Girls, why do you ghost guys?

[geonator]

They were needy

They wanted things I didn't wanna give them

They didn't state their intentions

A and B

A and C

B and C

A, B, and C

[TsundereMatrix]

It’s a mixture of A and C. Most of the guys who have expressed feelings for me have some sort of addiction or mental issue that I don’t want to deal with. I was like that at one point and I got ghosted because of that so I worked on myself and improved myself and I feel like they need to do the same. The ones I like never tell their intentions and I’m usually taken advantage of so I just disappear.

[geonator]

If I may ask, how were you "taken advantage of" by guys you were interested in?

[TsundereMatrix]

They just want sex. People describe me as a kind person so they think that I’ll just say yes to their demands for sex and if I say no then the guilt trip me into it. I still haven’t been fooled though. Had a guy who tried to force me to date him because in his mind women have no rights to say no to a man. It got so bad that my dad got involved.

[Corina_J]

I don't ghost.
I find it a cowardly behavior.

I think it shows that the ghoster isn't in touch with their emotions and honest with themselves, let alone being honest with someone else when there is a conflict.

It's an absolute bullshit way to be.

[Vickysplash_]

Generally I don’t ghost people. If I’m not interested in them I just don’t talk to urgente/try not to give them hopes. On dating apps, it may happen I match someone I find nice but not mind blowing (I actually do a lot of selection but amongst my matches there are nice ones and very few mind blowing ones). I generally only write to the mind blowing ones. It may happen I answer to the ones who are “just” nice, and that I just don’t try to keep the conversation going. But I’d never do that with someone I met or someone I already made plans with, which is something that happens to me a lot (guys ghosting me after asking me out…)

[tatianamay]

Some men don't take rejection well. A guy literally stalked me and made my life a living hell when I rejected him gently. I never even led him on. That guy was obsessed with me. And yes, this shit actually happened. He was 16 as well. This happened over 2 months ago. Better to block him rather than being truthful.

[zaharuh]

It's definitely all 3 sometimes like guys love to create expectations out of nothing and think because I get around I'm just going to sleep with whoever i talk to 😕

[geonator]

So you've ghosted guys because they didn't state their intentions and you believed they just wanted sex in that case?

[zaharuh]

Its hard to explain more generally since it's usually a case to case thing but like pretty much yes I can tell when a guy just wants sex sometimes.

[geonator]

If you met up with a guy a few times and he showed interest in you but didn't bring up sex, and also didn't bring up where things were going with you two, would you ghost/end things with him? Or would you just ask him what his intentions are?

[zaharuh]

Like it just really depends on the guy and the vibes you know, it's really hard to say generally for every situation. But I would have preferred that we kissed by then and maybe talked about what were looking for.

[geonator]

Ok. Thanks for the input

[JosyJosy]

Last one I ghosted was being needy, just talked to talk and it didn't have any value, it was just about nothing really, saying he is depressed, but I was going through something too at the time, so when I said I was feeling depressed too, he immediately dropped it and went to his random talking about nothing persona. Felt like the depression card was just played for attention seeking and I was not having it.

[snowgirl123]

I would ghost a guy if: I don't want to be with him romantically or if I may be extremely interested in him, but he does not show how his intentions truly, if I think he's lying, I will avoid him. I would also ghost him if he ghosts me. I can be dying to spend time with him, but if he doesn't approach, what can I do?

[lilyanony1]

I don't usually ghost men.
I usually tell them why I'm severing ties.
Unless they did something unforgivable.

Generally it's incompatibility, something they said/did that I can't get along with, or they demanded something of me I felt was too much to ask.

I'm a straightforward person, you know.
I don't mince my words.

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

Because either:
I've been telling you the issue and nothing is working.
You can't read the room.
You aren't doing your part.

So its time to dip without the drama.

[cinnamonwaves]

I never ghost anyone, I straight up just tell them if I have a problem with them and then part ways. in my opinion ghosting is so childish and immature and makes that person come off as a child and like they can't handle adult situations

[KryoAsteri]

I've only ever ghosted one guy and it was because he got really, really intense and we weren't even a couple, just friends.

[Anonymous]

I don't really ghost, I always say I don't want contact anymore, only time they would not be worth my time and respect for that is if they have been deceitful/lying.. so maybe C is closest to that.

[dustybiker]

Why do men ghost woman?
Isn’t this just lack of ability to confront your own problems with respect? Men/woman both guilty of lacking communication skills.

[Subarugirl]

Lot of men don't tend to take rejection very well, so it's easier to disappear rather than deal with the violence or reproductions of a man who can't deal with rejections

[geonator]

But why did you want to end things? Was it because they were needy, or they wanted things you didn't want, or didn't state their intentions? Or multiple of those?

[Subarugirl]

Incompatibility, it's never just one thing.

[Cathy7734]

No matter how diplomatic you are a lot of men become angry and violent when rejected. I'm talking about online and the very beginning of meeting each other. However, if it's a relationship each party deserves an answer. If the person becomes violent or refuses to be rejected then ghosting is all right.

[Justneedtokno]

I don’t ghost guys I stay I don’t want to be with them and they still try to stick around. Like this one guy he would just hang on the phone with me no conversation and expect that I wanted to be with him

[Anonymous]

Because they had a boyfriend and their desire to cheat possibly faded away.

[TacosRAwesome]

D... They were dicks and I don't have the energy to tell them twice why.

[Anonymous]

"Why do people ghost"... "I know right"... "Why do you ghost"... "Well because..." Lmfao. Hypocrites. Typical. Judge, all the while you are no better. We all have our secrets. Hide yours all you wish; I know they are there.

[Starwitch23]

I've ghosted a guy because I didn't feel safe around him. He was into hacking stuff and obsessive.

[Anonymous]

Cause if not they don't let you go, they cling to you.

[Pumpkinspice009]

I will only ghost the guy I love, it feels good to keep track of what he’s doing etc, when you love someone you can’t get them out your head you know.

[Aquariusmystery]

B, but also sometimes they’re just boring and we have nothing in common. I don’t want to talk about cars all day, you know?

[Anonymous]

Because they do not initiate so that’s being uninterested

[geonator]

What do you mean by "initiate?" Like initiate kisses, or dates, or what?

[Opinion Owner]

Messages

[Opinion Owner]

Even the basic things as messages ! Unless I messaged he would Reply back if I didn’t message he would NOT do it

[Dsg1193]

D) None of the above