Have you ever cooked a romantic dinner for the person you are dating?

[coachTanthony]

[Citizenkirk]

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[t-8900]

I did everything I could for them within my financial means. I tried very had to show how much I cared by using family recipes, a medium-light semi sweet red wine, buying red candles, a few flowers for the centerpiece, and have lights dialed down to dim. I always felt guilty because I could never give them the best but the still loved that i did it. But I felt guilty that I couldnt do more for them. I usually had to sneak away to pour the wine in shame because it was Carlo Rossi and not a fine import and a lot of the meals were Pasta with Salads and Garlic bread... essentially peasant food. I wish I could treat a SO like the cherished goddess she is to me.

[lilyanony1]

No, the guy I dated the longest didn't appreciate my cooking because, I didn't cook traditional Caribbean food. Any attempts was heavily criticised. Even though he couldn't cook himself.

The other guy was so picky about anything that wasn't English or Irish food, so I just didn't bother. I remember making him porridge the Jamaican way and he acted like I was trying to poison him. When he tried it he liked it, but I think he tried to down play it.

For my mum I've cooked many things. I did Christmas dinner with gammon, turkey and lamb.
I've also cook duck.
Lamb shank.

I cook for myself every day unless I'm having a meal out or takeaway.
I like many cuisines.
And draw inspiration from them.
No ones ever had food poisoning, abd the one complaint I had was someone being upset because I served chicken leg and thigh on the bone.

[lilyanony1]

Have you? If so what did you prepare?

[spartan55]

Damn, it sounds like you just had some jackass boyfriend's.. duck, lamb shank those aren't entry level dishes... I wouldn't EVER criticize a meal cooked for me by, ANYONE, much less the woman I was hoping to have sex with that night. Some guys are just idiots.

[lilyanony1]

You hit the nail on the head. I do think sometimes that the guys I've met have been very intimidated by me. And that's not trying to be boastful because that I am not.
I'm kind, generous and I don't brag about things. I mentioned them here because the questions were asked. But in both cases what my exs thought was important to bring to the table was money.
Since I'm not rich the first liked to tell me of the expensive places he went whilst he couldn't or just wouldn't take me on a date to said places.
The second guy had the money and basically tried to insult my cooking in an attempt to go out so he could look like the big 'man' paying for everything.
That's not why I dated them, when I first met one of them we were 18/21 the second was an older (no it's wasn't a daddy issue type situation)
But the age and the status or wealth of the man really doesn't determine anything.
I know people thought kingsman was crap but the moral "manners maketh a man" it really is true.
I was always taught in life to have respect not only for yourself but others. When you are invited into someone's home you are a guest and as a guest it is your responsibility to be respectful and be the type of person they want to have return, one of the ways you do that is allowing your host look after you. You can offer feedback but you don't have to be rude.
It is what it is and I have realised that these men were not gentlemen.

[spartan55]

Why do you think they were intimidated by you?

I like your description of how a guest should conduct themselves. I had a girlfriend in college and would go spend the weekend at her parents house on breaks etc. They were quite loaded and initially I was intimidated that I wouldn't be high class enough for their daughter etc. The first weekend I spent there I was making my bed every morning. No laundry on the floor, dirty towels taken to the laundry room, etc. I helped clean up the kitchen after her mom made dinner... cost $0, I was on their good side after that. I don't know where it comes from because my parents never really drilled it in my head. I think I just followed their example.

I'm not following your thing about the second guy.
He insulted your cooking " in an attempt to go out so he could look like the big 'man' paying... huh? that is a long way around the block to make himself look better...
Why wouldn't he suggest going out for dinner? Could you help me out with that?

[lilyanony1]

We just weren't compatible.

I do my own thing and always have. For a short while they tried to make me believe that being that way was wrong, hence the parting of ways.

That's nice that you'd behave like that, hopefully that's how you've been as a guest in every home you've been too and not just because her family had money.
That line you said "they were quite loaded and I was intimidated I wouldn't be high class enough".
A lot of guys fall victim to that type of mentality, and it can grow into an insecurity that eventually erodes the relationship.
The person chose you simply because you are you, they thought you were good enough.
Either that or she was showing you the lifestyle she's accustomed too for you to up your game.

All I can say is, there, you felt you had to change (and it was positive), whereas they tried to down grade my mentality to be with them.

Nonsense.

[spartan55]

Yeah, that's never good when you change fundamentally because of what someone else wants
The thing with my old girlfriends family was good because it got rid of that insecurity. I was 20 years old and had never been associated with people with that kind of money, so I had some pre conceived notions and biases. They were pretty cool. There were two sets of girlfriend parents that didn't like me so I feel like I came out alright... the first were from a HS girlfriend and I still don't know what their problem was. They hated me from the get go, but I learned they were just miserable people in general so I didn't gaf about that. The second ones were parents of a 20 year old virgin I dated when I was 30. Oh man they hated me, because they knew I was defiling their daughter. That one didn't last long.

[lilyanony1]

Well the hs parents didn't want you defiling and steering her off her path to reaching her potential. And the second knew you were screwing it up but they played along in an attempt to get her to see through you and return to them. (I say this because well that's why they're thinking)

[Cynicaldreamer]

No, I don't like punishing my dates.

Joking aside, I've offered to cook for guys in the past, even make them cookies and sweets. Most weren't interested, or instead offered to cook for me instead-

I mean I'm not a great cook but damn, it's bad when a guy refuses to let you cook for him, lol. But would I cook for someone I'm dating? Sure. Not all the time, but maybe on special occasions... unless he wants me to make something on the grill: I LOVE barbecue food!

And before anyone makes any smartass comments: yes, I can cook. I just hate cooking for myself and usually wind up making something quick and simple.

[spartan55]

Okay.. I can't leave this one. You had guy (S) like more than one turn you down on cooking them a meal? Did they see some sort of evidence that you sucked in the kitchen? Or were they basing it on your basic meal choices? I completely get it when you mentioned cooking meals for yourself, I can do fancy just for myself all the time either. I love my weekends with my son because I get to cook for him too (and he isn't real picky thankfully)
Those dudes declining your offer is baffling to me.
I date a woman who really couldn't cook anything. It wasn't for lack of effort, she tried... but man... 🤢

[meetkitty123]

I have... Its nice to cook for another and be cooked for. I do a lot of cooking 🙂... but its nice to have a guy who can also do so... This way we can cook together or take turns.

[Guardian45]

I'll be over tomorrow at 6pm

[meetkitty123]

@Guardian45
Awesome bring the moscato wine and prepare for an unforgettable night 💋😈😇😊😋😘

[Guardian45]

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[libsaretards]

I did twice in my second relationship. The first time was to celebrate her birthday. The second was not a kind gesture. I found out she cheated on me while overseas so I baked her a cake. I made her a German Chocolate cake (she hates German Chocolate) and pretended I did not know the difference. Since I'm not big into sweets she believed me. To respect my "kind gesture" she ate the cake without complaint. When she was done, I gave her a "love note". I wrote it in purple (her favorite color). The first few lines were sweet, talking about how one day I would have loved to marry her. After that sentence, the note switched to blue (my favorite color) and I cussed her out, called her the most foul names I could think of for a female, showed her a picture to prove she cheated and told her to get the fuck out.

[ChrisMaster69]

Yes like loads n loads of times.

Also hired my mate to be the chef before (he ran a large London restaurant and has shit loads of awards etc) which was really great as I left it to him to surprise us both.

[midnightmoon05]

Yes I have many times. He cooked for me as well.
Buy my ex husband wanted me to cook like the restaurant, eventually we just eat in the restaurant since it’s impossible for me to cook Italian, French, Thai, Indian, Korean, etc… you name it… he wanted me to cook it like the restaurant.
My partner now, he is a stay home husband and cooks daily. I cook for him/is when I am not working. It’s fun cooking together.

[spartan55]

Absolutely. It was one of my 'go to' moves in my single years. And it wasn't a hot dog on Wonder bread either. I can cook pretty well. I also had my own house in my 20s. Those two components were like a tractor beam for women... those were the days...

[AnggieGirl]

I used to do this at the beginning of love but the guys now don’t appreciate it. So why give guys the good stuff when they don’t appreciate it. Now I don’t care anymore lol I know I’m a catch but not worth showing it off to guys because they aren’t mature enough these days

[TrueConfection]

For my husband, yes. I also did when we were dating. I think he married me for my cooking.

[NathanDavis]

for all of them yes... since age 16

not just for dating, also friends, family, relatives, myself... etcétera

[Mellifluous_]

Technically no. But I have baked for 2 of my old crushes.

[penneva581]

No but I once baked cookies and muffins for my crushes birthday

[Nomina]

No, but I've ordered food for us. It was pizza, he chose what we watched that night, followed by a heave make out session. It was a good night.

That's about as much romance as I can pull out of my ass.

[spartan55]

@nomina
You're quite the charmer. 😁

[Nomina]

@spartan55 aww thank you. I try

[CindyRuns]

Yes... I'm a good cook...

... and the way to a man's heart is through his stomach !!!

[Shiningtempest]

@coachTanthony I haven't cooked a romantic dinner for the person I am dating.

[coachTanthony]

Why not get on it!

[ohshee]

Always first of all I love to cook second of all I love when somebody likes my cooking and third of all because I'm cheap and I would rather cook something putting my energy my love into it because I like to eat and I like to show off that I can cook

[EvilAngel114]

Yes I have many times. I do find it more fun when we can cook together. Not because I’m being lazy, but it’s brings more excitement to the meal…. however that needs to be interpreted.

[Rachel794]

I have a lot of fun with my Daffy Duck from Looney Tunes that I got for Christmas 2018. We get snacks and watch our favorite movies and shows on Netflix, Disney Plus and HBO Max.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I love the smiles on their faces when they see how much work I put into making them happy even if it's something as simple as a meal on a date. Even if the relationship doesn't last, at least they compliment my cooking and they enjoy the food haha.

[Jaximus-Lion]

Of course i did, i am a chef. Mouth gasms are real 😁. The fastest way to the woman's heart is through her belly 😉

[GoodManDave]

Not yet... though I did once create a special toasted sandwich (that I love) for a girl. Her response... meh.

[kc_4308]

Yes I’m the past , but I’ll never cook for a man that’s not my husband