Is it bad to date for practice?

[Assi2k]

If you grew up in a protective or religious household, is it bad to date someone for "practice"? My cousin that isn't a real cousin dated my mutual friend for practice and dumped her. So my bro catfished him.

Is this common?

I've done this but never revealed my intentions

That's psychotic / I've never done this

I'm married/taken. This is single people's problem

[sabotage22]

Dating for practice is just using another human being. That is not OK. That said, dating someone (not for practice) does not mean you have to marry them. It is about enjoying the time together and getting to know the other person. But to start dating someone who then might get feelings for you just in order to be better at dating the next one is plain cruel.

[Anonymous]

Seems pretty selfish, but that's not surprising these days lol. No common decency or basic respect for the other person's feelings.

[Assi2k]

Yup so u agree catfishing him was justified?😂

[Anonymous]

I once dated a girl for science. I experimented on her. I felt immoral but we both got value out of it. And isn't that what a relationship is? If you aren't getting anything out of it you leave the other person right? So we both got something out of it. She just never knew I didn't really like her. I played the part perfectly so I would never break her heart. And ofc I had to break up with her but I did it after 3 months so that isn't so bad as like 6 months or a year. 3 Months wasted isn't so bad especially when young. If I do it again though omg I'd dominant the fuck out of her. Not for science but I'd do the science stuff too. I'd put her right in her place. Anyway I got what I needed and the effects of what I figured out or confirmed benefited us both. She just doesn't know it. All my friends and hers think it was legit. It was so well faked that I can't even convince them it was fake. The lie became reality. It's quite scary how people will believe the first thing you say. If you seem dark they will believe it. You tell them your name is Ralph they will believe it and when you tell them your real name they say you don't look like a etc. People believe whatever you tell them. But don't go hurting people for fun.

[Assi2k]

You okay buddy?

[whirled_up_girl]

I think "dating for practice" could be harmful to the other person if they don't know what your intentions are. Not being on the same page with the other person could lead to them really getting their heart broken. If you want to casually date or have friends with benefits (or whatever the kids are calling it these days) it's important to make those intentions clear from the beginning. Even then sometimes one person will decide they want it to be more serious, but at least they know from the beginning what they got themselves into.

[ohshee]

I actually think it's cool in a roundabout way you have the whole internet here which means you had the whole world in your hands you can become you can learn you can practice anything you want on it I wish I would have had this when I was 12 13 14 years old. And what's even better is that you can roll play it out with with somebody just to get that experience and if you want to go all the way with the roleplay hit me up LOL we can role-play it from start to finish all the way all different scenarios but I'm guaranteeing you you want to go out again LOL

[Jlegacy]

The construct of relationships allows for two selfish and self centered people to mutually benefit frok each other as long as both parties know each others end goals.


Dating for practice isn't a bad thing. It isn't evil. What is, is the dishonesty.

If you go around hurting people, life would prepare for you a bumber harvest of hurts.

If yoi can't be honest about it, don't do it.

[Assi2k]

I totally agree with you. People that do this have gotta be doing it for pleasure. That's the scary part.

[Jlegacy]

I get that a lot of people would prefer to do a play relationship but for me, I'd rather have the real thing. I'm too emotional no stand on the edge and not fall. I easily fall in love. I can't do practice, I just might turn it into the real one.

[horsenrhinounicorn]

Dating for practice really only has good outcomes when there is an agreement from both parties. When a man or woman just comes out of a divorce, they are not ready to take the next big step and this is just one example of dating for fun not expecting a relationship

[Nomina]

I've never heard of someone doing that, but it wouldn't surprise me.

What if both people were to knowingly and openly practice on each other? Then would it be okay?

[Assi2k]

That’s the thing, he only revealed his intentions at the time of breaking up w her. Shit gave me second hand paranoia. I’m my opinion, I wouldn’t get into a “practice” relationship but I’d do dates cuz no one is emotionally invested in some on the first date

[bamesjond0069]

You're supposed to go on many first dates. Then a few second dates. And by the 3rd date know if they are the one. With no sex happening at all. This is one of a few traditional sort of dating styles that works.

Nothing wrong with just dating around meeting people and going out to have a fun evening.

[MiamiMadness]

Interesting concept, I guess if you don’t mind playing with the test dummies feelings you’re good to go lol

[Assi2k]

He told her the truth and dumped her💀
After hearing this story, I've only grew more untrusting of dating

[MiamiMadness]

Yea it would make me more untrusting of dating too, that seems pretty cold tbh just trying dating people for real and see what happens. Life is to short for fake practice dates.

[Assi2k]

You're right! And that's what I was thinking when I heard this. That's why I think he deserved it when my brother catfished him.

[MiamiMadness]

I’m glad your bro catfished him to so he can feel what it’s like to get tricked! People should stop being so selfish 🙄

[Michael49]

It is never ok to use someone for personal gains. There are so many people out there that enjoy friends with benefits relationships that have the same results but your intentions are known

[Jamie05rhs]

I think it's maybe okay to do that if both parties are aware and willing. But certainly not if anyone is being conned.

[Assi2k]

I agree with you. His logic was that if she knew it was a "practice relationship," he wouldn't get a "real" experience.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Assi2k I understand his logic there. But human beings aren't a scientific experiment. You can't play with people's hearts like that. It's wrong.

[sabotage22]

I mean, how would that even work and what benefit would it bring? It sounds like the stuff all these 'dating coaches' are trying to sell: finding the way to change your behaviour in order to make someone like you and want you. But the problem is, there is no script. We are all unique and we date differently. What would work in the practice dating/relationship may be completely useless in the next one.

[Jamie05rhs]

@sabotage22 That's a very good point. You're absolutely right.

[Assi2k]

@sabotage22 People aren't as unique as we'd like to believe. We'll fall into a category is some way. And if you have a type... that's a category

[Woke51]

Yes, it is bad to date for "practice." Especially if the other person is not aware. They don't deserve to be a practice dummy.

[Andres77]

A date is a date.
Don't use people.
As long as your intentions are clear leave it up to them if you just want to hang out.
Good luck

[chriscdi]

Pretty messed up if you think of it, I guess that's only if the other person doesn't know it's for practice

[Anonymous]

I feel men need it more than women do since the burden of leadership falls on guy's shoulders

[Assi2k]

My cousin was in a fake relationship with her. It wasn’t just a date or two

[Ironic_Method]

Nah. Casual dating is fine as long as you make it clear and everyone is on the same page.

[TheBigGuy9]

You talking about having a fling? That’s an everyday occurrence for most people your age.

[Hangry06]

Nah. It's just a preference

[Assi2k]

Hmm, I don't think I get your meaning. Plsss elaborate

[Hangry06]

Reasons for dating is different from person to person. It depends on what people prefer to get from dating. There is no right or wrong there

[Assi2k]

So you wouldn't mind if your boyfriend told you he never loved you but was only using you to get practice? Wow I cannot even imagine the betrayal I would feel. Thnx for sharing

[Hangry06]

It's a highly unimaginable situation for me since i don't date

[Assi2k]

You're taken or married?
And what's ur meaning of dating? Everyone seems to have a different meaning

[Super-Sam]

You still alive 😂 😂
I thought you gone

[EaterPeter]

Nope

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[disgustingweebtrash]

Seems weird