Why are women judged for liking tall men?

Question

It's not like we can control who we find attractive.

Cybermetal93 · Accepted Answer

It depends on the reasons, more often than not its like passively crapping on guys that aren't tall. Also I highly doubt every tall guy thats out there is attractive and suitable for most women. According to many sources, in the USA or anywhere in which the average height is about 5'9 - 5'11ish, tall men are 15% of the population precisely. You can divide that 15% up into different types of tall men. There are tall men that are gay, there are tall men that are weird and creepy, tall men that are insane and just crazy as hell, tall men that are ugly, tall men that are assholes, tall men that are too tall etc... That leaves women with about an extremely low amount of tall guys that are pretty much perfect in both personality and looks. So realistically if you want the "perfect" tall guy good fucking luck with that, because there's a hell lot more tall guys that aren't what you expect them to be.

Also to point out other reasons. I've heard "tall men are more protective" "tall men will give me taller kids" "tall men can pick me up." A single bullet to the head or any other organ and you're dead. A knife stab as well. If a tall guy can't manage to disarm or fight men like this, he's done for and hitting the grave. If you don't know how to fight and you don't know how to combat other men, you'll get your ass kicked and sent to the hospital. Being tall doesn't automatically make a guy more protective.

They specifically train people in martial arts and other fighting sports on how to take down bigger men and there are techniques that can make a tall guy fall to the floor and get knocked out. Most martial artists were actually not that tall and still aren't. A tall guy that doesn't know how to fight is far worse off than a guy that isn't tall that is. Where is the "protection" in that? I even saw a video of a short guy that literally beat the living fuck out of a tall guy and the tall guy was acting like a little bitch. Also, if you want to be picked up, when you have kids do you want your husband to hold your kids and you in in his arms? Its childish behavior. Its so cringe to think that women want to be "picked up." If thats what you want then when you have babies, your husband can put a pacifier in your mouth too by all means. Also, having tall kids doesn't mean they will be better at life. There isn't anything inherently wrong with being any height, but being a certain height doesn't mean you'll automatically get a free pass in life. there's tall guys that have shit lives not making much money. there's short guys that are CEOS or something making 150k+ per year. All of this is valid for why women judge men that like tall men cause if you think about it, its not usually realistic.

Just_call_me_Levi · Accepted Answer

Height is not something you can control, and this is coming from a 6'5 guy... If girls say they like how tall I am, depending on the girl, it could be a red flag...
Wouldn't you rather be complimented on something you 'can' control? Or say... Your personality? Education? Taste? And what have you...

Girls judge guys for preferring a certain body type, which is something that (to certain degree) you can control, it's not just genetics and a pinch of luck.

I'll never be a body builder, I'm not ashamed to admit it, but to me for a girl to prefer them, that's very fair... It's a completely different lifestyle they chose... While height says nothing about the person, very little about their strength/endurance, and as a fellow man, I feel bad for them...

Smaller men deserve better, but I also don't want girls to date/marry men they don't feel attracted to. It's unfair no matter how you slice it.

But most importantly, after this little' rant, I do absolutely agree we shouldn't judge people based on their preferences, we like what we like, plain and simple. Sadly that's not the world we live in now, hopefully soon though.

Cherry234 · Accepted Answer

I'm probably going to get at least one downvote for this. That's because they can't accept other peoples' preferences. They make a big deal about it and keep going on rants about "heightism." It's okay to be attracted to a certain body type and people of certain heights. Try not to let those bitter men get you down. They need to work on themselves before they date anyone.

I like tall men too but that doesn't mean I don't also like short men and men of average height. Not all women only like tall men. Some of them think women only want to date tall men but that's not true. Most women like men that are taller than them or at least the same height as them. And that doesn't mean those men have to be 6 ft or above. Also some of them are so insecure that they call themselves short if they're under 6 ft even when they're nowhere near short

Taylah9 · Accepted Answer

Yeah I guess its the same thing as guys that like girls shorter than them. I think its because for girls it feels nice when a guy is bigger than them and can lift them up off the ground n hug them. Same with guys liking a smaller girl. It makes girls feel feminine and guys feel masculine.
However, it shouldn't be the thing you find attractive. Plenty of tall guys with no other good qualities and plenty of shorter guys with the best qualities and vice versa.
You wouldn't like a tall guy who was a complete dickhead personality wise and whose height was the only thing going for him. But you'd probably like a guy who wasn't as tall who was actually a decent person. Height is literally a measurement and it shouldn't be the basis of whether or not someone is attractive as its somewhat superficial.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I think a lot of men and woman have difficulty accepting that a marriage partner is gained through hard work and sacrifice and not a birth right you are entitled to for being born, all the gorgeous woman I know over 30 years old work out and eat healthy and buy creams and health products for their beauty maintenance, and all the successful professionals I know had grit and self control and were willing to practice delayed gratification, these guys want sex but are not willing to work to support a marriage.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

It's jealousy from the short guys. No different than some guys preferring blondes.

AmandaYVR · Answer

Because it's shallow, becoming more and more irrelevant in today's civil society where brains are more important, and because even some of the shortest girls are insisting on over 6' guys.

Novacane · Answer

I don't think women are judged that much when it comes to height, as you mentioned its a preference of attraction which I agree you have no control over that but I think the problem is that not women liking tall men it's about women shaming men for being short when let's be honest we have no power of how tall/short we are. For example, the most common rebuttal to this is women being a certain weight, at least people can change their weight to some extent so they have control over that but imagine hearing a fat guy say he doesn't date fat women, you see how that's ridiculous, now imagine short women saying they don't date short men. I think what brings the attention is that there is nothing wrong with women liking tall men it's that a lot of women have made it clear that "if you are not 6ft then don't talk to me".

for example my personal experience, I was talking to a girl that was 4'11, I am 5'7, she told me that she couldn't date me because I wasn't 6ft tall. So that really makes me think if a girl that is 4'11 doesn't date me because I am not "tall" what hope do I have a finding someone, at this point, might as well give up and treat all women the same. Now I know that there are some women that wouldn't care about my height, but a lot of women have adopted this mentality that I have been running into this nonstop, and it's really degrading because then these women go for the tall guys and when they get treated bab they go on and say "men ain't shit" "all men are the same" like if we contributed to that.

Sarahr123 · Answer

It’s usually when women who are barely 5’ expect a man to be 6’2+ that people question it. Even some tall men have told me that they didn’t understand why short girls were so picky about height.

I personally am most attracted to men in the region of 5’11-6’2 (not any taller than that though) but I am 5’6 and I do like to wear heels. I just find it to be the perfect height difference. My only boyfriend was 6’ and I was around his ear level with flats so when I would hug him my head would touch the tip of his nose. I think that’s such a cute height difference. When I wore 4-5 inch heels we were almost the same height.

I prefer the guy to be taller than me. I guess it’s just my preference the same way how I am only attracted to guys with dark hair and dark eyes and only Mediterranean/Indian looking men. Like I am completely smitten by Siddharth Malhotra/Sushant Singh Rajput. They’re both the same height and have the exact look that I like.

GingerGuy · Answer

For some women it's actually a "deal breaker", which is mind blowing to me because it's not only unrealistic (some women's "expectations"), but something guy's have absolutely no control over. Also a lot of women have the false belief (nothing to do with attraction), that "tall guys have better genes", which isn't true at all. "Better" in the the chances of your child also being tall is better, but not better genes in general. I just can't believe how important it is to some women, that is what gets to me. So much that they will reject a guy for this reason alone! Do I have a height preference in women? Sure. But in NO way is it a deal breaker. I'd date anyone, any height if I liked them.

ADFSDF1996 · Answer

Because for that type of women that’s the most important factor. If a guy isn’t 6’0”+ then these women look at the guy as if he’s subhuman. Not to mention that it’s hypocritical since these women belong to the same crowd that gets mad whenever a guy doesn’t want to date a woman because she’s either obese or too skinny.

By the way, height by itself isn’t as important of a factor as heightists like to believe. All tall stature does is let you reach things on a higher shelf. Even in a fight, it’s quite common for shorter guys to mop the floor with taller guys. Strength is way more important than height.

It used to be that women liked buff guys regardless of height, now women like tall lanky guys for some reason. Must be a millennial female standard.

Diodoro · Answer

In what context are women judged for that?

You'll see guys say it's annoying girls mostly wanting guys 6 foot + and looking down on guys shorter than that. But that's not giving girls shit for liking tall guys. That's saying it's messed up for girls to judge guys for being less than 6 feet.

Different things. It's like if a guy says he doesn't date fat chicks. It would be disingenuous for him to say, "Why do girls judge me for liking fit chicks?".

Well no. It's the shitting on people not in that category that you hear complaints about lol. I'm 6'1 so I don't even have a dog in this. But if we're being honest that's what this is really about

cth96190 · Answer

Women are hard wired to seek the genes of tall men.
That is part of natural selection.
Where women come unstuck is that men who are 6’ are only 18 per cent of the male population.
As the height of the men becomes greater, their number as a proportion of the population becomes vanishingly small.
Add to that that they must be single, heterosexual and able to support a family, and it becomes absurdly unrealistic for women to pursue them to the exclusion of all other men.
Women who set an unrealistic height expectation will probably end up bitter and surrounded by boxed wine and cats.
My suggestion is to go for average height (5’8”) and regard any additional height as a bonus.

Assi2k · Answer

Why don’t women start treating their “preference” as that then? And not turn it into an insult huh? I don’t know if u live under a rock but bitches are literally brutal when it comes to men’s height and 🍆 size. Oh don’t start feign ignorance now hon 🤦🏾‍♀️

Sugar100 · Answer

I don’t like tall men I’m 5ft but I would feel insecure like it’ll feel weird like he’s my dad. I look too young I’m 24 but been told I look like I’m in high school so a tall guy won’t even want me be his girlfriend. All tell men I met like tall girls , not little girls 😔 even tho I’m an adult but I look like a little kid

crazy8000 · Answer

One reason could be that many female's are hippocrates in this area and judge males for what they get attracted to.

An other is that they doesn't really know what they actually get attracted to and aren't honest about it.

Jealousy. yeh. this one is a minority group that have been exaggerated by female's from the start.

But hurt because of they are attracted. even that they have problems with not being attractive for those female's.

You always have the kind that are into doing that. like online trolls.

There are more reasons.

ZackBan · Answer

People want what people want.
But those left out also have the right to be upset about it. They deserve that at least.

It's not like women or men will ever change their tastes and no matter how much certain groups bicker they cannot change certain things about the human brain

omgwhocaresaboutmee · Answer

as a 5'11 girl i care a lot about height because i like putting put my head on his shoulder, have his arm over my shoulder while walking and feeling safe when i'm hugging him as i get lost in his arms (lmfao it sound so poetic and extra). i also find tall couples really attractive, they look really powerful.

DianaWest · Answer

who is judged and who cares about others' opinion? most men like women with D cup boobs and certain curves. past a certain point, women have no control over their body shape. maybe they were born with really large hips, or an apple body shape, or a scrawny figure where no amount of squats will give them an ass. men can suck it up because they aren't all that understanding or forgiving when they judge a woman's body.

Anonymous · Answer

I also dont get it. Even if tall men are minority, it is our problem. Nobody judge any man for prefering young women although majority of women are not under 30. This means they reject 80% of women but we get hate for prefering tall men aka prefering minority of men (?).

Why are women judged for liking tall men?

I personally think you are entitled to prefere who you want. I would not even judge a guy for prefering a model. However, we should not bodyshame anyone. If you prefere thick curvy women, do not bodyshame non curvy women or if you prefere tall, you should not bodyshame short men.

PralineCream · Answer

It's personally only a deal breaker for me if the guy is shorter then me where I have to bend down to be at eye level, but many women want men over 6'0. Men have complained about that because no one likes to hear they don't fit everyone's preferences, that's it. It's hard but they just need to accept that, I have.

Dragonstarterplus · Answer

Mostly because men are judged as being shallow pigs for liking women that aren't overweight whereas women are just judged as having standards and preferences for liking tall men. And whereas height is something no one has any control over, how much someone weighs is definitely something they have control over

pickedcrisps · Answer

Babygirl_S how tall are we talking here? I'm 185cm (6ft or right on it). But people always say if I wasn't so slim and was more muscles-slim then I would quite look good have a good height just need more weight unquote.

And that was an old elderly woman complimenting me point blank out of the blue. Clearly I've got one thing down, the height. I just need muscles. But I am very slim.

spuitkaas · Answer

So my theory on this is because many men think they can work towards women liking them. If they're nice, polite, dominant, muscular or whatever enough, she will fall in love with him. However this disregards the humanity of women, who just like men have sexual preferences and aren't some magical creatures where if you just work hard enough they will love you.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Men get judged for liking certain body types on women too.

If men prefer shorter women who are smaller overall, they get deemed as having 'pedo preferences'.

Some of the same people that tell men to have standards are the same ones that get upset when they do, like it seems more acceptable for an obese woman to have standards like 6'4+, but if an obese guy demands a Victoria Secret model, it's okay.

kyleelyn199723 · Answer

It’s only the short unattractive men that have a problem with this lol.

DaveToo · Answer

Just as men can't help if they find a particular body type, hair color, or any other aspect of a woman to be attractive.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Because it’s such a bizarre characteristic to hinge a whole relationship on. I’m 5’11” and I’ve gotten let down over it. One girl asked me if I was 6’ tall and I said I was 6’ in heels and she stopped responding to me. Just seems so shallow. I don’t think men have a single immutable physical characteristic requirement for women that will turn them off immediately..

JROX23 · Answer

Question is why do women like tall men? There is nothing attractive about height🤣 It is all about personality in the end. If it's not I feel like it is for the wrong reasons... If the tall guy is attractive inside and out I get it! Odds are at that point the height waa the smallest peice of the puzzle. My strength as a 5'7" man is my personality, my voice, my looks , and my empathy. Height is just not something I'm concerned is important

TruthBringer · Answer

Same reason why men are being judged for not liking fat women. The only difference here is that weight can be controlled (generally speaking) while length cannot.

Nik1hil · Answer

Because some people are assholes..

What we find physically attractive cannot be controlled..
It's depends on how we were sexually hardwired..

And if men in teenage find out.. That women like tall guys..
Why don't guys exercise and stretch and get taller than usual
My dad's like 5"6 and mom is like 5"2 and I am 6"0 .
I figured this out at 15 yr age and started stretching and did it..
Totally worth it..

Shiver · Answer

It's the insults. It's fine to have a preference, but a decent amount of women are just straight up nasty bitches about it because they know if they complain enough about getting hate, every white knight in a 50km radius comes running.

Hangry06 · Answer

Apparently people call it "unrealistic ". I mean they talk like tall men don't exist.

Anonymous · Answer

Quite frankly, I don't care. I can't change my height but I tend to find girls who like tall guys and find shorter guys to be some repugnant, disgusting, vile piece of trash in the dating books in their eyes. It's like those girls take it to some next level. Even if I didn't find a girl attractive I wouldn't be a dick about it. Even when I don't swipe on the like side for dating apps, I feel bad.

Somegirl408 · Answer

i dont know, but i noticed a lot of men seem to have a problem with what women find attractive lol

Paulychicago10 · Answer

Why are men judged for liking shorter females? People seem to associate shorter females with underage girls, rather than a female that is vertically challenged due to genetics. Also, some people have no consideration for others when they sit there and judge someone else, when all they are doing is comparing themselves with the other person. We all have our rights to an opinion, but there are also always two or more sides to that judgement as well.

Guanfei · Answer

Because you're all full of shitty double standards. Crying when a man dares to say he has preferences, but brag about yours.
And that attitude you have about short guy. You don't just prefer tall guys, you literally mock and despise short guys. Many women treat shorts guys as some sub-humans who don't even deserve a look.

Youdumbeotch · Answer

Women make height the sole determining factor. A lot of men get dismissed simply for not being her ideal height, yet us men don’t like fat chicks however we get bitched at as if we aren’t allowed to have preferences. Shit we are even transphobic if we aren’t into shemen

Anonymous · Answer

I met two women, a woman 5'8 160 pounds (beautiful) and a woman 5'1 (100 lbs) (also beautiful). I am 6'1 210 lbs (average), both these women are my friends and we know each other from church. My number one priority in relationship was mutual faith in Jesus Christ. I talked to both women, but the woman 5'1 showed a greater interests and we connected more on a mental level. We are both in a similar field. So I am dating the 5'1 woman, I love her but realize we look extreme.

Anonymous · Answer

I think it just makes average and tall women upset since they can’t necessarily find someone taller than them, they don’t blame the women under 5’7 because it’s obviously not their fault, it’s the fact that men on the taller side don’t really see women who are average or on the taller side as a potential partner for them. They too deserve to look up at a guy and feel they’re short for once. These Darn men.

Laurenwantstoknow · Answer

Short men get insecure and upset because a lot of times there not desirable. Like when overweight girls get made at guys for liking fit women. Absolutely stupid.

RawIronhide · Answer

It's not that. Y'all don't even get to know someone unless they're as tall as you'd like them to be. Normally the other guys don't even get a chance reguardless of their looks. It's the wrong metric.

zaharuh · Answer

Okay how can you judge someone for their preferences like what? 🤦‍♀️

chapawapa · Answer

Hmmm you can't help who you like... first glance I think it looks funny to be a tall man with a very short woman. But it's just appearances so my judgment really holds no weight.

shadowarrior99 · Answer

You can't control your height. You can a bit at certain points but for the most part you can't work hard at being taller and it's something you can't change. Frustrating when you have no control over something. Can work hard at being fit though

blondfrog · Answer

Same reason why men are judged for liking woman with bigger boobs. Life is not fair you can like whatever the fuck you want. Why the fuck do you care what people think anyways? You can like men only 7'2 if you want.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Why are we judged for the things we like in women? If you can answer that then you have the answer to your question.

t-8900 · Answer

Well I'm 6'3, yay me I guess... still doesn't do shit for me lol. I like women to approach me, women get scared because I'm tall I guess, it's all a real mess if you ask me lol.

Olalaa4 · Answer

I think height doesn't matter, unless you're 165cm Messi is 171 but any women wouldn't say no to him

Tiptoetamm · Answer

I don't know but it's hot. But I've been with few shorter guys and their dicks are huge usually. insanely good lol

Archerer · Answer

They are just resentful, and take it out on you instead of working on themselves.

Deserter · Answer

I'm not judging, I just don't get it personally. Same with dick size. A lot of girls want a guy with an 8 inch dick. Despite it being incredibly rate and the fact that you can't take 8 inches, you just can't.

vald9inches · Answer

Everyone has their preferences just like guys like big boobs or butts or short girls or tall girls, girls have their own preferences surprise surprise! Lol as a tall man myself I like girls of all heights but I do prefer girls on the shorter side 😊

ChiPaPa · Answer

Same thing can be asked about ethnicity, etc. It all comes down to them feeling like you're dismissing someone about something they can't change. Besides, why care what they think? Unless, you're being harassed or what not because of it.

bestfriend69 · Answer

People who have a lot of time on their hands judge others because they don't have anything better to do

Janessa2021 · Answer

They claim its body shaming when they literally require women to have an hour glass, no stretch marks , perfect teeth, colored eyes like this is build a bitch or something 😂😂

The_Naughty_Guy · Answer

I agree with you. It’s a women choice to have her preference and no one’s got right to judge her.

dowser19 · Answer

Women aren't necessarily judged for whom they like. What I've found horribly predictable and rampant, is that if a female DOESN'T find you physically attractive... you'll get zero human courtesy from her altogether. In public, customer service, etc.

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

As a 6'2 guy I have nothing against women with that preference.
I know it must be really frustrating for short guys, but life is not fair. Is like being a flat girl, you will get less attention, nothing to be done about it.

doopayo · Answer

The woman in the picture did not look 5”0, she looks 4”12 and that’s me being nice 😂

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Because so many women shout shallow at men at the top of their lungs when it comes to what men find attractive. The real reality are that both sides as just projecting their insecurities.

Not_Average · Answer

Same reason men are judged for liking busty fit girls

Anonymous · Answer

Probably because weight can be controlled where as height cannot. But mostly you are judged because you are making others feel like shit and then you justify it by saying TWO wrongs make it right.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't find that problem at all. You are free to choose your preferences.

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