Because most are afraid of rejection and are obvious on how approaching works in their favor. When you approach, you make it known that you're interested and pursuing whatever possibilities you'd like with a man. It just shows that women really don't want to take initiative if they're gonna go home empty handed, which is not always a bad thing.
I've approached plenty of women over the years and where we go after the approach depends on the compatibility and availability. You have more control of your date life if you approach or shoot your shot. Not by waiting on the sidelines and being "Friends" with a person, hoping to find the right time to confess your feelings when you've already lose by being in the so called "friend zone".
Shoot your shot ladies and don't be afraid of getting rejected or coming across a man that's full of crap. We men that are actively dating and approaching women, deal with this on the regular basis. You get social experience and improve your social skills.
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Because women are weak emotionally… surviving hardship isn’t the same as thriving in it… women survive many emotional hardships but they never seem to thrive in it. For instance… all these women posting “where have all the men gone” and crying about not being approached. They complain to society to fix the things they don’t like where as men, because it’s not only expected but our only real choice, have to “man up” and face harsh truths.
Therefore men have to put themselves out there because women don’t want to. It’s the double standards of the meek… women are both physically and mentally the weaker gender. Although there’s argument that showing emotion if healthy and allows a person to be stronger for longer but in terms of handling great mental turmoil like rejection -.- men are just better. Besides in nearly every species men are sacrificial for the betterment of women and the species anyway. Hell many insects eat the male like spiders and mantis.
I used to approach guys and sometimes I still do but the thing that stopped me is I realized you don’t know who somebody is until your close to them and how attractive or unattractive somebody is on first impression usually says very little about how good or bad they would be as a boyfriend or partner, and the best way I know of reading a guys character is to let him come to me as opposed to me chasing him down, otherwise, you might spend years chasing somebody only to learn you don’t like them at all.
I always did. If I liked someone I learned early on to do something about it.. at least ask Q’s. Don’t miss a good opportunity you will alway regret. Why wait for them to make the first move? If they are clueless and don’t see you like them you could end up waiting forever.
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I think its cause women finally realizing how effing hard it is to ask out the other sex and are finally becoming humbled how traditional relationships are.
YET the majority of women still are out here demanding their freedoms ignorant to the fact that the real guys who want WIFE material girlfriends don't want girls with high body counts. Which is the major irony when women demand to be allowed to date and or have sex with as many guys as they want is they eventually just end up unable to keep a relationship and earn a reputation as "used" goods. The latter of this statement is like double whammy when a single mother ignorantly thinking for herself and not the massive amount of trauma she is about to send her kid through.I once approached a guy, and told him I was interested and wanted to get to know him better before I decide if he is boyfriend material. He proceeded to lie, and made me hear what I wanted to hear in order to get sex, only for me to discover I'm not actually attracted to who he is as a man.
Women should only make a move if they're friends with a guy and have observed him in social situations to gauge what kinda man he is.Been there done that and it's never quite worked in my favor so I decided to just choose from whoever approaches me. It's not the best way but I don't want to go through the nonsense of approaching again. I don't want to settle but I'm tired of being single.
Here's been my experience with approaching over the years:
-guy completely ignores me
-guy seems anxious, bored or annoyed
-guy seems interested but doesn't make a move
-guy takes my number or gives me his but doesn't reach out nor respond to me reaching out
-guy and me text for weeks only for me to find out that he's takenFear of rejection maybe? That's why I don't do it anymore. I did it a few times when I was 13, and I even asked my friends to go tell my crushes about it. They didn't really care, which is fine but, I kinda became a school joke because then everybody knew about it. And now things are really awkward when I see my old crushes.
I guess in my opinion is because girls like me get hurt from guys. They could be the nicest but literally …. they sometimes manipulate us girls causing us drama in our life so that happened to me several times in over my high school life. But believe it or not it’s true. But I hope this helps as am hoping my advise helps if u need to ask more questions go for it.
Because when it comes to you guys unfortunately we never know what s to found out. A majority of us women have already been assaulted by a man at least once or we know someone who did and mostly for no reason. We welcome you but we don’t jump in a potential trap
Speculating about why is useless because it won't change the world or make your situation better. Focus on things you can change and what you can do to achieve success. Don't worry about why the world is how it is, worry about what you can do to achieve your goals
Not all women are confident enough. Some of us are just as shy and scared of rejection as men are. We're not all 10s.
I wish I had the courage to approach more often but years of bullying, poor body image and low self esteem left me feeling undesirable both physically and as a person. I know it's mostly in my head but it's hard to break free from these thoughts.Go to other countries like Philippines or Thailand or anywhere in SE Asia.
The women pursue men even harder than men do them! You live in the West where there are too many beta males and white knight simps who praise and worship the ground of even AVERAGE females, so it's gotten to these women's heads. Now we have 4s, 5s and 6s walking around like 9s and 10s. Go overseas and it's opposite!Because they don't need to. Isn't that obvious? Also, there's still a lot of bad stigma around women approaching men.
That being said, more and more women are starting to initiate more. If I compare today's dating world with the dating world of, say, 10-15 years ago, a lot has changed in that regard.because hot girls don't have to settle for average looking joes while they can score hot guys. what makes you think the hot girl that you're checking out, has to settle for you? she has plenty of guys checking her out, from the ugly to hot ones.
Because they're all either feminists or gay (aka "bi") now. There are no more straight or romantic women left. Also, because many women are cowardly and why would they do extra work if they don't have to?
Cause women get made fun of for doing that. I asked out my first boyfriend and this girl in class basically said that was weird and boys are the ones that should be asking girls out so now I’m probably never going to do that again
Well you can see from their responses that most of them are weak people and/or entitled.
Girls that want to do it, but get nervous are respectable. But the more a girl’s reasons differ from that the more unattractive they get, and fast. Girls that refuse to approach are just less respectable women.Simply put: Why should they?
They got used to getting attention and approached by 100 fuckboys so that they don't need to do the approaching.
Still it's not a good thing that it is the way it is but nevertheless the point is when they get things handed to them, they're not going to go and get said things. They don't need to ask.
It will be interesting however to see the day, where women outnumber men by twice as much. Maybe we'll see a much better shift in the dynamics of dating.Its easier to approach a guy whos shy or a lonewolf. If he's some hot jock who has all the girls feening over him, im not going to even waste my time
Do you often spend your time doing unnecessary and pointless activities?
I don't know, I guess some are also shy like some guys, or they don't think it's their place and the guy should do the chasing. Either way it would be easier sometimes if they did approach guys more.
I get approached by too many guys as it is, but I would approach a guy I find interesting enough. Won't approach just anyone, there's no point in that.
I never did because (aside from being too shy), I would worry about giving the wedding impression. It seems like most guys think women who approach are slutty or desperate.
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