I have to choose between three guys. which one do I choose?

[Anonymous]

Boy 1: I go to school with him, and I've known him for a while. He's kinda dry and i can't tell if he likes me or not. But in person he's so sweet, and we went on a date 3 days ago, and it was amazing, and he held my hand and everything, and hugged me. He is kinda hard to figure out though. cause he's a dry texter but i dont think he means anthing bad by it. its like last week though he would wanna ft and he would text me a lot but now we just snap back and forth and barely talk, but his friends say that he likes me, but i told him i like him and then said goodnight and he sent back a thumbs up emoji so im kinda confused but that's kinda how he replys to everyone.

Boy 2: we met like this month. he goes to a different school then me. he's so kind and always calls me beautiful and is always asking to facetime. and he makes me feel amazing about myself, but we haven't known each other for that long. but still he's literally just an amazing guy over all. and he's soooo attractive like overly attractive like i dont know how he doesn't have like hella girls hitting on him. but yeah he's amazing and he makes me smile a lot

Boy 3: dated about two years ago. went horribly. he's cute but not as cute as the other two. he's funny but i dont think i like him, like its nice to talk to him, and it seems like he likes me, like he always says goodnight to me and stuff, but i dont feel anything for him, but i can tell he wants something more with me.

I dont know what to do so someone please pleaseee help.

Im leaning a bit more towards boy 1 because i really like him, but the problem is it doesn't seem like he likes me back so i dont know what to do because i dont want to make anyone a second option.

[btbc92]

Asker. If a guy had two other girls plus you, would you like for him to treat you this way? No. Ask yourself why are you taking interest in these men? You are an adult, you make your own choices. Better to drop them all, then to pick one and then hurt the other two. In my opinion NONE OF THEM. Why? Because you are fickle and all of them are going to get hurt and is self-centeredness of you and selfish. There is no logical reason for you to be dating right now, and I believe that until you figure out what you want, you shouldn't be around any of them before all of them find out, start questioning you, and then disappearing because of this. You know, this isn't an otome game or a harem. These are people. These are men or at least 2 who are pining for your affections and neither of them knows anything about the other guys, do they? Don't you think they deserve to know the truth? I'm not trying to accuse you, but this sounds like your playing games with this and 3-timing guys like this is a big no-no.

If you don't know how the first one feels, then you need to ask him and not assume. But you asked him, he already told you in not so many words he feels the same way. You being desperate to not be alone and seeking male attention like this is not healthy. The second one you just MET HIM this month and your primary reasons for liking him are that he is super attractive and makes you feel good? Does that not say anything of your own personal reasons here? And the third one, ay-ay-ay. I don't know what or who are you attracting. I believe in your situation again, if you cannot make up your mind, leave these guys ALONE.

I had a guy trying that on me and because I said no to dating, he figured it was okay to speak to another lady in case I said no but yet he told me all the things I supposedly need to hear. Guess what? I told him NO to further friendship and you can bet I had him blocked. You have 3 men interested in you. With the 2nd one behaving overall friendly but a bit too much. But overall interested. I say before you even think committing to one or the other, all of them need to know who else you taking interest in and they deserve to know the truth before all of them want to again confront you and or one or the other guys. Sounds like to me your problem isn't so much who your picking, but why you're picking them. You have a weakness for highly attractive guys who pay you attention. And that is a problem.

[Asker]

thanks bestie

[casserolie]

go for boy 2. if he dont work, take your time with boy 1. and of course leave boy 3 completely, don't try to save something that was lost 2 years ago.

[Jay3344]

How old is boy 1, because that time in a man’s life can be tough. He may be figuring things out for himself and sometimes that can make him distant. Boy 2 sounds cool if he makes you feel good about yourself.

I’d choose between those two depending groups on what you are looking for.

[apokolips]

Just tell guy 1 that you like him. In person. Not over text. Because texting cannot be interpreted properly. And don't say it like a friend would say I like you. Say something like " I like you more than just a friend". And see if he reciprocates. If he doesn't, go for the second guy.

[NathanDavis]

3, went horribly... out

1, known for a while and barely a spark... out

2, he's actually interested in you

[Anonymous]

Scratch out 3 because you don't like that guy, so ditch or ghost him.

- You don't seem thrilled by 2, so let 2 go. You seem to like boy 1 the most. Go with that one.

[jJayJaeJ]

Guy 3 out
Guy 2 wants to f@##
Guy one doesn't know how to express his feelings in text but he makes up for it in person and you wrote about him more you want him

[Phoenix98]

Which one out of boy 1 and 2 do you like more and feel more of connection/chemistry with and are more at ease with?

[ohshee]

Take a deep breath and breathe be patient be yourself and that one of them pick you

[Anonymous]

Sounds like text that should have been added to this illustration..

[btbc92]

Actually, you don't date a woman who has tendencies to not understand how she comes off to men especially one who have these sexual and or romantic experience. If you distrust women so much then just stay away from them. Being fickle doesn't always mean she is sleeping around or messing around with different men. Women needs to know who is the best candidate for her as is for us to you. The problem is she wants them all but at the same time, is uncertain who she should go with all because again, she has a weakness for "hot guys". If all honesty, I never dated before and a lot of you men have the same problem. Should we call it men's monkey branching? You do it all the time and then want to know why women do it.

[Opinion Owner]

@btbc92 Yes, we could call it men's monkey branching too, or Chads monkey branching. Too many men are happy to call out women, but those same men are busy hopping from one woman's bed to another, or sleeping around. Men need to have more self control, as do women.

'If you distrust women so much then just stay away from them. '

I do. I stay away completely and will continue to do so.

[btbc92]

Chads? More like men in general. If your having sex outside of marriage you cannot judge. If your around the right kind of people, then you wouldn't have to worry about staying away from women. You just need to be around the right kind. For me, however, I am now more selective and probably not going to have many future male friends after my recent encounters with guys being anything but friends or seeking ways to try to get me interested in them after I said many times no. Or blame me for saying no and going for other women just because of that no.

[Opinion Owner]

@btbc92 Indeed, I do none of those things you mentioned, but I work in different areas so other than that sense, indeed, I do not need to worry about staying away from women.

In your case, being selective is wise and paired with good discernment, will be very useful.

[btbc92]

I'll keep you in prayer man. I don't know your circumstance, but I pray that you are able to maintain peace, and whoever would be right for you as a female friend who acquaintance that they have similar and healthier mindset without disturbing your peace. The right people respect your peace and help you grow as a person. These days you have to be careful.

[Opinion Owner]

@btbc92 Thank you! I appreciate your good wishes and also wish the same peace and blessings towards you. Of course, every day is a new blessing and the simple things always add even more :)

[Neosporin]

I feel like boy 2 is the best

[TheBigGuy9]

You’re 18-24? Date them all at once.