Would you date someone with trust issues?

[Anonymous]

[LesterJester]

Relationships require trust in order to work. Without trust there is no relationship. If someone has trust issues then they're clearly not ready to be in a relationship and you shouldn't be seeking a relationship with them until they can figure their crap out. Otherwise you're going to be in for a lot of drama, accusations, arguments and frustrations. You will tip toe and prance around doing everything you can to earn their trust but it will never be enough.

Meanwhile they will always have the "Trust Issues" card to play any time they screw up or fly off the handle at you for the stupidest thing... And you're expected to let it slide, otherwise you magically justify their reasons for having trust issues in the first place. But at the same time even if you do let it slide, they still won't resolve their "Trust Issues" because it's easier for them to keep using it as a crutch /excuse.

Which is why they need to sort their crap out before getting into a relationship.

As mentioned, relationships require trust... And trust requires faith in someone... And faith in someone requires risk. Risk of being hurt.

If you can't accept that risk, if you can't put faith in someone and you can't put trust in someone, then don't waste other people's time by trying to go out with them.

Whoever broke your trust in the past is not the same person you are trying to date or go out with, so tossing all your baggage onto them for things they didn't do isn't just unfair, but unjustified.

Again, if you got trust issues, stay single.

[Browneye57]

What's a 'trust issue'? It is one of those silly catch-all phrases that don't really mean anything.
If you're emotionally frail and can't trust people consider professional counseling. They can really help with this sort of thing.

Don't bring another person into your life as a love interest if you are emotionally unstable - get healthy first.

[lumos]

No. Trust is among the top 5 of things I find the most important in a relationship. If I’m with someone who doesn’t fully trust me, I might as well just be single anyway.

[funnychick101]

I wouldn't because I have in the past and it didn't go very well, if i ever did again I'd help them work there issues out and talk with them about it BEFORE i date them

[Desconhecida]

I did. That's why Im single now

[royboi95]

While it may be frustrating, the biggest reason someone may have trust issues is because they have been hurt in the past, trust builds over time and i feel like the longer someone takes to gain trust the stronger that trust will end up being. If you have no intention of breaking that trust and won't hurt them further, as well as if you think the person is worth the commitment i would say date them personally.

[winterfox10]

Ugh... god no... not if I could avoid it anyway. It seems like every girl is constantly suspicious of everything. The last date I went on, the girl kept making weird "what if your wife/girlfriend, finds out that you're out with me," jokes to see if I was taken.

[DoctorWize]

I advise people such as this. I wouldn't care to be with them in a relationship. It's more work than I am even worth.

[Lance1965]

Yes I would. It is not like someone is going to introduce themselves by saying by the way, I have trust issues. That is something you find out much later. I think most people have trust issues to a certain extent.

[Masonism]

I have trust issues and I would not be so hypocritical to deny my partner their baggage.

[maddog998]

Yes. You got to show them that your faithful in your relationship and let them build the trust again

[ReachingNirvana]

I don't believe that I could. I place so much importance in trust.

[cherryphi82]

Yeah, why not. Nothing that can't be worked through.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

Most of the girls I dated had trust issues of one type or another. Only made it all the more satisfying when they eventually melted into me.

[LovinLife1969]

Yeah. I would. Thing is. May take time. But prove to them your are trustworthy. Cause more than likely. Someone made them that way. You could possibly change that.

[xxxx9i]

Thats a hard one. Once the trust has gone ots very difficult to get it back. I would as I believe we all need a second chance, but never a third or fourth chance.

[SlimThickJeezus]

Yes but only after building their trust. There's no point to a relationship if you can't trust your partner

[xZoeyx]

I have the worst trust issues so yes. I know what it's like

[ravedave]

Depends on how severe those issues are and how it affected the relationship

[egykimo]

No. Cuz they would doubt me in every single situation.. Jealously would be thier first option to react

[yourfutureboyfriend]

I have trust issues and no one would want to date me

[Hady2070]

Yes. And I'll make them feel secure towards me and trust me

[LegateLanius]

Depends on how much of an issue.

[outside_Toronto]

Depends how deep the issues run