My girlfriend doesn't obey me. What should I do?

[YouGoodToo]

We've been together for a while. She's good, she never smokes, never goes to night clubs, never talks to other guys. I love her, but there's a problem: she wears crop tops all the time and that's not okay to me. I told her multiple times about it, but she always replied that she will never wear anything else.

[coldmarch]

What you're exposing here shows a number of anomalies that will make your relationship collapse if you leave it as it is:
1) She "never talks to other guys". This is weird, is that something you asked to her? And you also never talk with any girl because she requested you the same? If so, this is already a very bad start for a relationship because it implies that it's not based on mutual trust, as if there is the need to put such extreme limitations because of some very undermined dynamics between you two. I never had a boyfriend who was worried if I talked with other guys (and considering I have only male friends since ever, that would mean to cut off my entire social life), and at the same time I wasn't worried if they talked with their female friends. None of those stories ended because me or them got interested in someone else... Also, this extreme jealousy/possession is toxic and will destroy her interest in you at some point.
2) You made a list of things she "does" and yet you're not ok with that and still want her to "obey" to more requirements. Considering she already did the things you listed, it's weird you're not considering to do your part too and tolerate her requests as well, but instead want more from her side. This unbalancement is not promising.
3) You want her to "obey", but probably she would also complain the same, that you don't "obey" her request to stop adding limits about her outfits. It looks like you're not considering her like a person but more like a subordinated appendix, by using this word. And since this is not representative of the reality, it won't help you...

So what you "should do" is, in my opinion, to do your part and tolerate her outfits as she indirectly requests. Understand that her outfit is an irrelevant detail for the health of your relationship because she is not going to cheat on you just because she decides to wear crop tops. What is even the link? If she cheats on you, she will decide to do that with any outfit, no need to be in crop top to cheat... And if you're afraid that guys will look at her, well, cheating is still made in 2 and we're not 1 century ago: nothing is going to happen without her intention too, no matter how much guys look at her. So you should focus more on your mutual trust, not on the limitations (which harm the trust instead). If you're not trusting her then there is a problem, and THIS is the problem you should talk about with her, not the crop tops...

[Some_Goof]

What is your problem with crop tops? What would you do if she doesn't stop wearing it? Why does an article of clothing effects your mood so much?

[MuffinBoi]

How to get your girlfriend to obey you:

1: Take out multiple loans to get yourself a PhD in Physics or something.
2: Using your newly acquired knowledge (and debt), build a time machine.
3: Travel back to the middle ages with your girlfriend and become a Lord.
4: Force her NOT to wear a crop top using your new status as a Lord.
5: Wake up from your imaginary world and accept the fact that she will wear crop tops forevermore.

[Fireguy17]

Why do you feel the need to try and control what she wears?
I do not know you, but if I had to guess you might be insecure about your relationship with her, that others will find her sexy and you might lose her.
Keep up trying to control her and she will leave you, you will be driving her away.

[NatalieKeller95]

first of all your girlfriend is her own woman, she's not your property, and she can make her own choices in life, if you don't like it, tough, women aren't just slaves for men, learn to respect that, and then maybe, she might choose to wear something else, but you can't force her

[Anonymous]

she can do whatever the f word she wants and you have no say in it dude. also why should she "Obey" you like you're not her master or she's not your slave or anything. she's a person of her own and deserves to be whatever she wants and however she wants to be. if you don't like that part of her then actually stop wasting her time. she deserves someone who would accept her as she is. and she shouldn't need to change for someone else.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Dude what are you the fucking warden & your girlfriend is your prisoner? I hope she chooses the electric chair over staying in a relationship with you.

Loosen up & let her live her own life.

[ZDoes]

Dude, slow your roll. You sound like an over bearing control freak. Codoz to her for doing her own thing in spite of your up tight fear. Lighten up, loosen the grip or she'll slip through your fingers.

[DizzyDesii]

You should breakup for two reasons…
You’re trying to control something you have no control over.
She does not respect your opinion and what you're uncomfortable with in the relationship

[casserolie]

well, first of all, her body her choice. you're lucky she's still with you cause I know I wouldn't be

[PralineCream]

she's not your pet. Who cares if she wears crop tops.

[sullyk1234]

if you dont like it leave she loves crop tops if you want her to wear other clothes try to buy them for her if she won't well its a two way street im sure there are things she doesn't like about you

[YesICan]

She doesn't have to obey You, and you don't have to stay around if you don't like the way she dresses. But really tho, you getting insecure over a stupid crop top? I can only imagine how you would react if she went to the beach or pool in a bikini.

[DonkeyDan]

Oh you need to change that attitude or you're going to have a long lonely life.

[exitseven]

She is not your slave. She can wear whatever she wants. I would dump you if I was her. You sound like a controlling jerk.

[Better_off_here]

she does not have to obey you, it is her body and her choice, it sounds like you may have trust issues with her. look guys are gonna look at women no matter what and if you keep this up you may lose her altogether.

[Roah_Boat]

She sounds like she has good character. Those qualities are very desirable. Let her wear what she likes. It shouldn't be up to you.

[AnnonEMouse]

You are not the boss of her. Stop beibg a control freak.

[jasco]

well you have to compromise bud. Their are many things you won't like sometimes you have to work with that

[Neosporin]

You need to discipline her with your mighty dick. JK I don't know/care

[legalboxers]

doesn't OBEY you? is she your kid or your girl? what the fuck bro?

[legalboxers]

be thankful she isn't my daughter.. with that attitude, you will be drinking out of a straw if you even REMOTELY TRY anything

[ewok737]

First off, she's not your slave/property, she does not have to obey your wishes or commands.

[Anonymous]

amateur. Your dick should be so far down her throat when she's with you she shouldn't be able to make any noises other than gurgling

[Twalli]

She doesn't have to obey you. You don't own her. She chose to date you, you didn't order her to.

[Luckycharms12]

She isn't a dog she is a person there is give a take in relationship

[Ms_Vanderquack]

What you need to do is get over yourself.

[Jmmmfi4]

Unless she's your submissive she doesn't have to obey shit... you want to be obeyed get a dog

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you figured out how to attract girls quite early in life

[yucychan]

What's wrong with crop tops?

[DJB72]

Quit being misogynistic.

[FunkyMonkee]

Do you have an electric cattle prod?

[Wester1967]

Try obeying her. See how that goes

[noohair]

Controlling another human is a form of slavery.

[Somegirl408]

i would obey you

[Grubhub]

😂 you sound like a emotionally abusive dog 🐕

[Sketti2021]

You aren't her boss duh 🙄

[Abdulwahh]

Look she's not yet your wife make wise choices

[stuntbrain]

Become gay

[In_Trance]

move on

[malwins]

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