Is it possible for two people to like each other but not be compatible?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

[CaptainOverthink]

Some people are explosive together.
Which is good for emotions and intimate stuff. But things tend to be blowing up in your face unless there is traits from both that are observing, mindful, flexible, compromising and so on...

Point is..
Some people are well balanced (Nature/nurture) for relationships generally, they could be fitted to many types of people depending on their ability to understand and listen.
But most people are not well balanced and need people around them that help them to retain balance.
This is why it's not always best to be completely aligned with your partners traits and interests.. because people fuel eachother and influence eachother.
Our company shaped us.

- Two reckless people can both love eachother because they relate and destroy eachother because they fuel that same behavior.
- Two overly careful and socially withdrawn people understand eachother but they don't nurture a healthy balance.
- Then there are all kinds of kombinations that may or may not fit or is more or less compatible compared to the best/worst cases. The social world of dating is a clusterfuck because we are all so different and it's not obvious who is what or where we seem to be heading.

But a good tip I think would be to establish someones mindset: Are they actively open to learning, positive thinking and caring of others? Good.

But you can still have strong feelings for anyone. As far as I've experienced there's physical, intellectual and instinctual attraction. (I have no grounds for this, it's my personal experience)
- Physical is just surface, like liking someones butt, abs or face.
- Instinctual is just that tugging feeling we can't explain yet, where you gravitate towards people regardless of finding them physically attractive or either knowing them or finding their mind interesting. This one potentially causes obsession.
- Intellectual is being stimulated and energized about the way they think and reason.

All of these can occur regardless of your compatability.

[Miristheiss]

Of course... it happens all the time.
Tons of people get along and have some good times and some things in common but at the end of the day they are not compatible with some big issues and shouldn't be together.

Tons of the relationship questions on here and on reddit are problems a couple is facing due to their non compatibility. They try to keep going as a couple and they keep having arguments or strife and hurt feelings... over some issue that they are not compatible over. Most of their relationship grief is that they just aren't compatible and they should move on from each other.

[lilyanony1]

It really depends on what you like about them.
My ex I liked the look of him, the physical chemistry was 100% but his irritation towards so many things he thought was flawed in me made me grow to despise him.
I felt more like a project to him than gus girlfriend. I always liked who I was until I met him!

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

It happens often its an everyday thing. Many people like each other, date each other, end up in the boyfriend/girlfriend catergory and (if you're unlucky end up in the fiancé and married catergory) and still not be compatiable hence they break up.

[burlen]

Having feelings for someone is not the same as being compatible with them. Compatibility is the degree to which the values, beliefs, lifestyle, interests, vision, and behaviours of people are aligned with one another.

For example, John and Mary like each other but have divergent beliefs on issues like sex, marriage, or raising up kids that make incompatible to lead a relationship.

[sunshineglow]

I said "I predict this to have 90-something % rate for answer yes". I myself clicked yes and hahaha, 93 %.

[Asker]

Good guess 😆

[Lunatic1]

Absolutely, my parents are like that. They still care about each other but they are just two different types of people.

[Asker]

Are they still together

[Lunatic1]

No, they divorced years ago but are still very close and still care about each other.

[Asker]

Aww sweet

[Jamie05rhs]

Absolutely!

Image a world in which everyone hated every person that they were not romantically compatible with. That would be a LOT of hate!!

[DizzyDesii]

Yes i dated a lot of those where we had same interests but the values and morals didn't correlate and therefore neither did the compatability

[lightbulb27]

Yes. Most humans are not compatible… usually going to be areas of difference and challenge.

[Anonymous]

Yeah it’s possible. I dated a couple girls that i liked and they were fun we had good chemistry and we got along really well but i just didn't catch feelings

[Kaneki05]

No? because then why would they like each other?

The fact of liking is proof of compatibility at least to me otherwise i wouldn't like them obviously.

[Asker]

Friends, friends with benefits, etc.. duh.

[Kaneki05]

That literally compatible people then lmao.

[Asker]

Hmm true

[Jamie05rhs]

@Kaneki05 Not necessarily. Sex is different. That's a whole 'nother level!

[Kaneki05]

Sex is a pretty basic biological act that all animals and humans can do pretty easy to anyone. Sure it's more meaningful when it comes to been in love with someone.
But the act of sex is quite... compatible with anyone that is born with a sex barring rare health conditions.

[clampfan101]

Yes, which is by the way more proof they can be casual friends. (Just saying.)

[Anonymous]

yes but it is more likely that they dont like each other,. I may be attracted to a feminist but I dont ever like her because of her ugly personality

[Shy_Steve]

For you Girls it seems to be compatibility usually but for us Guys it is just if we like eachother.

[JosyJosy]

Yes that's how breakups happen

[ohshee]

Yes only if your honest with each other

[SaoirseS]

Yes absolutely.

[Paris13]

Opposites Attract. xx

[PoliteSpeaker]

No harmony attracts.

[Jamie05rhs]

I agree with @PoliteSpeaker.

[tatianamay]

@Paris13 and in long term, it does not work out. You need to have at least a few things in common with your partner, like the same goals, or expectations etc. I'm not saying that a relationship could only work out if both the partners are the same, because its not true. All are unique. Let's take for example, kids. If a person very badly wants a kid, and their partner doesn't, then won't the former resent the latter as time goes on? It's not true in all cases.

[Paris13]

@tatianamay Ohh I know This Probably Better than Anyone. Of Course. xx

[Wise4myage]

Sure, they can just remain friends.

[Joker_]

Yeah, as in being friends

[REDHOTLINE]

Yes that usually happen like that

[kingykringy]

Yes. Speaking from experience

[ChiPaPa]

Yeah.