How do you breakup with someone in a nice way without hurting them?

Sarahdelacruz
There’s this guy that I’ve been online dating for about 3 weeks now. Him and I instantly clicked and just had a really good connection. He has become so emotionally attached to me in such a short period of time. He didn’t have many photos on his profile when we first matched so I didn’t think too much of it. But he just recently sent me some photos of himself and now I finally got to see what he looks like fully and I’m honestly not attracted to him at all. Like he’s a really nice guy, we have our differences but we get along pretty well. He finds me super attractive and is always complimenting me but I can’t do the same for him because that’ll just be me being fake and I really can’t do that. I really care a lot about his feelings because we truly do have a strong connection. We spend hours talking on the phone and he has expressed to me how special this is to him because he has never connected with anyone online like this before. We have a date coming up this week and I honestly don’t want to see him simply because I’m just not attracted to him. I don’t want to be with someone out of pity. He deserves to be with someone who finds him attractive and I also deserve to be with someone I find attractive. I know everything isn’t about looks but this man is really falling deep for me before we even met and has mentioned marriage and kids and all sorts of future plans with me and it wouldn’t be fair for me to put myself in a situation just for the simple fact that he’s nice and I feel bad for him. I just need help on ending things with him in the nicest way possible. I do not want to hurt his feelings the slightest bit but I know ending things with him will hurt but I just don’t need him to know the reason because that’ll crush him. I can’t imagine someone I really like telling me they don’t want to move forward with me because they don’t find me physically attractive. It’s flat out mean and I feel so terrible for feeling this way but this is my true feelings.
How do you breakup with someone in a nice way without hurting them?
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