Do most guys my age 28 -30 prefer younger woman?

[Alwayreckles93]

Today it was hard day someone made a comment which it can be hurtful. On this site and in my work place their is this one guy he happens to have just turn 30 last week is dating this one girl who is 20 . That's not what bother me it is most the things he said I one comment he made he told me well your prime years are over a many man my age wouldn't waste time with a 28 year old woman as they're divorce with baggage. I couldn't help but run to the bathroom and cry. Am I taking things to personal?

[btbc92]

No. Which gym experiencing its flat out of you, and why would you want to get involved with that kind of man in the first place? The 20-year old is already being used because she's 20. She's going to Learn the hallway we're kind of messy got involved here you say that's not what ball is you but it should bother you because look at what was told to you. Would you allow somebody like that treat your own daughter that way? If no, then the next time another man was to make another comment to like that, you let them know They need a reality check because you're not going to get married or date an abuser. There are better men out there who will not treat you like those kind of pigs. Trust me, what relationship with those type of men they don't last long anyway. And most of them eventually get divorced at some point or they end up in miserable relationships or marriages. If the 20 your old woman does not see the kind of behavior and how he speaks, then either she's blind, or she's in endorsement of it. And if she's endorsing the behavior, have no pity.

[Alwayreckles93]

I'm divorce not sure how to handle this situation, I pray to God to help me. It has been difficult.

[Alwayreckles93]

I'm 28 soon will be turning 29. I don't understand

[btbc92]

I know, I understand your situation. Be if you are divorced or not you did not deserve to have that kind of comments. Those kind of men are jerks and they don't know who you are as a woman noted no or respect your work period I understand that your going to be my age soon. I'm gonna be almost 30 myself period if God has a husband for you then you don't have to worry about what those other names think but I understand also what you're saying because at the end of your day men as well as new women have free will period and the last things you need is to be hurt and abuse because the person had chose to do that by choice. I believe that God's will make sure that you are with the right kind of person. Guys like that are selfish as hell. They don't give a damn about nobody else but themselves. So just think of it like this. You dodged the bullet. At least you know what kind of person that man is and that's an abuser. Those kind of men I never liked it anyway because they're abusive, and they only try to wine and dine you and being a charmer so that way they can get to step into their world and what's your stuck in it, it's hard for you to get out. Don't let age hold you back. What it is is that those men are just using willing to take advantage of. If they wanted something serious they would not say the kind of things they're are saying. Because they're not happy people. And all they want to do is ruin somebody else's happiness.

[btbc92]

You didn't ask to be the boss. You asked for a husband who wants to love you, cherish you, and be by your side. Whatever happened in your marriage is what happened in your last marriage. If you're not able to reconcile with that person, leave it be in God's hands. God knows what you need, he knows your heart, and he knows who you are in him. A lot of these men are in huge trouble just know that much. So even if you never remarried or be involved with someone again, thank God for God, thank God for his son Jesus, because as long as you and never done anything, they're the ones that got an answer. You only got an answer for the things that you know that you done in this life. Ask God for forgiveness, and continue to do what you got to do. You got to walk. You got to walk this walk, and you got to live your life in Jesus. Focus on Jesus and don't worry about the world. Because the world is the world. What does the word of God say? The world may change, but he will never change. Remember that. Find Comfort in the father our creator. Go to Abba. And remember at the end of the day Jesus is your husband. He sustains you, when your mortal husband fails you.

[btbc92]

You didn't ask to be divorced*

So don't worry about most of those guys you know why? because your only supposed to be with one man. So if you're still seeking another relationship, be with that one man who see you for you comments your own words, your own heart. Because not everybody is meant to see you. Only the one person who's meant to compliment you who God ordained to be your husband. So what any of them say is not going to matter. Because God is God. He wants you with somebody you're going to be with somebody. You don't have to worry about that because at least it ain't those blokes. So we for tonight, Joy comes in the morning. Dust yourself off, and have a good laugh because the devil's a liar.

[Alwayreckles93]

Thanks girl I don't understand because their are woman our age that look way younger then 20 year old. I don't even think thier is a connection.

[btbc92]

Because its not about youth, its about naiveness and the control. They want women they can easily manipulate and control. The more intelligent you are the more of a threat you are to weak men.

[Alwayreckles93]

I wonder how the Lord see these things. People jump right to conclusions oh 28 is old. When I have friends that are our age and look way more younger. I believe you look way more young then your actual age.

[btbc92]

Sarah was very old when she gave birth to Isaac. I think that should tell you something right there.

[cinnamonwaves]

Girl, I totally understand how you feel. Ageism (prejudice against people, especially women based on their age sucks). That's why most women lie about their age and get fillers, Botox and plastic surgery to look as young as possible. This is also propagated by Hollywood movie and culture that actually romanticize youth.
I don't know if this makes you feel better, but according to population surveys and statistics, the average age difference in heterosexual married couples is approx 2-3 years with the man older than the woman. Extreme age differences (the husband being 10+ years older than wife) are in the minority. I wish I could include the link from Wikipedia, but I can't, since I'm only XPER level 1.
Sure, everyone finds young people attractive but there's much more in a relationship than just looks, that's why most men choose women their age or close to their age at the end.
Most successful men, millionaires such as Bill Gates prefer educated women their own age to gold-diggers. My mother was 4 years younger than my father. Also Evan Spiegel, Snapchat's creator married Miranda Kerr, who's a few years older than him
Don't listen to the rednecks, incels, MGTOW and other uneducated idiots of this site.

[Alwayreckles93]

Thank you you are so kind. I recently got a divorce and the judgement is hard. You are right Hollywood is to blame for that. Not sure why I just think people must be respectful. I cry for the next 30 mins.

[cinnamonwaves]

I'm sorry to hear that
But remember not everyone is shallow sister. The right is guy out there waiting for you. You just have to find him.
If you need anyone to talk to, my dms are open for you

[Shizunk]

I am slightly older than you but I do prefer to date younger. I will soon turn 32 and it's about time to start taking things seriously. So I would personally stay away from someone who is 20-22, because I feel like they will still change their mind seven times in the next decade. Too inexperienced, probably looking for adventure more than anything. 24 is where I start taking women seriously, 30 is where my interest may start to decline. So with 28, you are perfectly withing the right age category for me and that didn't change last couple years and probably won't for a few more. So I think now is precisely your time to shine.
That divorced thing sounds worse honestly, but if you put forward your strengths and only mentioned it much later, I would probably not read into it too much. So I'd say don't let anyone scare you. Make a case why a man should be interested in you and he just might be...

[normalice]

I mean, some deeply self absorbed guys are like that, but most guys are aware enough to notice the passage of time. Thats not to say 20ish year old girls aren't attractive: there's a reason they are on all the magazine covers. But outside of raw physical attraction, they will have trouble relating to anyone outside their own generation. Because that's how generations work.

[TrueConfection]

It sounds like this guy has the intelligence of a fruit fly. Get your confidence out of the gutter, scrape the dirt off, and put it back on. Your worth isn't measured by a guy or anyone else. The right guy, that guy that you're meant to be with, is on his way to you. Be patient and ignore the morons.

[Alwayreckles93]

Thank you, How do I not allowed things to not get so easy to me? I took it way harsh his words. I got a divorce recently not that I am looking for a guy but the things they say that a woman my age has baggage at times things don't work out my marriage was ruin because of an MLM. Now his comments saying that oh A man my age wouldn't waste his time with a 28 year old woman with baggage. My situation he sounded hurtful.

[TrueConfection]

Yes, I remember your posts about the woman. You just went through a lot and this jerk just poured salt in that wound. How do you not allow it to get to you? Remind yourself that you are a good person and your ex didn't deserve to be with you. Remember that there is a great guy who will cherish you and he is on his way.

[Alwayreckles93]

Thank you you are very sweet. I am feeling okay now It just rough.

[Sarahr123]

The guy was just an asshole. Your prime years aren’t over. Some women don’t even peak until their late 30s. It really depends on you. Take care of yourself, look young, feel young and stay around good people.

Everything is not about having kids. I don’t even think I really even want kids anymore.

You tell that asshole that you wouldn’t even want him even if he were the last scum left on earth. He’s just a piece of shit.

[Alwayreckles93]

Thanks girl , Exactly you are absolutely right I know woman who are in their 40's and they appear to look at way more younger. My friend she is 35 and people are always thinking that she is 19 lol

[Exterminatore]

I think you’re taking it personal but what he is saying is reality. Middle aged women with a divorce under their belt and kids are not particularly desirable options for dating. These are the facts of life. I’m not saying this to be hurtful or mean but simply stating fact.


Most guys your age do not prefer younger women, most guys my age and older probably do, but not too young. No matter how youthful a girl may look immaturity gets old quick. I could never date a 20 year old at my age on a serious level.


All this said, should you choose to date again it does not mean you have no chance. It does not mean you are undesirable. It just means you can’t compete with a younger girl who has no kids and no baby daddy.

[Alwayreckles93]

But a 30 year old and a 20 year old have a huge age gap there isn't really a strong connection. While some 20 year olds are still trying to figure out life going to college and the 30 year old guy is trying to pay off student loans. Studies have proved and showed the brain does not development until the age of 25.
A woman my age is able to cook clean while now a days 20 year old woman don't know how to cook or clean a home some possible still living with parents. It just this whole 10 year age gap can't get threw my mind. The closer the age the stronger the connection gets. What could possibly a 20ywar old offer to the table?

[Exterminatore]

Not really. There’s not a huge difference between a 20 and 30 year old these days.

A 20 year old can cook and clean too…and look 10x hotter than a 35 year old while doing it.

Again I’m not trying to be mean at all. Just stating the facts as I see them but outside of looks and the ability to bear children…in modern times women are virtually useless otherwise to a man. We don’t need you for companionship, we have our guy friends for that. You’re not as strong as us in any way so you are the weakest link in the chain. You ladies emotionally reason so we don’t need you for logical thinkers to help us draw up plans and figure out how to reach goals. What we need you to do is be supportive. To handle the more menial tasks but modern women are all together useless for this as they are not content to do this but rather want to be the man and compete with us. Modern women are not content to be subordinate to their husbands and be a help mate as God created and commanded they be, instead they want to be the head of the house and usurp our authority.

What use are modern women to a man as a wife? Only to look good and have sex with, and to bear children. Otherwise you have become all together useless to a man and are not an asset but a liability. If a man cares not that God says sex is to remain inside of marriage and does not desire children then modern women is 100% useless to a man.

Therefore better to go for the looks, as that’s all most women these days are good for as far as a relationship and marriage. As far as marriage goes, again the modern woman is dangerous. Should she choose to divorce she will leave the man penniless and take his children too.

So the 20 year old in this case offers the only things she is probably good for, beauty, sex and the ability to bear children, and likely nothing more.

I do not hate women but I do not care for the modern woman who has had her head filled with feminism and as a result, most are only good for self serving themselves.

[Exterminatore]

I think what’s happening is you’re in shock because something has changed for you that didn’t exist before and you probably don’t know how to handle it.

When you were younger before you had children you probably had no shortage of men interested it you. Being able to date a man was as easy as getting food in a restaurant drive through. Ages 14-30 girls, even very average ones have no shortage of men that would be willing to date them.

Now the tables have turned. Now you must work to get the available men the way they once had to pull out all the stops to get you. A woman’s greatest asset is her beauty and not having baggage (I. e. children and a baby daddy) if she’s single.

This does not mean you can’t or won’t find a man who suits you that you will be happy with. What it does mean is you will now have to work to get it. It is an unfortunate reality. It is what it is. Some will disagree with me. They’re entitled to their opinion.

[Alwayreckles93]

I am not hating on 20 years olds. I just think that 10 age gap is huge and they can't possibly have a strong connection. My ex-husband and I we were a year age gap and still it was hard and we ended up in divorce I can't imagine how hard a relationship would be with couples with that age gap. There is a 90% divorce would happen. Now a days it is hard to guess a someone's age like the other day for example their is this sweet lady about your same Age at first I thought she was 27 she told me she was 43 if she didn't tell me her age I would have never guess. Again a 40 year old woman could look better then someone my age or for example a 35year old can look better then a 20 year old.
I don't think you are a woman hater I understand , About femenist I would say that depends on the area location and state. I grow up in the South and you wouldn't see that whole femenist behavior in a Southern woman. At the time I was in my early 20s I was looking for seriously relationship I wasn't interested in dating different guys. I was in my early 20s now a days that is considered young when I got married to my now ex husband. Some people would think I'm crazy but it is a lot more common in the South. I was focus in one guy my now ex husband the thing about my divorce things got very hard.

[Alwayreckles93]

About the man being the head of the house that is actually very common in the South , Southern woman we are raising to maintain the husband happy. We are thought to cook , clean take care of the family. Not all woman are the same , At least not Southern woman have that modern mentally.

[Exterminatore]

You have the correct mentality. That is the type of woman who makes an excellent wife. They are hard to find these days.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

He's just being a mean jerk. Those people like that truly suck. You're 28 years old not 48 nor 58. You're still young.

You're going to have to learn to just ignore people B. S.. People and their opinions aren't actually as important as you think they are.

[Alwayreckles93]

People can be in sedative at times. I my problem is I allowed things get to me. How do you do that? What is your advice?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

That happens because of the following reasons.

#1: You desire to be accepted and love by others so their opinions even if stupid ones you value their words.

#2: You don't have a dream or something big to look forward too so you focus on trivial matters.

My advice for you is don't worry about people who don't feed you, clothe you or put a roof over your head. No one is giving you a dollar to help you, so why worry about them?

Moreover, most people opinions are stupid and unwise, besides the fact you won't even remember their opinions a few years from now anyways.

Think about how many opinions you have heard in all your life, easily thousands, yet you only probably remember 5 or 7 opinions clearly probably by your close friend mom, dad or teacher. Point is most people's opinion aren't important.

Lastly, you need to focus on your dreams. Get a sheet of paper and specifically write down your goals.

Only you know your talents and how smart you are. Use your smarts and talent to built your dream lest the years pass you by and you are still stuck working for a company that truly doesn't care about you anyways.

When you are laser focus on your dreams you literally won't have time nor care what people think or would say.

Ever seen a lion or lioness hunt on TV? Once they lock in on their prey nothing literally matters to them except the target ahead. Do likewise. Good luck and God bless you. And you're physically pretty too.

[Anonymous]

While I wouldn't be that black andcwhite about it he is right.
I didn't decide I wanted to date young women. In fact if you ask me women in their late b 30's is when their most attractive. But as I got older I found women got more and more bitter. Through no fault of mine. I still paid the price though. Then one day I dated a really young girl and it was like beginning dating all over again. All she wanted to do was have fun. If there was any bitterness in her I never saw it. It was quite refreshing. Afterwards I said why do this to myself anymore. Who says I have to date my age? Especially when what is in the pool my age is so unappealing.

[bamesjond0069]

I mean its true. Im 34 and my girlfriend just turned 19. Even though 28 is 6 almost 7 years younger than me, i personally find that too old and would not be interested. Plenty of younger girls like older men so its easy enough to just not even bother with older women.

[Alwayreckles93]

Seriously you think a 28 year old woman is to Old? Does that 19 year old pay her own bills? Does she cook for you? Does she clean? Or is she still living with parents?

[bamesjond0069]

She doesn't pay her own bills. Men donf care about that at all. Thats the great big fat lie everyone tells girls these days. Yeah if i was going to be with a woman closer to my age she better make serious bank to make up for not having the benefits of being young. She does cook and clean which is all i really expect from a girl and any girl can do that easily enough. She did live with her parents but now she lives with me. Thats a good thing. Never had a chance to sleep around or party much.

[Alwayreckles93]

Why a 19 year old? Why not a 32 year old that is mature and ready to establish a life has raised a family? Not sure why you be interested in dating someone that can be your little sister.

[bamesjond0069]

Age does not equal maturity. Single older women are usually the least mature. Young women who seek a mature man usually are far more mature than their age.

"has raised a family" well i haven't had kids yet. Not looking for someone who has been there done that before. We should have our first child together.

"Not sure why you be interested in dating someone that can be your little sister." My little sister is in her 30s... not 19. Smh.

[Alwayreckles93]

That 19 year old baby is out drinking clubing getting drunk parties and getting inyo car accidents probably on drugs. Unlike a 32 year old woman with class she has her life together career.

[Alwayreckles93]

I don't understand why you would think 28 is old. Age 28 is not old you are saying it as if I was 50.

[Alwayreckles93]

You do realize that 19 year old is old enough to be your niece. Yes she is old enough to be your little sister.

[bamesjond0069]

she's not a party girl actually. She likes to go to the gym, cook, clean, knit, read, and volunteers at church. Total wife material.

[Morgador]

He's a immature douchebag. That 20 year old will be sleeping with his dad behind his back. Be confident in yourself and pay no mind to dip shits like that. They would jump at the chance to be with you

[Mangospacho]

When I was 28, I just had a minimum age of 21 who I would date. My maximum was somewhere around 30-31 so I didn’t “prefer” younger but for me that was the only option a lot of times because I got along better with girls who were 4-5 years younger than me and nobody my own age wanted to date me.

[Dinklex3]

Im not going to tell you how you should or shouldn't feel.
But i wouldn't take it too seriously.
Who cares what he thinks? You don't want a guy like that anyways and he clearly doesn't speak for all men.

[dolemite89]

depends on what they want tbh, personally i don’t want kids so i’d go for a girl around 25 if i had my choice. Women 28 and older usually start getting real baby crazy and it’s frightening 😂 but if a guy wants kids i don’t see the problem in dating a girl that’s 28 or older.

[libsaretards]

Actually I would NOT date a younger woman. I am currently 28 and would not date a woman younger than 25 (MAYBE 24 if she was exceptionally mature and level headed). My preferred age range for women is 25-30).

[Shy_Steve]

They just want Girls who they find physically attractive as long as they aren't too old or too young.
Guys focus more on attractiveness instead of age.

[spartan55]

Yeah, you are. Tell him since he's such an asshole no women would want to play with his little pecker, so buh bye.

[Jamie05rhs]

Is that why you set your age as "20"? Because you wanted guys to respect you?
Honey, you don't have to do that. You're beautiful as you are! Just be yourself. 💙

[Alwayreckles93]

Thanks but I this site can be crazy I might had put the year wrong by accident.

[Anonymous]

We are tighter, slipperier, hotter, hornier, more fun, more adventurous and we don't want to get married or have babies.

[Alwayreckles93]

Exactly because woman your age aren't marriage material just one night stand dolls. Woman your age can't cook or clean yet still living off mommy and daddy.

[Grubhub]

I prefer any age. As long as she’s my type and Latin enough. Or has some kind of exotic features

[Caliguy88]

I always thought I liked younger but I always end up with girls like 1 - 3 years older. Obviously not a big gap, but older

[Alwayreckles93]

Hey but at least they're mature and can handle to cook and clean lol most 20 year olds now a days don't know how to cook or clean. Yeah not a good choice for a wife.

[Caliguy88]

I think for me it was mostly because I hung out with people a little older all growing up and that’s where I met girls. I don’t really care about age too much. You like what you like.

[Bklynbadboy12]

First off you're not old so stop letting that lame ass dude get in your head he's dating the young girl for two reasons and that it sex and cause she's easy to manipulate. He's lame asf and you know it

[KrakenAttackin]

Your profile says you are 20.

But no 30 year old man wants a woman who is 28+/- and already divorced. Seriously, too much drama already.

[Alwayreckles93]

Sorry I apologise for my profile age this website can be crazy at time. I am currently 28 now.

[KrakenAttackin]

From a younger man's perspective your life has been very erratic. You either married a bad guy (bad judgement) or you chased away a good guy (nagging, confrontational, demanding).

Just from your profile picture you are physically attractive which will make up for a lot, but you need to do serious introspection about why your marriage failed, what part YOU played in the failure, and be prepared to discuss this with a new man. When you normally speak to a divorced woman she will NEVER accept her failings, which is a red flag for a good man.

[Alwayreckles93]

It's kinda personal , But let give you an idea it was because my ex husband got himself involved in Amway it's an MLM pyramid scheme. I know it sounds silly but believe me it has couse so much trouble.

[Alwayreckles93]

Thanks

[FilmGuy93]

28 isn't passed your prime, but a lot of guys our age would prefer to date someone younger.

[Anonymous]

So?

Am i to understand that you are exclusively attracted to men who are within a very narrow age range of you?

[ChiPaPa]

I'm thirty and will date a woman or transwoman from 25-45. I have no real preference on having kids any more.

[Yahall0]

Don't worry not everyones is like that

[Alwayreckles93]

I see you have a better brain then a 30 year old dude.

[Dude_777]

They prefer what they feel attracted towards, which could just be anyone.

[jimmytaps]

Speaking on behalf of myself i agree with you, personally i like younger in general when it comes to relationships

[Alwayreckles93]

Why younger?

[Alwayreckles93]

I mean you are 27 would you prefer a lady your own age you know someone you have more in common and can be able to connect better. m?

[zagor]

No, not necessarily. Guys that age have their personal preferences like guys of any age.

[Cowboy6666]

They will either go for the same age or younger mostly..

[Anonymous]

Yes you are. Only his opinion and obviously by an extremely insensitive person.

[okeydoke]

He’s just a dick. What he said is not true.

[Alwayreckles93]

I don't understand the whole age gap thing in couple their is a huge chance it will end up in divorce.

[Slim57]

Age doesn't matter to me that much as long as she's an adult, i care about maturity

[Anonymous]

Cause me are stupid and think with their dicks

[Iron_Man]

I’m older than that and I prefer younger women

[legalboxers]

It shouldn't dictate on how you think.

[TheManchild]

No he was right

[princeofromance]

Yes!

[gaguser77]

Would you mind a PM?

[Alwayreckles93]

Sorry I am not feeling well

[AkshiJanjua]

i prefer older women