Why is it that men don't want to approach women anymore?

[adavis60]

now days women get stared at and stuff like that but the man would never say hello or we open the convo by saying hello but the man won't continue but we know he is interested

[supsam05]

Hi!

There is certainly a link about being hurt in a previous relationship, but the main reason is that guys are afraid of rejection. You know that girls can be really mean when it comes to rejecting a guy! Some are really bitchy some won't even talk to you, it's just the way it is. Girls are getting so much attention from guys who want to flirt with them that they feel they have to right to be mean.

Many guys see this as a large wound in their ego, it's like getting slapped in the face! It's not a feeling most guys enjoy, so they step away to be sure not to be rejected.

That is why most guys are shy or are unable to walk up to a random girl and talk to her, because in a lot of cases she will just tell you to get off her (mostly at bars) or seem uninterested.

Maybe it's also just because the guy feels intimidated by the women when she starts the conversation, or he's just shy and doesn't know what to talk about. Usually shy guys are intimidated by girls who talk a lot and are open.

Hope this answered your question! Good luck!

Sam E.

[FatherJack]

@adavis60 You will no doubt find this blog post interesting... edumckaytion.com/blog/men-notice-women-anymore/

To underpin some of the previous comments , a lot of , especially young , women can be incredibly nasty to any approaching man , worked as door staff many years back & a lot of groups of young women made it a " sport " to be as nasty & humiliating as possible to any approaching man , I would understand if they were disrespectful sleazebags , but these were respectful approaches , have ejected some of these " mean girl " groups from some venues , as they would spark trouble. The bottom line is women are desired , men are NOT desired & most women are sick of male attention & have plenty of male options to choose from , hence the conceited attitude. It is not a good idea to pester anyone when they are going about their day to day business , the feedback I have had is most single women are single by choice , this is the age of " I don't need no man !! " .

[angelssofunny]

When men get hurt in previous relationship they pull back and don't ask for fear of being hurt

[bassplayer1701d]

Thanks to #METoo! and mean girl syndrome, men see approaching women as very risky emotionally, financially and legally. If you are a Chad, the rule book gets thrown out the window and you can approach women without risk. If you are in the pool of 90% of guys, you will get shamed on social media for approaching, called a creep for trying to converse or worse be accused of sexual harassment, charged, lose your job, and reputation. Best to just leave modern women alone or go to a foreign country where average men can still approach women. Men are no longer dating or marrying because of the extreme financial risk and emotional liability involved thanks to #METoo! and the modern marriage contract and the no fault divorce option. What sane man wants to enter into a marriage contract knowing that there is a 70% chance of divorce where 80% of women initiate divorce and the man loses 50% or more of his money, assets, retirement, loses his house, his cars and even his kids? For many men dating and marriage are not worth it. Men in ever greater numbers are choosing single lives of male purpose where they are free to pursue interests, career and self improvement goals without the needless drama, trauma, extreme financial risk and emotional liability that women bring and many men are finding happiness, contentment and peace... lots of peace. The Manchineel Tree Chad fodder women who abound in modern gynocentric rigged society has become so toxic, defeminized, and entitled that men are fed up, really fed up and are walking away taking a woman's access to marriage and access to a man's resources with them. Women have become so bad for men that research data indicates that 45% of women will be single and childless in 2030. No amount of shaming language is going to reverse this trend. The juice of being in a relationship with a woman has become so bitter that it is no longer worth a man's time, effort or money in the squeeze. Men choosing to be single are discovering happiness and peace... lots of peace.

[JimmyJames4569338]

Maybe because girls now today, when you just look at one or approach them to try and be friends with them to see were it goes. They call you a creep and tell you to go the f away or they’re calling the police. Or they’ll just not even give you a chance and act uncomfortable or uninterested leaving the guy feeling awkward, embarrassed or like they’re the problem. Women are such pieces of crap today towards guys and show zero respect for anything towards the gentlemen, as a guy I could forgive them if it was every other girl that rejected me. Or if one just wanted to be friends and actually wanted to hang out with me, outside of where I see them mostly. But when even the girls you became friends with don’t want anything to do with you, and it’s every single girl that rejects you instead of just every other one. Why even bother? It’s such a waste of energy and exhausting, it’s even worse when your friend who is an outsider like you. Tells you that a girl in her 40s but looks like she’s 20 wishes they were our age because they’d love to hang out with us because our style is so cool. It’s so upsetting that a girl who was born in the 80s has more respect for a guy than any girl I’ve ever met in my life has. Girls just have absolutely no manners, respect or decency towards us guys today. That’s why it’s painful to watch old school shows and see guys and girls getting along because of how much girls lack that today. It’s sad to see how girls have become and I really hope that changes.

[MGold93]

We do not want to offend you. That’s why. Even if you approach us out of guilt or pity, you probably will still flake out anyway. So no amount of “smiling” gets them to walk up.

Also, do you want the legal hassle of …”hello how are you today, madam” instead of if you can afford it just log back into Bumble and find a date on your phone?

However, why even dating and risk some thankless dinner or still the girl finding a reason to cancel you, when you can just “keep it casual/“ (feelings don’t matter?)

While women replaced men with Chad, men replaced women with their phone so both sides have “benefited” from this apparent modern day-ting.

Can understand Handmaid’s Tale is a scary book, but the punishment in real life seems geared toward men. If they don’t perform enough, women dang near hang them.

Okay exaggeration, but very equivalent from a psychological perspective. One spoiled date and as a guy it’s like women = country and you = enemy of the state.

So bottom line: the phone and feminism mean that guys no longer have to be creepy for something they can do at home and women don’t have to give a dang anymore.

Men are not approaching women because they don’t have to. Since they don’t have to, that means they really do not want to. Log into an app, save all the headaches. Boom.

[CharlieUnicorn]

Because most of the time it's a fairly dumb idea with people you have absolutely NO relation to.
And more importantly, there's really no need.

You can join same interest groups irl and online. There it's so easy to approach and have conversations. There's already something you have in common.

But approaching random stranger at a bar? Or even worse, in a store or public transport? Nope. Many of us don't do that anymore, under any circumstance.

Because there are other placera to be where the odds are better.

[MaxwellSmart]

Because most of the time it isn't worth it. A lot of girls get all paranoid when a random guy approaches them and are even rude, if I wanted rudeness I'd go ask a walmart employee for help. I get better results from girls when I'm a jerk and they can't seem to get enough of it, no matter how rude I am, if I try approaching them later, they'll have a big smile on their face, opposed to a creeped out look if I'm being nice.

[Nixon4prez2016]

Maybe it's because so many guys have grown tired of the eye-rolling, the smug indifference, the playing hard-to-get, and the never-ending cocktease games that so many women do today when men do approach them. One thing that I've noticed is that when women who I talk to on a regular basis smile at me, act all friendly/chummy, or laugh at some little comment I happen to make, it doesn't take too long to find out that she has a husband/bf at home but she wants me know that if she wasn't taken she would TOTALLY go for a guy like me... whatever. We're sick of it. We're done with the mixed signals. Sorry, but all the drama, all the BS just isn't worth it and so a lot of guys are saying "nope, I'd rather live in a monastery the rest of my life than put up with this nonsense."

[moviedude714]

because girls are paranoid and they label guys creepers, stalkers when in reality the guy meant no harm

[Anonymous]

I got nervous to approach girls when my confidence went down after being rejected by my ex. I used to be able to approach a random girl and get her number. Now I just feel like I'm going to get rejected if I do this.

[adelbertdunbar]

Because 90% of the girls want 10% of guys, while the other 90% want to start a family with a nice girl. Also a lot of men have opted out because of masculinity rising in women.

[Usernamesrdumb]

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[FýrdracaDócincel]

What will you do if he does?

[Hades]

Morale is too low.