How do you date someone with trust and safety issues?

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JosyJosy · Accepted Answer

Before the relationship, I'd just do what I always do, just take my time in getting to know the person, not rushing into anything, so he can know me as well as he wants before actually becoming official

But if it persists while in a relationship... You don't. To have someone I love accuse me of cheating while I remained faithful and do my best for him to see it as well, to no avail? That's some crap that I don't want to drag myself through

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Be completely open and honest with them. No games either. I have trust issues and I’m currently in my last thread. I’m with this guy it took him 18 months to get my trust then I found out he lied about several things. Then I realised with how closed off I am if someone like him can lose my trust I’ll never trust again. He seemed so genuine and honest now I’m not so sure. I don’t think I’ll trust anyone again

Interstate · Accepted Answer

If they have trust issues, it is best to leave him be. Otherwise, he will be getting paranoid and more than likely even accuse you of running around. Trust issues are an absolute guarantee the relationship WILL NOT LAST. Maybe keep them as a friend, but it is best to not pursue anything with them. Eventually its just going to blow up.

Phoenix98 · Accepted Answer

Slowly earn their trust and show them your not someone they need to worry about. show them that you aren’t the people that hurt them, abused them or fucked then over.

Account · Answer

Someone like myself? Yes, but I can acknowledge that it would be extreme hard.

tatianamay · Answer

Yes! I would. I would provide them with love and care. Make him feel safe and secure. Honesty is very important. I'd prove that I'm trustworthy and with time, he'd feel safe. I'd just be myself though. But I'd proceed with caution, and be very patient

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Slowly, I small steps and making sure you build trust at all stages.

There can be many reasons why either gender can have trust and safety issues.

i would suggest couples counselling, the person with the trust and safety issues should ideally already have a counsellor.

humpbackjack · Answer

That’s a hard one because nowadays most everyone has trust and safety issues to some degree and my degree is pretty high I guess they first have to have something that draws you to them and makes you fall in love with them then it’s patience and understanding with a lot of communication

SunnySensei · Answer

According to me Miss you give them space but always be available for them if they need your help, they might say they don't need it and they can do this on their own but still stick with them, let them do what want but show them that you are their for them if they make a mistake.

Jayplays900 · Answer

I was with someone who had trust issues. It was difficult, but when I got their trust, it felt amazing.

They once laid in my arms, and it just made me think
"I'm the one that got her. She trusts me!"

I have trust issues nowadays, mostly cause the world's filled with assholes. But if someone is generally trying, and shows that they love me, I'll cave in for them.

nawtee_me · Answer

very carefully... It is hard to deal with a person that has trust issues. But the thing is it is hard for someone with trust issues to deal with other people too. For me I would get frustrated with someone accusing me of doing things I did not do. But I also know they also get frustrated thinking that something has happened too. It is a delicate path that would have to be treaded upon. And both people if they chose to stay together and work through it would be the poster children for patience...

t-8900 · Answer

Some have a seriously good reason for trust issues I get it. But damn is it annoying af sometimes. Especially when you've been going above and beyond and still uuugh. Make sure they've gotten some help first I'd say

Ninani · Answer

You respect all their boundaries and show them that you are safe and stable to be around.

HighValue · Answer

Show them that you aren't like whatever people messed them over in the past. it will take time though. Trust is earned, not given.

Grubhub · Answer

Yeah I couldn’t do it. I understand you may have pst trauma but not every man will rare or beat you. I met a girl who approached me in the dark. She trusted me and I trusted her. Doesn’t happen too often like that

ohshee · Answer

I understand the trust part of it what is the safety part that you're talking about

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

Probably not , if it’s not something they haven’t talked to a therapist about then nope

Morgador · Answer

Be yourself, truthful, honest and supportive and if he can't get over it you need to decide if you are willing to carry him for who knows how long to get over it

loveslongnails · Answer

Really carefully. One word of advice before you start: Ask yourself quite seriously --" Is the juice is worth the squeeze".

Nik1hil · Answer

By giving them control and making them feel safe and secure

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Like this

Anonymous · Answer

I suggest just be yourself. Prove to them over time that they are safe with you and you are trustworthy.

Surely · Answer

Better really love them! Cause it won’t be worth the effort if you don’t.

hhhffg7889 · Answer

Carefully and always being mindful. If you care enough to build them up and gain that trust

MiamiMadness · Answer

Provide them with loyalty and security duh

Smegskull · Answer

You don't. You date the decoy we leave out until we trust you.

ChefPapiChulo · Answer

you either become patient, or you dont.

IveGotNoName · Answer

With a good portion of reassurance

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

You earn their trust.

Andres77 · Answer

With patience and understanding.

ChiPaPa · Answer

I wouldn't. Good bye.

Lisa_97 · Answer

take it slowly, time will prove your loyalty

WowwGirl · Answer

You don't successfully

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Make them feel safe, and earn their trust.

Den1971 · Answer

Go to a crowded place like Starbucks first

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

Through your actions.

CubaPirate · Answer

With love and understanding

Neilbud · Answer

I'm going to need more info?

Adogdog · Answer

That's easy, you don't :)

bannacookies · Answer

You simply cannot.

jasco · Answer

simple you don't

InferiorElegy · Answer

You don't.

MSinger1981 · Answer

You don’t

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