respect.

MTC29 · Answer

If she's actually ugly and obese then I'd have to say pass. If she is simply overweight, that's not an automatic barrier.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't because of my back, my bedroom activities take a certain way that would be dangerous for my back to conduct them with a heavier woman, over say 180lb

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