Nope. If she matches this then it is good to me:
18 to 30 (over 30 equals no interest), hasn't done any hook ups or ONS, doesn't do any drugs (no weed either), doesn't drink alcohol or drinks very rarely and is willing to quit, doesn't smoke, no kids from past relationships, but does want some with the right person, no contact with any ex, once in a relationship won't be posting revealing and flirty pictures online for attention, will be very affectionate with me and she initiates the affection sometimes too, doesn't have an immoral job or one that requires her to spend multiple days away from home (traveling), no tattoos or very few (each tattoo makes her less attractive to me), will exercise every week just like I will to stay healthy and in shape for long term, is not hypocritical. (Yes, I realize I probably won't find anyone that meets this because realistically there probably isn't anyone even nearly as good for a relationship as I am. (prove me wrong by being the good woman I want)
No, doesn't have an impact at all as long as she is still contributing in other ways. I think part of a relationship is sharing responsibilities so if you decide to take a break from your career but picking up more of the household responsibilities I wouldn't have an issue with it. Now if you just weren't doing anything to help share the overall workload, I would probably sit down have and have a conversation. First thing would be to check how you were doing if there was a big change in ambition/motivation levels then once the mental/physical health check was finished and everything verified good I would request some additional help if you wanted to continue the non career route, I say conversation no shit talk because communication is another huge aspect of a successful relationship.
I can’t wait to see the answers on this. A guy I was dating before when I was 19 was like this. He’d always post on instagram how he dosent like girls with no job etc even though I didn’t at the time. He’d also always tell me to do my driving and stop relying on him which I guess was a motivator lol. At one point he was the one without the job and I did have one but the tables turned quickly lol. I think that maybe in his eyes he’s trying to motivate you to do see what career you want? But he’s doing it in a rude way it’s not good at all that he shames you.
It shouldn’t
That’s because guys want to be the providers usually it’s in their dna you can’t fix it. It doesn’t matter what soy boy society says meh meh meh but in general guys don’t care at all if you don’t have a career! It’s different sorry if you work here and there to have some cash!
Women however do for guys. Recall your genetics and old ways man provides man fucks man fights man spits with boys man farts with boys..
soy society fuck off this is the truth.
Accept it and go to sleep
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Not necessarily. This is my preference though, so others may disagree. I think a girl should do things with her time though. It does not have to be a career, but doing nothing all the time is not living life, and that is hard to be around, particularly if you battle depression.
As a guy, I try to take care of myself. I look for a girl who does the same. This requires a lot of work (I know I don’t need to explain this to women). I have a successful career so she can work if she wants, or not, but I think it is important that she finds something positive to do with her time. This is better for her and for us.
Most men don't care about a woman's career. If you have one, it's a plus. But we don't necessarily look for that in women. So, it doesn't change attraction levels.
In my opinion, a man should be okay providing for his girl financially. That's his role. But his girl should be adding value to his life as well. That means taking care of the house, cooking, cleaning and bringing peace of mind. The woman has to be an asset, not a liability. Men value that a lot. So if you're doing that and he is still asking you to get a career, then it's a red flag. Just being honest.
To myself and a lot of other men, it's less about the money and more about being productive. If a girl is sitting at home doing nothing other than watch neflix, then yes, this would reflect badly to the way I view her. Now if she happens to choose to not have a career because she wants to focus on raising the kids, that's a different story. If she is being lazy, then yes, I would think less of her. If she has a career that she loves and she sticks to being productive at work and outside of it, that's much better than just not wanting to work.
Although I would not really find it THAT much of a big deal if she does stick to her traditional gender roles (cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids etc.). So it's less about having a career and more about intentions.
It’s part of a “package deal.” It’s a consideration, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t matter to me. And it doesn’t make it a dealbreaker if she doesn’t have a career (or job) at the moment. If she doesn’t though, then she has to be willing to find one… or at least work… or contribute to “the house” in some big way. Something.
Simple and honest
Person is important not her career
My ex wife didn't work never had a even idea of a career she was not even good in academics, my marriage lasted less then 3 months
She wanted to marry a rich guy to pay her Hugh bills later I found our she already had multiple sex partners she won't commit to anyone, just keep earning money from 1 rich guy and keep doing sex with multiple men
That was her plan
It would be a negative, but not enough to make them seem like a worse person or anything. I'd have to ask why they don't have a job or occupation. Maybe they're in school, maybe they just got fired, or maybe they're about to move. All of which are places I've been in, before.
If you think about it, she does have a career. She has a career of becoming a girlfriend to the man he finds attractive. Eventually getting married and becoming a mother and a grandmother. Doesn't have to be a major or minor cuz in the end building up in a relationship takes a lot of progress as a career
I don’t care what someone does. As long as they’re bringing money in. If that’s not it, then volunteering. If we don’t have a child, there should be no reason to sit at home. I hope you’re at least doing all the chores around the house, making him supper when he comes home, lunch for work. Give him a nice massage too.
If you can’t do any of that, it’s time to hit the road.
I don't know what your situation is with him. If you both live together and financially if as a couple you both are struggling to pay bills. If so the stress could be getting to him. If you don't live together and you pay all of your stuff by yourself, then he has no say.
She could have no career or higher education for all I care, not that I would be against being someone with an advanced degree. It just doesn’t matter to me either way.
Im all about the looks, so career doesn't make a difference. Besides, women without career dreams can become better mothers due to the more time they have for a child.
The question should be, are couples happy in the relationship, not what their careers have to do with anything. Besides, the best times of a relationship happen at home, outside of work time. between the sheets. I mean why pay so much for fancy clothes when the best times are without them.
Well, we date a person, not just one aspect of them, so it depends, but financial problems are usually a dealbreaker and good money management skills are a turn-on.
Not even a little bit.
It does however effect my attraction if she doesn't have grand aspirations, creativity, smarts, and talent. Artsy gamer nerds are the best.
I'd want to share a home business with her anyway.
Aslong as she manage to pull in what she needs to satisfy herself. I don't care. Ie if she have low expectations she can have low income.
Well, as long as you're searching for a job it should not matter. The pandemic has been tough on everyone
Personally I would prefer if she had some sort of plan or ambition or the person wouldn't be attractive for me.
Regardless, your partner is wrong to shame you for that. It is still your choice.
Yea it does. I am planning my future. Yea you may be a good girlfriend but if you don’t have a future than all your gonna do is leech on me and drag me down. I can’t have that level of stress in my life
Tell him to pound sand. It's YOUR life, not his.
But yeah, lack of motivation and determination are red flags, cuz you'll do the same thing in the relationship. YOU get to do YOU, YOUR life.
Depends on if she can support herself or not with all expenses she creates.
If she can't it will not work.
Unfortunately do I not get attracted to physical passive females that many calls bum.
no if anything it can be nice to have more time with her. your guy is a jerk
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