Can I PM you? I like that response and I myself need some advice
@Hdivrvr Well, you never know. I guess it's up to her to accept or refuse not forcing anything.
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I think we all go through "lumps" til we find someone and make it work, then you forget about the others, that fades away as you focus on your new life. that's what I've done. Again, there's always work, if want a nice garden... gotta do work to tend it, build it, work it, enjoy it:)
Sometimes this backfires. I know plenty of girls who were interested in a guy but the guy kept eggs in different baskets and the girls found out. Girls always find out if you're talking to other girls. Hence the sudden 180 and you don't know what you did wrong its because they have found your other baskets
@pleaseloveme People aren't exclusive until they are exclusive. When 2 go out initially it is common that they aren't only dating one person. That changes when they become exclusive. OP hasn't even said if he's even had one date with this person. But, back to his question. How do you deal with rejection. You don't put this girl you aren't really even dating yet on a pedestal. It is too early to act like she is the only girl in the world. Date some other women. Who knows, you may not even like her the best after meeting others. Being rejected by someone you hardly know shouldn't be anything at all to care about. If someone you've been dating for 2 years DUMPS you and you envisioned marrying them... that is something you'd have to overcome and "deal" with. "I've been TALKING to this girl" that isn't a situation in which you should have to worry that much about rejection. The more girls you meet and talk to and the more options you have... the less you'll care about getting rejected by someone you are just talking to.
You would be suprised what "just talking to someone" means to them. People filter things way differently. Something that may be casual dating to u, may be super meaningful to someone else. You just never know.I had a guy who asked me to be his girlfriend on the first date to which i agreed then a month later found he was still looking to date around. I mean under that scenario i wouldve assumed we were exclusive but i guess he still needed his other baskets instead of confessing he wasn't that into me. That was just a personal note Im sure OP isn't like this. Just kinda painting a picture of miscommunication and misunderstanding
@pleaseloveme Yes, if a guy asked you to be his girlfriend that should definitely mean that you two a an exclusive couple. He should be off the dating market and not be trying to get with any other girls and the same for you. That seems shady of him.
Dude. Maybe she has a sick relative and can't answer her messages as quickly as she used to. Talk about projection!
@NicoletteXO Well obviously stuff like that goes without saying. This question is regarding rejection in the sense of, she's not interested in you. The irony of you trying to manipulate that frame to fit a bias narrative is not lost on us readers, lol.
I'm not trying to manipulate anything. I'm suggesting that the OP (and you, and me) actually don't know why she has changed her communication patterns. He never even asked her! He hasn't actually even been obviously rejected. Absolutely anything could have been happening. It is absurd to imagine that she is 'rejecting the archetype of the unknown' when she could be in bed with a flu. Occam's razor, man! I'm not saying there is no possibility of what you mentioned, but how about eliminating the basic stuff, before overthinking.
I just responded from the title, pertaining to rejection from the jump, might say anything. What this guy is talking about is lost interest which is not the same as rejection.
Well... MAYBE. Maybe it's lost interest, or maybe she has actually had something happen in her life that is causing her to be less available. The point is, he hasn't even asked her.
This debate as nothing todo with the actually question on hand where in my question did I state she had stopped talking me, I merely said she has gone from liking me to the opersite.
Cool. Well, it would help everyone if you actually explained your problem clearly.
Don't listen to this. This is what women who like to play with guys feelings say. They'll always have a " justification" for it. In reality there is no justification. Your best move now is ignore her. Move on, like you dropped her flat. Eventually she's going to notice her words are having no affect on you. And she'll turn it up to get your attention back. Because that's what you are to her, nothing more.Well you're back in the power position or a powerful as you cab get with her. Now you can. play with her head if you wish. Just imagine her as a cat and you got a string. Personally I'd just move on. But it's up to you man. Good luck.
@ChiTown33 I agree with you 100%. The girl gave terrible advice indeed. Reality is, the girl has no interest in him and would only want free attention/validation.
@TruthBringer I'll agree with her on one point she may have been hurt in the past. And I'm sorry if that be the case but that doesn't give her the right to put the hurt on some guy and then try to rationalize it.But this key about how women think about guys. Guys really don't have feelings until their in a relationship with the guy. Even then her feelings will ALWAYS supercede his. That's not to say they don't care about guys feeling in general but it isn't empathy. It's more like pity. And no guy wants to be looked down on.
I agree. Being friends with someone who rejects you is accepting torture.
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