Do bachelors have make changes to their entire lifestyle and environment to find available women?

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Im friends with two guys who are long time lady’s men. One guy in his early 30s and the other in his early 40s. Both guys literally have a part time job/lifestyle to be around and pursue available women. They go to social groups, outings, put extra effort in how they dress, follow strategies with their dating profiles (including using premium packages). It’s literally a job for them. They look at every scenario for possibilities.

Years ago I lived in a area with lots of single women. I also was involved with acting so I came across several. I was younger so that obviously that factored in heavily. But I was really just scrapping by. But it was so much easier to get dates, sex and potential relationships back then. However I didn’t see a solid future in it. I had to make changes to be steady financially (bought a house five years ago). I know make 6 figures. Back then I thought women would see I have my shit together and it make me attractive. Instead I now come off as “boring” to them.

My current job (which is remote), the area I live and my hobbies (jiu jitsu) has very limited single females. I use dating apps but it’s the match rate and quality has steadily declined in the last 5 years. There are times I will swipe 300 women on bumble and I will get no one. If I do get a date I feel like women can sense some desperation no matter how chill I try to act.

Do I seriously have to radically change my lifestyle (quit jiu jitsu to do frisbee golf or something) just to find a decent woman? I’m not chasing hot 19 year olds by the way. Most of the women I approach or swipe are in their late 20s to mid 30s. I know it’s a numbers game but I feel like the odds are insurmountable.
Do bachelors have make changes to their entire lifestyle and environment to find available women?
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