Why won't women approach men they like?

[Notfabricated]

[hi_it_is_me123]

'Cause they are traditional (?) since traditionally men approach or they are cowards. I agree with you. Girls should approach too

[shydude1991]

I guess I'm a coward then

[hi_it_is_me123]

Huh? Why? I am talking about non traditional coward women

[shydude1991]

Because I'm not confident enough to approach women.

[Notfabricated]

@shydude1991 I don believe in labels my guy and neither should you. But what I can say is you don't have to approach then on some trying to get there number stuff. Just say hi sometimes if they really like you they will make an effort to stick around for convo. It can't hurt

[hi_it_is_me123]

I am sorry i did not mean to offend anyone

[hi_it_is_me123]

I approached shy guys. Some girls do it

[Notfabricated]

It 2021 this is crazy. What brought about this question was a video I seen on YouTube " why men don't approach women anymore" and her perspective 🤔 was something to think about.

[Iron_Man]

That’s so 1905 it’s a woman’s responsibility now to approach the man we don’t have to do any more

[hi_it_is_me123]

I just think it is coward thing to not approach men/women you like but i dont think it should be a responsibility. It is kinda stupid and entitled to except from anyone to approach you because it should be their responsibility. I dont know. I dont except from anyone to approach me but i have no problem with approaching anyone

[Somegirl408]

i might not approach, but i make eye contact and smile to make sure they know i like them

[magiusX26]

too many do exactly that just being friendly, so makes it too subtle for many of us guys.

[Notfabricated]

@magiusX26 i have to agree with you. Something as suttle as a smile or having a convo most of the time i consider as them just being nice. But if she give me that look like "come over here" I'm on it.

[ChiTown33]

That's by design guys lol. This way a woman can entice a guy to approach them. Then after her ego has Ben fed. Turn him down. Then if he gets made because he was led on she can say " I was just being nice I wasn't flirting". And because women do this so much. She really believes it herself.

[Notfabricated]

@ChiTown33 wow , now thats a perspective for you

[Prideful]

In all honesty I have low self confidence when it comes to relationships.
I don't want to engage to break up a month later.

[Secret6620]

I've been taught that chasing a guy is considered desperate. It was how I was raised honestly. My mom was a bit of a narcissist.

Like basically if a guy doesn't approach or make the first move then he probably isn't interested or doesn't find you attractive enough to approach. Also I am a bit sensitive and struggle with rejection in general so to avoid getting my feelings hurt is another reason why I don't make the first move. It's so weird right lol. I hope this was helpful.

This is just from my experience and perspective. Basically my upbringing and fear of rejection is why I don't make the first move.

[Notfabricated]

I completely understand 😌 , and can slightly relate. But fear keeps us away from enjoying the adventures in life. Also what kind of double standard is that , i mean dosent a man look desperate if he pursuing a girl?

[Secret6620]

Not at all. Taking charge is a trait that most women want from men. If he can't take charge then some girls just won't be interested sadly.

[Notfabricated]

Hmm.. the reason for this post was a YouTube video titled " why men don't approach women anymore more" check it out. I mean hell its gotten so bad that buying something for a women or even telling a women she looks cute in the workplace could be considered sequel harassment. Me personally I like a women who knows how to take charge from time to time. I dont have time to think for you and tell you what to do. That shit is annoying. Omg always looking to me for something. Naw give me a women who goes for what she wants rather then one who waits for something to come to her.

[Notfabricated]

But don't get me wrong I have no problem with approaching women thats gives me ques , or if I just have to talk to her. But those ones are either take or to self centered. Pass.

[Secret6620]

Totally understandable! Everyone has a preference I am sure. 🤓✌️

[natured]

I think each woman has their own motives. I wouldn't approach someone I like because i'd be scared to look desperate, so i give him little signals and make him understand. Then usually it goes automatically, both come forward at the same time and start whatever is meant to be...

[Notfabricated]

What little hints do you give out?

[natured]

I smile a lot, I touch my hair, i always look at him, and when he catches me looking i look away, my body language is different when i'm interested in a guy, when i'm NOT i simply don't even think about it and enjoy my moment.

[Notfabricated]

Why look at him and then look away. I get that too often. I just don't understand the concept. I mean if I look up at you because through peripherals I see you looking for a minute and you stay looking but then bus out a smile or something I feel like its more inviting. If you turn your head then I take it as closed off. I just don't understand that.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

Probably because they hear men say they think women approaching them is desperate

[Notfabricated]

Well I commenting to say those men are were just not into that women. Believe me if Rihanna or some chick they found attractive walked up to them they probably wouldn't know what to say. Just saying

[FilmGuy93]

It takes a shit load of confidence. Women tend not have tons of confidence.

[Notfabricated]

I agree , but that is the same for a man. I actually find confidence very sexy overall. Hell I've went up to females that I didn't really find attractive just because. And the women who did walk up to me shy as shit saying I dont do this but I really like you is a turn on as well. Besides I would have never know that they did if they didn't say something. Who knows could be one hell of a relationship or just a fun time.

[jaclyndavis]

fear of rejection
seeming desperate
being unfaithful

circumstances could come into play too..

[Notfabricated]

Men have these sames fears , so is okay for only a woman to feel this way? And if so why?

[Jamie05rhs]

@jaclyndavis How would that be being unfaithful?

[MackAMills]

Probably cause I don’t like them enough to approach them, if I really like a guy then I will though.

[Notfabricated]

I hear that but this question is geared toward women who give out hints but will never approach regardless of how much they like them

[MackAMills]

Well if they give out hints but aren’t making a move it’s probably because their too shy or because their flirting with you but don’t really want to be in a relationship with you.

[Notfabricated]

I see i have to be very specific with you. I'm talking about the ones who do want to be in a relationship and do like you like that to give out hints and will still not approach.

[MackAMills]

Well they’re probably not doing it then because they are shy.

[Adele_26]

Because I’m shy and awkward, unless I’m drunk. She will definitely let you know 😂😂😂

[Notfabricated]

Lmao that is so true women. Sometimes when a women gets drunk 🥴 she's walking up to you with no problem. But by that time they are stumbling over themselves. Hbu?

[Adele_26]

No not really. I usually am tipsy first

[Goatmeal]

They don't need to. Most women have more available penis than they would know what to do with.

[neeeeeeeko]

I'm too busy with my life

[Notfabricated]

Same here

[ChrisMaster69]

But they do approach guys they like.

even at school they are doing that.

[nolabels]

Some will, some won't.

[Notfabricated]

I feel like it's more few will , and most won't.

[Anonymous]

They believe when a Guy likes them then he would approach so they forget about and/or ignore Shy Guys.

[Anonymous]

Because they have the luxury of not having to do it, and they don't want to, so they don't. They do it like once, then when they find they don't like it they give up.

[AkwardGuy]

It's not their job to approach you. You gotta watch for the signs they give you, but it's your job to take that leap and see if it clicks.

[Notfabricated]

Lmao its no one's JOB

[AkwardGuy]

Lol you know what I'm talking about

[Notfabricated]

Of course I do but do you know what I'm talking about. I dont fall in line with double standards. I have no problem approaching a women but.. you know nvm

[AkwardGuy]

In hindsight, I probably should have acted less like a coach while writing this🤦‍♂️. Keep waiting till she gives you an opening and when she does get over there fast, tells as many bad jokes as possible until something sticks! Get out there slugger.

[moviedude714]

Life is cruel and unfair like that

[Notfabricated]

Lmao dope 🙌 comment

[Nini10]

Because we don’t wanna get rejected.

[Notfabricated]

But its okay for men to get rejected?

[Nini10]

I mean that’s why I don’t ask cause I don’t wanna get rejected, it’s not okay for men to get rejected but if men were to pay more attention to ladies body language and her communication towards you. Most men would stop getting rejected (by a girl who is clearly not interested) just read the room.

I don’t approach men because I’m not confident. That’s not to say all women are the same.

[Notfabricated]

I agree with reading the room, but some "hints" that women throw at us men are just considered friendly. Most of the time its not enough to go on. youtu. be/GDvUj1BqI4U women explains why men don't approach women anymore is the reason for this post.

[Prideful]

There is a reason why men are always complaining about women body languages.
We just don't understand.

[DaMack999]

Women isn't the one suppose to approach it's the man's job. You're asking her to do mens job. Lol what's next ask her to pay for the dinner too? When you're dating? What kinda man are you?

[Notfabricated]

You're lucky this is the internet 😂

[Notfabricated]

Its a question you imbecile

[Iron_Man]

They are too scared of being rejected

[In_Trance]

the stigma

[Notfabricated]

That's just crazy

[lorenzomichael]

Because there scared

[Anonymous]

Guys tend not to like that

[robocop666]

yes they do

[Opinion Owner]

Not in my experience

[Notfabricated]

Meh y'all talking to those guys that have to control any situation they are in. If anything approach a guy and see how he reacts. Or just like a women, if she ain't feeling you she just ain't feeling you. A women will totally change how she reacts if she finds you attractive. Unfortunately nowadays looks come first before anything.

[robocop666]

just like women. we love when hotties approach and dislike when uglies approach